| "The Someone for Everyone Theory"
Posted: 7/9/2009 2:12:57 AM | Before this is hastily deleted, hear me out. I ask this seriously as I am intrigued by the theory:
"There is someone for everyone".
Where did this theory emerge from? Is it a mere "encouragement" phrase used by others to build up the hopes of their friends in despair? Is it also a belief system for those who are the ones in despair?
How can this theory be proved correct? In a techinical way, yes. In a realistic way, no.
I am interested in your opinions on this philosophy. | |
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| The Someone for Everyone Theory
Posted: 7/9/2009 2:22:18 AM | For the most part, people want the same things, though their wants can cover an array of desires.
We as people aren't so different from each other, so there is always someone in whom one could find what they're looking for/have their needs met.
Not all needs are healthy, which explains why even unhealthy people find their "match" together.
That said, many people don't want a "someone" and there are even people willing to fill that role too | |
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| The Someone for Everyone Theory
Posted: 7/9/2009 5:51:06 AM | | I don't believe it at all. My mom is 72 years old and has 3 friends her age that as long as I've known them (30+ years) have never been in a relationship with anyone. | |
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| The Someone for Everyone Theory
Posted: 7/9/2009 6:04:26 AM |
I don't believe it at all
Nor me. What say about religious persons who devote their life to their God, such as nuns and priests? Does this upset the balance and percentage of "someone for everyone"? Perhaps also the gay percentage and the non-gay percentage need to be equal?
Just many of the "against" theories that can override the philosphy. | |
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| The Someone for Everyone Theory
Posted: 7/9/2009 6:18:37 AM |
Just many of the "against" theories that can override the philosphy
Or even people who are severly mentally or physically handicapped and spend the majority of their lives in a hospital or rehab facility.
My mom always tells me "Being single certainly isn't the worst thing you can be" and I agree. Not everyone is cut out for couple hood. | |
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| The Someone for Everyone Theory
Posted: 7/9/2009 6:39:01 AM | | I don't believe it at all either. I have seen way too many people grow old without love to think there is someone for everyone. Even if there is a perfect person out there for someone, the odds of the two of them ever coming into contact is practically null. People need to learn to accept differences or learn to compromise. | |
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| The Someone for Everyone Theory
Posted: 7/9/2009 6:43:00 AM |
I have seen way too many people grow old without love
Yeah, but just because someone doesn't have ~that~ kind of love in their life doesn't mean that they don't have any type of love at all. There are all different types of love - love for family, for friends, for their dog (lol). I don't have love in my life, but I don't feel like I'm missing out of much... | |
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| The Someone for Everyone Theory
Posted: 7/9/2009 7:02:36 AM | | Really? I have a lot of love from friends and family too but I still feel like I'm missing out on a lot. Why else would i be here. | |
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| The Someone for Everyone Theory
Posted: 7/9/2009 7:08:28 AM | The way I see it, it is merely a feeble encouragement phrase used to "cheer up" the type that become down by their lack of companionship.
I also hear statements such as "don't worry, you'll find her", or "she will come along"..and I have seen people who are told this become mentally unstable. Firstly, how can one assure this? If someone told another "don't worry, she will come along"
how can they guarantee this statement.?..more the question is, how can they "instantly know that someone will come alonmg".
that is like saying "you will win the lottery tomorrow'... | |
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| The Someone for Everyone Theory
Posted: 7/9/2009 7:08:40 AM |
Why else would i be here
For the forums, of course 
I originally joined with the purpose of dating, but then after a few bad dates , combined with forum opinions from men, I decided that I'm ok with being alone. | |
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| The Someone for Everyone Theory
Posted: 7/9/2009 7:10:19 AM |
I originally joined with the purpose of dating
Same here, back in 2003...but that has changed...I'm starting to think myself that there is noone for me, as negative as it may sound. | |
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| The Someone for Everyone Theory
Posted: 7/9/2009 7:19:46 AM |
I'm starting to think myself that there is noone for me, as negative as it may sound.
Its only as negative as you allow it to be. Trust me - the grass ain't greener on the other side. I'm ok with there being no one for me. | |
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| The Someone for Everyone Theory
Posted: 7/9/2009 7:35:15 AM | | Well maybe it's naivete on my part, but yes, I believe there is someone for everyone. I think we can choose to be alone or not. There's no real way to prove it either way I guess. At the moment I choose to believe the woman of my dreams is out there just waiting to find me, so it keeps me going. | |
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| The Someone for Everyone Theory
Posted: 7/9/2009 8:39:43 AM | I believe it.
There are billions of people in this world. If you seriously search long enough eventually you are going to meet someone where there is mutual attraction.
In fact, I believe there are many people out there that are suitable for you and who you end up dating and marrying a determined more by chance circumstances such as where you live, when you were born, etc. than by destiny.
There may not be anyone suitable for you in your immediate environment or the person that is ideal for you may be taken by someone else for a certain time, but that does not mean that you ideal person is not out there. | |
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| The Someone for Everyone Theory
Posted: 7/9/2009 9:12:29 AM | This theory emerged when Santa Claus was consolling the Easter Bunny one winter solstice. Easter Bunny had a crush on Peter Pan, but Peter was trying to "holla" at the Tooth Fairy, and the poor Easter Bunny was inconsolable. So Santa and the Easter Bunny eventually hooked up after a few firelit conversations over Remy Martin, had a few kids (thus creating the ever-present myth of the 'Holy Bloodline' of the Merovingian dynasty) and lived happily ever after.
It is now used as a popular phrase of encouragement, much like:
"This will only hurt for a minute"
"No those jeans don't make your butt look big"
and the ever popular
"I didn't realize that I was in love with your mother until after the third Pabst *hiccup*"
I do beleive in a certain validity to this statement. There are some people in this world for whom there is... uh... 'someone'. Everyone has the possibility of having a 'match'. In a very real, down-to-Earth sense. But alot of these matches will have problems... the bigger question is whether both parties have the ability to learn from, grow from, and persevere through the problems and become closer as a couple for having done so.
As far as how to prove the theory correct... date everyone on the entire planet. Same sex, included. And keep studious notes in your journal.
Let me know how that turns out. I'm off to kick it with Snow White. ;) | |
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| The Someone for Everyone Theory
Posted: 7/9/2009 9:38:29 AM | It means that where there is a will, there is a way. If you want someone, you can find someone. This belongs in the context of actually wanting someone, and does not apply when you couldn't care less if you have someone but would not be totally against having someone if they were amazingly fantastic.
How people appear to you depends in large part on how you look at them. The difference for mating is whether you are looking for the good or the bad. When you look at people and ask, What is right with this person? You will then see someone for you. When you ask, What is wring with this person? You will then find nobody is good enough for you. That holds over into the relationship. The reason why the last one was good at first then bad after a while is because you changed how you were looking at them. We're all human, with good and bad to be sought and confirmed.
It makes perverse sense that people who suck at dating and relationships think in terms that work against them. The reality is that compatibility is based in outlook and attitude. With that being right, there are multitudes of someones for everybody. | |
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| The Someone for Everyone Theory
Posted: 7/9/2009 9:39:41 AM | ^^All seven of them are members of POF 
But as for the theory:
In fact, I believe there are many people out there that are suitable for you
Really? Where do I go to register? Missing persons?
I have not found ONE. | |
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| The Someone for Everyone Theory
Posted: 7/9/2009 9:54:23 AM | Actually there is NOT.
There is someone not for everyone, but only for those that dare try.
All else, all those living in pain avoidance, that don't want to get hurt, that don't take a chance. Will not find someone. | |
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| The Someone for Everyone Theory
Posted: 7/9/2009 10:00:47 AM | In regards to:
There is someone not for everyone, but only for those that dare try.
What say the people who spend their lives trying, but die alone doing so? | |
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| The Someone for Everyone Theory
Posted: 7/9/2009 10:03:30 AM | I fall in to the "there's someone for everyone" camp. The only thing that can and will stop a person from finding a suitable companion is desire and availability. Those "nuns and priests" who have devoted themselves to God HAVE found their suitable companion -- GOD, which is why they wear a wedding ring: to signify their 'marriage.'
Other than that the only way you need remain single is based on your attitude: if you set your 'bar' so high that none can measure up, or you only see yourself as single.
TK
{In fact, I believe there is actually someone out there even for me. Pray for her} | |
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| The Someone for Everyone Theory
Posted: 7/9/2009 10:20:44 AM | Those "nuns and priests" who have devoted themselves to God HAVE found their suitable companion -- GOD,
Does religion and God's apply? God only comes into the equation if you believe in him?
LOL@manforrent | |
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| The Someone for Everyone Theory
Posted: 7/9/2009 10:52:18 AM |
Really? Where do I go to register? Missing persons?
I have not found ONE.
Keep trying.
Everyone does not have success at the same time. Some people marry their high school sweethearts and then some people don't get married for their first time until they are in their 40s or 50s.
Your life is not a contest against other people. What matters is that you do your personal best and don't give up.
If you keep trying you might meet the one for you. The next person you meet may be the one for you or you may have to meet hundred more. What is certain is that if you don't try, you will not find that person.
But I do believe that once you find that person for you, you will realize that all the effort you spent in trying to find that person was worth it. | |
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| The Someone for Everyone Theory
Posted: 7/9/2009 11:05:48 AM |
Where did this theory emerge from?
The need to tell people what they want to hear to make them feel better in a way that can't be questioned based on time. Because it can't really be proved wrong until someone dies or is on their death bead.
Is it a mere "encouragement" phrase used by others to build up the hopes of their friends in despair?
Yes.
Is it also a belief system for those who are the ones in despair?
Can be.
How can this theory be proved correct?
By talking to people that died never having anyone in their life.
"There is someone for everyone".
Makes no mention of the type of relationship they will have with that someone. | |
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| The Someone for Everyone Theory
Posted: 7/9/2009 11:29:21 AM | Well say, it really cannot be proven correct. However, there are things that support it's incorrectivty (word?)
using some algebra, it can more likely be proved wrng than right.
And please do not ask me to explain this algebra right now, it's 430am. | |
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