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Posted: 7/10/2009 7:26:23 AM | Okay so there's this girl (it always starts that way haha)
I don't want to delve too much in to her personal drama, but I will sum it up. She's seeing a guy who is a dead end. He's leaving for the army and will not commit. Makes sense. I'm pretty sure she's still sleeping with him. She is gorgeous and sweet and I think about her a lot. Already it's a big red flag, right?
She gave me her phone number and we've joked around, but it's obvious she knows where they're headed and believes she deserves better. A lot of girls usually find themselves right in the middle of these messes. I've backed off dramatically from when she first gave me her number. But last night I may have made the mistake of telling her. I said What are you doin with this guy, dont you want somethin better for yourself? You seem so sweet you deserve better than that. (See it always bothers me if a girl is sleeping with a guy who will not commit to her.. just get the feeling they are taking advantage)
She responded "I still feel the same but oh well idk"
- Girls know! Right?
Would it be creepy or cute to send this girl flowers at work (She works at a salon so it would be like a big deal to all the other gossipers there) and ask her out in a note? Not even ask her out, it could just say like hang in there or something... Ive talked with her about 4-5 times, but have never been out with her. I just don't know if that is creepy or cute. Seekin' advice :)
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| Creepy or cute?!
Posted: 7/10/2009 7:40:57 AM | | Why would you send her flowers when she's already seeing someone? | |
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Posted: 7/10/2009 7:46:41 AM | I believe I stated specifically that they're not committed
isn't that fair grounds for us guys to move in? | |
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Posted: 7/10/2009 7:48:52 AM | Are you wanting to send flowers to impress her co-workers or her? I think it would be kind of creepy to receive flowers from someone I had never met IRL. I also think you should wait until her bf leaves if they break up. But how would you know they really did break up? She is someone else's girl right now. Leave her alone and let her decide what she wants.
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| Creepy or cute?!
Posted: 7/10/2009 7:56:32 AM | I vote cute, It might giver the kick up the bum to realise thier are better and nicer men out there than the one she is sleeping with.....
You go for it! Good luck! | |
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| Creepy or cute?!
Posted: 7/10/2009 7:57:18 AM | | oh, to clarify, ive met her twice. just never hung out with her in a non-professional atmosphere. (I met her at her work she cut my hair) | |
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Posted: 7/10/2009 7:59:05 AM | | what is all this break up stuff? lol they are not together. they just sleep together. its obviously a window into the relationship they have. I know this because she told me in one of those... "ehhhhh...... my situation sucks" kind of ways. but it is my general understanding you have to have the label to break up, right? | |
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Posted: 7/10/2009 8:03:01 AM | | So let me get this straight...you want a woman that would fly the coup when she meets a guy who keeps telling her she could have better? How are you gonna feel if you little plan works, and then the next meddling tool comes along and does the same to you? | |
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Posted: 7/10/2009 8:04:16 AM | | I think its creepy. I think you'd be wasting your time. I think that if you spend the 60 bucks on roses and she doesn't want to go out with you you'll post a thread about how you spent $$ her for flowers and she's ungrateful. | |
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Posted: 7/10/2009 8:05:13 AM | Hey this is ask a girl. What's with all the hostility?
What do you mean fly the coup? You could tell she -wants- a commitment or else she wouldn't explain it in a way to make it look like her situation sucks. Right? | |
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Posted: 7/10/2009 8:08:20 AM | | There is no way I'd send roses. lol. This is not a "roses" type of idea. More just like a colorful collection :P | |
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Posted: 7/10/2009 8:09:22 AM | | hit the nail on the head there. whoever decides to leave a relationship of whatever sort for another person never changes his/her spots and down the line could do the same to you when the going gets tough. | |
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| Creepy or cute?!
Posted: 7/10/2009 8:12:04 AM |
This is not a "roses" type of idea. More just like a colorful collection :P
I still vote no. I think you've stepped into the nice guy/friend catagory with her. She obvisouly like jerks. Go out and meet someone normal, not someone who obviously has low self-esteem. She most likely has tons of emotional issues.... | |
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Posted: 7/10/2009 8:16:23 AM | So let me get this straight...you want a woman that would fly the coup when she meets a guy who keeps telling her she could have better? How are you gonna feel if you little plan works, and then the next meddling tool comes along and does the same to you?
Silent Steel has it right.
The only thing I would add is, I'd love to hear what this guy says about their relationship.
Maybe he thinks he is in a very healthy relationship with a girl who is waiting for him after his military service. He might be thinking the girl of his dreams is waiting for him and she is out talking smack about him and handing out her phone number to guys.
It wouldn't be creepy or cute to send flowers. I think it's would be setting yourself up for some kind of disappointment. | |
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Posted: 7/10/2009 8:24:07 AM | | And silentsteel's post makes the assumption I'm a "meddling tool", when really I'm just a good guy with a little crush. It happens to us. No I wouldn't want a girl who is easily convinced to always take what appears to be a better deal obviously. But I'm not the kind of guy to have sex with a girl and not be committed to her. I'm not knocking girls who do that, that's totally up to them. It always seems to me that if a girl is "seeing" a guy who is not committed to her, and they are -not together- then she is single and fair game? If this guy didn't want men to move in on her, maybe he would commit to her so she could tell them she has a man? | |
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Posted: 7/10/2009 8:27:29 AM | | Maybe i'm not being clear enough for the first 10 posts here... but it is a known fact they are not in a relationship. All this talk about stealing girlfriends, moving to better deals, they all center around relationships. She's SINGLE people. I'm looking for advice on going forward with a single girl. who is single. who is not dating anybody. who is not in a relationship. | |
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Posted: 7/10/2009 8:33:15 AM |
ive met her twice. just never hung out with her in a non-professional atmosphere. (I met her at her work she cut my hair)
She cut your hair, that means nothing to her because that's her job. Sending her flowers would be very creepy.
Why don't you ask her out to lunch instead. That way you could determine if she thinks of you as more than just another client. | |
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Posted: 7/10/2009 8:35:03 AM | | yeah but she grabbed my phone and put her number in it.. i didn't really ask :O | |
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Posted: 7/10/2009 8:46:54 AM | | If you don't have a real question then stop cluttering up the forum with your dating tales. This really isn't a venue for men to give a play-by-play account of their relationships. | |
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Posted: 7/10/2009 8:48:44 AM | | that would NOT be a good idea. why would she rush to get away from him when you're there for her. she'll be happy to have you both. so if you put yourself out there like someone who will make that move even though she's still taken then she's not gonna have a reason to leave him. | |
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Posted: 7/10/2009 9:15:06 AM | OP: You described her life as DRAMA. So if you want some of that, send her flowers and continue entertaining her.
If not, step off and when she's done (or him with her) with her solider then maybe consider. | |
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