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Posted: 7/10/2009 11:24:34 AM | Hi,
Question to men and women, I guess, really. Is it worth bothering to contact women who are on lots of people's (read: men's) favourites list? I mean, like, 50 people or over. I tend to just skip over these profiles I'm afraid because I assume (and this seems to have been backed up by response percentages) that if they're on lots of people's favourites list, they're being inundated with msgs and youre very likely won't get a response... so is it worth (probably) wasting your time msging these profiles? | |
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Posted: 7/10/2009 11:51:49 AM | | Why do all those threads get to stay and mine gets marked redundant? Heh. There are tons of redundantish threads on these forums, truth be told; I don't even think it should be a candidate for deleting a thread. People may have thought of some other answers to the question in the meantime, or new people may see the thread and answer. Please don't vote this redundant. | |
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Posted: 7/10/2009 12:00:09 PM | How the hell do you see the stats of a thread???
I don't see any options or listing off how many votes to delete, so on and so forth - what am I missing??? | |
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Posted: 7/10/2009 12:09:20 PM | muahhhh, muahhhhh, muahhhhhh
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Posted: 7/10/2009 12:12:58 PM | | the favorite list is people who seem to like you, noone has control over the amount.., I have deleted mine down to 2 a couple time, its more of a hassle so...you should not use the number as a guide to how many people they are talking to. | |
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Posted: 7/10/2009 12:17:14 PM | hey op... it works something like this:
1. you see someone you like
2. you send them an email
3. maybe they answer, maybe they don't
4. maybe you like what they said, maybe you don't
5. next
why would you practice self-rejection over something as superficial as 'favorites? 'plenty of people out there are willing to reject you for any reason or no reason at all, so i don't see why you'd go out of your way to shoot yourself down before the plane has even left the hangar. so 40 something people have 'favorited' me. meanwhile, do you know every single one of them hates my guts? but i write to them anyway, lol. it does keep my mailbox full. | |
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Posted: 7/10/2009 12:39:56 PM | | Some of the people who have favorited me I have never spoken with via message or on the boards. Some are female friends and I can assure I don't swing thataway. Maybe they used it for a bookmark and then forgot. Maybe they just like my style of communication or my pic. Maybe they leave me on their favorites cuz I didn't go "I don't know you!" and click "remove." You're overthinking this, dude. | |
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Posted: 7/10/2009 1:08:26 PM | | OP, ppl can select another person as a fave but it doesn't mean they contact them. I have ppl who pick me as a fave, but don't contact me so I delete them. Take the faves with a grain of salt. | |
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Posted: 7/10/2009 9:42:11 PM | >I have ppl who pick me as a fave, but don't contact me so I delete them.
same here. We don't talk, I don't want to be on their list. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2009 1:12:34 AM | | Regarding women with a lot of "favorites" - I'd still try messaging them but wouldn't bother adding them as a favorite myself. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2009 5:41:09 AM | I don't think everyone realizes that they can delete themselves off other people's favorites list--I know I didn't!
So I would say--don't let that keep you from contacting someone. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2009 12:59:23 PM | | Who cares about a favorites list. Who cares what a woman thinks when it comes to the spectrum of semantics. Just have fun brother, if you want to get laid, call a escort service. Just message women you like, and if they don't reply, who cares, don't give up, just send them stupid funny messages, WHY SHOULD GUYS EVEN CARE OF WHAT A WOMAN THINKS OF THEM? I mean dress nice, no doubt, everybody has to have a good sense of fashion. But don't care what these ****es think when it comes to your personality, say what the hell you want, utilize your god given freedom to express and speak. If a woman doesn't want you for you, who cares, keep looking... | |
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Posted: 7/11/2009 1:01:51 PM | | and nobody should have authority over you, especially some woman. You are your own authority... | |
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Posted: 7/11/2009 2:00:33 PM | Yeah, I understand... if a gal has a ton of favorites, it does reflect the amount of attention she gets. Not an exact science, as forum people tend to have more favorites, so you have to account for that... but someone not getting much attention won't have many favorites, and vice versa. Some delete them, but statistically, I don't think many do. Also -- 50 may not be that much for a girl. I would say over 100 would be something indicating she has a lot of attention. If she's been on for a really long time, and she's decently attractive, I can easily see 50.
So the question is -- does it scare you to send an email to a gal who gets a lot of guy attention? All women here are going to get some attention. It's a free-for-all on this site, because... well, it's free. I don't think it's a waste of time to email a 150-Favorited gal who'd normally have a chance with... but sure, it is less efficient than say, an equally impressive woman but low-key woman who you match well with who has 40 favorites.
I'd say try the "No Email" option with the Search section. Try that out if it makes you feel better to email gals who haven't gotten a new email in 24 hours. But after that, don't worry about too high of favorites -- just make sure you don't write a novel to them, because yes, there is a higher chance you'll be passed over. But so what? It's a higher chance other guys will too - lol. | |
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