| x goes on holiday for the sake of his kids? right or wrong
Posted: 7/10/2009 12:04:33 PM | My friends boyfriend recently went on holiday with his x to stay in a caravan with her.He told his girlfriend that she eith er likes it or lumps it.He said he didnt want his children being brought up in a non family enviroment.The children are 12 and 8.He left his x wife 5 years ago.
Yet he told my friend she isent allowed to see her childs father ,and is really jealous about it.when he comes to pick his daughter up,he has to wait outside on the drive?
Whys relationships with children so hard?
If you had a boyfriend of a year.....would you let him go on holiday with his x wife and children to play happy familys? is my friend being unreasonable for being angry about it??? | |
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| x goes on holiday for the sake of his kids? right or wrong
Posted: 7/10/2009 12:22:57 PM | | It's not up to any one but your friends boyfriend and he made his mind up and had the balls to tell your friend "like it or lump it". I think vacations with an ex is a bad idea, but it's not up to us. Your friend can be angry about it, she can move on about it or she can get over it and deal with it. This might be the only way he can have a vacation with his kids and if he picked his kids over a girlfriend good for him. | |
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| x goes on holiday for the sake of his kids? right or wrong
Posted: 7/10/2009 12:23:30 PM | | Tell her she can do better, and both need to have trust and a good self esteem to the point where they can't control where the other goes. That's kinda interesting with his outlook cuz they are a nonfamily since they are no longer together with him and his ex, yet i can see how he likes to have a family setting once in awhile with their mom and dad to see that they can do things together. | |
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| x goes on holiday for the sake of his kids? right or wrong
Posted: 7/10/2009 12:23:58 PM | Your friend is in my opinion, based on what you wrote with a controlling lover of double standards. If I were her friend, I would tell her she should do a lot more than just be angry...she should dump his sorry ass.
As for why relationships with children are so hard...they don't have to be. They are made difficult by the immature, self-centred adults around them. | |
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| x goes on holiday for the sake of his kids? right or wrong
Posted: 7/10/2009 1:07:33 PM | I have to second what Itsinthesoul said...
He does what he wants, and believes is best, but she is not to see the ex, and the childs father has to wait out in the drive way???
If you are close to your friend, it seems time to tell her that she needs to lump him on the curb, because he has a double standard, and her daughter is paying for this double standard. The mother has a choice of being mistreated, the daughter depends on the mother to make a good choice, and she is not... JMHO
The unreasonable part is HER staying with him... | |
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| x goes on holiday for the sake of his kids? right or wrong
Posted: 7/10/2009 1:14:37 PM | | He sounds like he is possessive over both women. If I were your friend, I'm not sure I could believe that there was nothing going on between the ex-wife and her boyfriend. Going on vacation together as a family seems like it would lead to something between man and wife. | |
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| x goes on holiday for the sake of his kids? right or wrong
Posted: 7/10/2009 1:57:31 PM | It is the man perogative and tright to do what he wants, and the womans perogative and right ton decide of she is okn with it or not, and wheather to leave him over it or not.
Both are adults with choices.
However the bit about the childs father being made to stay in the driveway would have him ass out asap.
Unless the childs father is abusive or a troublemaker why the hell cant he invite him in, fix him a drink, and discuss whats going on in the kids lives? | |
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| x goes on holiday for the sake of his kids? right or wrong
Posted: 7/10/2009 2:27:57 PM | Screw that.
The guy sounds immature, controlling and insecure. If one is divorced with children and involved in a relationship with another from the same life experience, grow up and acknowledge there was a life before you and you can't change history.
He needs to 'man up' and deal with whatever issues he may have with her ex, extend a hand in friendship and see what happens. If the ex is a prick, he still has an obligation to tolerate him in front of the kids. | |
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| x goes on holiday for the sake of his kids? right or wrong
Posted: 7/11/2009 1:23:38 AM | Is this the same "friend" and "boyfriend" who split up recently due to your "friend" hacking into his myspace account as per your other thread?
Nope I wouldnt put up with the scenario you portray. There is a thing called self respect. I'd tell your "friends" to get shut of these bloke/s. Whats the point of being in a relationship if all you do is worry what the other person is up to? | |
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