| Good Girl?
Posted: 7/10/2009 12:11:12 PM | | Can someone tell me exactly what it means when guys put on their profile that they are looking for a good girl? What do you consider a good girl? I have been married several times, and have kids out of wedlock. I like to be intimate, adventerous and risky with my life.Would you consider me a bad girl? I attend church regularly, I don't drink, don't smoke, don't do any drugs, I take care of my c hildren, my family is important to me, I've never been in jail, I don't have tattoos or weird piercings anywhere, but because I have kids and have been married so many times would one write me off as not being a good girl? Just wanting opinions. | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 7/10/2009 12:19:30 PM | Well one of the biggest problems is women who can't keep their legs closed... That is considered a dirty girl... Drunk girl at the club flirting with everyone... dirty girl. A lot of guys do not want to take chances with slutty women.
You seem nice though. Has anyone told you your not a good girl? | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 7/10/2009 12:31:26 PM | | To my knowledge, no one has ever came out and called me a bad girl if that is what you are asking, but on here I get mostly guys who think I'm interested in sexual encounters and it really frustrates me. I can be as wild as the next girl when the time is right, but as my past would show, I like to be settled, eventhough it may not sound that way. I think that when guys hear I've been married a few times and have kids out of wedlock that I'm the kind of girl who is out for money and trapping, but in my situation that isn't the case at all. So, I was just wandering if I wouldn't be considered a good girl by those who are searching for one and overlooked. In actuality, I am the good girl. I don't cheat, lie, steal, break things...lol I'm honest and faithful, but that seems to make me boring I think to guys these days. | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 7/10/2009 1:13:06 PM | for me a good girl is far simpler:
- who doesn't lie
- who doesn't cheat
- who doesn't steal
- who doesn't manipulate
- who do not use people or abuse them.
- who have self respect and also able to respect others
- who is not self centered
- good sens of values..and apply them.
- balanced
probably there is more, but it sum it up so far. | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 7/10/2009 1:21:01 PM |
Can someone tell me exactly what it means when guys put on their profile that they are looking for a good girl?
Personality & habbits
- Humble, simple, down to earth personality which generally means:
-- Calm, relaxed, and easy to get along with - no impulsive happy or unhappy outbursts, no rushed decisions, no rushed judgments, no "OMG!" or "Whatever." remarks, no drama, no "I'm a princess attitude", no entitlement attitude.
-- Her voice is soft and gentle like a feather - she never yells or screams
-- She is kind, honest, and non-vengeful, especially when she is mad - the type of girl you can hardly ever get pissed-off at, and if you do, it doesn't last more than 2 minutes.
-- She is open and easy to talk to, and does not hold grudges, and genuinely forgives when she does.
-- She prefers to be kind over being right - no insults.
-- She does not feel the need to impress, show-off, or make herself feel better at the expense of another.
-- She is modestly proud, confident, trustworthy, and a woman of her word - she does not feel the need to manipulate, lie, or have a hidden agenda
-- Enjoys the simple life. Can go camping and is not afraid to get mud on her face.
-Naturally and genuinely loves sex - does not see sex as "giving it up", "putting out", as a favor to a man, as a "reward" or a way to get what she wants, or even as a way to "apologize", but rather something she wants and enjoys doing with a partner, not to "please him", or "to keep the peace", or "out of respect", but simply because sex is pleasurable for her.
-Does not smoke.
-Does not drink, except on special occasions.
-Does not eat junk food.
-Does not do drugs. | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 7/10/2009 1:25:16 PM | I guess it is relative isaidit ...
If you are a good girl then I am a very good girl.
Think I will run and put that on my profile.
OMO | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 7/10/2009 1:26:21 PM | Being divorced and having kids doesn't mean "bad girl" to me. They mean more like commonsens was talking about. Being twice divorced with multiple kids will be an uphill struggle for you on this site, but just stick with it.
Guys are messaging you for sex because that is what they do. Doesn't matter if you're black/white/single/divorced/kids/no kids/etc. It happens to alot of the women on here all the time. Just be grateful that anyone is messaging you at all. You could be getting no e-mails at all (which is what many guys on here get.) | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 7/10/2009 1:35:41 PM | | OP - they might be contacting you for sexual encounters because your profile says looking for "other relationship". A lot of people interpret that as sexual. Some may find that being married/divorced several times as being a red flag as well. Lastly, you list yourself as "separated" which is a huge red flag to most. That may be the problem here... not whether or not you are a good girl. I'd change what you are looking for to dating or friends. That might help some. Until your divorce is final though, a lot of guys will cruise past those who are "separated". | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 7/10/2009 1:57:52 PM | A good girl is someone I can bring to a business meeting, church, or my mother and not have to worry about how they'll view her. Smart, trustworthy, and a conservative look are some of the many attributes I look for.
I'm adventurous and take risks in my life (I'm a pilot, building my own airplane, and enjoy all kind activity my insurer views as high risk) and in business, but the way you've presented that information make it appear as a different type of high risk. Given the context, your high risks becomes: sleeps around, doesn't give much thought to marriage, may not use protection... That's the type of high risk I stay as far away as I can. How many time have you been married? Several marriage scares me, I'd be more comfortable with a number.
You could be the greatest girl in the world, but you wouldn't get a chance. Others have touched on listing "separated" and "other relationship". While reading your profile, even knowing you're not looking for sex, the following line made me think otherwise " I would like to find someone to spend some quiet time with".
I hope the information in this thread will help you update your profile and I wish you the best.
Paul | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 7/10/2009 2:15:31 PM |
Can someone tell me exactly what it means when guys put on their profile that they are looking for a good girl?
It means they've come up with a somewhat complex idea of what a good girl means, then shortcutted that idea into their profile hoping you can read there mind and live up to their concept of "good girl."
What do you consider a good girl?
Depends on how I say it.
Someone that pees outside. That sits on command. That follows commands. Doesn't bark unnecessarily. Fetches the stick. And comes when calls. Yes you are...whose a good girl? Yes you are.
Someone that minds their mom. Eats all their vegetables. Brushes her teeth. Doesn't argue about bedtimes. Manageable sass and lip. I think that is a good girl.
Would you consider me a bad girl?
I don't know you well enough to judge you.
would one write me off as not being a good girl?
If you didn't live up to their standards and definitions of "good" then yes they would. | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 7/10/2009 2:21:21 PM | | A good girl is one who will be satisfied with a pat on the head when a bad girl would need diamonds. I wouldn't worry about it much. An entire human life can be lived to its utmost potential without ever needing to be either a good or a bad girl. You can be yourself and to hell with the judges of the world and their flying monkeys. | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 7/10/2009 2:40:58 PM | | for me a good girl would be: no drinking, no smoking, and wanting a longterm deal like I am, and please no kids, it;s not that I dont like kids, it's that I dont feel right raising or even beging a part of someone elses child. but also one who doesnt play games and is really well real, if ya know what i mean. | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 7/10/2009 2:45:17 PM |
An entire human life can be lived to its utmost potential without ever needing to be either a good or a bad girl. You can be yourself and to hell with the judges of the world and their flying monkeys.
Touche' | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 7/10/2009 2:51:15 PM | One that has a pulse.
Good girls are hard to describe, but I know them when I see them. I'm sure there are good girls in prison. It's hard to say what attributes to good or bad. I just have tio get to know them and find out if they are kind hearted. Obviously a kitten eater is bad and an old lady massager is good. But, who's to say the old lady massager doesn't eat kittens.
Earth calling message 5...come in message 5. Are you there?
Message five is hillarious if you read it twice. LOL Good girls don't eat junk food. | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 7/10/2009 2:59:38 PM | "- Calm, relaxed, and easy to get along with - no impulsive happy or unhappy outbursts, no rushed decisions, no rushed judgments, no "OMG
- Her voice is soft and gentle like a feather
- the type of girl you can hardly ever get pissed-off at, and if you do, it doesn't last more than 2 minutes.
- does not hold grudges, "
Boy, I must be a really bad girl ;-) | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 7/10/2009 3:03:33 PM | *Honest *Trustworthy *Sweet *Obedient and etc etc blah blah
But honest really what they want is a Good Girl on the outside but BAD girl in the Inside (mainly Pertaining to Sex) they are lying when they say they want a GOOD GIRL..LMAO they really want both 
Lady in the Street but Freak in the Sheets I think thats how It Goes.
It makes me laugh how many guys say they want a Good girls. | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 7/10/2009 3:14:29 PM | I would fall into the latter of both qualities of good and bad:
The Good
1) I have no children
2) Never been married
3) Do not cheat
4) Do not lie (I am as blunt as children's scissors).
5) Do not do drugs
6) Help save lives
7) Help people
8) Love my immediate family
9) Forgive those who have hurt me
10) Know when to admit I was wrong
The Bad
1) I love going out and having fun.
2) I love piercings (just not in the face, but I will let the groin thing slide for others)
3) I love tattoos.
4) I love action.
5) Terrified of marriage
6) Hate the idea of losing myself
7) Crave action and sweets
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 7/10/2009 3:26:44 PM | | Other relationship also implies something out of the norm so changing what you are looking for to friends or dating would probably be a good idea. I also wouldn't think that the number of marriages or whether you were married to the father of your children is a morals issue, but a stability issue. At your age, someone talking about good girls is probably a twit. | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 7/10/2009 3:41:52 PM | Well we all know the defination changes dramatically depending on which gender is doing the translation....let me see...
Man......." A good girl is one that does as she's told, gives me sex when I want it, doesn't question my silence etc etc...
Woman......"A good girl will NOT jump into bed without knowing his family name"
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 7/10/2009 3:43:15 PM | Does it really matter what it means? It's not something that I consider beyond hitting the next button when I see it on someones profile.
I see "good girl", "good woman", "good hearted woman", "honest woman", "trustworthy woman", and I know it's not someone I'm going to be interested in.
So what if some guys would write you off? I mean, that should be expected. Not everyone will like you. Wouldn't it be more interesting and enjoyable to find those that will like you? | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 7/10/2009 3:59:04 PM | | maybe good girls after a while do go bad .... how monotonous would it be to be good all the time.: devil: | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 7/10/2009 7:19:35 PM | | x-file, your perfect girl sounds like the inflatable type. Why didn't you just write, "A girl with no opinions who never opens her mouth unless it is to make me feel better about myself."? Oh, and who genuinely likes sex. | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 7/10/2009 8:20:21 PM | Good girl = a virgin with the skills of a 5 dollar prostitute...........
Plus the people who say they want a "good girl" are normally pretty sleazy in their own right...
I want a real woman..... faults and all.... while maintaining a goofy side..... | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 7/10/2009 8:30:24 PM | | I don't understand why this applies to women only? Men can be "bad men" too. If you are not true to your nature and don't treat people the way you want to be treated, with honesty, respect, etc. then you are a bad person, lol. Why would we assume that women can be bad? I believe that is dangerous to not only the woman who believes she may be "bad" but also to the men who think women can be bad, but for some reason men are exempt from being bad? call me confused. | |
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| Good Girl?
Posted: 7/10/2009 8:32:45 PM | | Well said. Thank you | |
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