| A few extra pounds?
Posted: 7/11/2009 9:39:17 AM | Need male opinion on what this means to guys when a woman describes herself as such. Is it 10-50 pounds over weight or 50-100? You get the idea. Just trying to get a sense of how guys see this and what they think it means when a woman uses this to describe herself. I've seen guys use it, who clearly look over 100 pounds overweight...which I think would be inaccurate. Random things that make me curious. :D
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| A few extra pounds?
Posted: 7/11/2009 9:45:11 AM | I tend to think, 10-20lbs overweight. You know, something a few months in the gym would take off.
We're talking "a FEW extra pounds" after all. | |
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| A few extra pounds?
Posted: 7/11/2009 9:49:30 AM | The new size 10 is size 14. I just saw this article on MSN or something.
I would say 20-60. It's different for guys as it is for girls. You look average more than "a few extra".
Personally, I don't see either being a dating dealbreaker. BBW/Obese can be to some. | |
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| A few extra pounds?
Posted: 7/11/2009 9:52:55 AM | I read the same thing on CNN yesterday. lol! Which I think is robbing me of knowing where I truly should be at. lol! And I'm sure I'm an extra 10 now, but nothing over 50 over that is for sure. That is why I put a few extra. I don't want to mislead people. I mean if someone doesn't like it, their problem. I just was curious about it and I think about things like this.
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| A few extra pounds?
Posted: 7/11/2009 10:04:38 AM | | Lady, people look around and see that people are deluded - they're fat but describe themselves as average because they've deluded themselves into believing fat is average. And maybe it is but it's not attractive on any level to someone who cares about their health. You're fat and complaining about fat guys? Get a life, when you decided to be fat you told the world you don't give a crap about yourself, your health, the way you look, etc. | |
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| A few extra pounds?
Posted: 7/11/2009 10:06:15 AM | 10-25 lbs over one's personal ideal weight would accurately express 'a few extra' to me. That's not to say 10-25 over what your Dr. would tell you, but rather your self-image 'comfortable' weight.
I'm 6'1" (if I stand up straight) and I weigh 225. Would I feel more comfortable at 200? Sure. By the same token, years ago I was in a physically demanding occupation & thought I looked good at the time weighing 175, but looking back, I looked scrawny albeit 'ideal' according to the Doc.
225 sounds really heavy to me, but I don't look it, I must be dense, lol. 
Edit: Shoot, your body shot with the jeans definitely qualifies as average proportions to me. =) | |
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| A few extra pounds?
Posted: 7/11/2009 10:08:49 AM | Looking at your profile, I'd say that you would definitely just quality as "a few pounds" - so I'd probably go with the 10 lbs to 20 lbs overweight, kinda what psylocillin put.
edit: And I do agree with the poster below - you could be "average" as well. Too bad there isn't a category for "curvy" ... | |
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| A few extra pounds?
Posted: 7/11/2009 10:09:42 AM | | You have a reasonable body shot so that should be good....you are probably more of a POF "average", though....The concern is more with you having current pictures....so many are hiding 50-100 pounds... | |
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| A few extra pounds?
Posted: 7/11/2009 10:10:16 AM | Yeah I was never really sure where that would fall, but it's good to get an idea about that. I appreciate everyone's feedback, except that one poster who is clearly looking to pick a fight with someone as I've seen him insulting other people on other forums. But again, I appreciate all your feedback. :D
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| A few extra pounds?
Posted: 7/11/2009 10:13:46 AM | Depends on your height and how you carry the extra weight. 30 lbs on a 5'1" woman is a heck of a lot more obvious than 30 lbs on a 5'7" woman.
You're photos don't show enough of your body to make a real judgment (how judgmental!) but I get the impression of "average" rather than a few extra pounds. | |
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| A few extra pounds?
Posted: 7/11/2009 10:20:09 AM | | Like I said there is probably an additional 10 now, so need to update, so hence me putting the few extra out there. I do see a general consensus on what that is though, which is good. | |
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| A few extra pounds?
Posted: 7/11/2009 10:28:08 AM | I wouldn't call 10lbs extra deserving of the label. Really, what's the difference between 130 and 140? 10lbs is something that I can gain and lose in a month just with water.
The label itself is overly coy and ambiguous. If you put average on your profile, I wouldn't contest it. | |
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| A few extra pounds?
Posted: 7/11/2009 10:31:59 AM | | It's more like 30, the pic of the full body was more like 20. I meant like an additional 10 to that pic. :D | |
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| A few extra pounds?
Posted: 7/11/2009 10:55:07 AM | First this subject has been over done (thread search). But still have the urge to respond, just can't help it ( to much coffee this morning).
It is all in the eyes of the beholder. Unfortunately, in my belief (own opinion here) guys can get away with a few extra lbs, more then women.
Healthy is probably the way we should all go and trying to work on that myself.
If you care (which you shouldn't), even with the exta 10, I would say you are average. But best to ask your doctor and not me.
Best of luck!!!! | |
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| A few extra pounds?
Posted: 7/11/2009 10:59:23 AM | chessie,
You are young and very pretty.
Don't let some ugly loser that couldn't get you if he were the last man on earth,
let you think less of yourself. SR has a posting history of insulting women in general.
To your post. A few is no more than 20 in my opinion.
You are not bbw and shouldn't think men aren't going to be after someone as cute as you even if you were. | |
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| A few extra pounds?
Posted: 7/11/2009 11:01:44 AM | | This probably has been overdone...and I apologize for that. Still new to all of this. Oops! And I hope it's not coming off as complaining. Genuinely curious. I just don't want to mislead so it's nice to know and get (thank you all) a general idea of what "a few extra pounds" means. I do think that most people out here are very helpful on these forums, so that is really great. | |
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| A few extra pounds?
Posted: 7/11/2009 11:01:50 AM | OP: The best thing that you (and we all) can do is provide a full body shot - and it is nice if it is recent. Heck, in that case, I'm cool with "Prefer Not to Say" in the body type field. As the earlier poster mentioned, beauty is in the eye of the beholder - well let them behold.
But I understand where you are coming from in some regard. The only "slight" alarm bell is if someone list in the profile a body type that they are nowhere near meeting. It would bring up in my mind how much have they accepted who they are - the body is a small matter, but it would raise questions in their life to whether they're living an illusion in their mind. | |
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| A few extra pounds?
Posted: 7/11/2009 11:03:57 AM | "Few" means a small number. I would think under 10 pounds is considered few. Guys are different. Muscle mass needs to be considered. If a man's belly is hanging out, making his knees have an awning and his obliques spill out like a muffin top, then that is considered overweight.
Bottom line is...if you think you are a few or over, you probably are. | |
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| A few extra pounds?
Posted: 7/11/2009 11:06:08 AM | Anjelic - that is very sweet. Thank you! Yeah I kind of noticed that in other posts.
Yeah I do like myself, especially compared to when I was in my 20s, but it was a thought that struck me about the dating sites "labeling" of body types. But it was very nice of you to say those things. Even if you don't want those things to bother you, when people say things like that, it still can sting a little, so you have made my day a little brighter. :D | |
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| A few extra pounds?
Posted: 7/11/2009 11:10:41 AM |
Need male opinion on what this means to guys when a woman describes herself as such.
IMO it depends.
It depends on her pictures. It depends on the information in her profile.
Such as if in her most current pictures her non pregnant stomach sits out farther than her 42ee chest while she's wearing a skintight miniskirt and 8" stiletto heels drinking a beer stretched around a stripper pole. And she puts in her profile that she's tired of being used for sex, wants someone to see her inside (and not via a flashlight and her vagina), because that's all she see's in people (as long as they are 10 years younger, over 6', and workout regularly, athletic, or aren't couch potatoes according to preferences). Or almost every picture is of her hand or fingers stuck tight under her chin to hold the others in.
So with all that if she puts she is "a few extra pounds" it means "I'm really vain, narcissistic, probably manipulating, possibly controlling, and deluded about who I am."
In other words, IMO, the description doesn't mean anything in and of itself. It only adds credence, lends support, or adds conflict to the opinion a person gets from the rest of the profile and pictures. | |
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| A few extra pounds?
Posted: 7/11/2009 11:13:05 AM | | 10 pounds over weight is nothing..month or so in the gym with the correct diet and its history!! But that 10 pounds (overweight) could also look great on somebody.. as for 50-60 pounds over..i just do see why someone would not care about themself enough to stop this, it does NOT happen over night. | |
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