| Would you date and ultimately live with someone who was bisexual?
Posted: 7/11/2009 11:53:03 PM | Ladies after reading this morning that Duncan James from Blue is bisexual and has been in loving relationships with both men and woman.
My question is could you ever find it acceptable having a partner that has intercourse with the same sex whilst being with you due to them being bisexual.
Would you date and ultimately live with someone who was bisexual? | |
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Posted: 7/12/2009 12:07:09 AM | | not a chance i dont do share AND as for being bisexual is it just wantting the best of both worlds | |
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Posted: 7/12/2009 12:18:23 AM | | Nope, wouldn't do it for the simple reason that, in a relationship, I want the other person to be totally into me. If the other person was bisexual, I could never totally fulfill them so they would always potentially be looking elsewhere to get that missing part.......... | |
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Posted: 7/12/2009 12:21:51 AM | You've made rather a big jump there - from someone being bisexual to implying that person must be unfaithful to their current partner, wouldn't you agree?
And if your sexuality is such that you can be equally happy with a partner of either sex, wouldn't you try to find your true happiness in either of those worlds? Or would you really conform to the majority view that you must find a partner of the opposite sex?
Doesn't that view equate to the same view as led to persecution of homosexuals? | |
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Posted: 7/12/2009 12:31:42 AM | I don't think most bisexuals cheat with the "other side" while being in a relationship with one or the other. They just are attracted to both sexes, and can find happiness with either. I have known a few, and some have a preference, or favorite, but, they don't normally pursue both at the same time. They are just open to either.
Don't know...would depend on the man and the situation...I wouldn't automatically reject someone for it..and it would have to be someone who was monogamous while in the relationship. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2009 12:32:10 AM | Anniesea, Sorry...you misunderstood me............I wasn't saying that someone MUST be unfaithful if they were bisexual. My point was that, if someoe was bisexual, they must surely enjoy all the physical side that that entails and therefore I could not fulfill that side of a relationship. Hence then, there would be the possibility that they would eventually maybe look elsewhere to find what I couldn't give them.
Apologies for the misunderstanding.... | |
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Posted: 7/12/2009 12:53:58 AM | | Sorry, ibakecakes - I wasn't replying to you but to Msg 2, we hit post at the same time and so your post wasn't visible to me at the time of writing. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2009 12:56:56 AM |
To stop this from becoming a polarized thread I will add .......
I would date and live with a bisexual woman ...........two biatches in my kitchen and bedroom can only be a good thing as long as she did'nt pay too much attention to the munching of the rug !!
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Posted: 7/12/2009 1:01:38 AM | | who was it said "Bisexual is just being greedy" | |
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Posted: 7/12/2009 1:42:54 AM |
Would you date and ultimately live with someone who was bisexual?
I dont see why not,it would be a normal relationship wouldn't it?.
Being bisexual isn't giving someone free reign to cheat is it,just gives them more choice of who they are going to be attracted to in the first place. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2009 1:50:11 AM | One of the two loves of my life was in fact bisexual. Doesn't bother me at all. She was a she by the way, not that it would matter.
My question would be why do people get so hung up on sexuality. I happen to prefer women, but what essentially is wrong with fancying the same sex?
Nothing. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2009 2:02:18 AM | I think as long as the person you date has been honest about their being bisexual in the first instance. Then it is purely down to the individual if they choose to continue with the relationship.
Personally, I am maybe old fashioned and would want my man to want me as I did him. In this day and age with all the perils there may be in any new sexual relationship, honesty of where and who you have been with from the start, I think is the most important foundation of a good relationship be it bisexual or hetrosexual :) | |
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Posted: 7/12/2009 2:41:52 AM | [My question is could you ever find it acceptable having a partner that has intercourse with men whilst being with you due to him being bisexual. Would you date and ultimately live with someone who was bisexual?/] ooo it didnt work again
iam sure shes asking this question sleeping with 2 people | |
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Posted: 7/12/2009 3:11:43 AM | Are we to assume from some of the comments given here that a man that generally prefers slim women would not be dated by a more curvy female for fear he will go astray?
We all have our likes and dislikes and we generally settle down with someone that we find sufficiently attractive and lovable.
The fact that this person might not tick every single box we had previously imagined does not mean we are going to be unfaithful.
Does the (OP) question simply highlight the insecurities (real or imagined) experienced by some individuals? | |
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Posted: 7/12/2009 3:22:40 AM | God i couldnt get seriously involved with or live with a man who was attracted to other men. It would make me feel i didnt have something he wanted. Because i dont. If that means i am insecure then so what? I may be able to compete with another woman but not with a man and i wouldnt want to have to. Cant say it is something that has ever been an issue but maybe its a question i will start asking. Not on a first date though. I think a third date is more appropriate for this line of enquiry  | |
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Posted: 7/12/2009 3:27:19 AM | Nope it's bad enough having to deal with amount of women some have had, let alone the thought of them going with a man YUK!
God made Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve  | |
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Posted: 7/12/2009 3:43:23 AM | It wouldnt bother me one bit, and why would it?
like previous posters have said, being bi doesnt automatically mean there gonna jump into bed with someone, it just shows there own insecurities all be it in holding a relationship or there sexual skill. Theres the train of thought that the large majority of people are bi, including the die hard hetro and gay community. Ive been out with a bi lass and found no problem and have known lesbien women to have a bit of pork every now and again, they say they go to bed with the person, not the gender.
edit - tsk! Theres me thinking johnny was the for me! What a bytch getting others to come out instead! | |
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Posted: 7/12/2009 5:32:24 AM | Strange that the Duncan James is bisexual news comes out just before Blue reform.
Would I date and live with someone who was bisexual? Never had to consider it but who people sleep with or are attracted to is up to them, I don't think it's something people can turn on and turn off again. Neither do I really care very much who Duncan James is shagging, I don't think it's very newsworthy. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2009 6:19:12 AM |
I wasn't replying to you but to Msg 2
It helps to either quote or state the number if replying to specific post.
If the other person was bisexual, I could never totally fulfill them so they would always potentially be looking elsewhere to get that missing part......
Surely a bisexual partner would be more concerned with enjoying the relative merits of a relationship than with bemoaning the lack of 'extras' which could be obtained from someone else? Being 'bisexual' means that they are sexually attracted to both genders, and doesn't imply that they necessarily 'miss' the parts that a particular gender doesn't provide.
My point was that, if someoe was bisexual, they must surely enjoy all the physical side that that entails and therefore I could not fulfill that side of a relationship.
If I were to be in a relationship with a bisexual woman, that state of affairs wouldn't concern me, because she had chosen someone (me) who could not fulfill the lesbian side of her sexuality. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2009 6:37:44 AM | My main concern would be was he practicing safe sex and think it would be within my right to ask for an HIV test.
Also surely you are one or the other and deciding that you are attracted to both must be an indication to your indecisiveness? | |
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Posted: 7/12/2009 6:39:10 AM | | I have had a relationship with a bisexual man and it didn't concern me in the least. If he wanted a relationship or just sex with a man at that time he wouldn't have been with me. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2009 6:57:13 AM | I have, and joined them in a threesome, most amazing it was too.
Why the that a celeb is bisexual, are you sad that he may not be happy with just you and when you manage to pull him he will insist on seeing men too. Look, just go with it, you dunno what your missing.
Not even sure i know who this Duncan is anyway, but good on him for enjoying the best of both worlds. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2009 11:43:38 AM | Personally I couldn't cope with it all. I much prefer my men to be less fluid in their sexuality. It's just horses for courses I suppose.....................just a preference on my part.
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Posted: 7/12/2009 12:16:16 PM | Zeegary (msg 25)
While I take your point, that someone would have chosen you it still doesn't completely ignore the fact that they are also attracted to the other sex and in that respect, you cannot totally fulfil them................unless the sheer magnificence of your love making turns them back to the hetero life...............and therefore there is always a chance that at some point in your relationship, you may not be able to fulfil them and that could be the undoing of the relationship...............hence my opinion that it wouldn't be for me. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2009 12:24:22 PM |
While I take your point, that someone would have chosen you it still doesn't completely ignore the fact that they are also attracted to the other sex and in that respect, you cannot totally fulfil them
I am sure there are some bisexual people who require both sexes to be fulfiled, but they are not the majority. Having dated a bisexual woman for 2 years, I can definitely state that she never felt she 'missed' sex with women since her attraction was not based on the gender of the person but the character, and the sex differences were not something she dwelled on. She simply fancied both sexes. It's actually quite refreshing having a GF you can discuss who is fit with, knowing they are giving an honest critique. | |
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