| Wanting Sex when you first meet.
Posted: 7/12/2009 8:26:57 PM | | Why when I talk to a guy online & then meet them they are the polar opposite in person? Online they say they want a relationship and yada yada, then when you meet them all they try to do is have sex or then say they just want to have fun? | |
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| Wanting Sex when you first meet.
Posted: 7/12/2009 8:28:56 PM | I'm not Einstein, but I have a theory it is because all of your photos on your profile are boob shots.
However, if I may say, you have a lively About Me section...
Now as to the topic of guys and what they discuss: Unfortuantely there are those that are players, and they're going to do and say what it takes to get what they want. Seriously, I suggest you change your profile pictures to something a little more conservative, and that may attract a man more interested in you as a person. However, there is always weasels, and so if they shift to talk of sex during the first date, feel free to walk away. I wish for you the best. | |
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| Wanting Sex when you first meet.
Posted: 7/12/2009 8:30:25 PM | OP ~ well I admit to having sex on the first date and am not one of those who say it's an automatic no-no. However, it happened organically and it led to a 6 month relationship.
It sounds like this guy is trying to play the field. .. I'd move on unless you want a fwb
Oh, and Sun devil... it's too late for northern indiana, it already has a bad name. It's called 'michiana'. I mean that's downright silly. | |
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| Wanting Sex when you first meet.
Posted: 7/12/2009 8:32:40 PM | Well obviously you aren't.
Yeah, but why not just say that shit before wasting someone's time? They want a relationship and all that online then when you meet them they say they just want to have fun and don't want a relationship. | |
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| Wanting Sex when you first meet.
Posted: 7/12/2009 8:32:58 PM |
I'm not Einstein, but I have a theory it is because all of your photos on your profile are boob shots.
I'm pretty good with relativity, including Christoffel symbols, and I agree.
Also, there are a lot of warnings on her profile, and that tends to attract those into deception. That's fairly obvious. It sends "you will hurt me if you do X" signals, and people who want to hurt are attracted to that like flies to sh*t. | |
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| Wanting Sex when you first meet.
Posted: 7/12/2009 8:37:52 PM | http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Histrionic_Personality_Disorder
Histrionic personality disorder (HPD) is defined by the American Psychiatric Association as a personality disorder characterized by a pattern of excessive emotionality and attention-seeking, including an excessive need for approval and inappropriate seductiveness, usually beginning in early adulthood. These individuals are lively, dramatic, enthusiastic, and flirtatious. They may be inappropriately sexually provocative, express strong emotions with an impressionistic style, and be easily influenced by others. | |
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| Wanting Sex when you first meet.
Posted: 7/12/2009 8:38:20 PM | Yeah, but why not just say that shit before wasting someone's time? They want a relationship and all that online then when you meet them they say they just want to have fun and don't want a relationship.
Because you wouldn't meet them if they told you that.
With the pictures you have (all boob shots and sticking your tongue out to show your tongue ring), it sends the message that you're just looking to get some. So the only messages you're going to get are from guys looking to get some, as well.
EDIT: Good God, I just read your profile. As bitter and angry as you sound, after I got what I wanted out of you, I'd run away... no, I'd run for my life. | |
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| Wanting Sex when you first meet.
Posted: 7/12/2009 8:44:21 PM |
Oh, and Sun devil... it's too late for northern indiana, it already has a bad name. It's called 'michiana'. I mean that's downright silly.
Yeah, I have to agree - I never really liked that name either.
Anyway OP, it sounds like you are hurt, and understandably so. Just realize there are good guys out there, but you have to sift through the coal to find diamonds. Seriously, change your profile to more conservative photos, and have an about me section that really decscribes you and not the pain and misery that you are going though with the last losers, and I really think you'll find a great guy. I wish for you the best. | |
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| Wanting Sex when you first meet.
Posted: 7/12/2009 8:59:25 PM | Actually, that is better and a definite start. 
Really what would help are some photos of you - from straight in front of you instead of looking down your blouse. (The skulls help, but show a guy the true you)
Now just change your profile to reflect the true person you are, and take out all the negativity, and I'll think you attract a great guy. Go over to the profile review board and look at the thread by bucsgirl for ideas to make a good profile. I really wish for you the best - we all deserve to find our match. | |
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| Wanting Sex when you first meet.
Posted: 7/12/2009 9:01:32 PM | | Well when I did have a profile that was actually about me and what I wanted, I got all kinds of weirdos, psychos, nut jobs. That is why it is like it is. | |
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| Wanting Sex when you first meet.
Posted: 7/12/2009 9:08:51 PM | Out of the 11 lines in our profile you have 6 of them saying the same thing...no"whack jobs"...Ok, they get it. That will probably just make them message you more.
Put some more substance in your profile. Tell people about you. When you only put a little bit about yourself, warn off all "whack jobs" and bird's-eye-view of your chest you're only going to get the people messaging you that you don't want...yes, the "whack jobs."
Also, the stuff about you is not attractive. No man is going to say, "Wow, she sounds like a whackey b*tch, I want to date her!!" Her personality seems to be just as whackey as the ones you talk about in your profile.
I wanted to see how many times I could get whack into this message...
Excuse me while I leave so I don't get whacked by the whackey OP. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2009 9:14:00 PM | Well when I did have a profile that was actually about me and what I wanted, I got all kinds of weirdos, psychos, nut jobs. That is why it is like it is.
You know, you're going to get them anyways ... and with your current profile, you're scaring away the good guys that would have an interest in you. Negativity kills profiles, and people judge you by the photos you past and your profile on dating sites. Don't let the psychos, weirdos, and nut jobs drag down your profile and thus you (if you don't get dates because of the negative profile, those loonies win): make a positive profile that shows who you truly are.
There no other way than to weed though the inbox and throw away the ones that are weirdos, psychos, and nut jobs. But isn't it worth it if it eventually gets you the guy that you deserve - the man of your dreams that will treat you right?
I wish for you the best. | |
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| Wanting Sex when you first meet.
Posted: 7/12/2009 9:25:44 PM | Agree. Erase the whole thing. Photos, text, even maybe the moniker.
Start out fresh and be warm, simple and non-confrontational. Negatives of any kind are no-good.
NO BOOB SHOTS, no "attention getting" behavior. Check back, ask. | |
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| Wanting Sex when you first meet.
Posted: 7/12/2009 9:26:04 PM | | Well since you've changed it I can't copy and paste it. I was no exhaggerating. You didn't say "whack jobs" that many times but you said "nut jobs, etc"...and warned off all those "whack jobs" in 6 of the 11 lines that were in your profile. Not my fault you can't count. | |
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| Wanting Sex when you first meet.
Posted: 7/12/2009 9:26:47 PM | Get rid of these lines ... they come across as negative:
- So many guys play damn games. Kindly, miss me with that $#@!
- Why do people act like once you have a gf/bf you can't have fun anymore? That's one of the lamest things I have ever heard.
- P to the S. I am not horny, don't want to get "laid", & not sending you naked pix. Go watch porn. GTH outta here with that. K. Thanks.
- I'm Not A B*T*H, I am blunt, & Tired Of Whack Jobs Hitting Me Up. Frickin Nut Jobs
- If you have psycho tendencies, are an alcoholic, drug fiend, head case, or psych ward escapee kick rocks!!
They just give off the wrong vibes. I wish for you the best. | |
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