You asked for an honest opinion, and I am going to give mine.
I am curious what results you were expecting here? You have been a member for 17 days, and you are ready to give up?! I am curious if you were expecting this site to be 'Drive Thru Dating,' because it is not. No woman in her right mind would invest three seconds in a man who is ready to give up without giving something a chance.
In my humble opinion, your profile picture is creepy! Yes, I used an exclamation point!
Plus, as the previous poster mentioned, it doesn't catch our eye as a thumbnail. Most of the time our profile is looked at because someone came across our picture at the top of the page. It is very important our profile picture is a clear, up close, smiling facial shot.
I am going to second all the great advice you have been given.
About Me
Ok, so before you read this ladies, I want to ask for your honest oppinions about me, good bad or indifferent, please take a moment to drop me a note and let me know what can be improved on here to make you want to meet with me. Because seriously I am a great fun and loving dude and am wondering why you ladies don't answer my messages. Thanks for the input, now read on.
** Great fun? According to this paragraph you are a whiny pooh. The most important thing about you is that you whine?! Yikes! Out of all the profiles I have read, I have yet come across one of someone seeking a whiner.
I am a very independant person.
** Independent, how; because, it doesn't sound like you are emotionally independent?
most except rap or country, my music interests are variable to the mood I am in.
** This doesn't make sense.
I love the beach, boats, boogie boarding, hiking skiing sailing prettymuch anything outdoors, I want someone who i could just hang out with or see where the chemistry goes. I want a workout partner to help encourage me into the shape I want to be in. I used to weigh 285 now hovering around 235 at 6 foot 3 inches.
** Congratulations on your weight loss! :-)
I am outgoing, like to dance despite what others may think of my style. I know a little Salsa, line dancing, two step, square dancing, hip hop, techno what ever, I am not shy about dancing to ")feel good" music. I know what I like and don't like in a woman. I like one who is passionate, self sustaining, healthy, happy, outgoing, people person, active, clean (in all areas of life), organized (to an extent, I mean we all have little messes like in the garage), sexualy passionate, not a lump in the bed, enjoys the great outdoors and can hold her own in hiking boots with little or no complaints(better that way), likes to cook or be cooked for, has an attitude about trying anything once, is not neggative and does not talk about people who are not present to defend themselves, I know I can ramble on......just sit down with me will ya and we will take one step at a time. I am a little ADD at times so please be patient. lol....just kidding.
** Good grief man, please break your ideas into paragraph form! *ouch my eyes* ;-)
** You seem a bit emotionally high maintenance. ('why won't someone write me' 'just sit down with me will ya')
** You state you are seeking an activity partner. Care to expound, because your profile reads as if you are seeking more.
First Date
Spend little or no money (on the first outting, just to feel eachother out first) instead be creative about how to enjoy the outdoors hiking bike riding sailing for free talking having coffee talking about business aspirations, exploring eachothers thoughts dreams and real life experiences.
** This is incredibly tacky, and you sound terribly cheap. (Spend little or no money, sailing for free) There is no need in saying this, just list a few activities you enjoy.
I am not really looking to date per se because my wife and I just split up, I just moved in with a great family here in North Fontana Falcon Ridge area 13 days ago, I am content and happy because despite the divorce I have a very bright future with my glass always full.
** This is a red flag. You have single listed as your status, yet here you say you and your wife just split up, and you moved into your own place 13 days ago, yet then you go on to say you are divorced. Which is it? Are you divorced, or separated, because clearly you are not single?
Come meet with me we can have some activity type of fun and just talk. Or whatever.
sexualy passionate, not a lump in the bed
** Be direct with what you are seeking, because as of now we need a GPS system to figure it out.
Aside from your profile picture, all of this is creepy.
A first date being
hiking or sailing, and then " I am also looking for a guest to join me for a cruise out of Long Beach to baja for 5 days 4 nights for October 12th-16th. The cost for the cruise is $250 to you, that includes port fees and taxes, and you can book your travel here www.takemeawayworld.com let me know if you love travel like me and we shall go sailing into blue waters."
** This is just my humble opinion, so please feel free to take it with a grain of salt. *wink*
** I recommend a rewrite, and then come back.