| | orgasms- do you persevere to crack the code?Page 1 of 7 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7) | I read somewhere about a guy trying to "crack the code". He was flicking switches, twisting nobs, lifting levers, pushing buttons etc to get his girl to cum only to find the biatch had changed the combination.
in my own experience, I guy I was seeing had a problem "getting there" unless he did it himself. After many times of getting jawache, armache and chaffing bits I decided he was right.
Also, my ex had his own agenda. Anything I asked him to do to speed things up for me was met with a rolling of the eyes like it was a chore. I stopped asking, lay there and thought of the country. Needless to say it was less than satisfying.
My questions are...
If your partner took ages to cum would you happily persevere?
Would there become a point when it would be a chore?
Would you dump someone not willing to put in the effort?
Would you dump someone who needed too much effort?
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I would say I'm up for a challenge Shabba, but someone thinks I'm attention seeking so I best not. ;0) | |
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| orgasms- do you persevere to crack the code?
Posted: 7/14/2009 8:14:27 AM |
in my own experience, I guy I was seeing had a problem "getting there" unless he did it himself. After many times of getting jawache, armache and chaffing bits I decided he was right
Same for me, some women see it as a challenge even though i tell them it aint ever gonna happen.....well, after the first hour anyway 
Personally i would do anything for my partner, no matter how long it took. | |
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| orgasms- do you persevere to crack the code?
Posted: 7/14/2009 8:21:03 AM |
He was flicking switches, twisting nobs, lifting levers, pushing buttons etc to get his girl to cum only to find the biatch had changed the combination.
A similar thing happened with an ex of mine - she ended up changing the operator, sadly....
BTW Ladies, it helps if you give us a little guidance down there......we aren't mindreaders!
If your partner took ages to cum would you happily persevere?
Yes.....I only usually stop if she either asks/begs me to or if she bursts into laughter. I don't see foreplay as a chore....it's meant to be both fun and naughty!
Would you dump someone not willing to put in the effort?
Would you dump someone who needed too much effort?
Not at all......'orgasms' aren't an issue with me. If they don't happen, that's fine, if they do happen, that's fine, and if they never happen, that's also fine.
Besides, I like trying to find what makes each woman orgasm....... | |
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| orgasms- do you persevere to crack the code?
Posted: 7/14/2009 8:26:37 AM | it takes me quite a while to "get there" so I reckon I'm matched with someone that also needs a bit more work so to speak!
Lads if you get the foreplay right she'll be putty in your hands anyway  | |
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| orgasms- do you persevere to crack the code?
Posted: 7/14/2009 8:29:26 AM | Odd question, to me sex is never a chore, if it has become so why are you bothering?, i dont think i nwould be!.
Define "ages" reminds me of the Woody Allen skecth where he and his wife goto therapy, he says they hardly ever make love, 2 3 times a week and thats is, she says he is s ex manaic after sex all the time, and expects sex 2 3 times a week.
The problem is not about effort and perserverance, its about makeing sure you both have fun, and that each gets satisfaction, when it turns into effort/chore to achieve that, im thinking the reason its become difficult is because at some level the relationship is not working right that effecting the sex. | |
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sjxx
| | Joined: 4/9/2009
Msg: 7 | |
| orgasms- do you persevere to crack the code?
Posted: 7/14/2009 8:31:18 AM | i try to send men over the edge as quickly as possible to avoid hours of being banged. That can get quite uncomfortable. As for me, no one does as well as i do it myself but my man would always be welcome to watch. It doesnt take too long so he wouldnt get bored  | |
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| orgasms- do you persevere to crack the code?
Posted: 7/14/2009 8:33:18 AM |
if you get the foreplay right she'll be putty in your hands anyway
Women hate it when I'm 'putty' in their hands......
in my own experience, I guy I was seeing had a problem "getting there" unless he did it himself. After many times of getting jawache, armache and chaffing bits I decided he was right.
It must be quite disheartening to spend ages trying to make a partner cum, then watch them bring themselves off within a few seconds.... | |
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| orgasms- do you persevere to crack the code?
Posted: 7/14/2009 8:43:20 AM |
If your partner took ages to cum would you happily persevere?
No, I would say "Finish yourself of luv, you're boring me now" !!
I've been around the block and don't think there is such a thing as the code of the crack ...............some cum quickly, some it takes a while .........patience is a virtue !!
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Scints
| | Joined: 6/11/2009
Msg: 11 | |
| orgasms- do you persevere to crack the code?
Posted: 7/14/2009 8:44:06 AM | [its about makeing sure you both have fun, and that each gets satisfaction, ]
But having fun doesn't mean you're going to cum. There's a bit more to individuals than that.
And the relationship can be good, just orgasms take longer or don't happen.
Lily Allen's "Scream" springs to mind. | |
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mart-b
| | Joined: 6/16/2009
Msg: 12 | |
| orgasms- do you persevere to crack the code?
Posted: 7/14/2009 8:47:02 AM | A friend of mine who stayed over Saturday night, before she left Sunday evening enjoyed 3 orgasms
Myself none, I was not at all bothered it’s the taking part after all
But it took a bit to convince her that I wasn’t bothered, that I did find her attractive, she wasn’t crap in bed
I like to make things last, hold back but sometimes after a few hours the moment has passed but as long as my partner is satisfied, I’m just quite happy to cuddle up, go to kip
Or get dressed and leave whatever the situation
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Posted: 7/14/2009 8:48:18 AM |
But having fun doesn't mean you're going to cum. There's a bit more to individuals than that.
Wanna bet , its what you women call 'closure' but from a males perspective !!
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| orgasms- do you persevere to crack the code?
Posted: 7/14/2009 8:50:26 AM |
[its about makeing sure you both have fun, and that each gets satisfaction, ]
But having fun doesn't mean you're going to cum. There's a bit more to individuals than that.
And the relationship can be good, just orgasms take longer or don't happen.
Lily Allen's "Scream" springs to mind.
Oh i agree, ive had times when we have had great sex without one or the other comming, but ive not had long term partner where one or the other had an "issue" about getting off, nor did not do so regulary. | |
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| orgasms- do you persevere to crack the code?
Posted: 7/14/2009 8:52:31 AM |
[its about makeing sure you both have fun, and that each gets satisfaction, ]
But having fun doesn't mean you're going to cum. There's a bit more to individuals than that.
And the relationship can be good, just orgasms take longer or don't happen.
Lily Allen's "Scream" springs to mind.
Oh i agree, ive had times when we have had great sex without one or the other comming, but ive not had long term partner where one or the other had an "issue" about getting off, nor did not do so regulary. | |
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| orgasms- do you persevere to crack the code?
Posted: 7/14/2009 8:52:47 AM |
[its about makeing sure you both have fun, and that each gets satisfaction, ]
But having fun doesn't mean you're going to cum. There's a bit more to individuals than that.
And the relationship can be good, just orgasms take longer or don't happen.
Lily Allen's "Scream" springs to mind.
Oh i agree, ive had times when we have had great sex without one or the other comming, but ive not had long term partner where one or the other had an "issue" about getting off, nor did not do so regulary. | |
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tm1971
| | Joined: 5/22/2009
Msg: 17 | |
| orgasms- do you persevere to crack the code?
Posted: 7/14/2009 8:54:35 AM | If your partner took ages to cum would you happily persevere?
-if various techniques did not work, i would ask him what the problem was and how we could rectify it.
Would there become a point when it would be a chore?
- yes
Would you dump someone not willing to put in the effort?
- in the past no, but the new and improved me, yes!
Would you dump someone who needed too much effort?
- no, never had the problem in getting a man so to speak "off"
Less than 25% of women reach orgasms penetratively, hence ladies enjoy the foreplay. | |
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| orgasms- do you persevere to crack the code?
Posted: 7/14/2009 8:56:27 AM | | Sorry but i for one expect them to at least try if im gonna be doing handstands and swinging off chanderliers the least he can do is flick the bean a little | |
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| orgasms- do you persevere to crack the code?
Posted: 7/14/2009 8:58:51 AM | I will persevere as long as i feel she is enjoying it.I'd be a bit miffed if i didn't get off.
Did see one girl briefly that i just could not get off,that was worring i can tell ya.She did say at the time she wouldn't so just get on with it.Dont know wether that was down to my performance or she just doesn't get off.I did try on a number of occasions but never managed it. | |
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| orgasms- do you persevere to crack the code?
Posted: 7/14/2009 9:03:35 AM | yer gonna think I am either lying or boasting, but wtf...Not long ago, one "friend" orgasmed as soon as we "engaged"....
But to asnwer,
Would there become a point when it would be a chore?
- yes
Would you dump someone not willing to put in the effort?
-Yep
Would you dump someone who needed too much effort?
- nope, never had the problem in getting a woman to "sing" | |
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| orgasms- do you persevere to crack the code?
Posted: 7/14/2009 9:05:52 AM | What???
Women can have orgasms as well???
You learn something new everyday, and I can actually lick that thing that looks like a Klingons forehead , weird !
Seriously I have had sex quite a few times where I didnt get my rocks off, also I have faked getting my rocks off just to get it all over.
One the most enjoyable parts of sex is foreplay, foreplay is the key to an intense orgasm in my view. | |
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| orgasms- do you persevere to crack the code?
Posted: 7/14/2009 9:11:54 AM | I'm sure some are confusing 'Tantric sex' with normal sex here surely ???
Maybe I'm in a minority here but unless I've bolted my load I consider the job unfinished and am left frustrated !!
There's that old saying 'If your gonna do a job do it properly' !! | |
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| orgasms- do you persevere to crack the code?
Posted: 7/14/2009 9:15:35 AM |
unless I've bolted my load I consider the job unfinished
You suave b4astard
There's another issue here...faking it, i have a couple of times when i'm tired but i'd rather my partner was honest than give it the full am dram spectacular...which just leaves you thinking "hmmmm did she just fake that?" anyway. | |
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