| Ladies!! Can a man be too neat?
Posted: 7/14/2009 10:57:07 AM | | I was accused of being too neat not long ago..She said everything was in its place, floors clean, vehicles clean, yards well kept, bathroom clean..Etc...How can you be too neat? What wrong with keeping things in order, clean and crisp. Yes I make my bed, wash my sheets twice a week, two showers atleast every day. I think clean and neat is a good thing..No I do not go over board, yet I dont let things get away from me either, if I take a dish, I wash that dish..Does that make sense ladies? My house isnt like a museum or anything you can touch things..Just curious...Thanks | |
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| Ladies!! Can a man be too neat?
Posted: 7/14/2009 11:01:08 AM | | As long as you don't run around with cleaning supplies in hand to clean up any mess instantly, you are good. As long as you don't slap someone's hand for moving something out of place, you are good......Way better to be too neat than too messy/unclean. | |
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| Ladies!! Can a man be too neat?
Posted: 7/14/2009 11:11:12 AM | | There's really no answer to this question...its all a matter of personal preferance. I, myself, wouldn't dig a guy who was a neat freak. But to each their own, ya know? | |
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| Ladies!! Can a man be too neat?
Posted: 7/14/2009 11:11:20 AM | | I think all that home tidiness sounds nice. My question circles around the comment on how you take two showers a day, at least - sometimes more? Then I'd want to know how you feel about if someone you were with only bathed once a day? How do you feel about about those that change their sheets once a week? (If there is some sheet grabbing fun, they get changed out readily.) How do you feel about people that let dishes sit while they enjoy their company instead of getting up to wash or sort them right away? I would not be concerned about "too neat" unless that person started thinking less of the next person because they didn't follow the same routine. | |
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| Ladies!! Can a man be too neat?
Posted: 7/14/2009 11:11:25 AM | YES can be. my ex had this thing that he had to hang every shirt by color with the front of the shirts hanging in the same direction .. He would freak if clothes stayed in the dryer after the cycle was complete And insisted PRIOR to eating dinner the kitchen had to be clean. among so many other things Not bad IF he did all of these thing, he didnt I had to. So his OCD turned into my spare time.
What you described to me is normal behavior I dont think that is excessive at all. | |
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| Ladies!! Can a man be too neat?
Posted: 7/14/2009 11:11:35 AM | She wasn't right for you. My house has toys all over the place. You would probably feel uncomfortable there.
Everyone has their clean meter and yours is higher than mine. | |
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| Ladies!! Can a man be too neat?
Posted: 7/14/2009 11:22:21 AM | | Yes my closets are arranged in color and style........Damn, forgot about that..Now on the showers..I am very active and live in a hot area. I may go out side pick up a chainsaw, or weedtrimmer and get all sweaty. Thats shower number two right there, then what if someone calls up and says lets go get a bottle of wine, well there is shower number 3..Shower number one is when I get up out of bed...If someone only bathed once a day? Thats fine as long as they arent with B.O. Yes hygiene has come up before in my relationships and has caused problems, but on the whole its not been bad. I have my moments I guess. I have laundry folded in another room not put away, I have a on going project in my yard that is a total disaster due to me removing some bad trees and have two trees left. I guess I am a little OCD with neatness and clean..Yet, I have three dogs in the home...Trust me they get bathed, A LOT..Two toy dogs and one big lab. I have to admit I am a little embarrassed about the closet thing..Colors, Styles, and seasons are all in order..On that note, do women organize their shoes? Thanks ladies | |
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| Ladies!! Can a man be too neat?
Posted: 7/14/2009 12:33:31 PM | | Unless you're cleaning her house or she's moving in who cares how you live in your own space? If it's illegal I can see her point, but otherwise it's not really her concern. | |
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| Ladies!! Can a man be too neat?
Posted: 7/14/2009 12:35:14 PM | | Absolutely he can be too neat -- or too messy. Your level of neatness needs to be similar to your partner's or else you will drive each other potty. | |
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| Ladies!! Can a man be too neat?
Posted: 7/14/2009 1:10:56 PM | YES it can be obnoxious. My EX husband was like this...as his family had grown up like this. As in wipe the tub down after every bath or shower. Take your shoes off at the door. Stuff like that. It got annoying because I would clean and he would inspect and say ''not clean enough, do it again.'' I felt like Cinderella or something. He would find every speck or spot left behind.
When we separated i didn't clean house for two weeks...it was so liberating.
But you wash your sheets twice a week. Why not just get two sets of sheets...or more. I wash mine maybe once a week or sometimes i go longer. Do you sweat a lot or go to bed dirty or something? | |
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| Ladies!! Can a man be too neat?
Posted: 7/14/2009 1:32:26 PM | I think you can tell if your crossing the "too neat" line by looking at why you are cleaning something.
Like RaiderFan said, are you going to bed dirty? I don't think so, so WHY do you need to wash sheets that often? Just because twice a week is your rule?
If you are showering because your dirty, fine. Showering because you haven't showered at least twice. Not fine.
Cleaning because things are dirty, fine. Cleaning because they might eventually get dirty, sounds a bit OCD.
Bottom line is how you treat those around you. If your cleaning rules are more important than others feelings you may need to tone it down a bit. Or find someone as compulsive as yourself. | |
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| Ladies!! Can a man be too neat?
Posted: 7/14/2009 1:35:38 PM | | No I dont go to bed dirty ever!! I do allow my Lab to get up in bed at night, thats the reason for that.I change sheets every other day, because of him. Hes going to be 11 next month. He goes out at night and will sometimes track stuff in..Him being so old, I finally let him enjoy a little of the good life up on a sealy pillow top and 1200 count sheets...After all hes my one and only adopted son.. | |
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| Ladies!! Can a man be too neat?
Posted: 7/14/2009 1:40:09 PM | Could it be that what actually worried her was whether she was neat enough for you?
I don't see why anyone would care that someone else is too tidy, but the problems start when you share a space and the tidy person feels put up on or dis-satisfied by the other's lower standards or different priorities.
I've been on both sides of this, I've spent time with messy people who I felt were not allowing me to live in the kind of space in which I feel comfortable, and I've also dated a very 'neat' guy, who I wondered if might eventually get tired of my lower standards.
If the difference isn't by much you can compromise, but it doesn't bode well if the difference is more. | |
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| Ladies!! Can a man be too neat?
Posted: 7/14/2009 1:45:03 PM | | She probably implies that her cleaning habits are different and she'd find it difficult to keep up with yours. | |
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| Ladies!! Can a man be too neat?
Posted: 7/14/2009 2:02:54 PM | hi, yes, it is possible to be too neat. my ex husband is a screaming example of this. i spent a year eating cold suppers because he would clean the kitchen after supper was cooked and on the table. but if i tried to eat without him i was being inconsiderate to him and he'd throw a fit. he threw my shoes at me because they had snow on them from walking outside and then when i put them in the closet. oh well, i am 1000% happier without him and his mister clean wipes.
i guess you have to look at her perspective. is she apprehensive about being in your house. because she's scared she will make a mess is she embarassed about letting you se her house because she forgot to wash her coffee cup in the sink? poeple shouldn't have to change their core values to please someone.
i consider myself very tidy but if the clothes on the basket don't get folded right away or the dishes aren't done the second they are in the sink, i don't find that bad. but in contrast i would rather date a guy who likes to keep things clean than a guy who thinks 'that's womans work' and never goes anything around his house. i think you have to look at what makes you comfotrable. is cleanliness makes you happy do it. someone will appreciate it as greatly as you do.
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| Ladies!! Can a man be too neat?
Posted: 7/14/2009 2:09:33 PM | ^^^^^^^^^wow what's with all the super neat EX HUSBANDS? LOL
Hey on a lighter note I remember the movie Turner and Hooch. That movie was hilarious because he was a neat freak, and then the slobbery dog came home withhim and turned it upside down. | |
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| Ladies!! Can a man be too neat?
Posted: 7/14/2009 2:12:18 PM | I have never lived with anyone, before this I was in the Military. I have stayed over for a few days with people, and them me..Ive never had a problem with anyones home, nor had a problem with someone making messes at my home. Thats why that statement shocked me..Im not a Nazi about it with my guest, or if I shared a home with someone, nor would they eat a cold dinner..I just like tidy..I will admit I do like walking in white socks all day and the bottoms staying white..Something rewarding in that... I cant be that bad of a neat freak with three dogs in the house can I? I admit its a big house, but they have NO limits as to where they can go..One thing I will not allow in my home is smoking, thats pretty much my biggest rule, or leaving wine crystals in the floor to get knocked over...I drink out of those thin ones and they break super easy..Other than that? I think my home looks very lived in.. | |
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