| texting during a first date
Posted: 7/14/2009 2:25:32 PM | | Thankfully it doesn't happen all the time. But when it does, I take a bathroom break and never come back, leaving her with the tab. "A little harsh", you might say. Sure, I guess it is. But I find it to be one of the biggest insults/slaps in the face ever. Thoughts? Questions? | |
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| texting during a first date
Posted: 7/14/2009 2:32:46 PM | i would have to agree with you on this one. Walking out without a word and leaving someone else with the tab is a bit harsh, but I can't say I don't understand where you are coming from.
I wouldn't see them again. | |
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| texting during a first date
Posted: 7/14/2009 2:44:24 PM | | Yeah, Grow some BALLS and tell her, instead of slithering away leaving her with the tab..You have every right to not like what she is doing, but punishing her? Thats just not cricket..If you speak up maybe she will change, if you speak up and be a man you will maybe earn some respect, maybe not, atleast you arent sticking it to someone by leaving them with the tab..Most women like a strong man, who can speak his mind with out being a total asss. | |
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| texting during a first date
Posted: 7/14/2009 2:52:50 PM | | God! You are so rude!!! You should text her from your car and let her know you won't be joining her for dessert. | |
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| texting during a first date
Posted: 7/14/2009 2:59:13 PM | Sounds like an excuse for free drinks and/or a free meal.
You are just as rude as the person texting, tell them why you are leaving and leave half the expected bill. | |
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| texting during a first date
Posted: 7/14/2009 3:49:46 PM | Did you bother to explain to her you were sitting across the table and she could talk to you instead of texting you?  Some people are a little slow these days | |
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| texting during a first date
Posted: 7/14/2009 3:58:22 PM | | Personally, I think someone who texts (or takes calls) during a date has little room to complain about the reaction. I guess you could look at it as not wanting to foot the bill for her phone/text date with someone else. | |
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| texting during a first date
Posted: 7/14/2009 3:58:56 PM | Or maybe for her safety she had a friend text her to make sure she was OK on her date with a random stranger from the internet.
Try using your out loud voice and say " I'm sorry, I turned off my phone so we could get to know each other, it really bothers me that you are texting during our date."
Unless of course, you just want to reduce yourself to the lowest level of human manners.Looks like you are well on your way. Being rude to someone who is rude just makes you just as rude. Good job, keep it up! | |
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| texting during a first date
Posted: 7/14/2009 4:00:46 PM | First: She will never know why you did this... Making it completely useless and highly disrespectful and very harsh. It's Passive aggressive. You come off as a complete jerk and a wuss.
Second: What if its an important text? Maybe if you let her know it bothers you she would have a chance to either appologize and stop texting, explain why the text is more important (eg. babysitter issues) or tell you that she is just not that into you.
Be a man, tell her it bothers you, if the texting continues at least she will know how much it bothered you if you do leave. | |
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| texting during a first date
Posted: 7/14/2009 4:14:57 PM | | You shouldnt have to remind someone of thier manners . One qick text to say Im ok to thier loved ones is fine but constantly is inexcusible and you did the right thing and no it wasnt harsh she selfishly wasted your entire evening and time is money so paying the bill is the least she can do for being so inconsiderate. | |
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| texting during a first date
Posted: 7/14/2009 8:19:56 PM | | I'm guessing OP isn't talking about one or two texts throughout the date (the aforementioned "Is everything OK?" texts). More like "I'm texting more to this person than I've said to you all night." I see where he's coming from. To me, texting during a first date is equivalent to talking on the phone. It indicates a lack of both manners and interest on the part of the offender. Althought I wouldn't leave her with the check, I might ask for the bill and indicate to the waiter that we'll be on separate checks. Then I would finish eating while she texted away. :) | |
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| texting during a first date
Posted: 7/14/2009 8:30:29 PM | | Eh, everybody makes mistakes, but some learn AFTER making their mistakes. I had that happen a long time ago, and.. it bugged me a little bit, but I held back. It took her having to buy a Cosmo and finding out that it was bad etiquette to text during a date. Maybe if it happens, politely say, "I thought I was dating you, not you and your friends. Can we respect each other's time and you can just text them after the date?" | |
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| texting during a first date
Posted: 7/14/2009 8:42:56 PM | WOW how very passive aggressive of you.
Although phones have no place on a first meet/date, I have mine in case of emergency. If I should get a call from one of my kids, I excuse myself and explain that there must be a problem at home. Outside of that, the phone stays in my pocket. I agree that texting your pals while on date is rude. However, the way you handle the situation is equally as rude if not worse. Your reaction is childish and immature. Why not just stand up and say ok, clearly your phone is more important than this meeting. Goodnight. And pay your part of the tab on the way out.
Way to troll for a free meal there.....  | |
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| texting during a first date
Posted: 7/14/2009 9:20:06 PM | I have children, and if they need to tell me something when I am out=I find it very acceptable to have them text me, rather than call...same goes for a date...
not more than one text per child.... and I am not a rude person...it saves time for me to walk away and call, when they are just saying goodnight or asking for permission for something... | |
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| texting during a first date
Posted: 7/15/2009 12:10:15 AM |
Or maybe for her safety she had a friend text her to make sure she was OK on her date with a random stranger from the internet.
That does absolutely nothing for her safety. | |
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| texting during a first date
Posted: 7/15/2009 1:33:53 AM | | So you left without finding out whom or why she was texting? You’re the rude one and I think she probably had a lucky escape from you! I always tell a friend when I’m going to meet a man for the first time, and often they’ll text to check all is okay. In the past my son has also called to make sure that I’m okay. In these circumstances I apologise for the interruption but it sounds like you gave her little or no chance to do this. Again, you are rude. | |
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| texting during a first date
Posted: 7/15/2009 1:47:23 AM | First off, most first dates are in public places. Meeting at a restaurant or Barnes and noble for coffee isn't the type of situation where women are preyed on..its the ones who meet some guy in his basement, or let him drive them somewhere on his motorcycle or something. Nevertheless, on any date , would expect that if someone needed to use the phone, they would excuse themself to do it.
"excuse, me I need to use the girls' room to wash up"
is a lot better than giggling at the other end of the table, eyes down, diddling away at a blackberry..whatever the reason may be. | |
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| texting during a first date
Posted: 7/15/2009 6:26:16 AM | I once had a bad case of a texting on a 1st date. We were hanging out in the downtown area of this city and agreed to go get some ice cream. Almost from the very beginning she started texting and not just a message here and there, no she she was holding on a full on conversations. Then while waiting in line to get ice cream she excused herself to step out for a phone call too. I finally asked her what was up - her reply was some deep drama/issues with one of her friends who lived in NYC or something and she was in the middle of it and all her friends were bombarding her with messages. I offered to cancel the date for night and let her take care of her "issues" but she didn't want to, she wanted to continue to hang out & text. Not for long though as I called it quits early and drove her back home. I was debating about being an a$$ and ditching her downtown. Looking back at it, I probably should have done it. That way she'd have some explaining to do to who ever would come to pick her up.
This was an extreme case, I wouldn't mind if someone answers a text they receive as long as it's along the lines of "I'm busy now, talk later" kinda reply. Anything more then that is rude and is asking for a lesson. From now on if my date shows disrespect, I'll give them a verbal warning first and then ditch them if they don't stop. Some people need to learn the hard way the rules of the etiquette  | |
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| texting during a first date
Posted: 7/15/2009 6:30:16 AM |
Thankfully it doesn't happen all the time. But when it does, I take a bathroom break and never come back, leaving her with the tab. "A little harsh", you might say. Sure, I guess it is. But I find it to be one of the biggest insults/slaps in the face ever. Thoughts? Questions?
I HATE WHEN PEOPLE CAN'T COMMUNICATE OR CONFRONT OTHERS!
It's very immature, self absorbed and rude to text or use cell phones on dates. But could you tell the person it is one of your pet peeves (I'm sure there are many others) instead of punishing them like an adult spanking a child?
Good God OP have you ever heard the word confront or communication? So you make them pay financially because your little ego gets bruised? Wow; How wimpy you are to slime away; the person could feel you played them or used them. You make them pay because you are too wimpy to confront them? unreal.
What you did is a LOT worse than texting; how selfish.
I tell people up front; I really hate that or after they do it. Lets face it; those under 35 usually come from homes when adults in the U.S. spoil their kids; they then as adults are somewhat if not very self absorbed. They arent' trying to be mean, they just dont have manners.
I tell people that it's rude. I will sometimes even take my cell out, tell the person excuse me I'm going to put this on silent so no one disturbs me, and then they get it.
You are being very vindictive; some dont care if others text; you do; they don't know that. I'd hate to cross you; wow. | |
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| texting during a first date
Posted: 7/15/2009 7:09:20 AM | | It's unfortunate that people have to have their cell phones on a date and text or make calls,but your actions are pretty childish. It just makes the situation worse. Next time try telling your date that you consider it rude. It could have been something important,or it could have waited. Be a man about it. | |
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| texting during a first date
Posted: 7/15/2009 7:11:37 AM |
No matter how mad or bitter I am toward someone, it doesn't take much for me to forgive and forget.
^^ Taken from your profile,yet,you left her with the bill !!
Ps. No wonder you're not on anyones Favourites.........you're RUDE.
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| texting during a first date
Posted: 7/15/2009 7:29:46 AM | | Texting excessively on a date (first or other) is very rude and you have certainly found a way to deal with it. However, another way would be to grow a set and speak up. | |
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| texting during a first date
Posted: 7/15/2009 7:53:31 AM | I've had one woman do that to me... kind of annoying... But then I just whip out my own Blackberry then, ask her to tell me when she's done and start playing Brick Breaker.
I also feel that if she does that, it gives me a licence to make sarcastic commentary about how dull and wretched spending time with me must be...
And for the people who say OP should "be a man"... Excuse me... but shouldn't his date "be a woman" instead of being an ignoramus? | |
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| texting during a first date
Posted: 7/15/2009 9:25:10 AM | | I never understood why someone would be texting or talking on a phone with a person sitting right in front of them, it's incredibly rude. Have to agree with Message#20, what the OP did was just as rude, by not saying anything to her, she learned nothing and he will be know as the guy who dined and ran, leaving her with the bill. The adult thing to do is mention to the person that you find it rude and give them a chance to stop or explain, if they don't you leave, very simple. | |
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