| what do you mean by friends?
Posted: 7/15/2009 1:17:36 PM | Question or comment, however you take it..............I have my posting or profile, set up as interested in "friends" when I look around to see if there is anyone that I might be interested in talking to, I look in the "friends" & "talk or email" section. I have mailed a few men that I notice either has the same interest as myself or maybe lives close to my area to see if a friendship might could develope. Well...............if i do get a responce if is "I need to see a picture before we can talk". Ok, i understand wanting to see a picture if we were talking about a date or long term relationship. But When did the looks of a person become a consideration of friendship to people? I remember when I was a young women, I had many occations that my looks interfered with relationships because i was quit an attractive young lady and men would approach me for the wrong reason's at that time. Now..... I don't still have the drop dead looks, however I still want to be recognized for who I am, not what I look like. Is that so wrong? Or am I being unrealistic to think that someone who may never see me because we just email each other should see a picture before talking to me? Which brings me to the question............What do you mean by friends? If you want friends, say friends, if you want something else, then maybe you shouldn't be in the "friends" catagory. Maybe i'm wrong, help me out> | |
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| what do you mean by friends?
Posted: 7/15/2009 1:28:12 PM | Friends here seems to fall under either a FB or friends leading to more most the time. Thats why most the time they would want to see a pic as the FB group is a lot more prevalent with the guys.
If you looking for someone to talk to that shares similar interests you may be better off with dating rather than friends as your section choice. Otherwise using meetup.com to find groups near you with common interests to find actual friends would be a good choice. | |
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| what do you mean by friends?
Posted: 7/15/2009 1:38:45 PM | I get those emails where the person doesn't have a pic. It doesn't bother me since I don't make plans to run out and meet anyone. Most live in other states and we have conversations here and there. But to meet someone in person, you would have to put a pic up. Has nothing to do with attractiveness. I wouldn't want to make plans with someone that has no pics. I would have to see pics so that I know the face of the person that I will meet in public.
For all the user knows, you could be a man. | |
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| what do you mean by friends?
Posted: 7/15/2009 1:57:45 PM | Looks can be a consideration when thinking about becoming friends with someone… for guys anyways. This site surely has shown me that some people here are just odd and defy all common sense… I speak from experience. But rest assured that there are some guys out there who will enjoy having you as a friend, you just have to be patient.
Some guys will post Friends as that IS what they are looking for, Others may post Friends in the hopes that maybe they will start off as friends and something more will develop. This works both ways too. Some women may “say” they are only looking for Friends but deep down, they are hoping that more will develop.
One just has to be honest with yourself first before you can be honest with others. | |
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| what do you mean by friends?
Posted: 7/15/2009 2:07:31 PM | Two different inquiries, eh?
A friend ..to me, does not mean a FckBud. It means.....ya gotta start somewhere. And, if you make a friend, that's a good thing, whether it goes on to more, or not. Some, who are taking a break from the drama of relationship , are simply looking to meet someone as a friend....first.
Pictures? Asked all the time on here. It's a site where we are putting info about ourselves out there. Some look at those who don't have a picture, as having something to 'hide'...or, they may wonder if it is a fake profile, but, the bottom line is.....most people just 'seem' to want to know what others look like. It's a human nature thing.
And, if you ever find yourself typing to one of those empty blue boxes...well, it just feels weird. that's all.
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| what do you mean by friends?
Posted: 7/15/2009 2:12:15 PM | | Hate to point it out.... 99% of the guys that use an internet dating site before the age of 50 dont want friends... at all. Those that put it again 99% put it simply because they want to seem like the type of guy who isnt going to be interested in the contents of your shirt. Im using the 99% because im sure theres bound to be one guy that fits the exception. But yea... most of the time its generally because to them looks do count even for friends. | |
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| what do you mean by friends?
Posted: 7/15/2009 3:02:26 PM |
What do you mean by friends? If you want friends, say friends, if you want something else, then maybe you shouldn't be in the "friends" catagory.
To me, friends is just that, friends. No real emotional attachment, strictly platonic, have a few drinks, joke around, punch each other in the arm, & probably go home in separate cars. Unfortunately, I don't think that that's what most guys here are looking for.
Well...............if i do get a responce if is "I need to see a picture before we can talk". Ok, i understand wanting to see a picture if we were talking about a date or long term relationship. But When did the looks of a person become a consideration of friendship to people?
If, as your profile states, you're looking for a friendship that might develop into a relationship, then there HAS to be a physical attraction right from the start. Why would a guy want to invest his time with a woman through extended email & chat, only to eventually meet and find out that there is no attraction there? So, don't be offended when guys want to see a picture right off the bat. To question or deny their request, only raises a big red flag in their minds and certainly doesn't bode well for you.
I think that you need to decide exactly what you want, and then be prepared to take the steps necessary to get it. That may mean forwarding some pictures of yourself.  | |
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| what do you mean by friends?
Posted: 7/15/2009 4:22:51 PM |
What do you mean by friends? If you want friends, say friends, if you want something else, then maybe you shouldn't be in the "friends" catagory. Maybe i'm wrong, help me out
How many people off the internet do you know, and call friend, that has no idea what you look like? I suppose that it depends on the type of friendship that you are looking for. If it is just someone that you want to communicate through e-mails then I don't see a problem. If you want to develop a true friendship then the person has a right to know what you look like. | |
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| what do you mean by friends?
Posted: 7/15/2009 4:34:10 PM | well, i'm starting to feel like i'm a wierdo for not posting a picture. lol just really didn't have one to download, then i got curious about the results of not having one. i'm convinced that i should, as i don't have anything to hind an don't want people thinking i'm a guy  just wish my arms where longer cause i'm gonna have to take one of myself. thanks for the advise. watch for chapter II. results of pic vs no pic  | |
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| what do you mean by friends?
Posted: 7/15/2009 5:06:23 PM | I think mine says friends.
To be honest, I havent even looked at my profile in well over 2 years now lol...
Either way, if I was looking for something more than friendship, friends is still a damn good place to start.
As guys, WE LIKE PRETTY GIRLS. As girl friends, wifes, lovers, mistresses you name it. Hell, we will go to the far side of town, and eat sub par food, just because the waitress there was smokeing hot. We consider driving to the next town if shes smoking hot, wore a low cut shirt, and didnt mind picking up our fork for us.
Sorry, its the truth, someone had to say it.
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| what do you mean by friends?
Posted: 7/15/2009 5:49:02 PM | | What do you want friends for? This is a dating sight! If you are looking for a Platonic relationship this aint the best choice- find a forum where people have similar interests to yours, then there are no ambiguities to whine about. | |
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| what do you mean by friends?
Posted: 7/15/2009 10:36:53 PM | My take is this:
Platonic or not, I like someone I'm friends with, guy or girl, to have some confidence. "Ugly" or "pretty" a person should be comfortable in their own skin and not afraid to show a picture.
I had emailed back and forth with a girl, she didn't want a picture of me, and wouldn't give me a picture of her. I agreed to meet in public, we were going hiking, so I wore an orange hat she could use to approach me. She was normal looking, attractive even. But as time wore on, it was clear she was unconfident and sour about lots of things. Then she started flirting and asked if I would tell her if I had a crush on her. I was just out of an LTR and didn't want to be in another one as I like to take time after breakups and stuff like that.
Mixed signals, "friendship" over. | |
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| what do you mean by friends?
Posted: 7/16/2009 12:27:21 AM | If you and your friend were to meet with out a picture how would you know who the other person is. Look if you truly want friends good to meetup. But when people on a dating site say friends we are thinking friends first. This is a dating site, not a friend site. Pretty much all the friends I made here were because dating didn't work for us.
I don't get this. It's like driving a Hummer cross country to promote lowering fossil fuels. It just doesn't make sense !!! | |
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