| Where's the "Ask a Gay" forum?
Posted: 7/15/2009 3:12:13 PM | Just occured to me; we've got 'Ask a Girl' and 'Ask a Guy', where's 'Ask a Gay'?
Isn't POF equal opportunity? Don't our otherwise-gender-polarized sisters and brothers deserve a voice? Mightn't they bring a valuable new perspective to the world of dating n' relating? Or are they too busy having fun?
- If you think thumbs up to 'Ask a Gay'; jump on this thread.
- If you don't; stay away BIGOT!
- If you don't give a rats a$$.....er I dunno, that's fair enough I suppose.
- And if you want a really annoying song stuck in your head, sing along (out loud or in your head) to the following, which is kindof on(this)topic
Love in the nineties
Is paranoid
On sunny beaches
Take your chances - looking for
Girls who are boys
Who like boys to be girls
Who do boys like they're girls
Who do girls like they're boys
Always should be someone you really looooooooovvvvvvvve | |
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| Where's the Ask a Gay forum?
Posted: 7/15/2009 3:21:01 PM | Your profile says your looking for a woman, may I say ma'am...your the ugliest chick ive ever seen.
I seen some rough chicks, but you look like Hot WestTexas desert in August... | |
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| Where's the Ask a Gay forum?
Posted: 7/15/2009 3:40:52 PM | | We don't need an "Ask a Gay" forum because "Ask a guy" and "Ask a girl" covers it. Nowhere does it state the orientation of the guy or girl must be a certain way to post in that forum. It IS equal opportunity. Unless you want to argue that we need an "Ask a Hermaphrodite" forum. | |
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| Where's the Ask a Gay forum?
Posted: 7/15/2009 4:43:24 PM | Either that or actually go check out a "gay" site. I had a question once and not a onne of them has been able to answer me.
Traditionally, it is the brides father (side of the family) that pays for the wedding. So who pays when two gay guys get hitched? Never got an real answer to that one... | |
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| Where's the Ask a Gay forum?
Posted: 7/15/2009 4:58:27 PM | Where's the Ask a Gay forum?
It's thoughtful that you are thinking of marginalised groups. Nothing like a level playing field!...However, have to agree here...
We don't need an "Ask a Gay" forum because "Ask a guy" and "Ask a girl" covers it. Nowhere does it state the orientation of the guy or girl must be a certain way to post in that forum. It IS equal opportunity.
In each of these forums, even though guys or girls is asked to comment, it is pretty much open slather. I would hate to think given a seperate forum, that the "gay community" was then singled out for ridicule or harassment. We all know how brutal open forum can be. | |
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| Where's the Ask a Gay forum?
Posted: 7/15/2009 5:02:53 PM | ^^^^^fair points, but I still feel we might be missing out on something. I'll confess my tongue was slightly in my cheek too.
However, lest anyone doubt the value of a gay perspective I present the following - my favourite Agony He-Aunt
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/health/healthadvice/pillowtalk/5789156/Pillowtalk-Graham-Norton.html
now that's sound advice! | |
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| Where's the Ask a Gay forum?
Posted: 7/15/2009 6:37:41 PM | | Uhh, guy or girl. There is nothing about sexual orientation either way.. So do we need a seperate male/female gay section as well as a Bi section ? | |
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| Where's the Ask a Sapiosexual forum?
Posted: 7/15/2009 7:22:57 PM | Sure, why not? There's all sorts of niche markets to pander to...but I doubt Bigfish feels the need to.
I'd personally like to see an 'Ask a Sapiosexual' forum.
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| Where's the Ask a Sapiosexual forum?
Posted: 7/15/2009 8:33:45 PM | | OP, this question should have been put on the site suggestions/help forum. However, you'd probably get the same answer I got when I first joined and suggested a BBW forum - they said they don't put forums up for special interest groups. | |
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| Where's the Ask a Sapiosexual forum?
Posted: 7/15/2009 9:26:31 PM | | We can't have an "ask a gay" forum because then there would be "ask a jew", "ask a single mother", and "ask fat people" forums popping up too. Best to be vague. | |
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| Where's the Ask a Sapiosexual forum?
Posted: 7/15/2009 9:43:41 PM |
OP, this question should have been put on the site suggestions/help forum.
Mea culpa. Quite right.
Well, I thought there was a nice completeness to covering the bases of the 3 genders - guy, girl and gay.
I don't see that it would let a plethora of 'minorities' out of Pandora's box though - Jewish, Catholic, Arab, Christian, Muslim, Black, White, Pink, Green, Polka-dot, Gamers, ping-pong addicts, trekkeis, Martian, Venusian....whatever. Gay crosses all those boundaries no? Go on POF - give it a try
And to the poster who said the forums weren't about advice - er, what forum have you been on? | |
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| Where's the Ask a Sapiosexual forum?
Posted: 7/15/2009 9:59:06 PM | Well, I thought there was a nice completeness to covering the bases of the 3 genders - guy, girl and gay.
OK, I've taken a few Women and Gender Studies courses in my time, not that I did especially well in them, but I took them. Never did they say anything about gay being a gender. I'm wondering exactly where this information is coming from. Last time I checked, gay was a sexual orientation, not a gender.
By the way, if we are going to give an "ask a gay" forum, then I demand an "Ask the Blind" forum. | |
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| Where's the Ask a Gay forum?
Posted: 7/15/2009 10:45:08 PM | I think the rules which apply to how only guys can post topics in the Ask a Girl forum, and vice versa, lends some merrit to the suggestion of a forum where only GLBT's can post topics. I think EVERY group should have a forum in the relationship catagory.
(possibly due to the voyuristic nature of the white male... jk?) | |
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| Where's the Ask a Gay forum?
Posted: 7/16/2009 3:59:41 AM | You know what OP, I think you do bring up a legitimate question...
since this is a dating site, why isnt there a "Gay" section where gay folk can voice there dating experiences...
If I posted a question on the ASK a GUY forum, most of the guys there are not gay so what kinda advice would they give?
Same if I posted a Question as a Gay man in the ASK a girl forum, they could give advise as a woman who dates men, but not as a man.
Its ok to say its not needed if you're a gay man and give an alternative forum site; but to say it's not needed because we dont need to pander to Gays or that other groups like...Blacks, mexicans, Jews would want their own forum site...thats different.
so I vote yes on a ask a GBLT forum...maybe we can learn a thing or two. | |
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| Where's the Ask a Gay forum?
Posted: 7/16/2009 5:57:58 AM | | ^What for ? Nobody is limiting posts based on sexual orientation right now...why segregate ? | |
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| Where's the Ask a Gay forum?
Posted: 7/16/2009 6:25:48 AM | | In the Ask a Guy forum half the replies are posted by Gals. Clearly then, POF has no difficulty with crossing and redefining gender boundaries. My policy is to assume that unless the author states otherwise with certainty, they are in fact gay even if that fact remains unknown to them. My latest hypothesis about sexual orientation is that everyone is innately homosexual and also inhibited from their true sexuality initially, making heterosexuality unavoidable as the only outlet until reproduction has been accomplished, at which point that perverse redirection relents and the person is finally free to enjoy others of their own kind, only by then it's too late because of the unstoppable momentum of habit, resulting in an ironic condition of being stuck in between two options that have the effect of canceling each other. | |
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| Where's the Ask a Gay forum?
Posted: 7/16/2009 6:28:31 AM | ...why segregate ?
As a dating site, I would hope there wouldnt be any restriction to gay daters...
My point is... where would a gay person post his experiences/ questions?
its not segergation, it's catorgory...
A persons with interest in Texas has a place to discuss issues relavent to Texas...
the Texas Fourm. People from Texas are not segregated to that Forum.
My policy is to assume that unless the author states otherwise with certainty, they are in fact gay even if that fact remains unknown to them
thats a ridiculous policy theory, why would a person create a different persona to answer questions on a forum...?
your other theroy is just as rdiculous...
Just admit you would rather gay folk didnt have a Forum on POF...
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| Where's the Ask a Gay forum?
Posted: 7/16/2009 6:59:37 AM |
My point is... where would a gay person post his experiences/ questions?
The same place that straight people would post their questions.
If a Gay person had a question about sex and sexuality they would post it in Sex and Sexuality Issues.
If a Gay person had a question about Relationships they would post in the Relationships forums.
If a Gay person needed Dating & Love Advice they would post in the Dating & Love Advice forum.
Starting to see a trend here?
Dating is dating, relationships are relationships, and sex is sex. Does it really matter if the poster is gay or straight. most of the time the advice is applicable regardless of orientation.
The gay community keeps striving for equality. To segregate their questions, concerns and comments into an inane Ask a Gay forum would be to deny them that equality.
Just admit you would rather gay folk didnt have a Forum on POF...
I admit that I don't see a need for this type of forum. What would be next? As a Left Hander, Ask a Tall Guy? Ask a BBW? Where would it end?
There clearly is no need for an Ask a Gay forum. | |
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| Where's the Ask a Gay forum?
Posted: 7/16/2009 12:33:24 PM |
Your profile says your looking for a woman, may I say ma'am...your the ugliest chick ive ever seen.
I seen some rough chicks, but you look like Hot WestTexas desert in August...
I dunno... he's got nice eyes and a purty, purty mouth.
Besides, it's not about what you look like it's how to play up your best features. I had an aunt who looked like Bea Arthur but once she was all dressed up and had her makeup done, she was definitely in Rodney Dangerfield territory!
I don't think an Ask a Gay forum is necessary and only for one reason. Stupid people who would take the opportunity to turn it into a religious/gay bashing fest. Never underestimate the power of righteous indignation.... | |
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| Where's the Ask a Sapiosexual forum?
Posted: 7/16/2009 12:38:56 PM | I've really thought that POF had vastly inferior services for gay, lesbian or bisexual members considering it is an option here to look for m/m & f/f relationships.
I don't see why a section isn't made available for those groups. I don't think you need an "Ask a Gay" forum but certainly if you're going to be in the business of allowing homosexual dating it makes sense to have your forums be respective of that decision. | |
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