| Same two questions!
Posted: 7/15/2009 5:30:44 PM | Are you mixed,and have you ever been with a Caucasian man.
OMG,it seems to be the same questions every time I talk to a guy.
What difference doe it make? I'm a women,and you're a man.
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| Same two questions!
Posted: 7/15/2009 5:32:06 PM | I think, by asking if you have ever been with a caucasian man they are politly trying to discern if you will sleep with them.
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I love pointing out the obvious.
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| Same two questions!
Posted: 7/15/2009 5:34:23 PM | | Personally I can't answer this question. Why am I posting? For some, interracial relations might be an accomplishment like dating an older woman etc. For others its simply a racial preference whether its racist or just preference that's life. | |
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| Same two questions!
Posted: 7/15/2009 5:39:21 PM | By asking "are you mixed" obviously shows that they don't pay attention to your profile. It has your ethnicity above your pic. If you were mixed I am sure that you would put "mixed". You should ask, "can't you read?"
As far as the race, some men just want to fulfill a fantasy of sleeping with a different race. You should ask, " have you ever been with another race before?"
If you are into other races just don't bother with those types.
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| Same two questions!
Posted: 7/15/2009 5:46:57 PM | They're flat out rude in my opinion!!! Who cares, your beautiful from what I can see (and no I'm not gay or bi just say what's on my mind). Ignore them, if they're that ignorant you don't want to talk to them anyway!! As me and my friends say "NEEEEEXXXXXTTTT" lol
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| Same two questions!
Posted: 7/15/2009 5:52:24 PM |
What difference doe it make? I'm a women,and you're a man.
Why is race so important with some men?
In a perfect world it doesn't make a difference, but you and I know that this is not a perfect world. Asking about race does not always imply racism. A black/white mix can often look Italian, Spanish, and many other cultures. Different cultures have different dating rules. It is good to know the culture of the person you might be interested in. I dated a Arab female once who would have been insulted if I didn't ask her brother first. He was the leading member of her family. If a person has racial intents you will find out soon enough, until then I suggest a little patients. | |
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| Same two questions!
Posted: 7/15/2009 5:52:46 PM | First question, I have no idea why they ask that one.
Second question is more along the lines of, will you date a Caucasian man?
Some people will not date outside of their race, or find some races unattractive, it is just a way of finding out if they even have a chance with you. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2009 6:21:22 PM | The only thing I can think of in the man's favor is that he may wonder if you'd be interested in a white guy (him) and that's his way of asking. Of course the mature way to deal with the question is just to ask you out and see what you say. Lots of people are cool with interacial dating, although some blacks won't date whites either.. As far as asking you if you're mixed I don't know why that would be of concern to them - maybe your features make them wonder.
In a perfect world these types of questions wouldn't even occur to people. A man with a clear head would just see you as a beautiful and interesting woman. | |
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| Same two questions!
Posted: 7/15/2009 6:29:04 PM | From seeing things on the Caucasian side of things, having a mixed race daughter, and a Black/Korean fiancee'. Some people are just trying to figure out the persons ethnicity, and since that can be such a big word for some people, they bumble with asking that question.
OK, that is being nice, and giving these guys the benefit of the doubt. On the flip side, there is that excitement of shagging someone exotic looking, and being able to brag to their buds about it.
My oldest is Half Latino half German, however since she loves Old Egypt, and has tattoos of Egyptian hieroglyphs, and Goddess, some guys want to know if she is an Exotic Egyptian gal (she's 25)
your a hot gal, guess it is the price of attracting these hound dogs that want that SUPPOSED badge of honor.  | |
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Posted: 7/15/2009 7:02:02 PM | | They ask because they like you and they wonder what are the chances that you`d consider dating them. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2009 7:15:17 PM | First, I'm thinking, well, I'm not so sure if it's rude or just guys not knowing how to break the ice ... and then I'm thinking, hold on just a minute here, these guys are asking you who you may or may not have slept with before they even know you very well. That is pretty freaking rude and then some.
Yup, thought it through ... I think. | |
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| Same two questions!
Posted: 7/15/2009 7:21:44 PM | no im not and NO i have not been . YIKKES!
if there is a connection there should be no differance. there just thoughtless questions i dont think they mean any harm. but not really thought out before asked. | |
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| Same two questions!
Posted: 7/15/2009 8:03:44 PM | | For me asking what a woman's nationality is stems from me wanting to understand and respect your culture and your values. Otherwise you would be easily offended by generalizations, for example asians are grouped by the ignorant into being just chinese, the reality is not every asian is chinese, and it would be difficult for the layman to understand the subtle and vital differences between these cultures if he has any chance in hell of understanding any woman let alone you. Same can be said of hispanics of different countries and the differences between african americans and people from the caribbean. The intent for those who have a modicum of dignity is to ensure that they do not offend you, that may be why you are being asked the questions so much. | |
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| Same two questions!
Posted: 7/15/2009 8:15:52 PM | Um...same two questions means....SAME TWO ANSWERS. What is the problem? Is it an issue to tell the truth? Is it an issue that white men are interested in you?
Heck, just look at the profiles, if you like the guy, answer the questions and date him. Why are you making it an issue? People ask me all the time if I am mixed. I give the same answer - YES. I have black, white, native-American blood. People raised in the Middle East think I look like an Arab or a Saudi. People raised in India think I have some kind of central Asian blood.
People search for similarities to find comfort. This is why Arabs and Indians from out of town ask me for directions while avoiding white men.
People ask about your ethnic composition to avoid saying stuff that could be taken as an insult. I've been around many whites who have never worked in the company of anyone other than white....and I hear lots of crap in their speech that they don't even realize they're saying. I give the people the benefit of a doubt --- maybe they just don't know what they're saying is offensive...??? So you wanna slam someone for trying to be careful?
When you see someone who is mixed, don't YOU ask? You ask someone else who might know. You ask your momma - "Is Vin Diesel black, 'cause he got a black voice?"
Really...do you think you can go to Europe and people will NOT ask? Do you think you can go to Africa and people will NOT ask? Get a clue. Are you gonna throw a hissy fit every time someone asks you a question?
Heck, maybe you don't know...maybe you have no clue about your ancestry. Can you just say "my family scattered a long time ago, I don't know WHERE they came from". Can you just speak the truth? Why is the truth embarassing? Just ask these people the same questions:
"Where did your grandfather grow up?"
"Where in the world have YOU lived?"
"What cultures are YOU comfortable with?"
Any question is an invite to a conversation --- JUMP ON IT. | |
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| Same two questions!
Posted: 7/15/2009 8:28:29 PM | | The only difference lies in the comfort levels of what a person is used to. | |
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Posted: 7/16/2009 7:42:02 AM | If it was me... Trust me, i have before.. -= My reasons =-
Are you mixed? = Trying to make conversation so i can bring in the
" You are beautiful " situation involved.
Have you ever dated a white guy? = Im asking because most black women
dont date white men because of... whatever reasons.
I have dated and been in relationships with black girls.
The ones i did altho ONLY Dated white guys..
I think you are taken these questions into something else.
Yeah, some just wanna bang you. Easy to weed them out.
Some like black girls. Or want to experience that.
If you feel him and he feels you, go with it. If not dont let
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| Same two questions!
Posted: 7/16/2009 7:56:19 AM |
Are you mixed
No, only a bit confused as to why you didn't read my profile
have you ever been with a Caucasian man.
Why? So you can come back with your white chocolate remarks?
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| Long term Relationships
Posted: 7/16/2009 3:50:54 PM | I have found that even with my profile, stating what it does, "Long term" does not mean marriage, it just means living together.
Sorry, Guys, we woman, have better things to do. We have had it bad, it did not work and now we are looking for a keeper. You know fishing....... You do not catch a fish chew on it for a while and then expect it to swim away.
Get on the right site, and leave those of use who love the Lord alone.
We are the Pearl of Great Price, We are the Daughters' of the King, and deserve to be treated so. We have great wonders to offer you. You can wait.
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