| Messages to intense….to lead to a actual date…
Posted: 7/16/2009 7:47:42 AM | For the past week I have had the most beautiful long emails that any girl could wish for, from a guy who has no pic and profile is hidden………..he has sent me his own private pics,
We have been emailing like crazy to each other, last night I started to think, “hang on”alam bells started ringing, why I don’t know(gut feeling)he sent me poems, and just talking about his life basically, he has never once been rude or vulgar, quite the opposite actually, a real gent.
I don’t think I will ever get to meet this guy(he is saying to much in his messages).
All I wanted to know, would you guys be so intensive, if you had any intentions to see this person.
All the best………………blueeyesxxxx | |
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| Messages to intense….to lead to a actual date…
Posted: 7/16/2009 8:09:12 AM | Hi!
I used to do that but as grow wiser (or more cynical) I tend to avoid being so intensive without a real world date first. However it still happens to me from time to time. I call this kind of situation "the bubble", you like what you read and enjoy the phone calls, so the bubble grows and grows and then when you meet them in the flesh the bubble (sometimes) bursts or becomes a huge balloon (good!). The main problem is that the longer it takes to get a real date, you start filling gaps of information with your own ideas and then the person becomes kind of your ideal partner instead of being him/her. | |
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| Messages to intense….to lead to a actual date…
Posted: 7/16/2009 8:20:36 AM | Why dont you ask him to meet then? I wouldnt let it get too intense since if they are not truthful about something or there is no real connection, it is much easier to move on...
Frankly, not having pics attached to the profile is a red flag to me... | |
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| Messages to intense….to lead to a actual date…
Posted: 7/16/2009 8:22:34 AM |
All I wanted to know, would you guys be so intensive, if you had any intentions to see this person.
Nope, I wouldn't. However, I'm not a big fan on long, drawn out email communications. I prefer to exchange a few, establish some things in common and then set up a meet & greet - usually within a week. Simply because I've learned that people can say or portray themselves to be whatever they think you want to hear through email. IMO, the only way to truly know who/what you're dealing with is through face to face interaction.
The fact that this guy is being so intense would be a red flag to me. Not because I'd think he never wanted to meet, but because I would worry about his behaviors AFTER we met. I'd tread very lightly with this guy... | |
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| Messages to intense….to lead to a actual date…
Posted: 7/16/2009 8:23:15 AM | Q. "All I wanted to know, would you guys be so intensive, if you had any intentions to see this person."
A. Er, no. But this guy is not me. Show him this thread and ask him. | |
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| Messages to intense….to lead to a actual date…
Posted: 7/16/2009 9:19:54 AM | | He's a fool. He should stick to being vulgar and sexual. Those beautiful emails he writes and the openness he offers are pearls in the dust. He's probably experiencing some kind of delusion, wherein he imagines that presenting himself sincerely and in an attractive manner could be appreciated. Maybe he hit his head on something. | |
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| Messages to intense….to lead to a actual date…
Posted: 7/16/2009 9:36:31 AM | hey OP, you know the old saying, "if it's too good to be true, it's probably not".
when i read your post, for some reason i got the impression that you're actually communicating with some serial killer. they have this scenario in movies a lot. don't be a victim; ditch this guy.
how come he doesn't have his pictures on his profiles? why is he sending you his pics only? you know why? so his wife/girlfriend/FBI/authorities can't identify him.
play it safe! | |
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| Messages to intense….to lead to a actual date…
Posted: 7/16/2009 9:55:33 AM | ok...we've gotten too suspicious here. Guys are romantic = too good to be true.
Guys are not romantic = loser. WTF.
Oh and OP...you remind me of Annie Lennox. | |
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| Messages to intense….to lead to a actual date…
Posted: 7/16/2009 11:19:07 AM | I don't get it... the guy has NO PIC and PROFILE IS HIDDEN...
Why would you communicate with someone like that?
I think this guy is a perv looking for something you might not want to give after all...
JMHO!!!! | |
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| Messages to intense….to lead to a actual date…
Posted: 7/16/2009 11:55:24 AM | | Please beware, I have gotten the same stuff and it's always a scam, the first time it happened i was crushed that i was that stupid for fallig for it. You really have to read between the lines ok. | |
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| Messages to intense….to lead to a actual date…
Posted: 7/16/2009 12:06:56 PM | | You should definately try and meet him. IF HE MAKES EXCUSES, then forget about him. He's just trying to butter you up so you could fall head over heels for him. | |
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| Messages to intense….to lead to a actual date…
Posted: 7/16/2009 12:30:37 PM | Proceed with caution. It seems to me that he feeds off of social acceptance to validate his existence. He sweeps you off your feet and then uses you to feeds his ego on the attention you give him in return. Back off a little. If this need of his isn't being fed then he might disappear. If he starts to sound desparate without really knowing who you are, run for the hills.
His lack of public profile is also concerning. Perhaps he is invovled and doesn't want certain people aware that he is still fishing...
Again, proceed with caution... | |
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| Messages to intense….to lead to a actual date…
Posted: 7/16/2009 12:34:33 PM | | this guy has shown me his pics, very normal,taken by a camra not fone,i have told him that i am finding the whole thing rather overwelming,and he told me (in a very long email)he has found his soul mate(me).and that we should make a go of it,and that i should not walk away............................on this site we are so used to negativity,when something like this comesalong we go all wobbly,and do a quick exit.........which is what im going to do......this guy is saying things you say at the alter of a church....block and run i think...................................shame thou...............he is really just my type in the looks department.............xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx | |
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| Messages to intense….to lead to a actual date…
Posted: 7/16/2009 12:54:39 PM | ok, so i'm reading this thread and thinking, 'does it occur to no one that she should just TALK ON THE PHONE with him for a clearer picture?' then i get to the 'soulmate' part and all becomes clear.
you're right. cut off communication, move on. he's got more issues than you want to deal with. | |
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| Messages to intense….to lead to a actual date…
Posted: 7/16/2009 1:02:30 PM |
this guy has shown me his pics, very normal,taken by a camra not fone,i have told him that i am finding the whole thing rather overwelming,and he told me (in a very long email)he has found his soul mate(me).and that we should make a go of it,and that i should not walk away............................on this site we are so used to negativity,when something like this comesalong we go all wobbly,and do a quick exit.........which is what im going to do......this guy is saying things you say at the alter of a church....block and run i think...................................shame thou...............he is really just my type in the looks department.............xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
I was against you until this part. Dude is either a player or has issues. | |
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