| why is the younger gen so hard??
Posted: 7/16/2009 9:12:56 AM | Hi ladies.
Ive been on this site for sometime and ive chated to ladies from all diffrent age groups
eg early 20s to late 30s, early 40s.
Im 30 myself and am more attracted to girls that are younger ofcourse. Eg early to late 20s.
Ive noticed that the ladies that are early 30s up are friendly and willing to chat heaps usally after talking for a while ive unoticeably blown them away with the life experences ive had and soforth.
Its just a big shame that their ones that I have'nt been really interested or havnt been atractted to, so ive regretfully had to be honest and explained that id prefer to be friends which usally turnes out fine.
When ive started chating with the younger ones ive been lucky to get the time of day? meaning younger (early to mid 20s.)
Ive found that they play that hard to get that you give up after a while. What is it that they expect?
Does the younger generation just automaticly expect more? Its hard to get into an indepth conversation with them because they seem a lot more withdrawn than there older sisters!
usally cesing chating before you even find out what there name is lol.
Ive even had younger ones in there early to mid 20s give me there phone no and when you txt them to have a chat they just wont co-operate. Its almost like playing old mind games that little school girls do!
They make you ask your self this is a dating,meeting,chating site isnt it? so why dont they do ether? lol.
Its really got me stumped?
As id really love to get to know somone younger that im attracted to its just a matter of finding out why they are so hard to talk to?
Mabey its just this town (warrnambool,vic,austraila) or the whether lol. I didnt seem to have this problem when I was living in queensland?
Even considering that mabey they are just not interested but its a bit of a coinsadence that every person younger not being interested and every person older being interested so it must be an age thing? besides they would'nt have given me there number if they wernt they just wont talk?
Some oppions from females from different age groups on this subject would be greatly appreceated thanks.....:) | |
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| why is the younger gen so hard??
Posted: 7/16/2009 9:21:32 AM | i'm 21. i find it uncomfortable to talk to older men, they creep me out. (all older men, u can b the sweetest guy and u'll still creep me out. it's just a problem from my past)
but yeah, the problem is u like girls, not women. a lot of girls play games like they're still in high school, its sad but true. want real conversation look for mid-late 20's and up. they will have had more experences and r less likely to play stupid head games. | |
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| why is the younger gen so hard??
Posted: 7/16/2009 9:28:28 AM | The younger ones think you're too old. They won't take you seriously. Think back to when you were in your early 20's, would you have been interested in forming a relationship with a 30 year old.
Women your own age are more open because they're finished partying, usually are finished school and have a career, and are ready to settle down and have a family with the white picket fence. I'm interested to hear what the younger gals will have to share with you.
My 31 year old son dates a 22 year old. They're in different places...at the same time.
Will it work? I sincerely hope so.
Try dating women closer to your age. You'll have more in common and will relate on the same level playing field.
Good luck | |
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| why is the younger gen so hard??
Posted: 7/16/2009 9:35:55 AM | | If your looking for dates in the equivilance of nursery school, which is what 20 somethings are, then you have to be prepared for the stupid crap that comes with it. You will find that a lot of 20 somethings think they have the world by the balls, and in reality dont know a dam thing. Think about when you were that age. | |
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| why is the younger gen so hard??
Posted: 7/16/2009 9:39:22 AM | Why do you assume that we are hard? Did you consider that we are not difficult towards the right guy, the guy we are looking for?
If you don't like the way younger girls act, why are you interested in them? Do you think that you are still a 20-something guy in some way?
It sounds like you don't like their personalities. That means that you just like them for their bodies and age? When someone just likes your body, it means they want to use you , not very nice. Perhaps these girls are smart enough to realize what you are looking for?
The older you get, the more difficult it's going to be to compete with the guys that are actually in the girl's dating group.
I'm 25 and date up to 30, but prefer closer to 25. An older guy trying to date me, says that he always chases young girls and will continue to do so.
If you don't understand or agree with this, consider the time-waste it is for you to continue to do the same thing and expect a different result? | |
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| why is the younger gen so hard??
Posted: 7/16/2009 9:52:41 AM |
Ive found that they play that hard to get that you give up after a while. What is it that they expect?
If they're playing hard to get, wouldn't they want you not to give up? Sounds like plain old lack of interest to me. | |
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| why is the younger gen so hard??
Posted: 7/16/2009 10:42:43 AM | At 20-25 men around your age hit on me and my friends so much it was a running joke.
We thought you guys were dirty old men wanting hard bodies and to reclaim youth through us.
I don't think much has changed at all.
Who were you attracted to at 20? | |
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| why is the younger gen so hard??
Posted: 7/16/2009 10:53:35 AM | | my guess is coz they're still so young, they're not that desperate and are hoping something will come along in the real world, which for most of them it does. Plus they might feel frightened of someone whos quite a bit older as opposed to a year or 2. | |
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| why is the younger gen so hard??
Posted: 7/16/2009 11:29:03 AM |
why is the younger gen so hard??
And the obvious answer is.......
Because they haven't softened with age yet! | |
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| why is the younger gen so hard??
Posted: 7/16/2009 12:45:31 PM | a piece of it could be you. maybe you're more at ease and authentic when you don't want something from a woman - like the over-30s who seem to enjoy interacting with you. but the younger ones you're pursuing may pick up on a different vibe - overeagerness, something like that. i don't know; just throwing out ideas.
also, the demographic you're concentrating on is the one with the most competition. so combine the overabundance of suitors with a relative lack of maturity, and yeah, you're gonna get some people who don't think they're accountable for game-playing. of haven't lived enough life to know there's another way. | |
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| why is the younger gen so hard??
Posted: 7/16/2009 12:56:20 PM | Some oppions from females from different age groups on this subject would be greatly appreceated thanks.....:)
^^^
Females opinions? That's my cue! To jump in head first!
Um...don't you have a sense of dignity?
Download a spell checker. You write like a third grader.
I always went for older women. All my life. They got some substance. Most of them. Plus some are red hot. Can't go wrong.  | |
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| why is the younger gen so hard??
Posted: 7/16/2009 1:14:49 PM | | They probably just aren't interested. We don't play hard to get. If we aren't interested we won't respond. As for the phone numbers some girls find it hard to say no becasue they don't want to be mean. Yea they should just say no, but it happens. I was 18 and dated a 30 year old, I have also dated younger guys, its all a matter of who can hold my interest. So don't blame the generation. | |
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| why is the younger gen so hard??
Posted: 7/16/2009 1:26:55 PM | OP, it has to be your approach. If you're only 30 its natural and expected that you'd want a younger woman, maybe 22-27. Men are wired like that. Same where some of the women like older men, and then want younger men when they get older.  | |
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| why is the younger gen so hard??
Posted: 7/16/2009 1:31:28 PM | | I'm 25 and talking to older men doesn't bother me per say, but when I get messaged by the mid 40's to early 50's I kind of find it a little difficult at that point. As far as messaging the younger group of females, not saying ALL women in my age group are immature or snooty per say, but most on this site are, and age tends to determine more then it should. Older women are more friendly and talkative maybe because they don't care so much and are comfortable within themselves. Honestly, I wouldn't worry about it too much, because for every 1 that blows you off, there is always another willing to bite. | |
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| why is the younger gen so hard??
Posted: 7/16/2009 2:40:32 PM |
I always went for older women. All my life. They got some substance. Most of them. Plus some are red hot. Can't go wrong.
Attaboy, bodypro.
OP, I notice that you really don't say anything about women your age- in their 30's.
I also think that it's short-sided to say that you are able to talk to older women with ease, yet you are not open to dating them.
I look at dating as being somewhat experimental. iIdate men of most age groups
(thanks, but i'll leave the 20-somethings to younger women), and I find that someone
in their 30's can be more together and mature than someone in their 40's etc, and vice versa. It's all relative. | |
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| why is the younger gen so hard??
Posted: 7/16/2009 3:51:13 PM | OP your profile doesn't come off as snotty, maybe a little on the needs improvement in the grammar area, but your post does. You also have a photograph that looks like you live in a trailer park. Women look at the pictures as well as reading profiles.
Im 30 myself and am more attracted to girls that are younger ofcourse. What in the world does of course mean? I dated men younger than you are and they didn't date women in their 20's. Don't assume anything. Because you are 30 means you may not be attractive to women in their 20's period. Maybe you are bragging about things they find to be totally boring too?
Try having someone read your emails before you send them out to check for grammar and spelling errors and attitude. How we write in black and white doesn't necessarily come off the way we want it to sound. | |
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| why is the younger gen so hard??
Posted: 7/16/2009 3:55:00 PM | Sounds like a classic case of wanting what you cannot have. You say all these women your age are older are friendly and outgoing with you....and yet you prefer to chase the ones who want nothing to do with you.
It really doesn't make sense does it. Why don't you stop looking at the age of a person and judge them for who they are as an individual | |
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| why is the younger gen so hard??
Posted: 7/16/2009 4:17:11 PM | The fact that you labeled them "the younger generation" shows that you realize you are looking outside of your own generation, which can be difficult. Of course many mixed age relationships work, but it seems you are looking for something that may not exist, a younger woman who can relate to a 30 yr old man with a lot of life experience.
Try to see past numbers, realize that looks change, and start searching for someone who you can connect with. It sounds like you make a connection, then decide the numbers aren't right(you would prefer a younger, hotter body) then you walk away from someone who you can relate to mentally.
Twenty somethings are in a different place than you, and most are not interested in dating older any more than you are. | |
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| why is the younger gen so hard??
Posted: 7/16/2009 5:41:07 PM | They have seen their mothers used and abused and treated like Energizer Batteries (a resourse to be burned up).
They are determined NOT to let this happen to them.
More and more, females are becoming this way. | |
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| why is the younger gen so hard??
Posted: 7/16/2009 5:47:46 PM | I understand not being attracted. If you aren't attracted to someone then you aren't, but I have to agree with the other posters: If you get along better with those your age or older, is it really an attraction thing or is it that you have just made up your mind and haven't been willing to give it a try. If you have dated younger women, have you had a good connection intellectually or is it mostly physical. Sometimes we just need to open our minds and try something new. If you are looking for a lifetime or long term, why pair up with someone you can't talk to and feel comfortable with?
Chessie | |
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| why is the younger gen so hard??
Posted: 7/16/2009 5:49:11 PM | | Don't give up. there are young women out there who have a fetish for much older men. lol it's true. | |
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