| Pay for Rejection?
Posted: 7/16/2009 1:52:57 PM | I would pay to recieve an email responses that say something like, "I don't want to talk to you because you are creepy and ugly." in substitution to no response at all.
In fact, I would pay for it. Because thats how much I value that kind of information.
Are their any other guys or gals who feel the same way?
How much would you pay? Personally, I'd pay $10 for each honest response. | |
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| Pay for Rejection?
Posted: 7/16/2009 3:17:23 PM | Ya you're still young enough to worry about it. I look at it this way. If she doesn't have the courtesy to tell me she isn't interested in me, than she was most likely going to be a waste of my time anyways.
Advice: Relax and say NEXT!!!!!! | |
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| Pay for Rejection?
Posted: 7/16/2009 4:13:33 PM | I see your point. Though I still think it would be good to see inside people's heads.
As being able to see what people think of what you say is a good way to develope conversational skills.
I've gotten a little more feedback than I usually get on what people think of my writing. As I see 2/3 people see this as a troll post.
It would be even more valuable to me if there were actually some comments on why they see it as a troll post. But most people are too passive agressive to do that. | |
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| Pay for Rejection?
Posted: 7/16/2009 4:37:38 PM | I see your point as well, but people aren't honest these days anyways.
I have a hard time meeting people because I am too honest sometimes.
For instance there is a meetup group I joined , and one person makes excuses all of the time why they don't join us, but b!tch and complain about it afterwards, and I finally told them the other day that the rest of us didn't want to hear the complaining or the excuses. Whereas everybody else wanted to say the same thing, they didn't know how to. So I hurt the person's feelings a little bit. Not that I don't have compassion for people I also don't want to hear the excuses and complaining all the time.
It goes with the saying "Does the truth hurt". I think if the world was much more honest with each other, it would be a better place.
I have no problem hearing the exact truth, because I can learn from it. | |
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| Pay for Rejection?
Posted: 7/16/2009 9:41:47 PM | Speaking of the world being a better place if people were honest.
I have heard that transparency in government is an effective deterent against corruption. The second they do things we can't know about is the second they do things they shouldn't be doing.
Hmm... This looks like its going to end up our own conversation thread.
I hear there are rules agains that.
But anyways, speaking of being too honest...
Once I was at the store looking at lamp oil.
A guy asks, "Do you own a lamp too?"
I say, "No, I just like to light stuff on fire."
::End of conversation::
Or I guess that is a case of "Too Open."
As "No" is an honest answer, "No, because _____" is an open answer. | |
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| Pay for Rejection?
Posted: 7/17/2009 12:31:38 AM | | Certainly wouldn't pay to know but it would be interesting to see what everyone really thought of you. I mean just imagine the insight you could gain if it was all unfiltered, I'd be offended a lot and would at all cost avoid responding as I don't enjoy making an ass of myself but imagine if you had that power. Like that movie with Mel Gibson... er What women want... yeah. That'd be cool. | |
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| Pay for Rejection?
Posted: 7/18/2009 12:19:42 AM | | well id rather they just read it and deleted it than just read it and leave it sit.....most arent going to answer you at all if they are not interested................whatever lack of class that is, at least you get an answer if they delete it. | |
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| Pay for Rejection?
Posted: 7/18/2009 1:12:43 AM | Yes, honesty can be very effective ~ this one I met recently was so honest I couldn't stand seeing him more than once
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| Pay for Rejection?
Posted: 7/25/2009 9:50:34 AM | I've always said that I'd rather be hurt with the truth than with a lie. Would I pay to hear the truth? No way! How do you know if it's the truth or if this person just likes to throw daggers... mean spirited people are everywhere!
I declined a guy the other day and he responded back"good luck padding your bank account!" WTH?? Was he being truthful or was he just having a bad day? Who cares! there's too many fish in the sea to worry about one person's opinion!!
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| Pay for Rejection?
Posted: 7/25/2009 10:07:17 AM |
Certainly wouldn't pay to know but it would be interesting to see what everyone really thought of you.
It isn't what they think of YOU as much as what they would think of your profile anyway, right? There are so many reasons people don't reply or aren't interested and they may have nothing to do with you. I wouldn't take it too personal. | |
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| Pay for Rejection?
Posted: 7/25/2009 10:12:29 AM | "There are so many reasons people don't reply or aren't interested and they may have nothing to do with you. I wouldn't take it too personal."
It is the same as asking a woman out. If she says no, most likely it has nothing to do with you.
I got the tenders to ask a lady out in public the other day, and she said she would love to have, but she's engaged. So I am more confident now to go up and ask a woman out. It's pretty simple. | |
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| Pay for Rejection?
Posted: 7/25/2009 11:23:32 AM | Good job @ read..........confidence is what its all about dude
better luck next time, but as the old saying goes
those afraid of having their heart broken never learn to dance.......:>)) | |
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Posted: 7/25/2009 6:05:41 PM | | Thanks Fable, you are so correct. I survived this time, I think I will survive the next as well. | |
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Posted: 7/30/2009 11:22:56 AM | I will totally reject you every day for $10 a pop! Lets do this bro!!!
Start now:
Oh no, you are ugly and creepy and scare me, I never want to talk to you again!
(you can go ahead and EFT that to mah account) | |
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| Pay for Rejection?
Posted: 7/30/2009 3:09:11 PM | I don't know if I'd pay for honest rejection letters, or honest rationale for rejection. I'd be pretty poor by now if I did that. It would be nice to know what things are "deal breakers", but if I was to try to satisfy the "deal breakers" for everyone out there, just for the sake of being satisfactory for person X or Y, that just means I'm molding myself like a ball of play-doh just to satisfy someone else. And eventually you just become an actor or a chameleon for whoever you're dating at the time. Or you just become extremely jaded. Nobody wants to be a jaded phony ball of play-doh, right?
Its one of those things where people don't want to hurt someone's feeling or deal with the effects of hurting someone's feelings, or they just don't have the time and move on to the next email or profile. Or maybe they found someone else, or maybe they got inundated with a thousand emails and just cancelled the account. Or they accidentally deleted the message. Maybe she got sick with a flu and by the time she got back online, the message was automatically deleted from her Inbox (gotta love that!)
Who knows, there are a thousand reasons why someone did or didn't reply to you, but just don't take it personally and don't get into a mental spiral of speculating and guessing why people do or don't do things...you'll just give yourself an aneurysm. Thats why my sister calls me late at night crying her eyes out. Someone said something to her 2 weeks ago and she spent 2 weeks dwelling on what he or she "really meant" when he or she said that. And finally she comes to the conclusion that when so-and-so said, "Hi!" so-and-so really meant, "I hate you and I don't want anything to do with you!"
Just let it go. It reminds me of this routine I saw from a stand-up comedian who talked about approaching a woman on the dancefloor, "hey girl, wanna dance?" And she gives him a scowl and walks the other way. "Fine! I didn't like you anyways, I was just playing with you!" | |
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| Pay for Rejection?
Posted: 7/30/2009 3:15:28 PM | deal with the effects of hurting someone's feelings,
Hehe, now that right there is very telling
It's why so many take the cowardly way out when they want to stop seeing someone
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Posted: 7/30/2009 9:09:24 PM | First: I will easily send you an email telling you to shave your hippy beard for $10
lol
Second, it is cool that you are confident enough to take serious honestly. Other people don't live in that reality. Maybe that is why you are single. | |
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Posted: 8/2/2009 1:44:48 PM | | Aguaya, you are dead on, hate to say it, spitting game sucks, it makes you feel like crap for doing it, but girls like the game, men get good at the game, and in the end, you win with the game. So keep the reality stuff in the closet until you are trying to get married, and for now, just play the game. | |
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| Pay for Rejection?
Posted: 8/2/2009 1:56:48 PM |
I would pay to recieve an email responses that say something like, "I don't want to talk to you because you are creepy and ugly." in substitution to no response at all.
Personally, I'd pay $10 for each honest response.
anything to oblidge jmim. you are creepy and ugly. now fork over that ten spot. | |
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| Pay for Rejection?
Posted: 8/3/2009 3:32:16 PM | | Those who won't willingly reply to you aren't worth listening to anyway. If she doesn't have the decency to send a response, you probably don't want to hear from her, anyway. | |
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| Pay for Rejection?
Posted: 10/2/2009 12:11:09 PM | Go out to the real world, spend some time in a meat market.
You can get reject all nite, just for the cost of drinks ;)
At ten a shot, you should have your fill pretty quickly. | |
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| Pay for Rejection?
Posted: 10/2/2009 2:52:35 PM | I wouldn't pay for it, but it'd be appreciated. It's not so much a matter of getting a 'no' as much as getting a reason.
I've only had one person tell me no when I suggested meeting up. Anybody else simply stopped responding to emails.
She hasn't given a reason, jsut saying it's complicated, going through a rough time, and repeated being complicated (in one message). Maybe she should take off her ' is feeling lonely' if she doesn't want anybody to try to fhelp it.
And I had asked to meet up just to get out and have fun, not exactly as a date. | |
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| Pay for Rejection?
Posted: 10/2/2009 4:09:07 PM | The reason doesn't really matter in the long run ~ if someone doesn't want to meet up, then so be it. No biggie
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| Pay for Rejection?
Posted: 10/3/2009 9:33:08 PM | | The first week I was on here I wrote back to a couple inquiries even though wasn't interested. I figured it would be rude not to reply. I took the time to point out a specific reason, something from their profile or message, that I didn't think we would be compatible, a "deal breaker" so to speak. I was polite but firm about not being interested and wished them good luck. They took that as a sign that they should write back and try to convince me I was wrong and I should give them a chance. Great. Not what I wanted at all. Apparently some people take any response as encouragement. So I decided not to reply and delete the messages from people I wasn't interested in. Maybe you think that's rude or inconsiderate but I tried being what I considered to be polite and I really didn't care for the results. So if that makes me someone you wouldn't be interested in dating anyway, well I guess I can live with that. | |
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