| How should I procede?
Posted: 7/16/2009 3:23:06 PM | | I'm a single guy that is looking for someone to start a friendship and possibly long-term relationship with. Currently I have a loan through a financial company that I go to every month to make a payment on. The lady who sits behind the desk answering the phone, collects payments, and does the loan paperwork, I am interested in asking out. She is a young mother to a 7yr old girl, but that is as far of information that I know of her. Should I ask her out.....send her flowers.........or try talking to her more to know more of her? | |
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| How should I procede?
Posted: 7/16/2009 3:37:22 PM | Whatever you do
DO NOT SEND ANY FLOWERS OF ANY KIND TO ANY WOMAN YOU ARE TRYING TO ASK OUT! period.
Flowers are for those who deserve it. (or those who have made mistakes??) | |
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| How should I procede?
Posted: 7/16/2009 3:48:36 PM | | I think giving her a business card or something with your number on it, and letting her know that you would like to get to know her better would work ok. That way the ball is in her court. She can call if she is interested. Of course it would be nice to be able to chat with her a bit when you stop in there, might help her feel more comfortable calling you if she feels like she knows you a bit. I guess it just depends on the dynamics of the office. Good luck! | |
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| How should I procede?
Posted: 7/16/2009 3:56:20 PM | If you know about the 7 year old daughter because of your conversations with the woman, then you already know her on a somewhat personal level. You already have a relationship with her, it's just not a romantic one.
So, assuming that's the case, I would say go ahead and ask her out. I'd recommend something simple and relaxed. The cup of coffee is almost always a good choice. Then you could get to know each other a little better over the coffee.
Getting flowers or getting taken to a fancy restaurant is very flattering to a woman, but it can feel threatening if it isn't done right. For a first date, that's probably too much and might make her feel pressured.
If I were a guy, I think I would ask myself "How would I feel if I gave her flowers and then never saw her again?" If the answer is that you would feel stupid or used, then you probably shouldn't give her the flowers.
That's just my opinion with what little I know from what you've said.
Other than that, I'd say follow your heart.
Good luck! | |
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| How should I procede?
Posted: 7/16/2009 4:31:57 PM | Do not send cheesy I don't know you but want to get in your panties flowers. LAME.
Reeks of desperation.
Not even 1 flower No No No.
Ask the woman for a cup of coffee or if she gets a lunch break could she meet you for a bite.
Just remember if you make loan payments there, she can really check you out.
So no bull.
Like has been said, you already know she has a 7 year old daughter.
I think you know her well enough to ask her for a cup of Joe.
Did I mention no flower? | |
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