| Do women still expect men to do all the chasing nowadays?
Posted: 7/16/2009 4:32:27 PM | As the title says and to be honest, I've never been the kind of man to pursue a woman for numerous reasons, even online I rarely send out a message first. It seems like women want men to do all the chasing whilst they make absolutely no effort what so ever.
Plus, I just find it off putting when some women expect a man to wine and dine them plus to treat them like a "princess", what on earth does that entail at the man's expense?
Reality check, please. | |
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| Do women still expect men to do all the chasing nowadays?
Posted: 7/16/2009 4:35:57 PM | I make a lot of effort and get nothing in return. A male friend of mine told me I need to let me chase me and act as if I'm not interested. He said my honest approach of telling a guy I like him and am interested will get me nowhere.
I quit playing games a long time ago...but it seems like a lot of people have not. | |
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| Do women still expect men to do all the chasing nowadays?
Posted: 7/16/2009 4:36:38 PM | | I don't want to be treated like a princess. But, yeah, I want someone to show some interest in me. If that's called chasing, whatever. But mostly I want to laugh with someone and feel valued, needed, and wanted. I'll repay the one I find interesting back a hundredfold. | |
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| Do women still expect men to do all the chasing nowadays?
Posted: 7/16/2009 4:48:47 PM |
Reality check, please.
The reality is that sending out the initial contact message is not chasing and that, at leasrt online, women are more prone to let you know when they are interested than they used to be. Whether that constitutes chasing, I don't know. I don't chase and I wouldn't try to make a woman chase me. | |
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| Do women still expect men to do all the chasing nowadays?
Posted: 7/16/2009 5:08:09 PM | That's how it's always been. This is no sudden trend. It's the nature of the matting call between humans. Men pursue, woman accepts or does not accept. Be thankful you know the rules, so now you can play the game. Don't sweat it, play it.
No worth while deed is ever accomplished without some measure of effort. | |
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| Do women still expect men to do all the chasing nowadays?
Posted: 7/16/2009 5:11:44 PM | B/c it's the man's job as it always has been and always should be..... even in nature the males approach the females.
... but that's where you are so wrong, too many people are stuck in this traditional mindset of the male woos the woman (and I thought women wanted equality on par with men).
I still believe, many relationships would of been more successful if women had made the first move.
MSG 9 & 10 - No, I don't like narcissistic women, I think women who want to be chased have over inflated egos and are very needy plus probably overly dependant on men to "look after them".
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| Do women still expect men to do all the chasing nowadays?
Posted: 7/16/2009 5:14:44 PM | I would have to say I have made the first move many many times and here I am. I am repeatedly told that it's because I made the first move why it didn't work out. That men, whether they realize it or not, need the chase and sense of accomplishment. I admit, I still struggle with this as my very nature is one of impatience, however, I am working on it because if that is what is necessary in "most" cases, I will have to do that. You feel like it sucks, so do I. lol!
Chessie | |
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| Do women still expect men to do all the chasing nowadays?
Posted: 7/16/2009 5:17:19 PM |
Do women still expect men to do all the chasing nowadays? yep
I'm not a princess, diva or goddess but I'm still going by what my gran said long ago "don'yt chase boys"
Why deny a man the pleasure of catching me? | |
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| Do women still expect men to do all the chasing nowadays?
Posted: 7/16/2009 5:19:43 PM | | Yes all women want to be chased. Most women want a man who know exactly what to say, what to do and how to make them feel good. The men need to do this in a way that flows naturally and makes the women feel good. This does not mean wining and dining and paying for dinner. | |
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| Do women still expect men to do all the chasing nowadays?
Posted: 7/16/2009 5:46:00 PM | Afx777
Heres your reality check.
You do not know me, but rest assured the kind of woman I am would
never be attracted to a man who did not act like one.
Im old fashioned where it counts. I expect a man to show his interest.
How he chooses to do that is up to him. But to do nothing and hope I
*chase* him leaves me feeling like the man.
In my world when you act like a man you are treated like one. In my world
The men I know -- act like it. It would be below them to act otherwise including
*expecting* a gal to ask them out.
As far as wine n dining. Again this is a man thing. The extent of that process is a different thread altogether.
Treating me like a princess? I dunno about all that. Im nothing remotely close to
a *Princess* nor do I expect to be treated like royalty. I do however expect a man to show integrity, chivalry and charm when courting me. The qualites I listed are not equal to = treat me like a princess.
I think you are one of many who have the gender roles skewed.
You say you dont want to be conventional.....but the moment she starts acting like
more of a man than you are.....you're the first to whine about it.
Next you will be whining about the male position in the animal kingdom.
If its not broke dont fix it. | |
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| Do women still expect men to do all the chasing nowadays?
Posted: 7/16/2009 6:00:49 PM |
even in nature the males approach the females.
It's the male that puts on a show of strength, stamina, mating ritual and proves his dominance against other males in the animal kingdom they don't do any chasing. it's all a show. Then it's the females that approach the attractive male who won. these animals don't play hard to get. it's either a yes or no not a maybe what if. LOL :P | |
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| Do women still expect men to do all the chasing nowadays?
Posted: 7/16/2009 6:02:42 PM | It's just part of the job of being a man. Men go out and get the Women. Males go out and get the females. That's how it works in nature, and that's how t works with us.
No matter how much you talk about it, ask questions about it, and speculate...the bottom line is that you need to grab your nutsack, check to make sure there are balls in there, and go pursue. | |
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| Do women still expect men to do all the chasing nowadays?
Posted: 7/16/2009 6:22:49 PM | This is very depressing.
What I'm seeing is a lot of women relying on "old fashioned" morals and sensibility of nature, giving up because it doesn't work for a woman.
Here's where I don't agree:
Women are now the most powerful, most marketable and in many cases, more successful than ever before in our recordable history. So much has been done where women's rights and freedoms are already reality. Women are kicking major amounts of backside AND loving it. This is now. Supreme court, corporate companies - women are taking huge risks, dedicating themselves, you name it. Feminine activists now look weak.
So you're there with your where-with-all, wondering why the single men in your orbit aren't biting because even YOU know you're a good looking chick. The first thing that might come to a woman's mind is, "I intimidate men" or "He's not into me." Why?
Big problem with this is, if you ask male friends, you're smoking hot, friendly and well cultured. The OLD FASHIONED way of thinking suited a certain societal dynamic. The world doesn't twist that way anymore. In fact, it's coming back the other way.
So women want to be chased in the wild? How does that work now? It's a new world now and growing more complicated with every 10 years or so. Women have closed themselves off because of so many reasons, some of which make perfect sense- trust me. Now, add that to the fact most "want to be chased?"
Women, you need to re-evaluate what's happening. Do not play a 1935 woman's role in year 2009 dress and shoes. Do what you do in career, obtain it the same way. Use common sense, drive and make yourself heard. If you want something, sometimes you have to go get it.
Be real, don't give up. I see men here certainly doing just that, because that's results- sooner or later. For man, woman, squirrel. | |
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| Do women still expect men to do all the chasing nowadays?
Posted: 7/16/2009 6:31:28 PM | I don't see it as giving up, even though so many things are changing with our roles, one thing remains reliably the same. This damn chase thing I can't figure out. I just know that when I'm not into a guy I have to tell him three million times and he still chases. When I like a guy (and not obnoxiously) let him know that, he has no interest. I don't think it's a coincidence that it plays out this way. I'm almost sure that if I were into the guys that were chasing me now they would not be chasing, because they wouldn't have that fun. I don't think any of us really likes it 100%, but we all do this without realizing it.
And honestly, sometimes I want to feel pretty and desirable and if I have to make the first move, yet again, I have to agree with a previous poster, I feel more "manly" for lack of a better word. More men then not, still love the thrill of the chase. The men that don't, their numbers are too small for women to risk making the first move. JMO though. :D
Chessie | |
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| Do women still expect men to do all the chasing nowadays?
Posted: 7/16/2009 6:43:58 PM | How is it an effort to show someone that you have interest in them?
Why does it have to be "a chase"?
I'd much rather have a man approach me, get to know him a bit, ask me out, and go
have a good time. What's hard about that? (for either person)
I have found over time, and through running a thread or two on this topic and from
seeing them in the forums routinely, that the average male wants to do the
approaching, and the average female wants to be approached. C'est la vie.
As LORI922 stated- you can't fight mother nature. These inherent traits were placed
in our DNA to ensure that "the chase" continues.
All the best | |
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| Do women still expect men to do all the chasing nowadays?
Posted: 7/16/2009 6:44:33 PM | afx777 I must be one of the A typical freaks around here... I wrote my SO, and it was not even in an effort to chase him... I had been on POF for almost a yr and was about to pull my profile, and put dating on the back burner....
He happened to have something in his profile that I wanted to learn more about, so I wrote and asked him if he would mind teaching me about this thing I was interested in... He said sure, we could be friends, and then we started chatting on Ya hoo... He had a web cam, and NOOOO was not a sex freak, so we chatted a lot for a week, his works schedule made it to where we had to wait..
The moment we seen it each other in the parking lot of Star bucks... The magic carpet ride started there...
We've been together for a year this mo... In Sept we are having a commitment Ceremony (legal marriage is way over rated, two unique people making their OWN rules for what marriage is...)
SOOOOOOO not every woman feels she has to be chased... Chuckles, in fact I don't think he would have wrote me, we are very different people, and I think he would have thought where I lived was to far...
He told me that the moment we met, he knew that I was the girl he had been looking for since he was 7.... Cheesy??? Maybe, but he hasn't been anything but the guy he said he was, and he feels the same about me...
I have been told this happens only once in a blue moon.... I don't know about that...What I do know is that just judging others by their picture can be something that keeps a person from meeting someone amazing... Neither he nor I are photogenic... So when we are met in person, people are very happily surprised...
Best of luck... | |
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| Do women still expect men to do all the chasing nowadays?
Posted: 7/16/2009 7:26:28 PM | "Reality check, please. "
I've already had one. What I've learned is that when I pursue a guy he tends to either not be interested or assumes that means easy sex. I've also noticed men do tend to appreciate women more that they pursue. Fair has nothing to do with it, this just is. | |
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| Do women still expect men to do all the chasing nowadays?
Posted: 7/16/2009 7:36:35 PM | No effort?
-Waxing
-Tweezing
-Eating carrots and celery while you chomp down a burger
-High heels
-Skirt chafe (when thighs rub)
-Push up bra, wires stuck in ur ribs
-Dealing with the hassle of longer hair
-Shaving everything
-Makeup
-Laughing at your jokes that aren't funny
-Inflating your fragile ego
-Working 9 hours a day (just like you) and then doing all the housechores while you pat yourself on the back for taking out the garbage
-Making less pay for the same jobs
-Faking the orgasm you think you can give us
-Enduring menstrual hell
-Oh yeah, being the one who will eventually birth the childrens
YES, you need to do the chasing you whiny lil' b!tch. Man up. | |
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