| So he has been in prison so what right?
Posted: 7/16/2009 5:45:00 PM | I met this guy we just started dating he is awesome. Very affectionate all that good warm and fuzzy stuff. Im worried about telling my family my boyfriend is a recently released convict. My parents are very overprotective and well they currently 100 percent support me financially so i dont want them going haywire when they find out.
I wanted to know how other people would go about telling your family your amazing new boyfriend/girlfriend is a recently released convict?
Served 3 years which is a minimum sentence for Home invasion second degree......its not about him being a bad boy its deeper than that he is a good guy........ we all make mistakes i know i have......... | |
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| So he has been in prison so what right?
Posted: 7/16/2009 5:56:45 PM | I smell Rock comin.... better beat him to the punch.
How about like this;
Mom, Dad, I would like to introduce you to my new man. Apperantly he was someone elses man up until a while ago, but we all know how that goes right Mom/Dad?
What's that mom?? Who was he seeing?? Umm. well... ahh... Honey do you want to tell them???
Newly released convict .... "Bruno... actually I couldn't see much of him..."
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OK I kid.... Prison joke...
Tell em straight up and then let the games begin. Get back to us on what they say | |
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| So he has been in prison so what right?
Posted: 7/16/2009 5:56:47 PM | Home invasion 2nd degree, 3 years minimum sentence is what he served , released 1 month ago.......people change am i right?
but its not about what he DID its about who is now to me.......not sure how to go about telling my parents..........looking for advice on that not if he is a good guy or not..... | |
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| So he has been in prison so what right?
Posted: 7/16/2009 5:57:55 PM | | It certainly is her life and she is an adult. However, 22 is very young. Think about all the stupid things you did at that age. Since her situation is a difficult one, I personally feel some good parent advice couldn't hurt :) | |
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| So he has been in prison so what right?
Posted: 7/16/2009 5:59:12 PM | Oh God.
Prison - for what? Look. I know what its like to find a guy and
find out he has a very dark past. very very dark past. I thought
he was this great - oh my god amazing man.
Really - you need to really really think about getting with Mr. Bad Boy.
Trust me on this. He may be all amazing and edgy and all that but really
really think about this. I have nothing else to say. I dont know what to
say. I know my Bad Boy turned out to be really really bad. | |
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| So he has been in prison so what right?
Posted: 7/16/2009 6:04:07 PM |
Home invasion 2nd degree.......people change am i right?
but its not about what he DID its about who is now to me.......not sure how to go about telling my parents..........looking for advice on that not if he is a good guy or not.....
Wow. Isn't that what happened to those folks in Florida? Brutal.
In answer to your question, people do change a little. A little. I would flip out if I had a daughter who told me she was dating an ex-convict/home invader. Wouldn't matter how she told me. If you're gonna tell them, then just be upfront and honest, and don't get agitated if they start yelling at you. Remain calm, tell them you'll discuss it with them when they calm down. It's your life, they just want to see you happy. | |
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| So he has been in prison so what right?
Posted: 7/16/2009 6:04:38 PM | Of all the guys you can meet, you have to meet a guy who has been a guest of the government, lets hope he hasn't had a first class lesson in Ass Class.
If your parents are supporting you 100%, the news that you are dating someone who was a guest of the government might not go over very well, especially if one is overprotective
Every parent is different, only you would know how your parents would react, I know my parents who have a cow
I can just imagine the conversation at thanksgiving
ME: Mom , dad this is Sherry
Mom: Oh what do you do for a living Sherry?
Sherry: nothing much, I just got out of Prison
Mom: drops the plate of turkey, and makes a beeline for the phone to call her lawyer to take me off the will and disown me, as my Dad is showing us the door. | |
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| So he has been in prison so what right?
Posted: 7/16/2009 6:05:05 PM | lets make some more cracks on him geez so here is something about me i used to sell drugs do drugs stole from my parents all that shit.......do i do it anymore no do i want to no!
People change | |
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| So he has been in prison so what right?
Posted: 7/16/2009 6:08:43 PM | Think twice. Do you really want this guy in your parents' (or your) house? What makes you think he can be trusted? And what kind of people does he hang out with? Birds of a feather flock together. And if you do go for a relationship - what are his employment prospects with a record? He might be a good friend, but do you really want to hook up with him?
A word of warning to the other ladies...I was talking to a guy I met on another site for a good while, and he never told me he'd been in prison. His son unwittingly told me that Daddy hadn't been around most of his life because he did "that long time". | |
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| So he has been in prison so what right?
Posted: 7/16/2009 6:11:57 PM | | You look like a smart girl, so please dont do something stupid. I read your profile, you have goals and this man is only going to take you away from those goals and not to mention that this person has already proven that he is capable of being malicious. Don't engage yourself in this situation. Im not saying that a person cannot be rehabilitated but statistically it just isnt going to happen. Your safety and emotional well being isnt worth the risk that this man poses. | |
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| So he has been in prison so what right?
Posted: 7/16/2009 6:15:17 PM |
..people change am i right? Yes, and sometimes for the worse, like after 3 years in prison. He needs some time to prove himself before he gets involved in someone else's life. | |
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| So he has been in prison so what right?
Posted: 7/16/2009 6:16:19 PM | well home invasion robbery is a violent crime and violent criminals dont just start being violent until they've spent some time "practicing" with the lesser, nonviolent crimes.... on top of that, he got caught and convicted for the one robbery... there is no knowning how many others he committed that he wasnt caught for... if he got 3 years only my guess is that his history is not all that long... but again, said histories only account for the stuff people get busted for....
bottom line is once a criminal, always a criminal ....even a reformed criminal is still a criminal and thus much more likely to reoffend than a non-criminal....
so in other words you are rolling the dice here, make your choices but know that one day you may be talking to the cops (about him), get in trouble (because of him) and or get a call that he aint coming home.... but hey... they do have conjugal visits nowdays at most prisons !!!!!
good luck | |
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| So he has been in prison so what right?
Posted: 7/16/2009 6:17:07 PM | | you just met the guy, right? that means you don't know DIDDLY SQUAT about whether he has changed for the better or not. the only thing you know right now is that you like him and he turns your crank, because he's nice and he's affectionate. right! and who wouldn't be nice & affectionate to an accommodating young lady right after he got out of the slammer, hmmm?? meeting somebody and liking them is easy. proof of character & motivation can be a whole different ballgame, and it takes more time. saying that "people change" is nothing but a pollyanna platitude until they prove it. my suggestion is to keep your mouth shut and proceed with caution. which, when you think about it, really isn't all that different than any other new relationship. | |
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| So he has been in prison so what right?
Posted: 7/16/2009 6:21:23 PM |
OP don't tell them...they don't need to know; it's your life not theirs.
I completely, 100% disagree with this statement. The OP is living in their house and is being 100% supported by her parents. If she had her own pad, then I would agree, why bother.
I'm not going to make any judgements about your boyfriend, OP. However, I am going to give you my opinion (since you asked). You are 22 years old and being supported by your parents. Also, you're scared to tell them about your boyfriend. In my mind, you're just not ready for something on the level of a deep committed relationship.
Do whatever it is you need to, in order to move out on your own. If your parents are, in fact, "overprotective", you need to cut the apron strings since they may not be so willing to. Then , you can live your life as you see fit...make your own life choices without worrying about who is going to approve or, not, etc.
Not trying to sound like a hardass, but that's the way I see it.
~ds~ | |
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| So he has been in prison so what right?
Posted: 7/16/2009 6:21:44 PM | | Who's home did he invade? Why did he invade it? What did he do while invading it? I know a guy who invaded someone's home but never spent any time in jail for it. The home he invaded was that of a girl who had dumped him. He wanted to "talk" to her. 3 months later, he shot her dead. He was a pretty nice guy too... while she was dating him. | |
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| So he has been in prison so what right?
Posted: 7/16/2009 6:24:35 PM | Ok Aligirl21, if you say so perhaps were a little naive, but then again when I was your age I thought I knew everything and no body including my parents knew Jack sh1t, but then I grew up and learned a lot of things about life and how the real world works.
I dont know about your guy, and I would assume he's around your age, people change ..yes they do, and I stand by my original post, you couldn't find a guy who wasn't a guest of the government? and he was imprisoned for home invasion? wow sounds like quite the catch.
I like to be a fly on the wall at your parents place if and when you decide to tell them, better hope your Dad doesnt own a gun? | |
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| So he has been in prison so what right?
Posted: 7/16/2009 6:36:37 PM | Before presenting him to your folks, I would mull over these questions…
Is this his is ONLY conviction? Is this the ONLY time he has been in trouble with The Law? He’s JUST been released, so what self-improvements has he actually made? What help has he received in order to ensure he is indeed walking the straight and narrow? What has he done OTHER than getting caught and serving time that has made him a “changed man”? | |
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| So he has been in prison so what right?
Posted: 7/16/2009 6:41:38 PM | | His trash, his backyard, **** your family, friends, etc. You have a gut, right? You have a head, right? Bring em to your game, use em to your advantage, and make yourself happy. What feelings does this guy evoke? What thoughts does he conjure? If it feels right, roll with it. You never know, you may just have found one of your prince charmings and be so damn concerned with stupid things. The past makes us all stronger, better, people if we channel it properly. | |
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| So he has been in prison so what right?
Posted: 7/16/2009 6:48:41 PM |
So he has been in prison so what right?
Home invasion 2nd degree, 3 years minimum sentence is what he served , released 1 month ago.......people change am i right?
but its not about what he DID its about who is now to me.......not sure how to go about telling my parents..........looking for advice on that not if he is a good guy or not.....
Your original post was looking for advice on his character. When you didn't hear what you wanted to hear, you changed it up... ? Maybe you do deserve this type of character. You do realize home invasion means they were home at the time..? Sick... He should and could have been shot..
American women love losers.. Enjoy the trailer park... | |
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| So he has been in prison so what right?
Posted: 7/16/2009 7:03:13 PM | | why are you so attracted to him? if you had kids? would you be happy that your son or daughter was with a convict? first take it slow if you are giving him a chance...do not give him money...he needs to prove himself...maybe he will be the one...but do not put all your eggs in one basket...and do not tell your parents...time will tell | |
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