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Posted: 7/16/2009 6:49:43 PM | Is there such a thing as a non-materialistic women??
Maybe there are exceptions ,but in general they want one of two things-
1.)they want a man to take care of them, money is everything
those who fit under this category material desire's blind them and have corrupt their minds as well as their hearts.
2.)they want the stereo-typical "bad boy" ,some women evidently like being mis-treated and cheated on. It seems when a women feel unwanted that makes them want the one rejecting them even more (emotions and issues?)Either way a "nice guy" always seems to get walked on. | |
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| women want?
Posted: 7/16/2009 7:13:33 PM | | Boy I've got to hand it to you.....you've got us all figured out. Nothing but a bunch of gold digging women who want to be treated like crap. Yup every woman's dream | |
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| women want?
Posted: 7/16/2009 7:35:26 PM | I said there are exceptions!
but usually if people get divorced the reason fits into one of those categories | |
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| women want?
Posted: 7/16/2009 8:11:44 PM | What do women want? I can not speak for all women but I know what I want:
-loyalty
-honesty
-fun, easy going
-God Fearing
-stable guy
-a little edge without going OFF the edge
There you have it | |
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| women want?
Posted: 7/16/2009 8:37:45 PM | sounds like good qualities in a mate.
god fearing is important.
honesty speaks for a thousand miles.
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| women want?
Posted: 7/16/2009 8:58:38 PM | Wow Kev, so glad you clued me in that I'm not the only woman looking for an abusive rich boyfriend, you just saved me from spending a ton of money on therapy...
oh please please please, come save me, Oh Mighty Nice Guy, from the bleak future that awaits me!
 another nice guy thread
another generalizing about women thread | |
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| women want?
Posted: 7/16/2009 9:53:28 PM | OP, your experience and mine are at a wide variance. Perhaps we're fishing in a different pond, though. I tend to connect with women who have college degrees, or more, and who have interesting careers. I tend to connect with women who are emotionally healthy, and want to bring a fully functional way of being into a relationship.
May I suggest that if "all" the women you are finding, are incapable of coping with their lives, in terms of survival, or who seek out those men who can't function within societal norms, that the common denominator is you?
Just saying that I don't perceive a "problem" with "all women". I find that there are "some women", incapable of normative behavior, who I filter out. As a consequence, I haven't had to deal with the same issues as you. I wonder why that is? | |
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Posted: 7/16/2009 10:11:36 PM | C'est la vie. But really.... I'm sure if people keep ****ing about things on the internet things will change....
Of course there are going to be materialistic people.... and then there's bible thumpers... alcoholics.... and so on and so on... but what I do know for a FACT is that there is NO santa clause. So I hope that cleared things up.
Men bash women... women bash men. Why don't the two bashee groups get together? I'm tired..... | |
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Posted: 7/16/2009 11:40:11 PM | I personally think ...You find what you seek....so if thats what you think, I guess thats what you are bound to find...
good luck with that | |
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Posted: 7/17/2009 12:34:05 AM | Women are stupid.
You cannot understand them.
The faster you understand that, the more successful you will be. | |
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Posted: 7/17/2009 6:49:10 AM | A brand new store has just opened in New York City that sells Husbands.
When women go to choose a husband, they have to follow the instructions at the entrance:
You may visit this store ONLY ONCE! There are 6 floors and the value of
the products increase as you ascend the flights. You may choose any item
from a particular floor, or may choose to go up to the next floor, but you
CANNOT go back down except to exit the building.
So, a woman goes to the Husband Store to find a husband.
The 1st floor sign on the door reads:
Floor 1: These men have jobs.
The 2nd floor sign reads:
Floor 2: These men have Jobs and Love Kids.
The 3rd floor sign reads:
Floor 3: These men have Jobs, Love Kids and are extremely good looking.
"Wow," she thinks, but feels compelled to keep going.
She goes to the 4th floor and the sign reads:
Floor 4: These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, are Drop-dead Good Looking and help with Housework.
"Oh, mercy me!" she exclaims, "I can hardly stand it!"
Still, she goes to the 5th floor and sign reads:
Floor 5: These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, are Drop-dead Gorgeous, help with Housework and Have a Strong Romantic Streak.
She is so tempted to stay, but she goes to the 6th floor and the sign reads:
Floor 6: You are visitor 31,456,012 to this floor.
There are no men on this floor.
This floor exists solely as proof that women are impossible to please.
Thank you for shopping at the Husband Store.
To avoid gender bias charges, the store's owner opens a New Wives store just across the street.
The 1st first floor has wives that love sex.
The 2nd floor has wives that love sex and have money.
The 3rd,4th, 5th and 6th floors have never been visited. | |
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Posted: 7/17/2009 6:49:14 AM |
men who cant function within societal norms
I wonder why that is?
you were married and then ...divorced ,I wonder why that is?
I never said all women ,read the post and if you are going to respond respond to it as a whole not just the parts that are self-serving to your reply.
For all you divorcee's ,maybe I hit a nerve, sorry
maybe the reason for your divorce falls under reason 1 -lack of finances
2.-physical,mental,or emotional mistreatment or the lack of any attention which is also a form of mistreatment. | |
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Posted: 7/17/2009 7:45:38 AM |
but usually if people get divorced the reason fits into one of those categories
Not always...there are many other reasons why divorce happens...Mine doesn't fit into either one of your scenarios. Maybe you need to look closer at the women you are dating to see what their true standards are. We are not all like your #1 or #2. Pleaseee...give us a break | |
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Posted: 7/17/2009 7:54:35 AM | | I said usuallly ,my reason for this post was to gain insight ,you claim there are many other scenarios ,but you dont explain or even list anything,probably because you don't have one ,another waste of a reply ,I'm getting nowhere!!( as expected) | |
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Posted: 7/17/2009 8:11:06 AM |
For all you divorcee's ,maybe I hit a nerve, sorry
maybe the reason for your divorce falls under reason 1 -lack of finances
2.-physical,mental,or emotional mistreatment or the lack of any attention which is also a form of mistreatment.
Long marriages, as mine was, that last 20 years or more, often have stayed together for a "higher purpose" of raising children. As the children grow up, sometimes, the relationship between a man and a woman, as man and woman, has faded out over time. Often they end, and two people go their somewhat separate ways, without drama or hostility.
I know that, in my case, finances weren't an issue, and there wasn't any mistreatment. Over the course of 20 years, we had both changed, and were no longer "who" we were, when we married. It's unfortunate, but common, for two people to grow in separate ways, rather than grow together. If I had known then, what I know now, it most likely would be different.
I think that story about the "husband store" bears some relevance, though, in reverse, when talking about a 38 year old, like the OP, who has not yet found a woman who fulfills his expectations, and seems to be growing increasingly bitter about women in general. | |
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Posted: 7/17/2009 12:32:05 PM | Msg#14,
if you expected to get nothing from women that gave you insight why post? I have always paid my own way financially. My ex husband was not rich nor abusive. He was howver not available emotionally and that is why I left him
. In the best of all possible worlds I want a fellow who like myself is
well educated.
able to be emotionally intimate
fun to be with
self aware
has a good well paying job
emotionally sensitive
respectful
emotionally healthy
I am sure there is more but that is the top of my list
Do I think I will get all that in one man? Who kanos but I like o think there are some out there. | |
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Posted: 7/17/2009 1:14:41 PM | If those are the kind of women you're focusing all your energy on, those are the kind you're going to continue to find. You draw into your life what you project. Take a step back for a second and look at the attitude you're projecting just here in this thread alone.
Also, please consult any of the numerous threads in the archive on why "nice guys" routinely fail. It's all been answered many times over. It has nothing to do with being nice. | |
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| women want?
Posted: 7/17/2009 1:31:45 PM | I must say Flowerforce, while I do not think the genralizations the OP made are accurate, I would have to say being emotionally unavailable would fall under the mistreatment category. Everyone deserves and should expect their partner to be emotionally available to the relationship, to not be does in fact constitute mistreatment in my book.
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| women want?
Posted: 7/17/2009 6:05:07 PM | Yup we are out here. Could be where your looking or what your seeing to start with.
I don't know but they are many women I know who are successful, self sufficent, caring and kind .. you just hace to keep looking till you find the one that suits to you
Oh I know many of who you speak too - don't bother just move on
they are out there really | |
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| women want?
Posted: 7/17/2009 8:09:10 PM | | Plenty of women are not materialistic and don't want a bad boy. Sometimes, people assume when they can't find someone that all/most of the other gender is bad. Not true. There are plenty of good women (and men) out there. I get tired of seeing threads about women being materialistic and only wanting money or just wanting a guy to treat them like crap. Some women are like that. Heck, some guys are like that, too. Do you know how many times I've seen a man keep going back to a woman who treats him badly? Their excuse is often "all women are like that." No, they aren't. Just the women they are picking. | |
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| women want?
Posted: 7/18/2009 12:50:06 AM |
Is there such a thing as a non-materialistic women??
Maybe there are exceptions ,but in general they want one of two things-
1.)they want a man to take care of them, money is everything
those who fit under this category material desire's blind them and have corrupt their minds as well as their hearts.
2.)they want the stereo-typical "bad boy" ,some women evidently like being mis-treated and cheated on. It seems when a women feel unwanted that makes them want the one rejecting them even more (emotions and issues?)Either way a "nice guy" always seems to get walked on.
your thread is incorrect, OP. It's what You Want not "women want?"
You cannot play the "victim card" and expect women to flock to you. I've written this many times: you have to be who you are and find your center. only then, when you're one with the universe and at ease with yourself, that you'll attract people. This can't be fooled. It's the root of your conversation, your body language, your physical appearance & what you write. Your conversation, your body language, your physical appearance & what you write are just tips of the iceberg. Yes, they are physical manifestations of unseen aspects of yourself, but what people communicate with is actually the unseen aspects. We use speech & body language as identifiable markers we can relate to. | |
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| women want?
Posted: 7/18/2009 8:52:11 AM |
To avoid gender bias charges, the store's owner opens a New Wives store just across the street.
The 1st first floor has wives that love sex.
The 2nd floor has wives that love sex and have money.
The 3rd,4th, 5th and 6th floors have never been visited.
muahahah hell yeah!!!
what women want. As you can see it in their pictures and profiles.
#1 - Attention
#2 - Attention
#3 - Tell them something nice
#4 - Attention
#5 - Make them feel beautiful!
#6 - More Attention
#7 - Ok, enough attention, go to sleep. She have a headache so no sex.
#8 - A lot of attention. She had a bad day........doing nothing.
Few lies, some attention and chicken McNuggets,
You can have her back at your place doggy style.
Now you wasnt planning on this.. Its the way she passed out.
Thank you slow gas leak!  | |
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| women want?
Posted: 7/18/2009 8:59:52 AM | Msg#18
I do not think emotional unavaiability is mistreatment. I left because he was emotionally unavailable. I think it was because of his conditioning as a man in a culture where being emotional is frouned upon generaly. I agree that everybody deserves a partner who is available emotionally. Sadly for lots orf reasons that does not happen. | |
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| women want?
Posted: 7/18/2009 9:06:11 AM |
Jacob08---You have pretty much hit the nail right on the head. Having a man to support them finacially, and being with the typical a**hole type that treats them like sh*t, seem's to be the new trend these days .
The reason why nice guys get walked on is because they gave up a long time ago. But then again they deserve better.
This poster is 22 years old, and at that age, most women are considering the possibility that, if they meet the right guy, they might want to start a family. At that age, it is entirely appropriate for a woman to consider if a man is likely to be able to financially support a family, if they have children. All the studies confirm that, if possible, children are best served if the mother can stay home with them, at least for the first couple of years.
In other words, at your point in life, it's not "gold digging" or "wanting a lifestyle", it's wanting to find a man who is capable of supporting a family, if the relationship works out.
Secondly, I love how the "nice guys" always assume that "other men" are "bad boys". The things that women whine about, that men have done in relationships, by and large are just complaining about men not being exactly as they would like them to be, inside a relationship. A man forgetting her birthday, for example, does not make him a "bad boy", nor does a man wanting to spend some time doing things with his male friends.
The real "bad boys", the ones who do drugs, don't hold a job, and are outlaws, who physically abuse women, are not the men most women are looking to find. In fact, there's a logical fallacy to say that women are more attracted to men who are financially stable, while also saying that they want "bad boys", who are anything but.
T | |
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| women want?
Posted: 7/18/2009 10:47:05 AM | I'm of the jaded, callous mindset at the moment that we need same-sex friends for emotional gratification/support and an opposite-sex mate primarily for...sex.
Nice if you get both in a mate, and if you do, send one of her friends my way. | |
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