| Latest 5 Posts are more important than profile descriptions?
Posted: 7/18/2009 6:06:06 PM | I just read someone's profile description and loved what they had to say. I decided to send them a message but my eyes caught the fact that they had the "5 Latest forum posts" at the bottom of their profile. I decided to read the top three and was EXTREMELY surprised to find that their views on the topics had nothing in common to their profile description.
I mean that in their profile description they were positive, talked about being good natured, and it was very well written. Reading through their posts they were rude, ignorant, and kept on putting the OP down.
So my question is, do you read someone's last 5 posts before you message them and more importantly, what do YOUR 5 previous posts say about you? | |
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| Latest 5 Posts are more important than profile descriptions?
Posted: 7/18/2009 6:40:21 PM | oh my...aside from this one, I admit that I'm the reason any of my relationships failed, I also admitted that I have better things to do with my time than to have sex for 3-6 hours a day...bonus for me was that I didn't think ALL men were stupid...just some of them :)
I guess I should start paying attention to what I post and how it makes me look lol | |
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| Latest 5 Posts are more important than profile descriptions?
Posted: 7/18/2009 6:50:46 PM | Yeah, the last 5 forum posts are a pretty good indicator of a person's true nature IMO since the forums allow a person to respond in a way such that they don't feel "monitored", or a desire to make themselves look good unlike a profile. Though from what I have seen, most people I email don't post on forums anyways.
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As for me,
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- sarcastic or serious person
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- sarcastic or serious posts
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| Latest 5 Posts are more important than profile descriptions?
Posted: 7/18/2009 7:09:50 PM | It, more than likely, affects if people message you (or message back).
That's why I try not to be rude in my posts. However I do talk a lot about stuff over the forums, anything from humor/off topic to sex.
I think it has probably turned away a few girls from messaging me to be honest. But that's fine. We're supposed to be adults here, so if you can't handle a little sex talk, or x y z then that's fine. Move right along. | |
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| Latest 5 Posts are more important than profile descriptions?
Posted: 7/18/2009 8:33:33 PM | I dunno. Part of me says that the posts are indicative of one's true nature... then the smart azz in me thinks - geez I hope not!
There are some out there, I'm sure, who read what I write and take me literally. I put a disclaimer on my profile after posting to the birthday bj thread, but my posts tend to reflect my moods. Somedays I'm serious, others I'm goofing. I'm not rude or nasty, but I try to add a touch of levity most days.
Anyone I message who does post regularly is usually as a result of a pattern of thoughts more so than one single post - although I do have favorites and when they say something I think witty or germane, I write. | |
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| Latest 5 Posts are more important than profile descriptions?
Posted: 7/18/2009 8:58:02 PM | Most people are complex individuals. Also in one's profile you aren't responding to a thread/ subject on various topics started by someone else. Personally I don't want a cookie cutter person who follows this line of thinking: "I am 100% like my profile; In every sentence and and every idea will be just like it if I post in the forums?" That seems very unrealistic IMO. Maybe it should be a rule on here to post similar thoughts to what your profile claims you are as a person (No, let's not). Bottom line it's just another form of free speech, so why even post about it? Seems petty to me. | |
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| Latest 5 Posts are more important than profile descriptions?
Posted: 7/18/2009 9:54:54 PM | Very few men, who have contacted me, do forum posts, but if they do, I read them. Why wouldn't I? They are expressing their opinions and I am interested in their view points.
The posts they choose to reply to give additional insight......So says the woman (me) who just posted about whether women appreciate getting pictures of men's co*ks sent to them....LOL!! Really wish posts weren't attached to our profiles sometimes, yet if a man isn't openminded enough or hasn't a sense of humor......then I'm not interested anyway...... I don't feel that I am ever rude or mean in my posts.....its just not my nature. So read on! | |
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| Latest 5 Posts are more important than profile descriptions?
Posted: 7/18/2009 10:05:38 PM | | I agree, the posts are very valuable in understanding the stranger on the other side of the screen. Not the only determining factor, but another clue to their character, none the less. I only wish more POFers posted, in fact, it would be interesting if it were mandatory to post once a month to keep your profile alive. | |
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| Latest 5 Posts are more important than profile descriptions?
Posted: 7/18/2009 10:22:32 PM | | Great observation. I've often thought that the profile description is similar to the equivalent of a used car salesmen does. It's intended to paint the person a certain way and the intention is to attempt to solicit e-mails. Sure, there are some very genuine people who really do write what is on their minds, however, forum posts are more about what the person thinks and believes on specific topics. We are our opinions and perceptions which I think you find to be much clearer when people write how they feel about a specific topic vs how they are when attempting to describe themselves. | |
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| Latest 5 Posts are more important than profile descriptions?
Posted: 7/18/2009 11:13:08 PM | Yup..... if anyone reads my last 5 posts they'd probably think I'm a huge heartless **stard.... but really I just have an over active sense of humor and little patience for stupidity.... no wonder no one messages me
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| Latest 5 Posts are more important than profile descriptions?
Posted: 7/18/2009 11:59:11 PM | Nobody from my town is in these forums AT ALL.
So it's safe to say nobody from my town sees my posts and nobody from here has 5 recent posts (except me). That in itself is a sign of sorts.
In any case, women in my area only have 2 sentences in their profiles; like they can't be bothered with more.
So I am so waiting to be gone from where I am now... | |
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| Latest 5 Posts are more important than profile descriptions?
Posted: 7/19/2009 12:27:28 AM | | Since I'm not looking for a man here, my profile is pretty blunt and completely lacking charm and pleasantness. It's not really all that interesting, and because I have no desire whatsoever to "sell myself", it serves its intended purpose exactly the way it is. Near the end of it, I actually direct people to my forum posts. Anyone who is truly interested in learning more about me will also read my posting history. I have actually developed friendships with several of those people who have done so. | |
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| Latest 5 Posts are more important than profile descriptions?
Posted: 7/19/2009 3:47:04 AM |
OP I'm sure that I've lost alot of guys once they scroll down to my last five postings.................LOL.
However I am the type of person that is open, honest and likes to express my opinion about certain topics.
If a guy is put off by what I have to say that is ok. I'm not here to win brownie points! | |
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| Latest 5 Posts are more important than profile descriptions?
Posted: 7/19/2009 4:02:53 AM | I actually read the full posting history available of anyone whose profile I am interested in. As you say OP, reveals a lot about their character, beliefs and nature.
And yes, a 'disturbing' or just really incompatible posting history will cancel out a 'good' profile for me. | |
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| Latest 5 Posts are more important than profile descriptions?
Posted: 7/19/2009 4:31:27 AM | | I've probably burned myself a couple times with some posts, lol, but I think overall it's pretty similar to my profile. I do think it can give you an additional insight to the real person, but then you don't really get to know someone until you meet in the real world. | |
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| Latest 5 Posts are more important than profile descriptions?
Posted: 7/19/2009 5:22:22 AM | Intricate....I agree with the no time for 3 to 6 hours....thats crazy right now for me. It also made me laugh when I read that. OP, I guess if everyone reads my posts I'm in trouble because I'm usually a smartypants.... But thats the way I am for real. I just like to pick on folks. But I'm harmless. maybe | |
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| Latest 5 Posts are more important than profile descriptions?
Posted: 7/19/2009 6:05:41 AM | | Hmmm...interesting question. I think most people start out with good intentions in replying. Often however, if the OP does not get the answer they want they begin getting "harsh" and people resond back the same way. Also, people are BRAVER behind a computer. Their true personalities are what is seen and heard in person rather than the nameless faceless jerk they appear to be while online. | |
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| Latest 5 Posts are more important than profile descriptions?
Posted: 7/19/2009 6:31:22 AM | If the way I express myself in these forums scare readers off, I couldn't care less.
I have had people in the past email me in reference to my last 5 forum posts, and even once had some clown who didn't even post in the forums try to have some online battle with me just because he didn't agree with one of my forum post.
Then you have the others who send in private emails, trying to continue their nonsense from there.
I like how the last forum posts are attached to profiles. | |
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| Latest 5 Posts are more important than profile descriptions?
Posted: 7/19/2009 6:42:18 AM | what you're describing is really no different than the process of meeting somebody IRL. some people can talk the talk but they can't walk the walk. some people have bad days and misunderstandings. some people come right out and lie just for the sake of getting a relationship because they think it's something to "get", like an ipod, and hey this the internet and what's not to get, or at least a nice piece of ass to help pass the time. and some people have conflated ideas about their own personal qualities because they never bothered to look in the mirror long enough to do anything beyond adjusting their hair. some people are just as sarcastic IRL as they are on their profiles. my last 5 posts no doubt reveal that i'm a sheep in wolf's clothing. or worse. caveat lector.
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| Latest 5 Posts are more important than profile descriptions?
Posted: 7/19/2009 6:43:24 AM | | It really makes me wonder how often a person's posts come back to haunt them. Sometimes a member's true nature will come out in their posts. Their profile can look pretty good,and then some of their forum posts reveal a completely different personality. | |
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