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 forumnite
Joined: 5/8/2009
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Discussing men over a bottle of wine with a few friends, we came to the conclusion that as youths, we don't remember men being so sexually perverted.

Getting as much as they can with as many women they could yes, but geesh...the kinds of things I am hearing that men our age are doing with their bodies and wanting to do things with other women that far surpass kinky and just go straight into nasty and gross really compelled me to write this and ask the ones who can answer.....


So, guys...what in the world is happening to you???

 totoman
Joined: 12/12/2008
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Posted: 7/20/2009 12:21:28 PM
I don't think I've gotten any less or worse. I'm pretty much the same person as before. I could speculate and say it is porn. Being an intermittent viewer myself, I suspect guys are viewing crap and they are getting aroused from different, lewd things and then they want to turn this into action for themselves. I realize this is up for debate and that porn has different impacts on different people but from a "common sense" point of view I think it does come into play. That's my two cents.
 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
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Posted: 7/20/2009 12:22:09 PM

So, guys...what in the world is happening to you???

Experience made us aware that uninhibited women really exist and we want them.
 forumnite
Joined: 5/8/2009
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Posted: 7/20/2009 12:55:16 PM
I am not talking about "uninhibited activity" that is a little or even alot on the kinky side which admittedly, can be fun...I am talking about behavior that makes we women think you guys have lost it mentally and not want anything to do with you once you have revealed your sexual grossness.

For example my g/f's last guy who wanted her to watch him screw himself with an aparatus suctioned to a wall.....all outward appearances, he seemed normal.....age 42

I have personally been with men whose anal play desires did not seem normal and when I left...shivers down my spine were a sure sign I would not be returning. Don't get me wrong. I understand the many many erotic zones that are involved with anal play and don't mind exploring but the requests have become so demented it is almost unbelievable.

So, this is not about uninhibited desires it is about unsavory acts in and out of the bedroom that are major turn offs for us women.
 Consigliori
Joined: 1/7/2008
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Posted: 7/20/2009 1:03:11 PM
Experience made us aware that uninhibited women really exist and we want them - and that we aren't so interested in women with closed minds.
 vampiresandwerewolvesohmy
Joined: 8/22/2008
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Posted: 7/20/2009 1:03:49 PM

Experience made us aware that uninhibited women really exist and we want them.


A valid point you make!
 m_church
Joined: 11/8/2007
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Posted: 7/20/2009 1:23:47 PM

So, guys...what in the world is happening to you???

Simple...

They've done everything else... with everyone else... so now they look for new things to keep them stimulated...
 forumnite
Joined: 5/8/2009
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Posted: 7/20/2009 1:30:38 PM
Hmmm...from the responses I guess I am not making my point clear?

I am not talking about unihibited sexual play. I AM talking about men who at an older age seem to get sexually demented.

I read where a guy once said there were certan sexual things he wouldn't ask of the woman he was married to because he loved and respected her too much but there were plenty of women out there where he could do "these" things with.

I am talking about "these" demented acts not the enjoyable kinky ....free wheeling fun sex...I get that and am fully prepared to help out and enjoy myself.
 Gangster Kitten
Joined: 4/3/2008
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Posted: 7/20/2009 1:34:26 PM

I am not talking about unihibited sexual play. I AM talking about men who at an older age seem to get sexually demented.


Just what the HELL are you talking about? What quantifies as being sexually demented?

Your example is insufficient for anything. You mean like, openly perverted? I dont think age has anything to do with that.
 forumnite
Joined: 5/8/2009
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Posted: 7/20/2009 1:52:19 PM
oh you need more examples?

How bout wanting to fuq in the azz then wanting you to lick off the anal excrement.

What about wanting a woman to open her mouth while he pisses and expecting her to drink it and then requesting she do the same thing to him.

Is asking one of my girlfriends to let his dog lick her while he watches not demented to you?

These are just some of the request made from men that I heard. A few of the request, I can't even make myself type in this forum.

When I was growing up...sex was not demented. Today...the requests seems to be getting more and more outrageous where as just plain kinky is now the norm.
 purrtypurr
Joined: 11/19/2008
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Posted: 7/20/2009 2:40:50 PM
I guess pornography has affected men and has desensitized them to the point where they are objectifying anything to keep them stimulated. It just escalates into more extreme and excessive interest such as what you mentioned above. You can blame the internet on this...it's all over........due to technology....... You can see it in all ethnicities, socioeconomic and religious males. Sex has become about degradation instead of romance............Unless these men become tied to a higher power they will continue to backslide and relationships will continue to disintegrate.....






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 Shell225
Joined: 1/23/2008
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Posted: 7/20/2009 2:47:29 PM
Forumnite, yup those examples come under my 'no thankyou' umbrella.

I have never met anyone who has wanted to experience those types of things, so I really cant comment. In my experience I've found that older men are the exact same as younger men. Some are into wild fetish kinky sex, some are into kinky sex, some are experimental and some are not.

If the only guys I was meeting were into things that I though were 'demented' I would try a new way or place to meet guys.
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
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Posted: 7/20/2009 2:50:19 PM
What you call perversion others would call experience.

And as you age, you realize that women like sex as much as men and that they don't just want to cuddle and hug, but they want to be fvcked their brains out. They want it from the back, spread eagle, tight, soft, fast and deep. You name it.
 forumnite
Joined: 5/8/2009
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Posted: 7/20/2009 2:59:29 PM
purrtypurr

that is pretty much what we rested our case on...I agree that "Sex has become about degradation instead of romance"

Porn didn't even used to be as bad as it is today. I enj0y watching the older stuff filmed on 35MM film and had a story line but most of this stuff today...I can't even watch it...it makes me sick.

To the poster above....thankfully, I have only met a few like this since I have been single and they were outside of on-line dating. Most of what I hear come from my friends. It was just one of the subjects that came up but when it did...all of the women were just foaming and fuming about it. I had no idea that so many men our age are so demented....strange thing is....these are men in powerful positions, religious men, lawmen, political men and business men.

I would almost understand it coming from someone with an idol mind...nothing better to think about...ya know..the whole devils workshop theory.
 totoman
Joined: 12/12/2008
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Posted: 7/20/2009 3:06:32 PM
I'm in agreement with purrtypurr on this one and I'm no prude. As with anything, it's up to the couple but if a woman is being reduced to "what can you do for me in the bedroom and if you can't give it to me then I'll go somewhere else" or "I'm bored so I need to introduce weirder shit (could be literally)" then perhaps it's time to step back and honestly assess yourself as a man about what it is you want out of life besides just getting your rocks off.
 DemonDingleBerry
Joined: 6/7/2009
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Posted: 7/20/2009 3:20:13 PM

what in the world is happening to you???

As people get older they are exposed to different people. Different views. Different ideas.
People tend to become more mobile and have more interaction with different people.
This mixes with past behavior and desires.

All the "demented" sex acts can be broken down to more simple things. Such as dominance, submissiveness, control, physical pleasure, etc.. There are different drivers than simple physical gratification. Sex (despite what so many seem to spout on the forums) is never solely about physical gratification. (Better stick an IMO in there to be safe)

So as people get older they take the simple things, make them complex, learn and associate certain things with them, then make them seemingly simple again and voila "demented" behavior.

So

what in the world is happening to you???

We are learning who best to be, perhaps who we want to be, from interaction with everyone else. Then we try and force the simple "what I want" through that and you end up seeing something else.

Or more simply nature and nurture aren't two separate absolutes. They interact.
 sunlover1967
Joined: 10/19/2008
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Posted: 7/20/2009 3:40:00 PM
Blame everything on PORN.. long live Dirk Diggler..my fav is Taylor Hayes
 ketch
Joined: 8/24/2006
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Posted: 7/20/2009 3:41:51 PM
The internet, a great source for new ideas.

That and learning from the younger generation

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 theoddestspot
Joined: 1/16/2008
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Posted: 7/20/2009 3:53:04 PM
I dont think we become more perverted, but comfortable with who and what we are. with maturity comes confidence in ones self as well as knowing yourself.

so no we dont get more kinky; we were always that way, but had more hang ups in sharing our dirty kinky secrets ;)
 Pitch Blease
Joined: 3/4/2009
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Posted: 7/20/2009 3:57:47 PM
I don't think anything is demented if it's between consenting adults. If someone doesn't want to do something, they can always say no. Communication and all tha jazz.

I find the more money a guy has, the more kinky he is. Money takes kink to a whole new level. They just don't talk about it.

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And are you aware that Lesbians (and some straights) don't see anything unusual having oral sex when one or both partners is having her period? If you are going to be liberal and defend someones rights, you should know what practices YOU are approving. Myself? I feel whatever two consenting adults do is their business


So giving/receiving oral while a woman has her period is "demented" to you? But at the end of what I quoted, you say "whatever consenting adults do is their business". Me guesses you aren't as "liberal" as you say. You may not participate in whatever position/act/etc, but it doesn't mean it's demented. Stick to missionary and maybe your partner will kink out and give you a bj on your birthday this year.
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
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Posted: 7/20/2009 3:57:56 PM
bless their little hearts I say!!

I love the fact that men & women alike have become more open minded and comfortable enough to express their likes and dislikes.
 ted61
Joined: 2/12/2009
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Posted: 7/20/2009 3:58:47 PM
I find it amusing that a fair amout of women are appalled about some sexual play and sex acts and call them"disgusting." I bet these are the SAME women who are all for gay and lesbian rights. Are you aware that a common gay sex practice called "scat" is where the men fist each others rectums and spread shit all over themselves? And are you aware that Lesbians (and some straights) don't see anything unusual having oral sex when one or both partners is having her period? If you are going to be liberal and defend someones rights, you should know what practices YOU are approving. Myself? I feel whatever two consenting adults do is their business. But I am aware of what goes on behind closed doors.
 HarDayKnight
Joined: 12/27/2007
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Posted: 7/20/2009 4:08:12 PM
I'm glad OP finally gave some examples of what she feels is demented. I was starting to worry she was a stuck up prude.

I can agree with those examples being disgusting and extreme, but there are young people who are into that crap , too. (No pun intended.) People like to blame it on porn, and while I can understand how seeing other people do something might make someone feel it's OK to do it themself... I don't see someone, who isn't predisposed to a certain act of such deviance, being turned on by it just because they saw it in a porno.
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
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Posted: 7/20/2009 4:18:39 PM
I think you are overly obsessed with other's anal activities. Come on... two threads about it on the first page??? Let it go already... if you don't like it or understand it it doesn't make those that do gay or perverted.
 warmhanded
Joined: 12/30/2008
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Posted: 7/20/2009 4:27:39 PM
It'a called gaining experience.

When I was small I could only count to ten. Now I can count to twelveteen.

When I was small I knew my ABC's. Now I know the difference between pique and peek and peak.

Please tell us what you consider nasty? Some people here think that a BJ or eating out is nasty.

Okay...now I've read some more posts...some of your examples I would call nasty...the dog licking and pissing in the mouth. However...age has nada to do with it. Yaou are speaking from experience dealing with people in your age bracket. Young people do these things too.
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