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 Tim61
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Re : Curisoty 27 thread about giving her Man Good Fellatio.

I also need some help on giving Cunninlingus. How do I make a woman really turned on from going down on her, I thought I knew what I was doing, and thought what I was doing was right.? I love giving her oral, when she wants me to, But........................ there is always a BUT !!! isn't there ha ha My girlfriend doesn't seem to be into it as much as I am, she hardly moans, to give me any indication, that what ever im doing with my tongue im obviously not doing a good job or not ? I want to get her to reah an orgasm, while performing on her, is this possible ? What kind of things do women Prefer ? I understand that all girls are different, but I need some scenerios and different opinions please and experiences that made you exclaim "WOW" and guys with more experience, of giving your woman good oral to reach orgam would be very great full. Im not a complete novice, I have found her G-spot at least, and nearly got her off while playing with it.

Tim
 one tall chick
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Posted: 7/21/2009 9:54:49 PM
wow..you copied it almost word for word!
 lovemesomemen
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Posted: 7/21/2009 9:54:55 PM
Ask HER what SHE likes.


How do you find the g-spot and nearly get her off?

Oy. DAVE! Where are you?
 DAVE632
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Posted: 7/21/2009 10:51:25 PM
OK, you're 48 and don't know what feels good for a woman when performing oral sex on her.

I'm not sure whether I should say something belittling or congratulate you on at least TRYING.


I have found her G-spot at least, and nearly got her off while playing with it.


Dude, read this thread: http://forum.literotica.com:81/showthread.php?t=70892

You can learn to hit her GSPOT EVERY time and combined with a good tongue lashing (oral) you can drive her insane - EVERY NIGHT. Most women will tell you that if their lover can combine a oral stimulated clitoral orgasm WITH a finger induced G-GASMS that there is NOTHING as intense. NOTHING!!!


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I don't usually quote other people. If they want to input they can but there was another ORAL thread in here a while back and the answer was so damn good I copied it out and will drop it in below. I'm not sure who did it but you can tell this guy is not only a good writer - if ya follow. Please, whom ever wrote this claim it if you see it and thanks again. You said what I WANTED to say but did it quicker and much better!


GREAT ORAL ADVICE

I think it an exercise in futility for me to think I can tell you or teach you (well, with words only) how to eat ****. I can share with you my experience and what I have found works for me, and you are free to adopt any of my techniques or experiment and see what works. But I cannot write the definitive "''how to eat **** like a champ by following these simple steps."

The only general guideline I offer is that there is no right or wrong way to eat ****. It is my experience that each woman is very different in her preferences and anatomy, and the effort you put into oral sex for your lady is really the time and diligence you put into it to find out what works—and what does not.

Being able to openly talk to your woman before, during and after the grand event is very helpful, but sometimes they are not your best guide either from shyness or inexperience.

I think the right attitude is the best skill you can possess in eating ****. First, see this as a selfless act designed to bring pleasure to your woman. Do your job right, and the payback can be pleasure of untold proportions. Remember, this is not just a warm up for you to f*ck her (except when it is) or something that you do because it is expected. You need to have the mind set that you are going to do whatever it takes to provide her a high quality orgasm using only your mouth, tongue and maybe fingers. And you do this because...well... it is just f*cking hot for you, too.

In short, I believe the right mind set is something along the lines of "Eating **** is its own reward."

Second, you have to really love the **** in its entirety. The way it looks, smells and tastes as well as feels when you are f*cking. Each woman has a different smell and taste. Some have a heavy scent and taste, others are light. It doesn't matter as they have as much control over this as you do the size of your**** The point is you need to "take it as it comes" (to pardon the pun) and remember that ALL **** is amazing. Amazing not only for the pleasure it can afford you as a means of intercourse, but in its very existence. The **** is the center of a woman's sexuality, but not the single place where it resides. However, each woman's **** is a marvel to behold and something to treasure and that attitude makes it easy to become acknowledged as a master of your skill.

We all have a preference in the smell and taste. But again, other than simple hygiene, your woman has zero control over any of that. Let her know you adore how she smells, how she tastes and how beautiful you think her **** looks. Hopefully a genuine sense of awe is your mind set. I let her know I want her to "mark" me with her juices, that I want her smell on my face, fingers, neck and**** I will tell her I really need her to abandon herself to my mouth and dance on the tip of my tongue in her erotic dance of pleasure. To use the common vernacular, I urge you to let her know you "get it."

As for the mechanics, there really is no right or wrong way—there is just what works for her. There is no one secret, special technique that, once understood and mastered, will make you THE **** eating champ for all women. However, there are techniques that work for her and that can make you HER world champion **** eater. And the joy is in the journey and discovery. Truly, a labor love.

Ok, here is how I do it, and take from it what ever you wish. I begin by whispering in her ear that I simply must taste her—that my need to go down on her is strong. Then I take a bit of time to see what I have to work with. Is she dripping wet in urgent need of release? Is she not wet at all and needing the proper time and attention to coax an orgasm out of her?

I begin by just lightly licking the entire ****. I explore lightly with my tongue, and savior her taste. I take a few very deep breaths to let her know I like what I have found—that simple act alone, letting her hear you breathing her in deeply and robustly, is a great way to set the stage. Then I pay attention to her clit. Does she have a huge clit that is readily exposed? Does she have small clit that is hidden deeply behind the folds of her hood? I find the location and condition of her clit, but leave it alone for the time being. I lick her **** from stem to stern repeatedly, gently suck her **** into my mouth, and trace the lines of her **** lips with the tip of my tongue. I pay attention to how she reacts, and if find something that is really working, I keep doing that until it is time to move on to something else.

That something else is usually the beginning stages of eating her. I never directly stimulate her clit, unless I know this is what works for her. Some women need direct and continual clit stimulation at the outset, but my experience is that most do not. Using the first third of my tongue, I lap the top third of her **** and alternate in sort of lightly tracing her clit or the hood and her **** lips.

I also make a point to gently use the tip of my finger to trace and rub the lips, usually taking the time to tell her something hot and nasty, or sweet and loving. But I will for sure tell her that I love the way she smells and tastes—and I tell her that every time.

A note; some women are super sensitive at first and cannot tolerate any firm stimulation of the clit—these are women who, in my mind, I need to "work up" to the point of tolerating/needing firm clit stimulation. Other women want a firm tongue lashing of their clit, and from the beginning are in desperate need of rapid and hard attention from my tongue. Pay attention because you want to get this right.

Once she is good and wet from her own juices and my saliva, I will pick up the pace of my lapping and licking and increase the pressure on her clit—one way to look at this is taking the intensity of my actions up a notch while paying close attention that I am not over or under stimulating.

Then I stick one of my own fingers in my mouth and wet it in preparation of inserting it into her ****. It is my experience that nothing can be more of a momentary "buzz kill" for a woman than the sudden introduction of a dry finger. Another good way to do this is to let her suck and wet a finger or two for you. Then I go back to actively eating her and gently slip a finger inside her.

My experience also tells me that finger f*cking is not the best use of my digit. Rather, I crook my finger and find the ridged area just inside her on the top. Now, find a rhythm with your tongue on her clit and gently tap and rub that ridged area—which I believe is commonly called the "G spot." Then slip a second finger into her and use both finger tips to tap and rub the ridges. And another note, some women's ridges are big and pronounced, other are small and delicate. But notice they all seem to swell and become more pronounced as they build towards orgasm. The swelling and pronouncement of her ridges will happen in direct proportion to her wetness. And it is just hot to feel it happen on your fingertips.

At this point I know I need to be focused but flexible. She might buck and thrash with increasing intensity as she builds. She might push my face into her ****, or hold my head and grind her hips into my face, or wrap her feet around my upper torso. But then she might also simply lay very passively, opening her legs wide to give you all the access I could hope for and wail and scream...or whisper and make her small noises of pleasure. I just roll with what happens, but when I since she is getting close I will urge her to cum on my tongue.

I find a rhythm and a place on or near her clit that is working and keep going. The time has passed for changing it up or exploration. This is what I call the "active **** eating stage." At this point I am working towards completion, using my tongue and fingers and staying focused. I try to position my nose such that I can breathe; another big buzz killer is breaking the rhythm to gasp for breath.

A woman once told me that when she came with me licking her clit AND rubbing her G spot it felt like an "internal and external orgasm, while it just feels external and more intense when you use only your tongue." She did not place a value judgment on one method or type of orgasm over the other. But she did best vocalize the difference in a way I could grasp. By the way, she had this really nice, full natural blond bush. She barely had any taste or smell, and she gushed wetness even when slightly aroused. She also had a G spot that was impossible to miss. She was a wailing, screaming, head-thumping, grind-and-thrash-hard-into-your-face woman that would literally scream "F*ck, you ROCK" right before I sent her over the edged by eating her. Her blond **** was tight, hot...

But I digress.

Anyway, discuss it with your woman. Give her both types and see what thinks of each climax and if she feels a difference.

My orgasm comes in one flavor. I cum hard. I do not think men, or at least most men, can say one cum feels much different from the other. At least physically, anyway. However, I will be the first to admit I might be wrong, and I have not discussed this with other men. But the male orgasm, I think, differs only by very slight degrees of pleasure either way of "great."

But my experience is that this is not the case for women. They can have any number of different types of orgasms; hard to the point of violent, or soft and sweet. They can arrive as mind blowing climaxes that leave 'em limp or a little shudder from one that is just sufficient to take the edge off. I have found I cannot control the type or the intensity of her climax as there are many other factors that come into play that are usually outside my abilities. The point is, I can make a woman cum (99 times out of a 100) by eating her ****, but the quality of her climax is not a sure thing I can replicate for her time and time again. However, I do like the sense of power that comes with a challenge wherein I am have to coax an orgasm out of a lady when I eat her, and succeed.

That said, I do know I can ruin it for her at the end with bad mechanics. There is providing too much stimulation or licking/fingering "too hard" that can f*ck up a climax. Or breaking the rhythm by losing her sweet spot (clit) just as she goes over the edge and the resulting orgasm is one of less intensity. Or losing the rhythm too many times and turning her into a frustrated, overly sensitized woman who can't go over the edge. Yep, check the box, I have done all of that. At times I have been the worst **** eater known to woman. And those failures have made me much, much better at the job.

Perhaps one technique to experiment with is the "Butterfly." In this, you eat her **** and use the index and middle finger to tap her G-spot. The ring finger has no job, so you keep it curled in. Use the tip of your little finger to gently probe her anal opening. You need not penetrate her ass (unless she grooves on such a thing) but rather just toy with her little rosebud and give her ass a little play. You might be amazed at the reaction you get. My experience is I at least get a shy little admission that "how you did that was hot."

I believe the cool down is important to the entire experience. I pay attention and let her body will tell me when to stop licking her clit. I will keep eating **** until I receive some sign of "enough!" It can be the words "stop," or a tightened body that goes slack, legs and arms unclenching my head and hips not being wildly pounded into my face. It can be having your head pushed away. When it is over, I will very gently kiss the area around her ****, her inner thighs, her tummy...just light little kisses, while taking an occasional deep breath to let her know I continue to adore her scent. I once had a lover whose every nerve was on edge after she came that even a little kiss on her inner thigh made her jerk with little jolts of pain. But I linger in the area until they come back down...come back to me.
 77Angela
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Posted: 7/21/2009 11:02:11 PM
This needs to be handed out to everyone, everywhere!!!!
 Bonspeed
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Posted: 7/21/2009 11:17:29 PM
I've never even read a guide and I've never had any problems with it. What would we do without the internet....
 dantos
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Posted: 7/22/2009 1:21:15 AM
1. pay attention to what she says
2. pay attention to how she responds to what you try
Rinse and repeat. Every girl is different. There are no "good lovers" per se, just people who are good together and people who learn quick.
 totoman
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Posted: 7/22/2009 1:36:08 AM
I don't get it. Why in the hell would you come to an internet forum seeking advice on how to give quality oral sex to your partner when you can simply ask her? She's going to know her body better than any of these internet clowns on this site (including me). I think most women just want to be able to communicate to you what they want and for you to listen to them without getting your fragile ego bruised. The best way to feel good about what you are doing is listen to her and do what she says.
 totoman
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Posted: 7/22/2009 1:43:11 AM
And Dantos is spot on. I couldn't agree more.
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Posted: 7/22/2009 2:06:08 AM
Your efforts are appreciated, Im sure. Way to go!! I think sometimes women try to underestimate the efforts of the guy because they are not sure about the relationship. If they are secure in the relationship, they will become more responsive.
Don't stop making the effort. Kudos
 Incuubus2113
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Posted: 7/22/2009 2:12:31 AM
Alright Tim.

The clitoris is just a small penis for all itents and purposes in this discussion.

Think about it. It gets hard. When it gets hard, you're doing something good, usually. When it gets hard, it also begins to get more sensetive.

Now, I used to think my path to the finish line lay in my ability to somehow start my mouth up like a Huskvarna clit massager or something.

Don't have to. I can't tell you all the tongue exercises I used to do thinking they were necessary. They weren't.

So what do you do with that little penis? What would you do to your own if you could reach it? You'd suck it, right? That's what you do here. Suck the clit in and out of your mouth. Move up and down on it with it being sucked into your mouth. No whirlwind tongue action, just some clit-head.

There is a LOT more to it, but this info can change the whole game for a guy.
 namrael
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Posted: 7/22/2009 6:50:25 AM

What kind of things do women Prefer ? I understand that all girls are different,


Well, yeah. There's no ". . . but" on that one. All women are different and enjoy different things. The person who knows what your girlfriend likes during cunnilingus is your girlfriend. Have you talked to *her* about this?

"I love going down on you, and I want to make it the best experience possible for you. I feel like I'm not getting enough feedback from you right now to do my best and bring you to orgasm that way. Would be be willing to be more vocal for me to help me learn what you like?"

This will be complicated if she doesn't actually *know* what she likes, in which case, she may need to spend some time masturbating to figure out in general what works for her. You two can also spend some quality time exploring any different sort of stimulation you can think of while she lets you know what feels good.

Be aware that not all of us come from oral sex, so make sure you're not pressuring her to come. Good luck!
 Hooyahhh
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Posted: 7/22/2009 7:32:40 AM
Here we go...Another poor soul wanting sexual advice from US...ASK YOUR PARTNER!!! you arent doing us, you are doing that person!!!! Jesus. I swear its attention seeking at times..
 RainbowValley
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Posted: 7/22/2009 7:51:55 AM
just use your imagination... cunninlingus is easy...just lick and kiss around the vaginal area paying attention to all the area not just the clit/labia... also use a finger at the same time inside her....
 HarDayKnight
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Posted: 7/22/2009 7:58:33 AM

Please, whom ever wrote this claim it if you see it and thanks again.



Guilty as charged... I try to repost it every so often. Thanks for saving me the effort... And you're welcome.


http://forums.plentyoffish.com/6817244datingPostpage7.aspx
 hellgremlin
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Posted: 7/22/2009 8:02:17 AM
Step 1: Take a deep breath.
Step 2: Execute furburger faceplant.
Step 3: FRBLBRPTBRPPTBLRPPRAPPRRRTBLATBFFPTFTFT.
Step 4: Come back for air, go to step 1.
 curiosity_27
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Posted: 7/22/2009 8:46:25 AM

Re : Curisoty 27 thread about giving her Man Good Fellatio.


It's curiosity_27 ;P

I will tell you what turns me on ......

I love it when a guy starts off slow, gently flicking my clit with his tongue key words gentle and slowly; and then uses his hands rubbing my clit SLOWLY while gliding his tongue up towards my clit over and over and over. Proceeding with tongue flicking that can be a little faster with some finger penetration as well. I like it when a guy is tender with it and is looking for results, he will usually get them if he continues doing it nice and slow with fast action only with the tip of his tongue on my clit.... would send me over the edge, and most importantly NO BITING HARD OR BEING ROUGH WITH YOUR MOUTH it's not a plate of ribs FECK and that will just get you kicked out of my bed ;p

[I have to keep the emphasis on slowly and gentle for a reason ]
 PeggyI
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Posted: 7/22/2009 10:31:24 AM
First thing to remember is that if she is shy or nervous, or not used to having an orgasm with another person, it can be more difficult for her to get into it. And it can take a while for her to relax enough to enjoy it. Just don't give up.

In the meantime do a little research. This also includes a link to "advanced" oral.

http://sexuality.about.com/od/oralsex/ht/cunnilingus.htm


Good luck to both of you.
 deborah815
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Posted: 7/22/2009 12:06:13 PM
Enroll in a muff diving course.
 maltshop
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Posted: 7/22/2009 1:33:46 PM
I think DAVE632 has it. Nothing more to say.
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Posted: 7/22/2009 8:04:53 PM
Don't forget about the don'ts:
Don't divebomb her crotch - the flirting, the sweettalk, & the kissing & hugging are still important Don't suck her the same way you suck skin like for giving a hicky. It hurst like hell. You'll blow all the fuses and shut everything down. Absolutely no teeth - hopefully you know that much already.
And please, please, please no nagging. Don't stop every 10 seconds to ask her if she's done yet or if she's cumming soon or how much longer she thinks she'll need. God is that annnoying. You're done when she says you're done. But if you need a break, try using your nose for a while. Goofy - but if you're slick enough about it (and she's feeling good) she won't even notice.
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Posted: 7/22/2009 8:25:34 PM
Wow, Dave you nailed it.

Oral is great to give and recieve before the main course. Most women can orgasm multiple times with oral alone. Read and re-read Dave's response guys and then do it to your partner and ask for her imput. She will let you know with her body language. Orgasms are hard to miss no matter how mild. Focus and pay attention to her cues, they will be there.

If you are over 40 (yes, I have unfortunately experienced this), take a quick course by following Dave's advice. It's spot on....ALL pun intended...lmao
 RickyGR
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Posted: 12/25/2009 2:07:00 PM
Try to just place your tongue on her clit and have her move her hips to masturbate with your tongue. She can tell you harder or softer. That way you'll learn how she wants to be licked and you can take over from there.
 Wibnix
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Posted: 12/25/2009 3:53:41 PM
Do you even know where her clit is??
 Big_fun_wave
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Posted: 7/16/2010 2:48:58 PM
Some people just don't get aroused by receiving oral sex. Usually you can get a good idea by watching some porn (lol). However, It never seems to fail for me to just gently lick the clit non stop for a while. And then insert a finger or two and gently bang away
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