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Posted: 7/22/2009 11:08:38 AM | Profiles: sometimes women complain that men's profiles don't have any info. Men complain some of the info in women's profiles is meaningless.
Men write their profiles according to how men think. I would assume women write their profiles of how women think. The two profile types, often, read and provide different info.
"IF" this is true should men use women's profiles as a "template"? Along this same line should women write profiles using men's profiles as a "template"?
This probably sounds odd but if one gender gives answers and info in the form that appeases the other would it work by listing information in the format that the other gender can digest? I ask because there are so many complaints from both genders about profiles talking alot and saying nothing. Inquiring minds want to know.  | |
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| Approach to writing profiles
Posted: 7/22/2009 11:21:46 AM | | I think people should just be themselves. If you change your usual writing style to appeal to the other sex, will you be able to change your usual conversational style once you meet? | |
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| Approach to writing profiles
Posted: 7/22/2009 11:34:40 AM | | When one applies for a job you provide the information in a way that catches their attention. This doesn't mean changing of personality but styling the info to appeal to a different gender type. | |
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Posted: 7/22/2009 11:42:40 AM | | You're probably right that we should take each other's communication styles into account. The problem is that most women don't know how to communicate the way men do and vice versa. Hence, the age old problem of "connecting". A template is a good idea, maybe that's a business venture for you... Taking a woman's profile and "Manning" it up so that it's in a good format for male communication... Just a thought... | |
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Posted: 7/22/2009 11:43:49 AM | I think there's a lot around here who over-analyze far too much.
You should just be who you are, not who you THINK someone else wants you to be.
I say what's on my mind on my profile and it's who I am.
I don't take the approach, "hmmm, I wonder what THIS person would like me to say"....you know what I mean....
You can' t please everyone. | |
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Posted: 7/22/2009 11:50:47 AM |
Along this same line should women write profiles using men's profiles as a "template"?
Holy crap!! That would mean I'd have a profile that reads as follows.....
Hi, I'm XXXXX. If there's anything you want to know just ask. What? My profile's too short... how long do they want it to be.... ok is this enough.... no? .,.,.,.,.,. ,.,..,. ,.,.,. ,.,.,. ,.,. ,. ,.,.,.,.,.,., .,.,.,.,.,.,.,., .,.,.,.,.,.,.,.,., .,.,.,.,.,.,.,., .,.,.,.,.,.,.,.,.,.,.,.,.,.
How about now? | |
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Posted: 7/22/2009 11:55:49 AM | You make an awesome point. Good observation. I think it would either work, or act as kind of a "mirror", whereby people are forced to look at themselves and how they come across to others. It might even be creepy. I could only pull it off if I was deliberately sarcastic. I'll admit, the only profiles that attract me are the ones where women use humor, don't take themselves too seriously, and aren't demanding.
Great food for thought. | |
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Posted: 7/22/2009 12:51:05 PM | Profiles are like advertisements, not all that is said is believeable. Take an ad for a coffee company that bills their product as "half caff". Does anyone really believe that there is exactly half the caffeine of normal coffee? No not really, but "half caff" sounds better then "less caff". Its a marketing ploy.
How about the get rich quick infomercials, that have supposed users of their product, living wildly lavish lifestyles due to product use. Its ironic, that at that very same time, in extremely small writing at the bottom of the screen, it says that these results are not typical and results will vary. Again its marketing. If they had some dude who bought the product and failed, people wouldnt buy it.
Profiles have to be believeable to the reader. It cant be made up of stuff they think others want to hear. It cant be made up of something that screams "Ill be puzzy whipped within 5 minutes of knowing you" like some of the "nice guys' try to do.
For it to be successful, it must give the reader a clear positive mental picture of who you are. | |
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Posted: 7/22/2009 1:40:35 PM | Interesting responses. By no means am I suggesting changing who I am or try to impress another gender. Men and women can hear the same story read and come away with differing ideas. When marketing to men commercials are worded differently than when marketing to women. I probably worded this idea in the way a male thinks and the women who've responded had a negative response.
So far two of the three female responses were negative (notice I didn't say wrong). Two of the three male responses were positive and one seemed to be neutral. Definitely a marketing problem of HOW this idea was worded. I, being of the male persuasion, worded it with my male mind and it appeals to men. | |
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| Approach to writing profiles
Posted: 7/22/2009 1:43:56 PM | I think everyone should start writing their profiles with wingdings, and a sparkley magic marker, or a craving knife, depending on mood and attitude | |
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Posted: 7/31/2009 1:03:13 AM | Darn good idea---Think I'll use a number 2 with a big eraser
Monday ---- I'm an 
Tuesday -----I'm a
Wednesday--I'm 
Thursday----I'm 
Friday -------I'm 
Saturday ----I'm 
Sunday------I'm 
Well women have the right to change our mind
Come to think of it---I rather read the forums--so the heck with it
Let it stand or fall | |
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Posted: 8/2/2009 11:45:00 PM | David : you are still doing great. Stay yourself.
If you change you won't have that " special something "
you have to offer when love finds you. | |
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Posted: 8/3/2009 12:39:04 AM | Ha, ha! Good....maybe I should change my profile to:
I'm not sure what to say since I don't like to talk about myself...here goes nothing. I like to hunt, fish, ride my harley and watch sports (so be prepared to be alone a lot). I like cuddling with my honey at home (so don't expect to go on the town and have me pay.) I'm a good kisser and romantic (so you know I like sex early and often). I know how to treat a man and keep him happy (sex and a steak). Please take good care of yourself because I work out at the gym 2 hours a day, 7 days a week and don't want any fat lazy slobs writing me. Send me a photo of yourself against a 6' ruler so I can be sure you aren't lying about your height. I can't wait for my perfect mate to write me because 99% of all men are lying, cheating, nagging, money grubbing trolls but I am an optimist holding out for that 1%!!!!
Okay...I'm exaggerating just a little bit. Hah, ha!!! Most profiles are interesting and sincere. (wink) | |
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| Approach to writing profiles
Posted: 8/3/2009 1:04:12 AM |
A template is a good idea,
might sound good in theory, but the major problem with profiles IMO is identical dullness, and a template would make them even more so. | |
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| Approach to writing profiles
Posted: 8/3/2009 6:26:12 AM | | Instead of writing the usual boring stuff, try writing a profile that is fun to read and that exhibits your personality. | |
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Posted: 8/3/2009 8:07:52 AM | ^^^^^^^
Da man has the answer! Try to find something interesting so that it is easier for a replier to use in his/her reply. | |
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| Approach to writing profiles
Posted: 8/3/2009 12:50:29 PM | But if we now take the other gender's profile as a template, we'd all be ending up with reversed profiles and would be even more confused than we are already. No?
The main problem is the lack of some base information. For example the interests give one a glimpse at things that one could to together, or not. Especially if you think you are interested, it is nice to have something to start a first contact with.
Inquiring minds will just Email and ask. | |
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