| A connection between personality and how one treats their pets??
Posted: 7/22/2009 12:54:30 PM | I searched and didn't find anything on this topic so hoping it isn't redundant.
Have you noticed a parallel between how a person treats the people in his lives and how he treats his pets? I have. It's been interesting to think of all of the people I know with pets and how they're interactions seem to corrolate with their social connections.
For example:
One man I know keeps his dogs on a chain out back and ONLY gives them attention when he is trying to impress someone with how big one dog is or how one dog cowers at his feet. He pretty much treats people close to him the same way. Only having interaction when he wants something to benefit himself and then he is demanding of it; much like he is with his dogs.
Another man I know treats his cat like she is a princess. He is constantly tending to her wants by letting her in/out and making sure her food is fresh, etc. This is an exact reflection on how he treats his loved ones; very attentive, giving and patient.
I know not all cases are as cut and dried as the examples I gave, but was wondering if anyone has noticed this pattern among people they know. Also, would you ever use the knowledge of the relationship between one and their pet(s) to make a generalized judgement of the person themselves? Unfortunately, I have and still do and most of the time, I am correct. | |
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| A connection between personality and how one treats their pets??
Posted: 7/22/2009 1:23:27 PM | I 100 % agree. I have seen people throw animals away, and the same people will show a complete disreguard to their family, kids, SO, friends and so forth. But the ones that show real care and compassion to their animals, have more compassion and abiity to relate to their people environment.
I was told by a long time ago, that if you treat your animals and kids the same. Food, shelter, water, companionship, discipline, show them good habits, reward them. Then they will all turn out to be well behaved creatures. Sometimes fiesty, and playful,with character and humor. But if you treat both with contempt, neglect, abuse and disdain then you will have mean nasty creatures that will turn on you in a second. | |
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| A connection between personality and how one treats their pets??
Posted: 7/22/2009 1:27:37 PM | It's true... one of the first things I do when I get a new girlfriend is show her where the newspapers are so she can go pee... put a chain around her neck and walk her around the block... She has to learn that she's not to pull on the chain...
Eventually, I will teach her how to fetch, and how to sit up and beg...
If she's well behaved she gets to sleep on my bed.  | |
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| A connection between personality and how one treats their pets??
Posted: 7/22/2009 1:34:47 PM | ^ Cute!
Not everyone. I treat animals way better than I treat people. I try to ignore people for the most part, but if they have a cute dog, I'm more open to talk to them. Then I'm disappointed when they open their mouth so I pet the dog and go.  | |
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| A connection between personality and how one treats their pets??
Posted: 7/22/2009 2:05:18 PM | | i think its a direct coorelation. have you seen how cute my poodle is?? LOL...she gets her bath, hair done (bikini cut), nails painted, bows and scarf..costs me $80 a pop...but i do it because i love her and she loves me back. Now if i could only find a woman that would appreciate me...lol.. | |
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| A connection between personality and how one treats their pets??
Posted: 7/22/2009 2:33:27 PM | I remember dating a girl that had a bunch of pets. I thought that's why she never invited me over. We dated for a few months. Then she told me her daughter's hamster died. I said "You have a daughter?"
but was wondering if anyone has noticed this pattern among people they know.
No. I've noticed some people tend to keep pets as surrogates for relationships.
I've noticed some people keep pets because they are fashionable like tattoos.
I've noticed some people keep pets as a means to have control over living organisms to feel like god, or a parent.
I've noticed some people keep pets because it makes their kids happy.
So to me 99% of the people that have pets simply see them as extensions of their own personality, or objects that represent themselves.
They may approach a relationship with a human being that way. They may be able to tell the difference between appropriate behavior with people vs with pets.
Also, would you ever use the knowledge of the relationship between one and their pet(s) to make a generalized judgement of the person themselves?
No. I just use a persons behavior towards me. Their pet doesn't have anything to do with it.
But I've known people that look to pet/owner relationships to find something to judge them by thereby sabotaging a relationship as easily as possible because they didn't really want one in the first place. | |
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| A connection between personality and how one treats their pets??
Posted: 7/22/2009 2:50:02 PM | Great question from your observations, and i concur.
Seems reasonable that the way one treats others...is definitely proportionally related to how they treat people. Its deeper than merely positing that a kid who tortures cats is likely to grow up to be sociopath...or the person that overly dotes on their ragdoll kitten as surogate "family" at the exclusion of their own kin, but that the "relational template" is probably globalized within. How i view myself....directly corroborates how i view others...God (or whatever existential solution you ascribe to)...as well as the the "created" (or natural) order of things, for instance, "the environment".
Respect, or the lack of it, to all (living) things(including YOU)...can be gauged better imho by observation, and not necessarily verbal attestation. Watch how your "date" interacts with the waiter/tress...and you will get a good glimpse of this....
if i only show "respect" to one who has power or authority over me...its not truly respect. | |
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| A connection between personality and how one treats their pets??
Posted: 7/22/2009 3:16:10 PM | So... most agree how one treats their pets is an indicator of how they treat people. Which makes me wonder. What does the fact that I dont have and dont want pets indicate about me?
Edit:Maybe it means Im a selfish bastard trying to get attention from someone elses post. Sorry PTgurl | |
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| A connection between personality and how one treats their pets??
Posted: 7/22/2009 3:19:19 PM | The guy who leaves his dogs chained up outside all the time and shows how they cower is a coward to me. How would he like to be in the bitter cold, rain, extreme heat, etc.
He's cruel and I would not date a guy like that.
As far as my male cat--he is my King, yet I won't treat a guy like I treat him. For him getting up at 4 am just to pour him gravy is no big deal. He won't leave me for another woman!
For me to get up and cook up biscuits and gravy at 4 am for someone who may wander off with some voluptuous hottie? Nope! Cat is more loyal. | |
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| A connection between personality and how one treats their pets??
Posted: 7/22/2009 3:25:53 PM | | The assumption is that we love our pets. If a person has pets but feels no emotional connection to them, they have a wire or two shorting out. If a person apparently loves their pets, yet abuses them, they have a twisted, vicious opinion of love. In either case, anyone who abuses animals is a sick, incomplete human being. They aren't worth the dirt under my shoes, | |
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| A connection between personality and how one treats their pets??
Posted: 7/22/2009 3:28:34 PM | Cruelty to animals is one characteristic of a sociopath. Not necessarily the whacko serial killer type sociopath, but your garden variety creep.
Landra2, absolutly right.
People who treat their pets in an abnormal way (starving, beating, ultra dominating and even the ones that dress/treat them overly as people or signing their home to them) is a clear sign of psychological or even psychiatric disorder. | |
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| A connection between personality and how one treats their pets??
Posted: 7/22/2009 3:29:58 PM | So farmers that have cattle and chickens and stuff will eat their loved ones i suppose one point or time... There destined to be canabals... I will make sure never to date a farmers daughter thank you for your insight... Jk
If someone cant treat there animal nicley they probally wont treat you any better, but I will tell you I wont compete with someones dog or cat for attention >.< | |
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| A connection between personality and how one treats their pets??
Posted: 7/22/2009 3:41:43 PM | Treatment of animals is a really good indicator of one's ability to show others empathy, respect, love, etc....and their own ability to receive and accept affection.
In my line of work (treating kids with mental illnesses), one of the things we do is look at their history of how they have treated family pets, other animals....living things that are defenseless. There are studies that show early animal abuse is an indicator of possible sociopathic tendencies, so the poster above who mentioned that....you're right! (I have no recollection of what studies these are....I just remember reading it)
I have noticed men I've dated in the past that keep their pets locked/chained outside 24 hours a day, only go out there to feed/water them. I always wondered, "what's the point in keeping a pet if you never spend time with it"??
I didn't realize it until this post, but I do pay attention to how someone treats their pets and relate this to how they would treat me. | |
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