What is your Time Perspective? Free Dating, Singles and Personals

What is your Time Perspective? Posted: 7/22/2009 10:23:19 PM
Most people will never pause to think about how their life is influenced by their time perspective, but I would ask that you do, now, give it a little consideration, because it can be very important to a persons ability to find happiness. When presented with a situation that demands a decision, what time perspective do you naturally take? Do you focus on the past, the present, or the future, and when you focus on the past, present, or the future, do you look toward the negative, or do you look toward the positive? Past oriented people will base their decisions upon memories of past experiences. These memories can be either negative or positive, but usually, people will focus first or solely on either one, or the other. People with a 'Past Negative' time perspective often limit their opportunities by assuming that what went wrong once will go wrong again. This can be devastating. Just imagine if you wrote off all redheads just because of one bad experience that you once had with a redhead! You could easily miss out on a lot of wonderful experiences and could, perhaps, even miss your perfect match, by holding such an erroneous and limiting belief. On the other hand, people with a 'Past Positive' perspective on time will base their decisions on positive or happy memories and experiences, with the assumption being that what was once good, should be good again. This assumption can be equally dangerous and limiting, and Past Positive people will often stay in or enter bad situations because those situations are associated in their minds with something that was positive. A good example would be someone looking for love in a seedy nightclub because that is where they found their first love. People who are focused on the present generally have an easier time with life than those who are past oriented. Their lives are often full, but just as often, their lives are not fulfilled. Once again, people tend to lean toward either the negative or the positive. 'Present Positive' people take a hedonistic approach to life. These are the people most likely to indulge in their temptations without proper regard for the consequences. 'Present Negative' people are fatalistic in their thinking. They believe that they have little or no control over their life and what happens in it. Essentially, they are just along for the ride, and whatever happens, happens, and there is nothing that they can do about it, one way, or the other. Future oriented people, both negative and positive, will often sacrifice the good things that they could have now, for the better things that they can envision. 'Future Positive' people are often workaholics. They devote their time and energy to their work, leaving their families and loved ones in the present, alone. Decisions for them are based on a simple calculation of potential benefits versus potential consequences. Although these people can be quite successful, they quite often miss out on the little joys of life. 'Future Negative' people have the strange to me belief that life doesn't really begin until it ends. They tend to base their decisions, not on what is or on what has been, but on the dogmatic teachings of religion, or on the wishful thinking of spiritualism. So, I ask again, which time perspective is most natural for you?