| | A "thank you," afterwards, how do I handle that?Page 1 of 2 (1, 2) | Hi All,
Been seeing this cutie and after the first night together, a few minutes after I flopped back on the bed gasping for breath, she cuddled into me and said, "thank you." WTF?
I have never heard that before. What am I supposed to say to that? "Thank you too," or "you're welcome," or what? I mean saying "thank you," is like I have handed her a glass of water or something.
Just when I thought I had heard everything.  | |
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| A thank you, afterwards, how do I handle that?
Posted: 7/23/2009 8:48:32 AM | Well I can't talk for her.. but when I've enjoyed someting and i've been pleased and I'm grateful for what I've shared than the English language has provided us with the word "thankyou" to express our gratitude.
I'd say she was grateful and happy. | |
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| A thank you, afterwards, how do I handle that?
Posted: 7/23/2009 8:50:12 AM | | Um..... She was saying it to be cute. You should have said your welcome back while looking right at her, and also said thank you. If she was comfortable saying it, it wouldnt have bothered her. | |
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| A thank you, afterwards, how do I handle that?
Posted: 7/23/2009 8:53:48 AM | | its just a statement of gratitude..accept it that she enjoyed and grin,say it was my pleasure as well.....its also a back handed compliment if you can accept it! | |
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| A thank you, afterwards, how do I handle that?
Posted: 7/23/2009 9:04:08 AM | Would you have rather heard "That's it?".
its just a statement of gratitude..accept it that she enjoyed and grin,say it was my pleasure as well.....
^^^ That would have been a great response!  | |
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Posted: 7/23/2009 10:04:46 AM | Thanks guys and gals, after a few moments I did say "that WAS really great."
I felt that if I said "you're welcome," or similar it might sound a little pompous or arrogant. That's not my style and the return "thank you too," would have been a little trite. | |
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| A thank you, afterwards, how do I handle that?
Posted: 7/23/2009 10:24:52 AM | It can be a bit disconcerting, since hopefully you both got mutual pleasure from the experience....I'd never thank someone for sleeping with me for the fear of them thinking I was desperate for their attention
It's happened to me.....I just smiled and said mm baby, you're very welcome :) and then I told him he didn't need to thank me lol | |
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| A thank you, afterwards, how do I handle that?
Posted: 7/23/2009 10:46:22 AM |
I'd never thank someone for sleeping with me for the fear of them thinking I was desperate for their attention *smiles*
Huh? When you're at a great restaurant with fabulous food and you leave satiated,,, do you not thank your wait-staff for fear they'll think your desparate for food??? Or, concerned they'll spit in your entree the next time you return because you were treated well???  | |
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Posted: 7/23/2009 11:25:16 AM | my response has always been ..."NOOOO ..Thank You"... and it has worked every time.as a matter of fact every time i have said that ...they always crawl back on for round ..next
your welcome would to me sound like I was being arrogant...but a "NOOOO!!! Thank You " is the response you are looking for | |
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Posted: 7/23/2009 12:32:13 PM | Why is it such a big issue to say "thank you"? I thought I heard everything until now. Sometimes, a thank you is just a thank you. No big deal. Imagine how she would feel reading this forum. Hurt and embarrassed that she even bothered having sex with the OP. | |
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Posted: 7/23/2009 12:36:25 PM | That's really not a big deal. It's better than "is that it?" I've heard it before and I'm convinced it's just the bi-product of a woman's need to talk even during my 10 minutes of post-coital brain death. Just be glad she didn't start in with the commitment questions. They know at this time, we'll say anything just to shut em up. She's might also be saying thank you for letting her cuddle. You shoulda told her, "Hey, if you really wanna thank me, get the hell off me for about 10 minutes cuz I'm hot!"  | |
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Posted: 7/23/2009 12:52:13 PM | Would you have rather heard "That's it?"
LMAO!!
OP, I kinda agree with Deerdog, but there may be something else at play here between you and your new lover. What if, instead of saying "Nooooo, Thank you!", you say "On the contrary, Thank You, Ma'am". More than a few times, and in any social setting (not just apres-sex, lol), I've used polite addresses to distance myself from the other(s)- and I usually squint at anyone who calls me "Mr." or "Sir". If she felt estranged, from you, at the post-sex break, which may well have happened after a first sexual event, that OMG-what-have-I-done place, she could have been using the "thank you" to put you at arm's length. Just guessing, because you don't really say what was going on between you when she said it (only what had gone on before), but it's something to think about. | |
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Posted: 7/23/2009 1:06:05 PM | | "You're more than welcome" might serve. Or, "No!, thank you!". I've heard it, and think it might be a pretty common thing to say. Enough mutual thanking and it might be good for a laugh. | |
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Posted: 7/23/2009 1:19:47 PM | Well Damn Op maybe she was in Real Need of some sexual Release and she afterwards was quite satisfied and felt fulfilled??
Should have taken that as a compliment!! Services rendered much appreciated. | |
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Posted: 7/23/2009 1:23:21 PM | Well Whytwater, there have been other sessions since and "thank you," repeated. I did discuss it with her at dinner after that first time to see if I handled it well. She was very happy with the fumbled but lucky reply. I say "lucky," as I tend to joke and kid a lot and I could easily have said something pretty stupid. I am capable of that.
I started the thread to see what others might have done and it looks like I did it pretty close to the right response here too. Not wishing to sound like I am bragging but she has now elevated it to a hand branding iron motion on my butt and saying, "Ssssssttt, Premium Grade."
If this woman is after a LTR and maybe marriage she sure is making some mileage with me.
 and it is not just the bedroom stuff either, my dog likes her too. | |
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Posted: 7/23/2009 2:16:22 PM | | I actually was kinda at a loss the first woman that said thank you to me for sex ..but reverted to my standard answer ..when a woman thanks me for a dance ...she says thank you after the dance and I always say No, thank you ..it never failed to get a smile of affirmation on the dance floor so when I was thanked after sex ..that answer came to me rather quickly ..and again I got that smile of affirmation...so I deducted that I had the right answer ... and since I have used it several times always with positive results ..whtwater your answer although a bit more polite and gentlemanly ...means the same ..but after sex or on the dance floor I am usually on a more casual mood ..I save my more gentlemanly /chivalrous gestures for the dinner table or when escorting her to a more formal event ..but as you have pointed out ..im a country boy | |
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