| | Something Worth the Words Page 1 of 1 | Not sure if this is allow or not but it sure is good! Even if you aren't spiritual it is very useful!
By T. D. Jakes
"There are people who can walk away from you.
And hear me when I tell you this! When people can walk away from you: let them walk. I don't want you to try to talk another person into staying with you, loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming to see you, staying attached to you. I mean hang up the phone.
When people can walk away from you let them walk. Your destiny is never tied to anybody that left. The bible said that, they came out from us that it might be made manifest that they were not for us. For had they been of us, no doubt they would have continued with us. [1 John 2:19]
People leave you because they are not joined to you. And if they are not joined to you, you can't make them stay. LET THEM GO!
And it doesn't mean that they are a bad person it just means that their part in the story is over. And you've got to know when people's part in your story is over so that you don't keep trying to raise the dead. You've got to know when it's dead. You've got to know when it's over.
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If you are holding on to something that doesn't belong to you and was never intended for your life, then you need to… LET IT GO!!!
-If you are holding on to past hurts and pains…LET IT GO!!!
-If someone can't treat you right, love you back, and see your worth…LET IT GO!!!
-If someone has angered you…LET IT GO!!!
-If you are holding on to some thoughts of evil and revenge...LET IT GO!!!
-If you are involved in a wrong relationship or addiction…LET IT GO!!!
-If you are holding on to a job that no longer meets your needs or talents LET IT GO!!!
-If you have a bad attitude...LET IT GO!!!
-If you keep judging others to make yourself feel better......LET IT GO!!!
-If you're stuck in the past and God is trying to take you to a new level in Him LET IT GO!!!
-If you are struggling with the healing of a broken relationship...LET IT GO!!!
-If you keep trying to help someone who won't even try to help themselves..LET IT GO!!!
-If you're feeling depressed and stressed…LET IT GO!!!
-If there is a particular situation that you are so used to handling yourself and God is saying 'take your hands off of it,' then you need to... LET IT GO!!!"
I think someone else added this part.
I am finding out that if, when thoughts of my past love and past relationship enter my mind, I say OUT LOUD to myself "LET IT GO" that it helps. And also OUT LOUD talk to yourself and reassure yourself that you are really a good person and that it will get better. I hope that some of this helps. | |
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Posted: 7/24/2009 5:24:25 PM | I like this.
But it is too short to post, so I will say it again; I like it. | |
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Posted: 7/24/2009 5:38:07 PM | That was worth reading. I stayed with someone who was very dysfunctional but I could see the good in him. In the end, I decided he needed more help than I can give, and he is not willing to seek counseling.
Unfortunately, people who have difficult childhoods are molded into adults that can't seem to get through life without their past haunting them and they bring everyone else down around them. | |
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Posted: 7/24/2009 5:46:56 PM | Hi,
The text is interesting but just leaving or accepting someone else will do so depending on the stage of the relationship can be a huge error in judgement and not good for either of you.
It is perfectly valid for someone you have just met or had a couple of dates with. It is rather less valid for someone you have lived with for 15 years and have children with. Accepting that someone can be very angry, can say things they don't mean and even walk out but actually didn't want to, can be just as important and simply letting someone go. That takes guts. Sometimes it takes a lot more guts to run after them and tell them you love them and don't want them to go.
There is a fine line in this, however. Pursuing someone that really wants to leave or because you've been abusive or committed some other sin that to the other person cannot be forgiven, is very much the wrong thing. Just as not letting someone go because they think they are not good enough or have done something wrong that you can forgive, would most of the time be the write thing.
Relationships don't come with guidebooks or instruction manuals. Every relationship is unique. The writing seemed to make sense but was way too simplistic.
Richard | |
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Posted: 7/25/2009 1:58:06 PM | | Nice thought. Who cleans up the swath of destruction these turds leave? | |
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Posted: 7/25/2009 2:05:50 PM | Ann Landers once said , "people can't take advantage of us without our permission."
The best way to let someone go, is to first find out what you gain from letting them stay.
The second step, is to realize you can give that to yourself.
After that, EVERYTHING falls into place. You let them go, you don't seek it in the next idiot to come along, you are more whole and thus attract better prospects. | |
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