| Texting while on a date
Posted: 7/24/2009 8:29:47 AM | This is really bothering me. Why in the world would a guy continue to carry on a text conversation with a "friend" after they pick me up for an evening? Am I wrong to expect that when I am picked up for a date that the focus should be on the two of us? If it was an emergency or a family member then that would be understandable and expectable but a "friend" who just happens to be female. I'm not even the least bit jealous by nature but should I expect things like that while dating these days?
After about a half hour of the texts having his complete attention, he did turn the phone off. I don't even know what I would of done if it would of continued. We were at his home because the plan was to watch a movie.
I don't expect him to stop the world from revolving when he's with me but this is a NEW thing that we've got going on. | |
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| Texting while on a date
Posted: 7/24/2009 8:34:25 AM | | It's just rude. The only time I have ever even left my phone ON for a date was after I had my daughter for obvious reasons. Without a good reason for doing it there wouldn't be a second date. | |
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| Texting while on a date
Posted: 7/24/2009 8:34:58 AM | I have no idea when this trend became acceptable but I agree with you totally! I hate that kind of stuff! It is so rude. No second dates for that type with me. I have friends that do that as well. Invite me to dinner then spend the entire meal texting. I do speak up and point out how ridicuously rude they have become.
Just more evidence of our 'me' society. Social graces are becoming the past. | |
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| Texting while on a date
Posted: 7/24/2009 8:38:41 AM | that's a real classy guy you found there, OP. You sure know how to pick'em!  | |
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| Texting while on a date
Posted: 7/24/2009 8:41:12 AM | He would do this for exactly the reason you probably suspect but hope it isn't - because the text conversation is more important to him than your company is. Ouch, I know. Sorry.
It isn't just bad manners (although it is appallingly rude); it's a way of keeping you at a distance, as well.
I would've left. I gather he was your ride, but there's always another way to get home, and there are plenty of datable men who don't do this. | |
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| Texting while on a date
Posted: 7/24/2009 8:44:48 AM | | Thank you. I WAS thinking exactly what you wrote but I wasn't sure if I was reading to much into his behavior. | |
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| Texting while on a date
Posted: 7/24/2009 9:18:07 AM | Texting and talking while on a date...
Sheesh... it is rude... and there are reasons for it, or are they excuses?
Recently, the gentleman agreed to meet, but was he in the middle of finalizing some plans... he took at least 3 calls (between 10:30-12) kinda late for business me thinks.
At lest he walked away from the table to take the calls.
I too noticed later that I had 2 texts, and one call, however perhaps my attachment to the phone is not so chronic.
Is time for a meet and a drink just not part of the busy schedule then perhaps neither is dating.
Why is it we think we can multi-task so much and not have any fall out from it? | |
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| Texting while on a date
Posted: 7/24/2009 9:26:19 AM | | And to think how much I hate texting, live as close as I do, but miss your age requirements by a few years. Bummer! I am really surprised a person of that age bracket finds texting that entertaining. Especially with you right in front of him! | |
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| Texting while on a date
Posted: 7/24/2009 9:31:13 AM | | It is rude and I cannot stand it either. There has been a couple times I have forgotten to turn off my phone on a date and I am sure there will be other times when I forget as well. When it happened and it rings I say "Excuse me I forgot to turn off my phone." and then I turn off my phone without taking the call or answering the text. | |
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| Texting while on a date
Posted: 7/24/2009 9:44:56 AM | Simply put, it's rude.
I hate texting.
Barring an emergency, I always wonder, what is so all fired important that people run around texting or a cell phone stuck to their ear a majority of the time. Seems like
an addiction. I tend to think it is. And I'm not talking about business or work.
I don't think it's too much to ask OP, that your date not do that.
He was holding a marathon texting match whilst on a date. Pfffft!
I don't care if it was a man or a woman it's not a "jealous" thing it's a
courtesy thing.
You didn't expect the world to revolve around you, I get that but......he DID expect
you to think the world revolved around him. | |
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| Texting while on a date
Posted: 7/24/2009 9:48:51 AM | | Completely rude, next time text him while you are sitting there "bye" and get up and leave | |
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| Texting while on a date
Posted: 7/24/2009 9:52:32 AM |
Barring an emergency, I always wonder, what is so all fired important that people run around texting or a cell phone stuck to their ear a majority of the time. Seems like
an addiction. I tend to think it is. And I'm not talking about business or work. [/quote[
The OP and I live in the same area. It is so bad around here, They actually had to pass laws making texting illegal while driving, and you must use hands free if on the phone and driving. Hasn't changed anything but they passed the laws!
But on a date? Come on. On my last date when her phone rang, she quickly apologised and then turned it off. | |
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| Texting while on a date
Posted: 7/24/2009 10:00:57 AM |
Thank you. I WAS thinking exactly what you wrote but I wasn't sure if I was reading to much into his behavior.
No you wasn't reading too much into his behavior ,but I would not have spent 10 minutes with someone being as rude and disrespectful......Rudeness has no excuse so be done with him and meet a gentleman....You are a classy lady to have endured!!!.... | |
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| Texting while on a date
Posted: 7/24/2009 10:25:05 AM | Rude...very rude...don't date him again...the focus should have been on you for the evening...not a "friend" Too late to think of hindsight now, but you should have gotten up and said, "Excuse me, I don't want to interrupt you and your friend. Have a lovely evening. Good-bye." and then walk away and not look back! | |
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| Texting while on a date
Posted: 7/24/2009 10:25:46 AM | Why?
1. because he's not interested in you.
2. because his friend is more interesting to him than you are.
3. because he's rude.
4. because he's disrespectful
He turned the phone off only after he was turned off.
I wonder why you put up with it? | |
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| Texting while on a date
Posted: 7/24/2009 10:38:27 AM | | It irritates the fudge out of me. Thank God my partner doesn't have a cell (and neither do I, woot.). I once had a date in the past that did the same thing. I'd get relaxed, cuddle up with her, and share a few laughs while I was into the movie being viewed.. until *insert loud, annoying tv theme/music jingle here* | |
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| Texting while on a date
Posted: 7/24/2009 10:39:42 AM | | maybe he thought it would make you jealous...and make him more desireable in your eyes...WRONG...lol | |
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| Texting while on a date
Posted: 7/24/2009 10:40:47 AM | It really irritates me when people do this.
If you're with people, be with them; if you don't want to be with the people you're with, be with someone else. | |
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| Texting while on a date
Posted: 7/24/2009 10:44:10 AM |
but should I expect things like that while dating these days?
^^ Absolutely not! It's disrepectful and immature. Unless it's an emergency - it's reasonable to be FULLY present otherwise you risk being FULLY dissed!  | |
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| Texting while on a date
Posted: 7/24/2009 10:46:05 AM | Personally I don't get the texting thing anyway, but I would consider it rude.
In fact, having multiple cell phone conversations while at dinner with someone is equally rude. Take the call if it's urgent. Otherwise, let the answering machine get it, or tell them you're busy and will have to call them back...
Just because everyone has instant access to you 24/7, doesn't mean you have to respond to everyone, all the time. | |
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| Texting while on a date
Posted: 7/24/2009 10:57:02 AM | One of the few threads with general consensus: unacceptable. Kids and emergencies only, and even then keep it reasonably short - or take a rain check and reschedule the date, if something severe came up.
In your case, just text him "bye"... | |
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| Texting while on a date
Posted: 7/24/2009 11:00:31 AM | Texting while out on a date is just wrong on so many levels. Sure one can argue emergiences, but come on, if it was a real emergince it would be quicker to phone than to text.
JMO | |
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| Texting while on a date
Posted: 7/24/2009 11:02:14 AM | After two or three short texts I would make some comment hinting that I was annoyed with this type of activity on a date.
If it continued I would more than likely tell them that I wished to leave or would leave. (it could depend on whether I had a car or not).
Hmmm considering all the texting he was doing I guess I would just leave(hey texting and driving can be a lethal combination)  | |
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| Texting while on a date
Posted: 7/24/2009 11:05:11 AM | I don't do it.
I don't like when it happens.
However I do realize alot of people are "on call" and must provide important responses dependant on their job function or title.
So I will make exceptions for those who I believe have the title or job.
Free pass for anything from your child if they are under the age of 18.
However, I am rapidly approaching the point though of becoming the "longest potty break evah" for a male | |
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| Texting while on a date
Posted: 7/24/2009 11:05:12 AM | haha what I would have done is .....get MY phone out and txt him something witty ...on the lines of 'I think I'll go home'................ | |
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