| How long before you PUT OUT when your dating?
Posted: 7/6/2005 7:11:22 AM | I was just reading through these threads and saw somethng of this sort being brought up. So I thought I would make a thread out of it.
I myself love sex.... But if I am searching for the right guy....I don't "put out" so to speak until we both have an understanding of what each other are looking for. If we are not on the same level, then we can go from there. What people need to understand is that SEX can be great between 2 consenting adults and a relationship doesn't have to form from it. But if You truly want a relationship and nothing else, then hold off with the sex until u find the right person. Believe it or not... sex IS NOT the deal breaker.
Now for the rest of your opinions lmfao............... | |
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| How long before you PUT OUT when your dating?
Posted: 7/6/2005 8:59:58 AM | I think it's very important to find out if you and your partner are sexually compatible. And to do it reasonably early in a relationship. Bad, uninspired or inhibited sex with past baggage is an absolute deal-killer for me. No matter how cool the person, and no matter how well we converse - if the sex is subpar, I just cannot stick around.
Sex is sex, and love is love. Come on, it's just sex. It's not that big of a deal, really. Luckily, the sexual gods have been very kind to me since becoming single early last year. Get a condom, the pill or the patch, and go for it. Enjoy it! And we have to stop using sex as some kind of bargaining chip to get what we want. We're not in junior high anymore, but many of us date like we are.
Whatever works for you!
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| How long before you PUT OUT when your dating?
Posted: 7/6/2005 1:28:35 PM | well, the key word is "dating"... Yep, have had one night stands... yep, while single I may have more... but if I am seeing someone with the potential of having a relationship, there is no problem at all with waiting for a while. How long is a while? Dunno, depends on how we are getting along, how our personalities mesh, etc.
but, as the general agreement so far says... Yeah, I love sex too!
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| How long before you PUT OUT when your dating?
Posted: 7/7/2005 4:50:46 AM | I totally agree with both of u. I had been chatting with a guy online and on the phone for about 3 months before we actually met face to face. He came here for our first meeting and it was awesome. I couldn't wait to see him again. The second meeting I went to see him in Moncton. I ended up staying with him that whole night. And it was only the second meeting lmfao. But we ended up dating for 10 months afterward. Was great. Now.... I have met other guys I was totally into physically, and he was good as a pal... but I wasn't interested in a relationship. We both discussed (As adults) what our options were (remaining JUST friends, remaining friends with benefits until the right one comes along, or just not being friends at all anymore) and decided to go the friends with benefits route lmfao. But I also have held off from sex for who I thought would be the right guy. Whatever works right?
The key thing I think, is communication. Make it clear from the beginning what you r looking for, and what your feelings are on certain situations. How open u r about sex and so on.
Good luck to everyone and hope someone is putting out for YOU lmfao... xoxoxoxoxo Norma | |
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| How long before you PUT OUT when your dating?
Posted: 7/7/2005 6:45:37 AM | My high school girlfriend, whom I dated for two years, made me wait seven months before we hit it. And that seven months, at the age of fifteen, seemed like seventeen years!  That would n-e-v-e-r happen these days, lol. Seven days, maybe. Seven hours? Possibly, haha.
Take care,
Dale | |
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| How long before you PUT OUT when your dating?
Posted: 7/7/2005 11:03:38 PM | All I have to say in regards to this matter is thank god for these sites. If they make many more of these I think my penis is gonna fall off!!!! God Love the INTERNET!!! BUt on a serious not I agree sex is different on many levels. I personally need all of them, the comfort of someone you know and the excitement of the ones you don't | |
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| How long before you PUT OUT when your dating?
Posted: 7/8/2005 3:58:33 PM | | I am a single girl myself who also enjoys the company of a man..My only problem is.. I've been looking for that special someone which seems like forever and when I find someone I can't keep my hands off, he usually doesn't want a relationship...so what's a girl to do? | |
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| How long before you PUT OUT when your dating?
Posted: 7/10/2005 6:10:20 AM | Yeah, being single sucks when you're used to living with someone.
And I've been with a few girls that said they were not easy and had never done this before.
I don't think they were being totally honest...;) | |
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| How long before you PUT OUT when your dating?
Posted: 7/10/2005 12:08:04 PM | | Maybe you've been meeting the wrong kind of girls then..but at the time, I bet you weren't complaining.. I think if there's chemistry then why wait? I don't find a whole lot of men my type.... so if I do.. I've got to get some.. if you know what I mean... lol | |
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| How long before you PUT OUT when your dating?
Posted: 7/17/2005 10:33:21 AM | | It depends entirely on who you're with. I've dated someone who I didn't have sex with for the first three months, then I've gone the other route of "as soon as the door is shut" kinda deal. Some people you just have a really good physical chemistry with and that's fine, other people you just enjoy spending time with an sex really doesn't matter that much. I don't think there IS a straight answer to that question :) | |
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| How long before you PUT OUT when your dating?
Posted: 7/31/2005 12:15:48 AM | There has been so much focus on sex in dating, that its no wonder we can't hold a relationship together these days.
I've gone back to traditional philosophies, and will not make sex a major focal point in my potential relationship. | |
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| How long before you PUT OUT when your dating?
Posted: 7/31/2005 12:38:05 AM | Hi, hope you all don't mind me jumping in here, nothing goin on with the PEI thread LOL, I usually am chatting on the main forum. I thought this was interesting.
Chatting with people from across the country, and even from the states, I have noticed that it IS different here in the maritimes. I think there are more people "waiting" for to have sex, and are looking for more meaningful, long-term relationships. I think relationships last longer because of it.
I think Maritimers are special for our values, and our way of living and thinking.
When I was in my early 20's...one nighters didn't seem like such a big deal...now, sex still has it's importance...just doesn't come first on my priority list. IMO. | |
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| How long before you PUT OUT when your dating?
Posted: 8/20/2005 5:32:31 PM | Seriously folks....do ya's really need someone else to answer this question for ya?? Use your head and your OWN morals to dictate what you do and when you do it...if someone you're dating isn't into that..then they're probably not your cup of tea anyway..
My 2 cents:..not many people will want to get serious with a guy or a girl who wants sex on the first date......if they do it that quickly with you..they've been doing it with ALOT of others as well | |
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| How long before you PUT OUT when your dating?
Posted: 8/22/2005 2:27:56 PM | Just let me tell you a little story and then you can judge for yourself. I met a man on POF, and thought I'd struck gold! He seemed to be the right one for me, we got on well, and I could make him smile. He said I had a nice personality and he liked the way I always saw the brighter side of things. But I have this tricky memory, my short term memory is gone due to haveing had some heart problems in the past. So When he found another profile of mine on another site it wasn't exactly like the one I have on here so he got upset, and called me a liar! We had come very close to making love the last time we were together, and now I'm glad I kept my head and didn't jump into bed with him.
The difference in the profiles was something in my age and the fact that I had posted a different photo of myself than the one on here! That was all it took to get him so angry with me that he called the whole thing off.
I think it was because he couldn't get me into bed, but now neither of us will ever know! So you see ladies, don't give yourselves away so soon as they ask, most of them aren't worth it.
Lady Mara | |
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| How long before you PUT OUT when your dating?
Posted: 8/25/2005 1:09:03 PM | Well i have never had "sex" on the first date but if both people are feeling the same attraction i don't find anything wrong with exploring each other right away!
I think every situation is different, as long as you're making a descision that is right for you then i don't think it really affects the chances of turning a date into a relationship.
What if you think you've found someone who's perfect in every way so you hold off for 2 or 3 months before doing "IT". Then it happens and it really sucks.......lol, what do you do then? | |
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| How long before you PUT OUT when your dating?
Posted: 8/26/2005 5:45:57 AM | YOu make a lot of sense sometimes Fud, and this is one of the times. The term "values" should be the thing people are thinking about, but "values" have left the building!
Mara | |
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