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| Is it better to be alone Or settle for someone that is not Your type.
Posted: 7/6/2005 7:25:12 AM | i would prefer to be alone
settling for someone that is not your type will most likely bring a world of hurt sooner or later
it also seems to me that doing that means your pretty desperate, getting anyone you can
i can imagine it , male language wise : "she is not my type, but if i am with her , i get some ****, if i'm alone, i don't get any!" 
it all depends what you are looking for i guess
i guess the reason i would prefer to be alone, is that i am looking for the right one, just not anyone that comes around,and i tolerate loneliness well, leaning more on the loner side | |
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khama
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Joined: 3/31/2005
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sddude
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Joined: 11/4/2004
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| Is it better to be alone Or settle for someone that is not Your type.
Posted: 7/6/2005 8:52:24 AM | I am the decenter ,
I married a woman that was not my type at all , she was overweight and very boring but she loved me, I was not in love with her , but fell in love about 2 years later , so crazy for her .
, I made her my type , she was no longer boring but quite crazy and bubbly , hard body and athletic. I did the same too as per her likings , people are eachother's lifetime gift , why not keep giving ?
You know people here may say I was shallow for changing her but she acepted and loved the change , people change during their lifetime anyhow , why not change for the better , especially for your spouse .
I miss her so much .
If I meet a great lady like that again , will do it again . | |
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~KC~
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Joined: 5/10/2005
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Posted: 7/6/2005 9:08:17 AM | | Alone - Sorry but you just can't force that REAL 'connection' thru changing you to suit someone who may change themselves to suit you. We explore love in different ways, personally for me it has to be REAL LOVE that has evolved from a REAL FRIENDSHIP, with that special lady who connected with me - not for the sake of me. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2005 9:34:30 AM | I have been married for 29 years and now I live alone and find that the peace and some times lonley times is better then being with someone who will not grow with you and or try to rule you with hands of steel. To find that life can be a gift more valued then I ever knew is worth the time spent alone. I do not beleive in a relationship where only one person is in love is a healty way to live. I will take my time to let a woundeful relationship grow when the right person comes along. There is a song and one line in the song is ...waiting for the wounderful tired of the ordinary. The wounderful takes time.  | |
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| Is it better to be alone Or settle for someone that is not Your type.
Posted: 7/6/2005 9:53:09 AM | Hi DYLD ...
It is definately better to be alone than settle for someone who is not YOUR type.
Talking / meeting ... will show if chemistry ~ bond ~ and lots of other potential 'ingredients' are there for both of us. Acknowledgement is not necessary, one can read it in another's eyes, body language says it all.
Happy swimming in this lovely pond to all of you!
Ali | |
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| Is it better to be alone Or settle for someone that is not Your type.
Posted: 7/6/2005 9:57:17 AM | | I love being alone... but hey, no one likes to be lonely. If you're really asking 'is it better to be lonely, or to settle?' I say it's better to be lonely. It's been a looong time since I felt lonely, but I still remember how much it hurt... but it ultimately hurts a whole lot more, on several levels sometimes, to be with someone we aren't in tune with. | |
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sddude
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Joined: 11/4/2004
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| Is it better to be alone Or settle for someone that is not Your type.
Posted: 7/6/2005 10:03:04 AM | niggles ,
You have to know about what real love to understand what I am talking about , the great majority of people do not know what real love , not being my type or any person talking about this is actually and physiical and personality atraction thing , the click , the clicking together , the concept of love is much more than that , love is not like spontaneous combustion or the heart beating suddenly when you see someone for the first time love at first site has happened to me so many times . Crazy in love doing ccrazy things , being in love is more of the me thing , me I want you , no one can have you not even your freinds , it is the animal attraction .
Love is actually created by two poeple that know how to love and give , two friends , two siblings , parent and child , love is a desicion, kind of like God and country thingy, mother and child is a mom decision , some make the desicion to dump the family or child , it is a decision not to love. Love does not die one desides to kill it , one or the other do it.
You may think I am weird but that is what I believe , I was taught in a special school and by my parents by my other family members by example , love is created by giving and if both give , the two people in question will rarely if ever have problems , if one does not know how to love , the one that knows can teach if willing , one has to deny themselves unselfishly for this .
Jesus denied his confort and saftey for us , he was not in love with us and di not teach us to be in love , he taught us to love , how to give and deny yourself a little or alot.
What I know how to do is when I have a best friend and female that is not my type , she is still a possible mate for me even if she is not my type and I love her like a sister only , as long as she is willing .
relationship like this to many think it is boring , it is what you want it to be becuase , it is up to both and the familiarity between eachother , sex can be crazy cuz what one wants will be given .
Well that is the way I am , you may not understand . | |
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sddude
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Joined: 11/4/2004
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| Is it better to be alone Or settle for someone that is not Your type.
Posted: 7/6/2005 10:18:33 AM | Well dude,where is she now,you're alone ain't ya,so your theory didn't work
now did it??
Of course I may have jumped the gun,and If I did dude,sorry!
I once debated that theory once,I was so tired of being alone,wanting so much to
feel the loving touch of a womans hand,to be held and be loved and fill that
loneliness deep inside!
Then I met this girl,she was ever so sweet,but she was too dang quick,she was willing
to move to my town and move in with me feeding me lines like "I'll never leave you,
you'll never feel alone again ..." and so on!
As sweet as she was,she wasn't my type,and she really went off the deep end when
she said she loved me after only 3months!
And this was a girl who claimed she been so hurt in the past by men and other things I won't mention here!
I thaught that to be odd,'cause i got hurt too,and ain't no way I'll fall in love that quick!
So I decided to stay alone,rather be alone then to be with someone who ain't my type!
As much as it sucks not having a woman next to me,rather be alone then feel alone with
someone who i don't love!
Knight Rider! | |
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