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Posted: 7/26/2009 5:01:23 PM | Hello , just was reading some profiles and wanted to know some more
1. all say they want honesty: reality check, who in their right mind is going to write they are dishonest or a player or a cheater
2. here is an unique one. BBW welcome...what is up with that...is that a new class or people that exists . Obesity is so rampant these days ( yes i am one ) that now to say that BBW welcome what does it say about you as a person. Correct me if I am wrong I always thought that relationships were about caring and love
3. it is the same people over and over again for the last one year at least, still single and still looking , really does it take that long. I am over 200 lbs and yet i have not been single for long
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Posted: 7/26/2009 5:07:54 PM |
1. all say they want honesty: reality check, who in their right mind is going to write they are dishonest or a player or a cheater
True. Not too many are going to put that. However, I think the point that is being conveyed is not that they will be dishonest, but that they will state and share their honesty.
2. here is an unique one. BBW welcome...what is up with that...is that a new class or people that exists . Obesity is so rampant these days ( yes i am one ) that now to say that BBW welcome what does it say about you as a person. Correct me if I am wrong I always thought that relationships were about caring and love
All that they are saying is that there are several men on the boards that won't date BBW women, and that they aren't one of them. Do a search of this board about "Men only dating thin women" and you should get back a thread or two.
3. it is the same people over and over again for the last one year at least, still single and still looking , really does it take that long. I am over 200 lbs and yet i have not been single for long
Yep, not surprising. After all, it is dependent on how selective you are right? Many of us don't want to settle for just anyone, and certain items need to be met for that special someone. It isn't the end of the world being single, and we're not needing a relationship for validation. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2009 5:13:53 PM |
Yep, not surprising. After all, it is dependent on how selective you are right? Many of us don't want to settle for just anyone, and certain items need to be met for that special someone. It isn't the end of the world being single, and we're not needing a relationship for validation.
I have to agree with SunD... Just because some of us have been here for a while means nothing... I would much rather wait.
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Posted: 7/26/2009 5:14:00 PM | If you weren't fat, you wouldn't say that.
You know the last time I saw a really well built girl with an obese guy?
ok you got me, it wasn't that long ago.
Now let me change something.
You know the last time I saw a really well built girl with an obese guy, who DIDN'T have a lot of money?
I'd say about 25 years ago, and I'm only 24 years old if you get my drift. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2009 5:14:28 PM | | You are correct. That is like saying hey. "I did not kill someone" In other words asking for creditfor something that is correct already. But what profiles got you to write thids post. For very one of those profiles, there are probably 100 profiles of genuine great guys. I suspect, you found a profile you liked, but after reading, he did not have you listed in his critera. Hey you are BBW so what, I exude ugly, who cares. Somewhere and sometime ,we will find the one. We cannot ask others to be who we want them to be. live with it and learn. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2009 5:15:51 PM |
1. all say they want honesty: reality check, who in their right mind is going to write they are dishonest or a player or a cheater
Instructions on filling out a profile generally says they have to write about the type of person they are looking for. So they come up with an idealization in their head, and list it's immediately thought of attributes. Then they simply ejaculate it onto their profile.
2. Correct me if I am wrong I always thought that relationships were about caring and love
Depends on the relationship. Some are simply a matter of convenience. In any case that's relationships. Most people are simply trying to get a date, that will ideally turn into a relationship. Dating has nothing to do with caring and love. Just determining if one can care and love the other, and see if it will be reciprocated.
3. it is the same people over and over again for the last one year at least, still single and still looking , really does it take that long. I am over 200 lbs and yet i have not been single for long
"Desirables" get taken off the market, and don't come back. "Undesirables" get taken off the market for a little bit, and then spit back out to come back. So the population of "undesirables" continuously increases, whereas the population of "desirables" stays roughly the same or decreases. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2009 5:28:04 PM | 3. it is the same people over and over again for the last one year at least, still single and still looking , really does it take that long. I am over 200 lbs and yet i have not been single for long
Just asking
now you know why I gave up. no it shouldnt take that long but between the fakes, liars, and window shoppers it has become mostly fun to read posts. to many fckd up people who are lost and confused. I see women dating as far back as 2005 and 2006. one million emails later she still swears their are no nice guy. somebody punch me in the head already. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2009 5:42:58 PM | There are people who use this site just to date. They aren't looking for commitment or marriage. It's their choice to date for however long they want, so don't be surprised, as the years go by, that you see someone who has been a POF'er for 10 years.  | |
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Posted: 7/27/2009 2:16:47 AM | Women baffle me. I see women post on here all the time about men not putting what they are looking in a woman in their profile and you're complaining about a guy that states what he is open to in his profile.
Seriously, what is wrong with saying he is "BBW welcome?" Like a previous poster, if you weren't BBW you wouldn't be saying anything about it. Stop getting butt hurt from people's profiles. If you don't like it, move on!
BBW is a type...not a class...and it's hardly new. People have their types and preferences.
So you've noticed people over the last year that are still single and looking...how do you know they've been single the entire time? Also, what's wrong with dating? They obviously haven't found the right one so they keep looking. Would you rather them just settle for someone and end up getting divorced? Stupid assumptions. Maybe you should go settle for someone yourself. First guy that comes around. Then you can nag him.
You're just b*tching to b*tch. Such a turn on... | |
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Posted: 7/27/2009 4:30:59 AM | | Wow...A BBW lady complaining because a guy is LOOKING for a BBW partner. | |
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Posted: 7/27/2009 5:35:22 PM | 1. You can write that you're honest and be dishonest in writing that. It's informing YOU that if YOU are dishonest with ME, then YOU will find your AZZ out the DOOR with a quickness! I'm looking for honesty and will not tolerate dishonest folks!
2. Typically here, we tell people that it's ok to list on your profile if you are absolutely not interested in BBWs. No, it's not a new class of people. But it IS a type of body.
Love is only blind AFTER you fall in it. But physical attraction is still part of attraction.
And attraction PRECEDES love!
So it's nice to have forewarning if someone ain't attracted to BBW, or if the person doesn't see size as an issue.
3.What's the rush? Not everybody is interested in playing the field or slutting around!
Plenty of people are tired of the dating games and just want their last first date. To them, being single is better than the endless succession of dating partners. they're at a point in their life where they're ready for their life-partner!
So keep on, with your little short-term relationships that amount to nothing. See ya in another year!
4. All of the above is meant as "weeding out" tools. So, if you don't like it?
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Posted: 7/27/2009 6:05:45 PM | i hear you about people stating the obvious. on the other hand, on your profile you state you're looking for someone 'interesting.' so maybe you're not in the best position to judge others' ability to express themselves.
what does it say about a person to state 'bbw welcome'? it says he finds bbws attractive. nothing more, nothing less. he's doing you a favor by listing it so you know you've got something he likes, because not every guy does. you're 37 - have you not figured out yet that physical attributes play a role in attraction? you're working overtime to find things to dislike if you're manufacturing a problem out of that.
as far as timelines, online dating is work. period. my guess is very few emotionally healthy people end up finding a solid match quickly, even the gorgeous, monied ones. this is not mercedes-benz's web site, where you order up your perfect luxury model, punch in your loan data and then go pick it up at the dealership. if you think it's that easy, your bitterness now is nothing compared to what it will be in a few months. | |
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Posted: 7/27/2009 8:56:31 PM | simple answers to these questions.
1. honesty, yes. i believe that's someone just reflecting on what they want. probably not overthinking it when they make their profile. while it could be an indication their last mate cheated, don't read too much into this.
2. bbw welcome means they don't have a problem with dating women that are heavier than average. many men have preferences based on height, weight, skin color, etc. so to say BBW welcome says you're not specific about weight, or that you prefer a heavier than average weight. relationships are about many things. think of it like this: a great bond between two people would have a physical, mental, and emotional attraction. so we're talking about the physical part.
3. yes, if you're only using the online world as your source for meeting new people, it takes a long time. the pool is limited to people who are swimming in it, right? many people online are being very specific, waiting for something that's exactly what they want. it takes a while to find a specific match.
if you want to move faster into your next relationship, use multiple sources for meeting: online, going to clubs, joining meetup groups, joining sports leagues, frequenting public places like bookstores,etc. | |
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Posted: 7/28/2009 1:22:44 AM |
2. here is an unique one. BBW welcome...what is up with that...is that a new class or people that exists . Obesity is so rampant these days ( yes i am one ) that now to say that BBW welcome what does it say about you as a person. Correct me if I am wrong I always thought that relationships were about caring and love.
OK, I'll correct you. Relationships are also about sex. If they weren't, then every human on the planet would be bisexual.
Now, it seems rather popular for women to pretend to be oblivious to it. I think it's a game, and a rather stupid one at that. | |
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Posted: 7/28/2009 2:43:27 AM | | my theory is most guys who say bbw welcome can't pick up online, not much anyway. | |
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Posted: 7/28/2009 5:54:14 AM | Okay did you come here to just insult us? In all your ramblings you asked one question so I will answert it. Some fat girls tend to be sensitive so if someone doesn't want to have to turn you away it is easier to say "no bbw."
And congratulations on finding someone that can put up with your drama, and your insulting personality. As well as your big fat azz. | |
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Posted: 7/28/2009 10:01:08 AM |
1. all say they want honesty: reality check, who in their right mind is going to write they are dishonest or a player or a cheater
I agree its silly to put "i want someone honest" in a profile because who doesn't. But its their profile so what do I care if they have something silly in it. Wait, I don't, better question is why does it bother you. If you think its silly move to the next profile and don't give it much thought. Aside from that, your profile says you're looking for someone interesting...who in their right mind is going to write they are boring or uninteresting? hmmm...
2. here is an unique one. BBW welcome...what is up with that...is that a new class or people that exists . Obesity is so rampant these days ( yes i am one ) that now to say that BBW welcome what does it say about you as a person. Correct me if I am wrong I always thought that relationships were about caring and love
Relationships ARE about caring and love but to pretend that attraction is not based, at least in part, on physical attraction is foolish. Some guys like scrawny stick women, some guys like large rotund women, some guys like both. I'm not sure what the problem is in specifying what one's "type" is in one's profile. It doesn't say anything about "you as a person". Again though, if it offends you, move to the next profile.
3. it is the same people over and over again for the last one year at least, still single and still looking , really does it take that long. I am over 200 lbs and yet i have not been single for long
Depends on what you're looking for. What I'm looking for is exceptional, as in the exception not the rule. Necessarily that means it will take a while and in the mean time I'm not going to date someone "good enough" just to validate myself by being in a relationship. In my youth I'd date anyone...as I get older I date fewer and fewer people and there is more and more time in between relationships as I refine what I am and am not looking for. I personally don't see that as a problem, for me its that I'm better at seeing through the B.S. and avoiding disastrous relationships without actually having to go through the disaster.
Not saying you're not looking for exceptional just saying perhaps there are more people with the qualities you're looking for than there are people with the qualities I'm looking for. Heck maybe you're more approachable and friendly then I am...point is, different people will have different experiences. The fact that you "haven't been single that long" bears little affect on the fact that it's been a loooong time for me. I'm not sure why you think because you don't spend a long time single, surely other people shouldn't take very long to find a mate. | |
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Posted: 7/28/2009 2:48:28 PM |
1. all say they want honesty: reality check, who in their right mind is going to write they are dishonest or a player or a cheater
Most women have this on their profile, too. Often with several adjectives describing how important it is to them. I have no idea why...I think we can all agree that honesty is a cornerstone to any successful relationship.
2. here is an unique one. BBW welcome...what is up with that...is that a new class or people that exists . Obesity is so rampant these days ( yes i am one ) that now to say that BBW welcome what does it say about you as a person. Correct me if I am wrong I always thought that relationships were about caring and love
No, they are not all about caring and love....they are also about attraction. Some guys just don't like bigger women. Some women don't like bigger guys. I think a guy saying 'BBW Welcome' is more of a statement of preference. Obesity being rampant does not mean people have to find it attractive. If anorexia ran rampant, it would not mean people would have to find that attractive either. You can't really help what you find attractive or not.
3. it is the same people over and over again for the last one year at least, still single and still looking , really does it take that long. I am over 200 lbs and yet i have not been single for long
Curious how you seem to push that weight should not be an issue, yet you use it as a qualifying handicap in your dating success.
Waiting for the 'right one' instead of the 'next one' is what I am here for...don't know how long that will take. | |
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Posted: 7/28/2009 3:06:49 PM |
2. here is an unique one. BBW welcome...what is up with that.
The guy was probably trying to tell BBW's to not be scared of contacting him. Not the best approach but he was being open minded. And for that you get offended? | |
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Posted: 7/28/2009 8:31:58 PM | People like you kill me sometimes, wahhhhhhhh wahhhhhhhhhhh wahhhhhhhhhh
You complain because a guy doesn't like you because you're a BBW, and then you complain when a guy says that BBW are welcome?? WTF
I hate to ask you direction to Disney land from Lets say New York City, I might end up in Canada, oh wait a minute I live in Canada duh | |
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