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Posted: 7/26/2009 11:29:24 PM | If I send someone a couple of reasonably long and detailed messages with additional information about myself and some questions about her (referring to information in her profile) and her responses are FAR shorter than mine but always include something like "Hope to hear from you soon", I'm thinking that I'm either:
1) In a limboland between interested and rejected; or
2) Sending messages to someone who is getting messages from A LOT of people; or
3) OK - I don't have a 3. 
If anyone from the XX chromosome crowd could translate this into XY, I would appreciate it. | |
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| 1-2 Line Responses To Reasonably Detailed Messages
Posted: 7/26/2009 11:36:09 PM | 1) In a limboland between interested and rejected
We are all here until told otherwise...LOL
If they say 'hope to hear from you', Id take that as at least moderate interest...a start. No guarantee even if she wrote a 3 page sonnet in return, just go with the flow and try to set up meetings in real life. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2009 11:55:56 PM | | I'm not looking to convince anyone who's not interested in me to get interested in me. I've just noticed that you ladies seem to often give out mixed signals. Since there is a forum on this dating site, I just figured I'd ask. | |
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| 1-2 Line Responses To Reasonably Detailed Messages
Posted: 7/27/2009 12:20:47 AM | | Some people just don't write much, either because they are slow typists, or because it's their nature. I've had brief messages from men but when I talk to them on the phone, they're quite chatty. My advice is - just get to know the person and see where it leads. | |
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| 1-2 Line Responses To Reasonably Detailed Messages
Posted: 7/27/2009 12:31:34 AM | | I wish I received replies, you are so lucky, man. Anyway, if you are getting replies, I wouldn't try to read into what they wrote or how much they wrote; just roll with it. It could eventually lead to meeting in person and then you'll be better able to gauge your interest in them and their interest in you. | |
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| 1-2 Line Responses To Reasonably Detailed Messages
Posted: 7/27/2009 12:49:04 AM | imho, if the person doesn't answer your questions, and doesn't ask you any in return, that is a sign. and, it's not a good one.
if your initial emails and follow up are as you describe, and the ladies are responding briefly, i'd say they are having multiple such communications, stringing you along while they see what else falls out.
i have to tell you, i get way too many one-liners and form letters. i respond to a well thought out and composed mail better than to one of those. but, sometimes i don't have time for a lengthy reply. in which case i indicate that, or just don't respond until the next time i log in, when i do have time to reply.
at the end of the day, only you can decide whether the responses you are receiving merit further effort, or not. | |
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| 1-2 Line Responses To Reasonably Detailed Messages
Posted: 7/27/2009 12:53:42 AM | I had this conversation with someone the other day. She was stating that she just realized that every guy she replies to must think that she wants to have sex with them. When really she's just being nice and saying something back.
It's like if a woman is walking down the street and guy smiles at her, she's thinking "hey, he appears to be nice and friendly". Where if a guy is walking down the street and a woman smiles at him, he's thinking "hey, she wants to have sex with me".
If you're getting one liners either A. shes shy, which you can generally tell by her choice of words and how she phrases things in her profile, or B. shes just being nice buddy, sorry. | |
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Posted: 7/27/2009 1:03:15 AM | I don't want you to get bored reading this so im going to make it as quick as possible. I have a three well written message rule, because if you start a relationship on the Internet, with a bunch of messages, or several chat conversations on some instant message site, you will bond with that person. Then it moves up to speaking on the phone, then perhaps a first date. See, i don't like to do that because when you spend all this time on several heart felt messages, and time on chat, then hours on the phone, you get a false perception of who that person really is in the real world. Then when you go and meet them for the first time, you realize they are completely different than what you expected. They may carry themselves different or there's simply no chemistry. Then you feel like an ass for having to move on after all the bonding on cyberspace.
I believe it is best to send them, and receive three decent messages. Then a phone call, then dinner somewhere they are comfortable with. That way you can find out if their is chemistry in real life without wasteing eachothers time and energy. That is just my logical solution and may not work for everybody. I wish you luck man...Take care..
Best,
Justin | |
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| 1-2 Line Responses To Reasonably Detailed Messages
Posted: 7/27/2009 8:03:36 AM |
I had this conversation with someone the other day. She was stating that she just realized that every guy she replies to must think that she wants to have sex with them. When really she's just being nice and saying something back.
What he said.
I'm pretty courteous about returning emails, good or bad. I like talking to different people especially from the forums. Doesn't mean I want to have sex with everyone I write. You know I love you all in that special way.  Watch my favorite count go down now. 
OP basically, if she's just sending you what I call "filler emails" (short responses), she's just being nice and not really interested in a romantic way.
Also, you being a cop, isn't helping you. Do a thread search about dating a cop/police officer. It is what it is. I'll just leave it at that. | |
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Posted: 7/27/2009 8:26:35 AM | I got some bad news OP, women do not give a sh!t about what men think.
I know, shocker... so if you roll out a bunch of bullsh!t about how you are the man, they pretty much ignore it.
They are much more interested in what we do, how we act, how we interact with others, ect.
The best advice I have seen is this:
"Ask yourself why this woman would be interested in talking to you....give them a reason to reply." | |
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| 1-2 Line Responses To Reasonably Detailed Messages
Posted: 7/27/2009 10:12:45 AM | First off, you're just not going to get a detailed e-mail from most women off this site. If you get two sentences, consider yourself lucky! They seem to hold it in until the initial meeting.
Second, I don't mean to sound rude or anything, but if your e-mails are anything like your message on here (with your option #3 and your chromosome comment) you might be losing interest because in my opinion, those weren't funny at all, they were actually kinda dorky. Sorry, just trying to help!!!! | |
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