| Asking out a coffee girl
Posted: 7/27/2009 5:48:50 PM | Hi everyone,
I used to go on this site once in a while looking for someone and never found the right person. Anyways, I'm coming back to this site for a different purpopse - advice.
I started going to this Starbucks near my work at 6 am. I saw her one day after Canada Day (July 1st) and wanted to stop by to grab a coffee in the early morning. I was there at 5:55 and waited for the store to open. I was instantly attracted to her from a distance. She was gorgeous. Beautiful brown hair and great eyes.
So now, I'm going to Starbucks three out of five workdays at 6 am to see her and getting a latte so I can talk to her.
Does anyone have advice on how to approach her? I have no idea how to even ask her name. She told me she is considering switching universities and the one she is considering is the one I used to go to.
I'm very shy.
Thanks guys.
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| Asking out a coffee girl
Posted: 7/27/2009 6:24:18 PM | Yes, well, this is one case where you are hard pressed to ask her out for coffee isn't it?
Ask her out to a concert, to a museum showing, to an art exhibit, go-carting, to the library, to the opera, to watch the fireworks. Write the invitation on a coffee napkin if you're too shy. Good luck!! | |
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Posted: 7/27/2009 6:25:46 PM | Yes it is. Not sure what to do.
I think it's odd to have latte's in the morning, so do you think she suspects anything? | |
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Posted: 7/27/2009 6:28:24 PM | So now, I'm going to Starbucks three out of five workdays at 6 am to see her and getting a latte so I can talk to her. Don't do that. Get a latte when you want to drink a latte, not when you need a crushgirl-fix.
The only way to ask her out is to ask her out --- "hey I really like talking to you would you like to get together after work today to [something outside since you've both been inside all day and it's summer]."
But don't be surprised if she says no. She's at work. She may be friendly by nature and she may even like you, but she's also friendly because customer service is her job.
I think it's odd to have latte's in the morning, so do you think she suspects anything? You want to keep it a secret that you're attracted to her? | |
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Posted: 7/27/2009 6:37:15 PM | | As a former coffee jockey I can give you a bit of advice.....become different and criticize Starbucks whenever the joke permits,most people who work a coffee shops are intelligent and realize what we do is detrimental to the world and feeds only the corporate fat cats making gobs of money at the expense of cheap labor and naive customers....i know it seems snide but trust me, to date Ive never met a barista that'll ever spew praises of their job when having to work mornings and all hours of the night. sounds dumb but trust me bro, good luck and if that fails talk about the last three things you've read.....all and all all we do is read, drink coffee, and talk about how after the cigarette in our hand were quitting for good lol | |
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Posted: 7/27/2009 6:46:09 PM | Yes, walk up to her and run your hands across your hair, lean on the counter and say
"I would like a grande frapp, add a shot of "Love" and can I get the whipped cream on you baby?"
Actually, I'm not sure. I would feel her out first and see if she is interested back. | |
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Posted: 7/27/2009 7:47:56 PM | Try: "Hey, do you think this latte will be stimulating enough for me to work up the courage to ask you to go do something with me sometime?"
Might work!
Or how about: "You know, these lattes aren't quite doing for me what I had hoped they would." When she asks what that was, tell her "Giving me enough courage to ask you out!"
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Posted: 7/27/2009 7:48:49 PM | I think it's odd to have latte's in the morning, so do you think she suspects anything?
She's a woman and you come 3 out of the 5 week days for a coffee and talk to her for (who knows how long)
My money is on that she suspects something. The question is how receptive is she to talking to you?
If she is capable of having the conversation without trying to get away or anything and break it off then she either is interested in you or is too nice to tell you off since she enjoys the conversation and thinks you'll stop showing up if you find out she isn't up for grabs. She could also have a S.O.
The truth of the matter is...you met a girl at a coffee shop. Find something coming up that is interesting and think she'll be interested in too. Ask her out to it. She says no then you accept it and stop going to that coffee shop (Or just not when she works in the morning)
Or she says yes and you're on your way. | |
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Posted: 7/27/2009 8:39:51 PM | [Actually, I'm not sure. I would feel her out first and see if she is interested back.]
Now that sounds like a way to get a pot of coffee poured on your crotch  | |
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Posted: 7/27/2009 9:00:31 PM | I wouldn't ask her at work... come up with something fun and make a suggestion that your going to be at a bar or something with some friends and having fun that if shes interested she should come out and have some (safe) fun. If shes good looking as you suggest, she probably has options so during the week is better... If you approach her directly at work she easily may slip into 'No, I dont date customers' or other defense she uses. If shes interested she may make the effort. Make it easy for her to say yes or no, if shes not into you.
However it kind of sounds to me like you have a case of one-itis and sending off stalker signals... Dont be creepy....
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Posted: 7/27/2009 10:45:53 PM | Hi OP.... I feel for you; I used to be painfully shy when I was your age.
I think Miss Contemplative (I believe it was msg 7) has a good idea. My ex wife was a waitress when I met her and that is similar to the tactic I used.
Good luck, man! | |
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Posted: 7/27/2009 10:56:21 PM |
Does anyone have advice on how to approach her?
Wait until it's your turn in line. Then go up to her and ask her out.
Oh wait.
I'm very shy
In that case, just write her a folded note after your order that reads:
"Would you like to go out with me sometime?
Circle yes/no"
Then sit down and wait. If she circles yes and gives the note back after she hands you your latte then you're in. Then just keep writing her yes/no notes every day when you get your latte to determine time and place. Or if you get some sort of whipped cream on your latte use it to write your phone number and her name on the table that she has to go out and wipe down.
Of course if no note, or circled no, then leave a big tip and take off. | |
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Posted: 7/27/2009 11:03:59 PM | | if she's interested in your old university be like, DUDE, I used to go there. There's this awesome hangout spot I used to hit up with my exgirlfriend before I dumped her for her best friend. wanna get together and i show ya what im talkin about. DO IT BRO | |
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Posted: 7/27/2009 11:48:13 PM | Her name should be on her name tag if she works at Starbucks. It is not unusual to order a latte in the morning. It is also not unusual to come in every morning. I work at a Starbucks and we have plenty of regulars every day. Some of them are so set in their ways that we can prepare their drink for them before they even reach the register because they never change their order. Many of them stick around to chat if there isn't a line, although a few of them definitely only hit on the women.
Anyway, feel free to ask her out. There's no getting around that part. You either risk getting rejected or you don't ask at all. Don't get your hopes up, though. She is supposed to be nice to every customer because that is a part of customer service, and also because it is more likely to encourage good tips. | |
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Posted: 7/28/2009 12:49:03 AM | | Offer to take her on a "tour" of your old University, give her insider tips etc.,.. | |
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Posted: 7/28/2009 1:22:19 AM | Talk to her -find out as much as you can about her, see if you have anything in common...
I have chatted up and friended a few attractive waitresses and found out their lives were waaaay more messed up than i would ever want to tangle myself into (any further than friendship): (kids with different fathers, loser boyfriends, seperated or hiding from abusive husbands, being chased by the FBI/IRS...)
Also your not the first one to realize the girl is hot -she probibly gets hit on several dozen times a day.  | |
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Posted: 7/28/2009 3:28:07 PM | Thanks everyone.
To answer some questions: she is pretty receptive and if it's not me that initiates any discussion, she does anyway.
Would it make sense if I just didn't go to that Starbucks for a week and then maybe she'll strike up a conversation as to where I've been lately and then we can talk more?
Thanks,
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Posted: 7/28/2009 3:50:02 PM | | You can do that, or you can try coming by when she is getting off. Just do not come in the mrning, or she will know for sure your intentions! | |
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Posted: 7/28/2009 3:54:14 PM |
You can do that, or you can try coming by when she is getting off. Just do not come in the mrning, or she will know for sure your intentions!
The urge to point out all the double entendres is almost too much to bear.... | |
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Posted: 7/31/2009 4:29:48 PM | Thanks everyone.
I saw her again today and we just smiled each other. It was early in the morning and she was busy setting up. Maybe I'll just wait until there isn't that many people so we can start chatting or something. | |
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Posted: 7/31/2009 4:50:55 PM | Would it make sense if I just didn't go to that Starbucks for a week and then maybe she'll strike up a conversation as to where I've been lately and then we can talk more?
noooooooooooooooooooooooooo .. she might move, get a new job or - Someone with just a little more courage might ask her out! you know the old expression "You snooze - you loose"..
I like the suggestion of offering to give her a tour of the university .. nice .. better yet - I think you gotta just do it .. just ask her "Hey .. would you like to go out sometime?"
The Worst that can happen is she says "no". In that case .. don't get all rejected and fret over it .. you can 'save face' by saying something like: "well, ya can't blame a guy for askin" and Smile.
.. relax, deep breath .. and Smile.
and btw - You're very cute, have a wonderful smile .. I'd bet she'd be thrilled to go out with you! :) | |
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Posted: 7/31/2009 5:07:44 PM | A couple thought:
1) Being friendly is her JOB. Seriously. If she's smiling at you and making conversation, that doesn't mean anything other than that it's her job. She might be interested, but you'll never be able to feel her out if she's good at customer service, because she'll always be friendly regardless.
2) Don't do any of those calculated "disappear and she if she notices" things. It's, well, calculated. So's the whole latte all the time thing (and having worked at a Starbuck's, I can tell you that there are a lot of people who start their days with lattes; if she suspects something's up, it would probably be due to your manner around her).
3) If you want to ask her out, you can ask; but keep in mind that she's AT WORK. It's really a fairly inappropriate place for that sort of thing, and she's busy at her job. A simple "Let me know if you're interested in grabbing a beer sometime" might be the easiest way to go. It might not get you the straightest answer ever, but it doesn't pressure her or put her in a weird position at her job, and then she can say so if she is interested, and let it pass by if she's not but doesn't want to make things awkward. | |
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Posted: 7/31/2009 5:25:59 PM | | Go for it.Don't fear rejection. Be bold. Don't spend your life in wonder lust dude. | |
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Posted: 7/31/2009 11:36:46 PM |
I saw her again today and we just smiled each other. It was early in the morning and she was busy setting up. Maybe I'll just wait until there isn't that many people so we can start chatting or something.
OP, you're making this more difficult than it really is. just ask her out point blank and don't get all nervous about it. she may say "yes" or she may say "no."
If you want to use lines, use the line that SimplyKendra typed out:
"I would like a grande frapp, add a shot of "Love" and can I get the whipped cream on you baby?"
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Posted: 8/1/2009 2:52:54 AM | | Excuse me, do you have a moment? I need a little help. I noticed you here about X days ago. Since then I've been coming here almost every day, trying to think of something clever to say to you. I haven't thought of anything and I've had enough coffee. So, my question is, can you think of anything I could say to you that you would think was clever and charming? | |
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