| Heaven in a Friend
Posted: 7/27/2009 5:55:37 PM | Are you listening?
Do you complete the sentences spoken, delivered into your mind, before the story teller has had a chance to formulate the words, the thoughts, the phrasing in their own mind?
Do you blurt out your replacement word, proud that you knew what they were thinking, not understanding that in essence you are confusing their mind and bringing the focus back to you?
Egos a friend.
Are you listening?
Are you savoring the flavor of anothers thoughts, the integrity of their words, the passion they are trying to express to you in such a limited way through voice, hands, feet shuffling, excited words popping out of an enlightened face?
Or are you searching... racking your brain about your rhetorical answer, examining in your own mind what you can say next, letting your ego play with answers that will better their world, preoccupied with wandering thoughts that distract or even not communicating at all but focusing on visions of your own?
Can you hear me?
Are you watching the story tellers body language, looking deep into their eyes to see subtle reflections of loss, grief, suffering that no one but they can express about their own lifes hurts and pain?
How much are you listening?
Can you feel their striving, do you try and enter their world, walk in their soul shoes, try on their lives like a favorite jacket and truly learn from their experiences?
It's just like Heaven.
Learning from a personal story teller's experiences.
I've been to heaven.
Heaven, the other side, nirvana no matter what a name. Where we intimately share each others souls. We meld with each other, we become each other and fully share, grasp, without encumbrances, fully expressively, beyond honestly... to BE each other and apart. That is how we learn.
The act of listening and fully embracing anothers experiences is god like. Learning from another, taking in their essence of trust is a closer step to heaven. Heaven on earth, a taste, the knowing. Unfettered by intrusions of our own thoughts, quietness of mind. Just soaking in anothers spirit.
That is what the art of listening is. Not simply waiting for your friend to pause, breathe in deep thought, so carefully, truthfully choosing their limited words...
... for you to jump in and blurt out your views or shockingly more so change the subject.
Stop and breathe with them. Drink in who they are. Remember why they are your friend. Remember Heaven. | |
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| Heaven in a Friend
Posted: 7/28/2009 5:08:25 AM | | The butterfly fluttered past my face and gently teased my cheek as my vision was filled with the visual of a dancing mid -air flight of a butterfly. Sorry what were you saying? :D I believe in Mothernature but not in a "Heaven." | |
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| Heaven in a Friend
Posted: 7/28/2009 9:45:01 AM | | Yes Cindy, as can so many, if they would just “listen”. But I’m so busy focusing on the fact that she used the word, “heaven”, that I completely missed the concept. Hell, I don’t even believe in “heaven”. What was she talking about? Oh my god…a perfect example Mr. Earp. Listening is something you have to “learn”, and requires the willingness to except the idea that you may not be a good listener, before you can "pay attention" and learn to apply good listening skills. If more parents would “listen” to their children, we wouldn’t have so many angry children running away to anywhere to get away from their parents. “They don’t listen to me!” they cry…”They call me “stupid!” If more people would just shut up and “Listen” to what’s being said, they might learn something about themselves or their “friend” or their child. But rather, they go around calling people “stupid”. Brushing off what’s actually being said as if “unworthy” of their attention. I think this was a very good post Miss Ruby! Very nicely done. Thanks. | |
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| Heaven in a Friend
Posted: 7/28/2009 3:11:19 PM | And this would also be an art to master
in that you would be very bad at it at first
making mistakes and maybe standing there
afterward for enough time with mouth slightly agape
that the story-teller even wonders if you were listening
but maybe too much that time.
Then you may get good at it, and the story-teller may think
that you are a master of listening, and quietly be afraid that
you might even bust out one of your own stories!
Sometimes, you might even be in the presence of a master
listener, and wonder if he heard anything you said. Having
been listening so well he for all intents and purposes could
have had a lobotomy or something! | |
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Posted: 7/28/2009 5:23:17 PM | Hi Wyatt,
I've been to heaven.
Heaven, the other side, nirvana no matter what a name. Where we intimately share each others souls. We meld with each other, we become each other and fully share, grasp, without encumbrances, fully expressively, beyond honestly... to BE each other and apart. That is how we learn.
This paragraph is based on the experience that I had during a Near Death experience.
'Heaven' being a term that most people can easily relate to.
..and MotherNature loves you too:)
Ruby | |
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Posted: 7/28/2009 5:33:30 PM | Thanks everyone...
I woke up one morning with this running through my brain:)
I don't want to get into a spiritual discussion here over my or spirits choice in words as I'm more inclined to be on the spiritual/pagan side of things. I don't believe in a hell as a place but more of a state of mind/soul that we can put ourselves in.
when I had the near death experiences my soul did go somewhere and it was really great... but I had to come back to finish out my souls contract for this life:)
namaste (might like this word better:)
Ruby | |
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