| not really plenty of fish; any suggestions? please be nice
Posted: 7/28/2009 11:46:14 AM | | i wasted my time with a dating/long term profile on here long ago and lost hope over many months of not many replies/messages or adding me to their favorites besides not long term material ladies, liars, not going anywhere near actually going on a date conversation[just wanting to chat,etc], and had two dates, one i canceled on for her extreme lack of consideration and the one i actually went on a date with was super gorgeous but totally not long term material and way too into money. now that i've changed it up on my second try i'm finding myself ready to delete again. i don't get it; what do i have to do, do i need to lie like most guys, be an inconsiderate jerk, flaunt my income, or what? seriously!!! many of the women on here are totally not straight shooters, say they want one thing on their profile and really want something else when you talk to them, or are bitter and not even considering giving anyone a chance period and just want someone to be negative towards someone. this site and most of the people i've had 'contact' with are very much disappointing and i don't know what i should do :c at this point i'm resorting to ask for help on this forum. please say something productive and be polite in doing so :) thanks abunch | |
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| not really plenty of fish; any suggestions? please be nice
Posted: 7/28/2009 12:01:36 PM | | I haven't had the ''success'' on here either but you have to have patience and do other things than just rely on here to find you a perfect women as it won't happen. Some are players, some too fussy, some already dating, some don't fancy you, its a big gamble. Just play along but don't get too hung up on this place. If you do then you get annoyed and it will show in your communications with the women you like and they will run like a bunny rabbit. | |
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| not really plenty of fish; any suggestions? please be nice
Posted: 7/28/2009 12:19:43 PM | Did you really have to ask this question?
Well, since you did ask the question then I will answer.
What were you thinking with that picture of you pissing on someone's car? Honestly, you have to question about why there are no women getting at you when you should ask in the profile review forum what is it about your profile that needs help. The whole thing.
Posting pics of you pissing on someone's car, pics with you in need of a serious haircut, one with just one eye showing------c'mon. You want someone to take you serious then be serious. Don't blame your shortcomings on this site and on the women being shallow.
What will grab a person's attention FIRST are the pictures on your profile. If they are something that KEEPS the attention, they will read the profile and email you. Look back at the last profile that you had and if you did anything different on there that you don't have now, you might want to put that back in. You did say you went out with a few women. Also, you just opened this account. Don't expect the messages to pour in the first month that you are here.
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| not really plenty of fish; any suggestions? please be nice
Posted: 7/28/2009 12:29:21 PM | What Sassy said^^^^
Dude WTF were you thinking? Yeah you could be everything I ever wanted ,but if that is the pic I see of you on a public forum, I wouldn't give you the time of day. Yeah most guys have p1ssed in alleys, corn fields, back yards and on the occasional cop car, but they don't post it on a public profile | |
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| not really plenty of fish; any suggestions? please be nice
Posted: 7/28/2009 1:19:52 PM | | Yea for 28, all the pics of you show you being incredibly immature, for one. For two you said you don't want kids. You may have your mind made up about that, and that's fine, but most women in your age group aren't ready to say never and don't want a guy who is - so that'll be a big hurdle for you. | |
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| not really plenty of fish; any suggestions? please be nice
Posted: 7/28/2009 4:45:50 PM | It's not nice to punk Ask a girl.
If this isn't a punk, quit crying and grow some, head over to profile review.
No woman would respond to that profile unless she was a desperate loser.
Don't whiz on a car and ask "what's wrong"?
That is about as polite as anyone can be after viewing that mess. | |
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| not really plenty of fish; any suggestions? please be nice
Posted: 7/28/2009 7:32:21 PM | | lol, did it ever occer to you retards that someone on this site might have a sense of humor? seriously, that's my little brother's car and i'm not actually peeing on it. i've had complements on that photo from people on this site saying it says i have an awesome personality, and the one eye pic too. at least i don't have a pic without me in it like abunch of people on here. lol, didn't really think i'd get this many mostly bitter up tight replies. yall'd have more luck yourselves if you'd loosen up a bit and have enough confidence in yourself to actually have a personality. | |
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| not really plenty of fish; any suggestions? please be nice
Posted: 7/28/2009 7:46:06 PM | I actually think Bluezzz had it...maybe online dating isn't for you, especially in as "serious" a forum as POF kinda is. Myspace or Fubar seem more like your sort of forum, to me.
Be aware that facetiousness, sarcasm, and irony typically come across poorly anywhere online, and that from what I've read, the women of POF have seen every sort of online joke there is. They've even laughed...the first time.
For myself, I've experienced humor. I can even identify humor two times out of three. And that ain't humor. | |
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| not really plenty of fish; any suggestions? please be nice
Posted: 7/28/2009 7:46:18 PM | | Most people are going to be uptight on this site...the guys aren't getting any responses...the women are getting too many responses from the guys they don't want to notice them, etc. It's best to use this site for humor/entertainment. You might meet someone here...chances are you wont. I do know one couple that met on here and got married. But for the most part we're all too shallow to truly take a look at those around us. | |
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| not really plenty of fish; any suggestions? please be nice
Posted: 7/28/2009 7:53:10 PM | "the women are getting too many responses from the guys they don't want to notice them"
This is a little harsh...seems to me it's global, and not fair to blame this solely on the women.
Though your main point stands...I met the woman I'm dating on another site, and haven't had much but "friends" interests here (either one way or the other). | |
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| not really plenty of fish; any suggestions? please be nice
Posted: 7/28/2009 8:01:14 PM | 'Most people are going to be uptight on this site...the guys aren't getting any responses...the women are getting too many responses from the guys they don't want to notice them, etc. It's best to use this site for humor/entertainment. You might meet someone here...chances are you wont. I do know one couple that met on here and got married. But for the most part we're all too shallow to truly take a look at those around us. '
thanks man, and for saying something relevant/polite. lol, i thought it was a good idea to ask women what would improve my chances and i'm guessing not at this point. oh well, thanks again man | |
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| not really plenty of fish; any suggestions? please be nice
Posted: 7/28/2009 8:01:35 PM | I think the OP is just too honest..
OP: You might want to take the edge off just a little bit.
For instance:
1. Don't bring up so explicitly your past. It's sufficient to say "you want to take it slow, and let things develop more if things work out." Talking about getting hurt in the past isn't accomplishing anything. Sure, that'll come up at some point but let someone get to know you a bit before you deal with your troubles.
2. Don't rag on your job situation. Put it in a positive light even if it's not perfect. Saying "you're looking for something with less irregular hours" is sufficient.
You can show your personality without always laying it all out there. [That includes the car pic.] I don't think anyone is particularly attractive if they give you their full 100% personality all at once. I mean, all the stuff the above posters hate might actually be endearing if they actually knew you. The problem is they don't, and so your quirks aren't necessarily going to be put in a positive light.
So mix your personality into your profile subtlety along with some phrases that might be a little more canned. Besides, what you think is your personality is not necessarily what others might infer from your write-up or pictures.
Finally, online dating is about looks. Ironically, with girls, that's rarely how it works in the real world -- if you have the right personality (confident, funny, etc), any girl will go for you. But here, they can afford to be very picky. So if online dating is getting you down, put more work into meeting people in real life where it's not so superficially based on looks or money. If you have game, and make efforts to get out there, you'll find much more success. | |
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| not really plenty of fish; any suggestions? please be nice
Posted: 7/28/2009 8:05:25 PM | "I haven't had the ''success'' on here either but you have to have patience and do other things than just rely on here to find you a perfect women as it won't happen. Some are players, some too fussy, some already dating, some don't fancy you, its a big gamble. Just play along but don't get too hung up on this place. If you do then you get annoyed and it will show in your communications with the women you like and they will run like a bunny rabbit."
thanks abunch, i'll place less focus on this site i reckon. thank you for a relevant, polite reply. have a good one | |
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