| When To ask for a #
Posted: 7/28/2009 7:45:50 PM | Okay I work a lot and dont get on here like everyday or anything!! I do still have a life with friends!! But conversation is good and things are look alright between myself and the girl I am Talking/Chatting with!! Now I would like to get a number b/c that would make talkin so so so much easier but dont want to be the A-Hole or seem desperate!! But it is so hard to actually get to know someone over chatting on the internet!! So when and how would be the best time/way to ask a girl for her telephone number???
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| When To ask for a #
Posted: 7/28/2009 7:48:04 PM | | Don't ask for a phone number. Ask for a meeting. Casual, daytime, public place. | |
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| When To ask for a #
Posted: 7/28/2009 8:06:10 PM | Offer her your number and see if she calls - great way to break the ice. I wouldnt meet a guy who I had not first at least spoken to on the phone (could be a chick pretending to be a guy or whatever). But if he offers me his number - I would take that to mean he is open and receptive to my calling, and he is interested in taking it further but not pressuring me or rushing me into anything when I still dont really know who he is.
Offer her your number - and see what happens.
Good luck
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Posted: 7/28/2009 8:10:17 PM | I have great levels of success getting a woman's phone number AFTER I have made the suggestion to move from emails on POF to a real time chat format such as MSN messenger. Also AFTER I decide that I would like to actually speak to her on the phone. That usually happens within an hour or so of chatting on MSN but most often after a couple to several days of witty banter on MSN. I just tell her at that point hey listen, you can obviously hold a good conversation and I wouldn't mind talking to you like normal people do on the phone.
Ding, done around 98% of the time. Whatever goes from that varies. | |
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Posted: 7/28/2009 8:12:52 PM | | I have done that and from there I dont get a call or even a message back saying somethin like lets talk more on here or something of that nature!! From there i guess I'm a little embarrased and dont send a message back after that and just leave it like it is!! | |
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Posted: 7/28/2009 8:13:03 PM | Frankly, if the girl likes your pics, she won't have a problem giving you her number whenever you ask for it. I think it's good to first make sure you guys have similar values or seem compatible outside of the physical. Usually by the 3rd or 4th response from her it's more than safe to ask for her number. Don't go longer.
However, I'll stress that it's far better to just suggest a meeting. Talking on the phone, while a progression up from e-mail, isn't really getting you to where you want to be -- you can have a great convo with a girl over the phone and still not like each other in person. So why waste your time? Some girls might insist on a call first (to screen socially awkward types). But this is rare.
If you sense the girl is balking at meeting, just walk away. Know this: any girl who sees their dream guy will not say no just because you've only exchanged a few e-mails. Don't feel tentative. If you feel you need to walk on eggshells just to get her to see you, you're almost certain to be wasting your time.
I have done that and from there I dont get a call or even a message back saying somethin like lets talk more on here or something of that nature!!
Do not feel this is because of what you said or did. It's only because they don't like you in that way. They just saved you a lot of time. If a girl was really infatuated by you -- i.e. what you're looking for -- they'd pretty much do anything you wanted after one e-mail.
If they hesitate at meeting up, tell them simply: "Hey, you're not feeling it. No problem. Good luck." | |
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Posted: 7/28/2009 8:17:44 PM | DO NOT offer your number. I just had a women hit me with....86 text messages in 2 days. Then when I told her I don't think it's going to work she immediately switched asking "who is this...? how'd you get my number?" Psychos be amongst us, hmph! | |
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Posted: 7/28/2009 8:18:12 PM | Look honestly if they are interested you should be able to move it to phone calls after a few decent emails. It should not take that long before moving to phone calls if they are serious.
And I disagree with one poster who said to skip phone calls. I would not consider meeting someone without phone calls. If she can't talk and keep up a conversation for at least a few minutes on the phone I am not real interested in meeting her.
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| When To ask for a #
Posted: 7/28/2009 8:55:06 PM | "I have done that and from there I dont get a call or even a message back saying somethin like lets talk more on here or something of that nature!! From there i guess I'm a little embarrased and dont send a message back after that and just leave it like it is!! "
If she doesnt want to talk to you on the phone then she is a really slow mover, or she is hiding something or she just aint that into you.
If you really liked your correspondence you could opt to give her the benefit of the doubt and continue communication for another week or so to decide which it is ... but me personally - I would move on, Its just a phone call ... not a life threatening thing .. if she cant make the phone call she really wont be meeting yo azz!
Cowboy is correct as well .. I would never meet someone without speaking to them on the phone first .. I have had phone calls that were SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO boring .. I can imagine the time I would waste meeting the person. I have also had phone calls which were delightfully suprising - the guy didnt seem as cool in text as he was on the phone .. and that was a great thing indeed!
Whichever - who knows why anyone would want to continue typing forever - unless she isnt that serious about finding someone to enjoy life with, or she just isnt into you and her notes are her way of being polite.
Its not that serious - there are many who are just cool .. and you will do fine and have a great time.
Good luck
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Posted: 7/28/2009 9:20:13 PM | Easiest question on POF: Ask for her number when you want to call her. That's it.
If you are exchanging email and you think "Wow, I'd like to call her..." then ask for the number!
If you are looking at her pics and you think "Wow, I'd like to call her..." then ask for the number!
If you are in a club and talking to a woman and you think, "Wow, I'd like to call her..." then ask for the number!
Geez, why wait? Go for it. If she says no, just walk away or end your message. Sheeesh...there are MILLIONS of single women everywhere. Get off the frickin' fence and make a choice! | |
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Posted: 7/28/2009 9:25:42 PM | If you want her number, just ask for it.
If she is going to say no now, she would probably say no next week so just ask.
If she's not ready yet, she'll tell you. | |
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