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Posted: 7/29/2009 10:32:45 AM | I don't know if this has been wrote about already but if so i'm sorry.
What do you do when you have meet a guy on POF and you both always say tomorrow we'll hang out and then it doesn't happen. This has happened to me i dunno how many times with this one guy. He is always asking when r we gonna hang out and i say tonight, but he never gives me a time...wtf.? does he want me to pick the time. ? So we haven't hanged out because we don't pick a time or place...So my question i guess is...Does he want the woman to be in control of the situation or what? He's a cool guy and i don't care if we ever meet but i would like some advice....
Please don't reply to this if your gonna be rude about this...
And another Q:
What do you do when u meet someone on POF n you hang out all the time and you think that other person might like you? Do you ask that other person or do you just leave it as friends so you don't make it awkward?
He gives me mixed signals about possibly liking me more but im so confused!
WHY CANT GUYS JUST TELL YOU YES HE LIKES YOU OR NO LETS JUST BE FRIENDS????? | |
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Posted: 7/29/2009 11:00:02 AM | If you are emailing a guy and he sincerely wants to meet you, then if you say tonight is a good time to hang out, he should ask where do I pick you up. If he is busy, he will let you know what he is doing and pick out a better date and time that will fit his schedule. If you want a douche bag for a boyfriend, then you make all the plans, pick him up in your car and pay the tab. Then allow him to manipulate his way into sleeping with you, and once he has another notch on his belt he'll go on to the next POF girl that is gullible enough to allow that to happen again. He probably lives with his parents and uses his baby mommas car to come get you.
By the way, not to be rude, but you need to take some grammar classes. I'm not perfect either, but your posting had a few words that were used improperly. Its not a big deal, as most dumb ass guys wouldn't even notice because they have worse writing skills then most 4th graders.
About your second question. Are you in high school? Spend more time talking about your common interests then whether or not you like each other. Especially if its within the first few days of you spending time together. If he likes you, he will show interest. If you don't know if a guy is interested in you, I'll help you. If he wants to just **** you, he will lie his way into your pants. If he really is interested in you, he will do whatever he can to make you smile, be happy and feel good inside.
Just remember this: You are first, other people are second. You can't take care of other people unless you are happily taken care of. And you don't need anyone else to help you with making yourself happy. Trust me.
Thats all I got. I hope this helps. | |
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Posted: 7/29/2009 11:01:11 AM | Sounds like the guy is a flake. And unfortunately i think it's a sign of the times. In dating online ( and offline too )people ( not just men) are always looking for the next,better thing to come along. Without jumping to conculsions....ask. Assuming we know what they want is the first mistake. Be prepared to move on. There are so many people out there looking for a relationship,don't waste time on the ones that don't know what they want. Be his friend,just don't invest too much emotion into it just yet!
Second question :
If someone likes you romantically, you'll know. There are signs. He looks at your eyes when you speak. He may give you a light touch. He calls and wants to make plans(and follows through with the plans.)
Just don't over think everything! ENJOY .... and good luck to you! :) | |
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Posted: 7/29/2009 11:04:53 AM | Q1. Playing the "meeting people on-line" game is a game that really pushes people to take a look at themselfes and choose which rules they want to play by. By this I mean that you can still play the "I'll push a little bit for us to me but I'll wait for him to take the final decision or, you can make all the arrangements yourself (decide where you would like to go, what time etc...) then meet and go with him. He most likely will not think you are overbaring or too controlling and if he does then, that's okay too... it's part of the game! By the sounds of it, you like to let other guys be in control and you follow, the time may now have come for you to see that playing by those rules will make you end up here.
Q2. The reason why guys won't say clearly what they think is for the EXACT same reason women do the same thing; They just keep living day-by-day moment-by-moment till something changes". You and him get along so the question is "why not talk to him about how much you like spending time with him and you look forward to the next times you will be spending time with him".
Also, moving into a bit more of physical contact also gives a clear message. No no no, I don't mean jump in the sac with him right off the bat but rather, giving him a tendor hug, kiss on the cheek/lips and right after thet, telling him how much you like the time you spend with him. | |
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Posted: 7/29/2009 11:13:53 AM | Question one.. what do you do? Easy the next time he mentions something like that..Tell promises promises or I will believe it when I see it. Actions speak a heck of alot louder than any words.
As to question number two...Since you are young this might confuse you. It is simple you look straight at him, Say something to the effect," I really enjoy my time with you and I also am starting to really like you.. Awkward only happens when one person isn't as interested as the other. Or you could. Pass the note. Do you like me check yes or no.
As to the one statment you have in this post.
"Please don't reply to this if your gonna be rude.
Well that might work in la la land, Here in forums people have the right to express their opinions as long as they follow the rules... They can say pretty much what they feel.
Good luck | |
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Posted: 7/29/2009 11:14:08 AM | If I say tomorrow lets get together and the other person agrees I am then following up with the details (time/place). He could be a bit shy and is not sure how to proceed so he is waiting on you to suggest a time and place. If this bugs you, stop wasting your time on him because it will probably not get better as time goes on.
As for your second question, it just might be an age thing and the guys you are meeting just do not know how to proceed. If it was me and after a two dates the person seems more interested in hanging out than dating, I would ask them straight out. | |
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Posted: 7/29/2009 11:20:03 AM | If he cant pick out a time or help you figure out what works best , he is boy not a guy move on.
If a guy has a hard time asking you out on a date after he met you, again he is a boy move on. | |
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Posted: 7/29/2009 11:40:15 AM | Hard to say if he wants the woman to be in control or not. I can tell you he doesn't want to see you badly enough (no matter what he says) to just grow a pair and ask you out, though. If you really want to meet up with him, just pick a time and place yourself. If you don't like doing this or like guys who take charge, then stop talking with him because it will lead nowhere.
This "another Q" is really the same exact question as above. "How do I know if he likes me?" You mention meet someone on POF, what do I do? Well, what do you do when you meet someone in real life? The rules are the same...
I like to chill, not make it awkward, to a point. But I hate wondering, and hate making others wonder these things. So if I can't tell if she likes me, I simply lay it out there...
"Yeah, so I really like dating you and think you're just swell, super, the bee's knees even!  Do you feel the same?"
Now, that wasn't so hard, was it? Young guys can be so terrible at this. Just lay it out there, accept the answer for better or worse, then decide what to do. | |
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Posted: 7/29/2009 11:43:45 AM |
He gives me mixed signals about possibly liking me more but im so confused!
You're only on your first date or two, and he's already this frustrating? Sounds like it's time to move on...
[quoteDo you ask that other person or do you just leave it as friends so you don't make it awkward?/quote]
I generally suck it up and tell them how I feel. UNLESS their friendship is too great of a value to risk messing it up by introducing a romantic dynamic to the relationship.
WHY CANT GUYS JUST TELL YOU YES HE LIKES YOU OR NO LETS JUST BE FRIENDS?
We can. And, stop yelling please. | |
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Posted: 7/29/2009 12:02:49 PM | First guys a flake. Time to put up or shut up. I've had this happen to me before. She would do the exact same thing you were talking about. I'd say alright great what's your address or do you want to meet somewhere and then nothing. Happened about 5 times. I even got to the point of setting a date and time and I always heard lame excuse after another. Finally I just told her I don't like to play games and I no longer want to talk. I still get random messages from her saying she wants to hang out. Some people are just game players.
Okay now to the second question. I never meet people off of POF intending to be friends. Her and I both know we are looking for more so I don't run into this problem. You should talk to them about this before you meet them. Yes, you want to meet them and get to know them but let them know you're not looking for another friend before you meet. However, you've already jumped in that pool. So the best thing to do is to talk to them. Guys will tell you if they like you or not. You just have to ask. Women pretty much run the relationship--y'all determine if there will be a relationship, when y'all will have sex, when to meet friends and family. Most guys assume you do not like them, you have to let them know you do. If he hasn't stopped talking to you by now it's a pretty good sign he likes you. We're that simple. | |
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Posted: 7/29/2009 12:28:41 PM | | OP, you aren't making obvious what you want and expect. (1) Make plans. If the plans are cancelled, write the person off and move on. (2) If you're expecting to be anything but friends, you should be doing some real kissing before your first date ends. You need to either take the initiative to kiss him or make it very evident you want to be kissed. If your date ends with only a hug, a handshake or a lame kiss, write him off and move on. If you don't make the decisions, the other person will and you'll be stuck with whatever every flake decides to do. | |
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Posted: 7/29/2009 12:49:22 PM | well i'll give you one solution to both problems...
Dont talk to either one of them for a week. Let THEM contact YOU. When they do, it puts you in the driver seat....
the first one : when he eventually contacts u and says wanna hangout?, ask him when and where and what time is he picking you up...
the second: keep tellin him you're busy untill the wknd, and when you 2 do decide to hang out,ask him,straight out, does he want something casual or more?
thats should help, good luck. | |
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Posted: 7/29/2009 3:29:31 PM | For the first question, I think he's just leading on. I mean if I wanted to hang out with someone I'd tell em let's meet right away or whenever it was convenient for them.
Second question:
If no one's taking the initiative then do something to just make it obvious. I suggest telling them you have a thing for them. If I think you're cute you'll never know it if I don't tell you right? Maybe the guy/girl is waiting for YOU to make a move.. we ARE in the 21st century. Women have equal rights last time I checked in the relationship department.
Hint: Steal a kiss... that's VERY straightforward.  | |
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Posted: 7/29/2009 3:56:30 PM | | Two people that like each other can't be awkward with each other. If it becomes awkward after admitting your feelings then it's completely over. The love game is played in comfort, not awkwardness. | |
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Posted: 7/29/2009 4:33:31 PM | Q1 - If a person really wants to meet you they will find/make the time. If they keep saying the want to, but find reasons not to...sorry would begin to think they are not being honest and move on. For it sounds as though they are having difficulty with honesty and integrity.
Q2 - It might feel a bit awkward - yet simply stating that you have enjoyed the time together and would like to do it again. After spending some time talking you should have a idea about how they will respond. The next time you get together could being doing something you both enjoy. | |
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Posted: 7/29/2009 4:36:44 PM | 1. its a man's job to pick a time and be in control, so if he can't don;t try to decide for him, just forget about it.
2. It shouldn't be hard to tell whether a guy likes you. some signs are:
- he likes to keep eye contact with you
- he likes to touch you
- he likes to make you laugh
- he tells his friends about you
- he shows up unexpectedly
- he asks you if you're seeing anyone else
- his body language is open and friendly towards you
- his conversation with you is natural
go on a boring date somewhere like a park bench and see how you 2 get along if your not sure. | |
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Posted: 7/29/2009 4:45:33 PM | | If he can't make up his mind on when he wants to see you... he fails at life. Leave him alone... buy a cat. They let you know whether you're relationship material or not... | |
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Posted: 7/29/2009 8:06:06 PM | OMG how old are you? I hope you are young, your post suggests you are. First question the answer is the guy is not all that interested in you...as Patrick Bateman said to his fiancee: "You're not terribly important to me.".
Second question just freakin' ASK HIM, COMMUNICATE with him. | |
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Posted: 7/29/2009 8:40:39 PM | He is always asking when r we gonna hang out and i say tonight, but he never gives me a time...wtf.? does he want me to pick the time. ? So we haven't hanged out because we don't pick a time or place...So my question i guess is...Does he want the woman to be in control of the situation or what? He's a cool guy and i don't care if we ever meet but i would like some advice....
When you answer "tonight", where did the rest of the conversation go? But if it's happened that many times, you should have got the hint to set the time yourself.
And another Q:
What do you do when u meet someone on POF n you hang out all the time and you think that other person might like you? Do you ask that other person or do you just leave it as friends so you don't make it awkward?
He gives me mixed signals about possibly liking me more but im so confused!
WHY CANT GUYS JUST TELL YOU YES HE LIKES YOU OR NO LETS JUST BE FRIENDS?????
If you're comfortable enough being friends and neither of you feel the need to push for a relationship, then at least one of you need to grow a pair. It shouldn't hurt the friendship if a relationship is not the be all and end all. Besides, you also risk a relationship ruining a friendship. And rephrase your retort to why can't YOU just tell him you like him. | |
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Posted: 7/29/2009 8:59:34 PM | Hmm, setting the time has been a problem more than once you may want to force his hand by telling him to set the date and time. If he is not really interested you will find out shortly. If I find someone else has a hectic life then I don't try to set the time myself, I'll try to narrow things down without pressuring.
For example, If someone says sometime next week I'll tell them when I'm free next week. That's a hint that they can pick a day next week, or if they want to leave it up to me then they can just say whenever you are free. It's probably better to just give a date and time and then let them counter, but I like to make it clear that I'm not the only one with responsibility. If I'm always making the plans and presenting ideas I feel like I'm doing all the work, and the other person is not pulling their weight. | |
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Posted: 7/30/2009 7:34:52 AM | | When a person is being wussy, just give him an ultimatum. Be 100% blunt, give him a yes or no answer, take no sh*t, if they can't do something like that, drop them like a bad habit. | |
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