| Do you need your partner to find you hot?
Posted: 7/29/2009 11:33:49 PM | When you are in a relationship with someone do you need to know that he/she finds you hot? That he or she finds you to be one of the most attractive person around.
Would it piss you off if he/she obviously found somebody else (x) more attractive?
Of course the other as to be attracted to you but there is more than physical beauty to attraction... | |
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| Do you need your partner to find you hot?
Posted: 7/29/2009 11:45:37 PM | He better find me hot at hell. And it's ok if there are other beautiful women around, I'll be the first to say, "Hey, she's hot", but he better grab my butt and tell me yup, but I wanna do you!
Physical attraction is very important, don't ever forget it.
Beth | |
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| Do you need your partner to find you hot?
Posted: 7/29/2009 11:58:55 PM | I asked my SO that same question tonite...
I have dated people that had to have the most beautiful, and they would call me that. However if I was not as thin as I had when I first got married, multiple surgeries and down time will do that. Then I was views as less than attractive, which hurt my spirit, because my ex spouse was not what a person would call a hottie himself.
I don't take issue if a guy says someone is attractive, as an artist I am generally the person who will point out someone I see as having very fine workmanship...
I see people from the inside out, so some of the people I have been with weren't what others may have considered beautiful, however I thought they were because I was looking at their soul first...
My SO is the same way... I have gain some weight over the past year because of meds and the change of life, and feel negative about my body image... He is sweet about telling me I am his beautiful woman and he finds me HOT...
He sees my soul, as I see his first... Thus beauty in the physical aspect isn't the ut most importance to either of us...
HOWEVER for myself, i have been fighting tooth and nail to get back to the weight I was when we met, for me... | |
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| Do you need your partner to find you hot?
Posted: 7/30/2009 12:06:25 AM | | Yes, I want my partner to believe I am the most amazing female on earth. I usually tell a man (probably why I am currently single after some LTR's) that I want to possess him. I like it when men are completely obsessed with me and think about how lucky they are to have met me. I have never had a problem with men mentioning other women, but I think it would bother me if they did it frequently. | |
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| Do you need your partner to find you hot?
Posted: 7/30/2009 12:17:29 AM | You can be totally into your spouse and find her/him deeply sexy and attractive even if you find another to be hotter by an outsider point of view...
Love makes your significant sexy no matter what. | |
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| Do you need your partner to find you hot?
Posted: 7/30/2009 12:29:44 AM | As they say, beauty is in the eye of the beholder...
The most beautifulist thing about a person is that they are in love, it's in their eyes, their spirit, their soul and their inner beauty shines on the outer.
As for hot guys/women, it's only "outer" ..............
I say love me inside and then i will look beautiful on the outside.... to you, lol.. you know what i mean. | |
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| Do you need your partner to find you hot?
Posted: 7/30/2009 1:07:33 AM | | it would be nice :) i know that they will find alot of other people hotter, but id like them to think i am too. I work out alot, so i guess i should be fit looking at least. | |
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| Do you need your partner to find you hot?
Posted: 7/30/2009 1:16:07 AM | LOL...of course others are better looking but.My woman to me,is the most beautiful and why would you be looking at others,in the first place?As being more attractive than your mate?Do I since some insecruity issues here?And people wonder way there are many failed marriages and relationships now a days.NO COMMITMENT OR LOYALTY ENYMORE!  | |
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| Do you need your partner to find you hot?
Posted: 7/30/2009 2:30:13 AM | Personality, emotional compatibility, that stuff, are definitely way more important. But if you have that AND you find each other hot, it's magic. Without that magic, relationships become more of a pragmatic thing. You know, you have somebody to go with you to events, a person to have dinner with, etc. Man, I know a lot of people who wish they could break up with their partner... It's nice to be arguing with a girl and to be able to look at her and think to yourself, "my god, you are gorgeous even when you're in hysterics..."
Would it piss you off if he/she obviously found somebody else (x) more attractive? No. I live in LA. And I'm not the jealous type anyway. Which seems to bother some people. I would be bothered if she thought some dude was way funnier and smarter than me, though. :( | |
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| Do you need your partner to find you hot?
Posted: 7/30/2009 2:56:26 AM | I'm unclear on what the question is.
If you're asking do they need to think I'm the most physically attractive/beautiful person around? Then no. Pretty stupid concept really.
If you're asking about their attraction to me as a 'package', well then, yes, of course I do. Otherwise why be with me? | |
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| Do you need your partner to find you hot?
Posted: 7/30/2009 5:26:24 AM | Overall hotness
10 percent looks
30 percent personality
60 percent attitude
I will always think my So is hot its the main reason I am with them do they have to fit your definition of hot. Not in the slightest but the parts I get to experience are not something she should be sharing with you anyway. So Hecky Yeah I need my SO to be hot. I love sensual women because of the smoldering fires that lie just underneath the surface ready to ignite at the slightest touch sexy is obvious Hotness sensual is so much deeper and meaningful to me.  | |
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| Do you need your partner to find you hot?
Posted: 7/30/2009 5:42:43 AM | Yes yes yes yes
Of course I want him to find me hot and attractive - I don't think that you should stop taking care of yourself once you're in a relationship. But I also want him to find a lot more in me than the superficial. Attitudes, values, humour- I want him to appreciate all of that (and vice versa). When I was a year into my current relationship, I had some strokes, and subsequent brain surgery- I didn't look at all hot through the whole experience, and must confess o not being a ray of sunshine either! If my partner only valued my looks then we still wouldn't be together now. I must say as well that if he clocks or comments on attractive woman, I'm not threatened at all. However, if he says that someone is funny -I'll b e like "what, funnier than me?" . Looks fade. | |
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| Do you need your partner to find you hot?
Posted: 7/30/2009 5:53:09 AM | I agree about having a partner who is good on the inside making them very attractive to you, it's a wonderful thing.
That said.
If you are dating someone who isn't very physically attractive, and you both know it, is it best to just not give that particular compliment or can you put in modifiers such as "...to me" or "your personality makes you look great", or break it down to a bodypart and just say you have a cute nose or lips or something?
It seems that it could be patronizing to the other person to say that compliment when it sorta kinda ain't true. | |
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| Do you need your partner to find you hot?
Posted: 7/30/2009 5:58:07 AM | Don't care if he thinks others are prettier -- of course they are. I'm no super-model. Neither is he.
But seeing as he's the most beautiful and most attractive man in my world, sure, I'd feel sad if he thought someone else was the most beautiful and attractive woman in his world.
When you love someone as much as it's possible for you to love them -- how could anyone possibly be more beautiful or attractive to you? | |
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| Do you need your partner to find you hot?
Posted: 7/30/2009 6:14:01 AM | | I don't need to feel or be told that I'm the most attractive woman around, in the room or on the earth. I know I'm not and to tell me so would pi** me off cuz I'd know he's lying. But I do need to feel my partner desires me both mentally and physically. | |
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| Do you need your partner to find you hot?
Posted: 7/30/2009 8:12:18 AM |
When you are in a relationship with someone do you need to know that he/she finds you hot?
No, but I would assume my partner needs to find me hot enough, whatever that means. I certainly don't care to be told that.
Would it piss you off if he/she obviously found somebody else (x) more attractive?
No. Ther are more attractive guys than me around, so I'm quite sure that will happen. Anyone with half a brain would figure that out.
Of course the other as to be attracted to you but there is more than physical beauty to attraction...
Hello? We are from planet Earth and that is well known to us. | |
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| Do you need your partner to find you hot?
Posted: 7/30/2009 8:18:45 AM | | I think there has to be an initial physical attraction to start things off and obviously you want to think/know the other person finds you attractive. But in time you will find more hidden beauty which comes with getting to know the other persons quirks etc and if that doesn't happen well you may have a problem the problem with good looks or a fit body doesn't always make a nice person. | |
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| Do you need your partner to find you hot?
Posted: 7/30/2009 8:27:21 AM | | I dated a man about 12 years ago who made the comment that we wouldn't ever have to worry about anyone saying we were good looking, since we were so plain looking. He also made the comment that he might have some competition if I lost weight when I said I was going on a diet. He was a short, very plump average looking man to me. His personality and how he treated me made him unattractive to me in the long run, his appearance had little to do with it. At the time his comments regarding my appearance and me losing weight really got on my nerves, they were actually the straw that broke the camel's back, and I ended the relationship the day he made the comments. He and I had been to his parent's house for dinner, and his family had all commented on how cute I was and how nicely dressed I was and his sister who was a plump woman wanted me to go shopping with her. He thought his ex girlfriend was the bomb since he loved her red hair, green eyes and fake boobs. | |
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| Do you need your partner to find you hot?
Posted: 7/30/2009 8:46:36 AM | Of course no matter how pretty or handsome your SO is, there will always be someone out there more so, and if that's the only thing that is keeping two people together then...
When you are in a relationship, it's one thing to notice someone who's attractive and another thing to ogle and drool to the point of making your loved one uncomfortable.
If your relationship is over to the point you do it to the point of making them feel insecure or not trust you, the time for them to be rid of you has passed . | |
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| Do you need your partner to find you hot?
Posted: 7/30/2009 9:36:03 AM | | No. As long as she likes and respects me for who I am and what I do I - I’m happy. My ripped abs and distinguished appearance are just frosting on the cake. | |
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| Do you need your partner to find you hot?
Posted: 7/30/2009 9:53:17 AM | Well if we don't find each other hot, our sex lives are going to require some serious foreplay to stand a chance at the long-haul! 
If you're confident enough, you can accept the fact that there are people in this world that are more attractive than you from a physical standpoint. This is an inevitability, there are simply too many people in the world for it NOT to be true. So your partner acknowledging an attractive stranger in passing is not a slight in my opinion. My girlfriends have always been free to point out attractive men, and I'm not so homophobic that I can't see what they're talking about either.
I've also spent a lifetime adoring the female form, and that's not likely to change no matter how long I'm dating/married to someone. The key thing to bear in mind is that while physically-attractive men/women will come and go, your partner is the one standing beside you and whom you are blessed enough to go home with. So long as that sentiment resides in your heart, temptation is a laughable "risk". I see "hot" women every day, but doubt most will hold a candle overall to my current girl in the long-run, so I pass.   | |
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