| Rules of Attraction: Words can be sexy?
Posted: 7/30/2009 6:43:38 PM | If a picture is worth a thousand words, what about a profile with a 1000 and 1 word cleverly crafted?
I’m curious to know what you charming ladies have to say about ‘fishing’ with the following methodology. My apologies in advance if this has been brought up in the past, I fail at ‘search’.
It has occurred to me that we would be kidding ourselves if us (based on my experience as a guy, referring to “us” as guys) claimed not to have been fishing for profiles, based primarily on displayed pictures of the ones that look most pleasing to the eyes. ‘Pleasing to the eyes’ refers to the classical concept of turning the average guy into a drooling hound.
Note: How many keyboards have you short-circuited by drooling on them?
Tangents aside, as I dove into the ocean watching the many fishes, I began to notice certain patterns, especially these two:
Pretty girls are more ‘favorited’ than the not so pretty girls.
Pretty girls can get away murdering the English language and still be desirable.
In my opinion, these pretty girls who don’t put the effort to use the basics of capitals and periods in sentences; is equivalent to a handsome guy who doesn’t bathe, he still stinks in the end of the day no matter how good he looks.
This experience led me to try something completely different and new to me, clicking on profile without pictures! *gasp*
I was pleasantly surprised at what I stumbled into. These profiles I had dismissed in the past for lack of pictures were very attractive! Simply using words, these picture less ladies were able to paint beautiful portraits of themselves in my mind. I had experienced a shift on attraction that went beyond the pictures of a person. Qualities such as smarts, adventuress, kindness for examples, are more evident in bodies of text when the person recounts and shares experiences.
You can potentially argue with me that a picture of a person rock climbing would let you safely assume she is adventuress. But I find it more attractive when they talk about their heart beating and what went through their mind dangling hundreds of feet in the air than making assumptions about a person based on pictures.
My intention here isn’t to convince anyone that picture less profile is better or something along that line. It is actually to encourage not dismissing people based on lack of pictures.
Ideally, profiles with pictures that substantiate themselves with creative and interesting body of texts are best.
But try this concept of visiting profiles without pictures; she may be the most attractive girl in the world to you after a short read!
What'cha all think about this? Would love you all to share your two cents.
DisciplinedxNaughty
PS: I heard Penguins mate for life unlike most fishes, anyone want to be my Penguin? | |
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| Rules of Attraction: Words can be sexy?
Posted: 7/30/2009 6:55:22 PM | | Dude, all that sh!t works the other way too, if a dude is hot, the chicks don't check his spelling either. (they may notice, but they are not interested in the spelling) | |
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| Rules of Attraction: Words can be sexy?
Posted: 7/30/2009 7:00:33 PM | PS: I heard Penguins mate for life unlike most fishes, anyone want to be my Penguin?
Did you hear about the *gay* penguins ... http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,169653,00.html
Apparently they didn't get the memo about mating for life.
I'm a complete word slut. I have always responded to words. I am, however, quite visually stimulated. None of that matters if someone doesn't excite my brain.
ETA - I check spelling and grammar and cringe with txtspk posts... I can overlook it once or twice, but if I'm seriously interested and he can't be bothered to type out YOU or TO... or makes up some ridiculous phonetic spelling that has no resemblence to the English language, I'm going to lose interest... and quickly. | |
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| Rules of Attraction: Words can be sexy?
Posted: 7/30/2009 7:01:08 PM | Your thread makes me think of " ask a guy" not ask a girl
All you are really describing here is that you prefer " a creative person", or intelligence so are you really therefore, saying that good looking ladies really fall into the catagory of "dumb blondes", cause that's not the case either.
You either like a style of a profile of a person or you don't, nothing to do with anything other than personal taste.
Happy fishing. | |
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| Rules of Attraction: Words can be sexy?
Posted: 7/30/2009 7:08:37 PM |
Dude, all that sh!t works the other way too, if a dude is hot, the chicks don't check his spelling either. (they may notice, but they are not interested in the spelling)
That's bullshit! We women are definately not like you men. I don't care how good looking he is, if he can't put together a sentence on paper, he probably can't put together one in person. I'd pass on him.
And I especially hate guys that use the word "chick" and "dude". | |
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| Rules of Attraction: Words can be sexy?
Posted: 7/30/2009 7:16:13 PM | It may be just me, but reading more than one full screen worth of "sexy words" puts me in hybernation mode.  OK, LOL, I did gather all my might and scholastic aptitude and read what you wrote. You do have a good writing style.
I look at both verbal content and pictures. It may be nice to converse with a guy without a picture, but when it comes the time to meet him in person there is a tendency to panic and there is a likeliness to be disapointed.
I've also heard that... for people who are very loyal, not high maintenance, love raw fish, good swimmers, dress conservatively mostly in black and white ... penguins are the best match. | |
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| Rules of Attraction: Words can be sexy?
Posted: 7/30/2009 7:17:02 PM | | OP: Words can be extremely appealing. However, if it's not happening visually, it may cease to be as attractive. Or even a worse case scenario; if the person is just using his/her linguistic skills to "reel" people in for the wrong reasons (i.e. smooth talker). | |
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| Rules of Attraction: Words can be sexy?
Posted: 7/30/2009 7:24:44 PM | Definately some great wisdom so far, thanks!
On a side note, the penguin references are hilarious! I'm going to go watch Happy Feet. | |
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| Rules of Attraction: Words can be sexy?
Posted: 7/30/2009 8:48:58 PM | Brad29483
if a dude is hot, the chicks don't check his spelling either. (they may notice, but they are not interested in the spelling)
I call bullshyt on that!(spelling purposefully altered)
Sometimes I misspell a word but it is usually a typo.
Do I care if he misspells many words YES...a few...not really.
If a man's profile is filled with misspelled words then I definitely pay attention and probably won't reply to him.
Even if you can't spell well, spell check is available and to not use it on a profile that will most likely not change..... is not the smartest thing to do when trying to show your best side. | |
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| Rules of Attraction: Words can be sexy?
Posted: 7/30/2009 9:10:32 PM | My intention here isn’t to convince anyone that picture less profile is better or something along that line. It is actually to encourage not dismissing people based on lack of pictures.
^^^
Or is your intention to convince women that you are somehow deeper and more sensitive than other men by not dismissing ladies with image less profiles?
That's right. Sometimes you can be surprised. I have been. Sometimes they were doing the world a favour by being incognito.
I have a very strong well written profile. I am good looking. I get a lot of approaches.
I still haven't found my "big" love on this site. I think it's that dead rat I got trapped in the wall of my condo. It's stinking up the place. Women don't want to spend the night.  | |
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| Rules of Attraction: Words can be sexy?
Posted: 7/30/2009 9:26:10 PM | | Yes. I agree - words and good writing are sexy. To me. But ... different people are seeking different things. The most interesting thing about being on this interweb thing is that we get to interact with all walks of life. Everybody responds to different "bait". | |
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| Rules of Attraction: Words can be sexy?
Posted: 7/30/2009 9:29:29 PM | Farce of the Penguins rocked.
My key board has a condom cozy, so no short circuiting .
I have responded to pics with and without pics, and even though I typo constantly, I do try and use the WP to fix my mistakes.
It is the total impression I need to have to gauge whether I have interest in a person enough to met. But for conversation, I don't care what he looks like, as long as I can understand his words and meanings.
I hate having to run to the txt spk dctionry 2 understand wot they R sayn & translate. | |
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Posted: 7/30/2009 9:35:49 PM | Pictures have to be good, but the profile has to say something interesting as well. I met my boyfriend on here, and was intrigued because he had such a nice picture, and was well educated, but was very bad at spelling. Turned out he was just lazy when it came to his profile. But when we started talking, he impressed me because he was actually very intelligent, well-mannered, interesting, and goal-oriented.
He is a numbers guy, not a creative writer. But that's ok, I can do enough writing for the both of us!
Beth | |
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| Rules of Attraction: Words can be sexy?
Posted: 7/31/2009 3:13:49 AM | | I, for one, am a spelling nazi. I blatantly refuse to reply to poorly written profiles and messages - regardless of my visual attraction to the man. Thus proving our first replier wrong. I will not go for picture-less profiles as I like to see whom I'm going to be conversing with. I have had horrible luck with non-visual contacts - as they have turned out to be quite frightening (not that I'm something to write home about) but I mean SEVERELY scary. This concludes another random rambling by yours truly. Cheers. | |
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| Rules of Attraction: Words can be sexy?
Posted: 7/31/2009 5:23:37 AM | ^^^^^That lady is usually right!
It makes me uncomfortable when people claim to be 'attracted' to or 'interested' in someone they have never even met. Seems like it is all made up in thier own little head. | |
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| Rules of Attraction: Words can be sexy?
Posted: 7/31/2009 5:48:05 AM | | a half-decent pic and a few well chosen, well-turned words are all it takes to make a good first impression. the face to face will seal the deal if you can live up to your words and your photo. | |
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| Rules of Attraction: Words can be sexy?
Posted: 7/31/2009 7:15:20 AM |
If a picture is worth a thousand words, what about a profile with a 1000 and 1 word cleverly crafted?
A well written profile will get you all the dates you want. | |
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| Rules of Attraction: Words can be sexy?
Posted: 7/31/2009 12:59:53 PM | I would have said that spelling and the choice of words IS more important than a pretty picture. But as it turns out, I can forgive misspellings if the thoughts being expressed are intriguing to me. (Are there two s's in "misspelling"?)
However, misspelled cliches' and banalities -- no. I don't care how pretty you are, you will bore me.
I also don't want to read a thousand and one words. That says to me you can't get to the point and want to meander around in your own brain too much. Brevity is the soul of wit. | |
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| Rules of Attraction: Words can be sexy?
Posted: 8/1/2009 8:47:24 AM | Men are visual so a picture grabs your attention.
It takes a bit of reading between the lines as well to form an opinion - spelling and composition goes a long way. Bable like an idiot, you lose my interest rather quickly.
I appreciate a women who is kinda smart, can compose a sentence or carry on a conversation. A few misspelled words are not a game breaker though.
So it may be somewhat shallow to say looks are important, but what they say is what keeps me interested. Yeah, good looking and smart, works for me.
I know I should not dismiss the profiles without pictures, but I tend to overlook these, probably a mistake.
If I spent all my free time here, I might wander around some of those profiles, but life gets busy - we need spell check on POF and grammar coaches. | |
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