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Posted: 7/31/2009 11:22:44 AM | Over the years, and many versions of myself on POF, I’ve come to find one inescapable fact… be careful who you get to be friends with.. and I’ll explain why.
It seems that I have someone who is keenly interested in my love life, or at least assisting me in having a love life. This friend has found the “This user perfect for one of your friends? Be a Matchmaker and get them together!” line at the bottom of profiles, where you can input your friends name and email address, then press the “hook these 2 up” button. Ok Markus probably thought this was a great addition to a profile page.. but let me tell you, it can come back to bite you!!
This friend is now scouring the POF profiles, looking for the absolute WORST matches for me, and then filling up my email with messages that I would be perfect for this woman or that woman… OHHHH Hell no, is my first response. And I have NO way to stop them!! And they must be doing it to the other profiles as well, because I’m getting POF emails from these women.
Now anyone that knows me, knows I’m a super sweet guy who wouldn’t hurt a fly.. but I’m seriously wishing I could afford a hitman…
So my question is this:
Should I retaliate by finding the worst men’s profiles to send to her? It could become all out war if I do though.., or just let her get it out of her system, all the while having images inscribed into my brain that I’ll never get out…
What to do??? | |
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Posted: 7/31/2009 11:34:10 AM |
I have NO way to stop them!!
Sure, you do. Tell her once to knock it off, or you'll block her. Then do it.
Or just delete those emails when they come in, just like spam. | |
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Posted: 7/31/2009 11:36:58 AM | Bluezzz
I have about 150 names if you need them. LMAO
Only 5 dollars per name. She will send a personal apology when you are done.
No "hit man" prices here.
I hope she likes big trucks with rebel flags, Nascar, self employed, "sole" mates, names with "surf", "dude" and the numbers 666 or 69 in them.
Edit...We can work something out. LOL | |
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Posted: 7/31/2009 11:40:08 AM | You know... that might do the trick!! We see those types in the forums every day... should be easy to find 150 or even more, if it comes down to war.
But who knows really.. one could actually BE her soulmate...lol
Ok, $5 seems high, especially at those levels... is there a volume discount??
Bluezzz | |
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Posted: 7/31/2009 12:02:39 PM | Can the site disable this feature for you somehow? Or, as someone suggested, would blocking this individual solve the problem?
This is truly creepy. | |
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Posted: 7/31/2009 12:09:54 PM | REVENGE !! Hell yea, do it back to her ..WOOOT, I'll help.......
Nothing else is gonna stop her other than a taste of her own crap. I say do it right back..
It may even make you feel better at the end of the day!
^T^ | |
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Posted: 7/31/2009 12:30:35 PM | Sorry Bluezzz, but this is too funny! How about telling your friend that their gesture is very thoughtful, but you would much rather do your own "fishing"?
I just noticed this feature the other day (for the 1st time). Glad my friends aren't "cupids"!!!! | |
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Posted: 7/31/2009 12:47:37 PM | TO OP:
I would not fire back but rather inform POF admins and if they do not respond then look for what the offical recourse is for harrasment.
There are laws on this issue but it becomes a problem when you end up retailiating in simlar manner | |
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Posted: 7/31/2009 12:52:18 PM | I feel yer pain Bluezzz, I really do.
Especially in light of recent events occurring in my own inbox. Ya know?
This is really a hard one.
On the one hand () if you retaliate it could get uglier than it is already....
Then....
....on the other-hand ( ) you have to deal with those images in your mind if
you let it go on and on and on and on....well you get it.
What a place you're in!
I say let Anjelic give you a discounted price on volume purchases could be kinda skeeeery. | |
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Posted: 7/31/2009 12:55:47 PM | You could always send her a thank you note, and tell her that you think you found the love of your life by one of the matches she sent to you. Ask if she wants to be a bridesmaid at the wedding.
Also tell her that a woman that she sent to you is totally bi, and you showed your match pictures of the matchmaker and she wants a three way.
Have fun with it man.
Or just delete all the messages that say you are a match to someone? Isn't there a specific header or something? | |
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Posted: 7/31/2009 1:03:51 PM | I have a friend that does this in RL. She believes she has "the gift" when it comes to matching people. Luckily for me, she is not on here or I am sure she would be using that feature. Hell, if she even found out about it she might come here. That thought alone is enough to make me want to start praying to something.
Seriously, just tell her to stop or else.  | |
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Posted: 7/31/2009 2:16:50 PM | Awwww bluez..... lol you poor thing.
On a serious note, I'd send her an email and tell her to knock it the F*** off or she's headed to the BLOCKade! As for the messages, sweet guy or not, don't be afraid to unread/delete. They'll get the picture. I wonder if she's doing it just goad you??? Like if she was standing next to you, she'd just poke ya in the ribs with a grin on her face.
On a less serious note... put on the warhat! Find the ickiest, nastiest, creepiest "winners" you can find, and blow up her inbox! One good poke deserves another, I think. 
Oh and by the way, I have this friend I think you'd like.... hahahahahahahaha | |
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Posted: 7/31/2009 2:30:11 PM | Ok.. I've spoken to her, as we are friends and have each others real email addy's and phone numbers... and I told her what you all said I should...
well, she cried.
I don't mean that little whimper crying, I'm talking industrial strength bawling. I felt horrible. She just kept telling me that I was an ungrateful pr*ck, that she was only trying to help me find love, that friends sometimes know what's good for someone when they don't know themselves, on and on and on....
So..... I told her it was OK. That I understood her intentions were good, but to pleeeeeeease raise the bar a little bit if she was going to continue.
That seemed to calm her down and by the end of the conversation we were OK again.
I'm so screwed...
Bluezzz | |
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Posted: 7/31/2009 2:47:15 PM | Your friends sounds crazy.
Why do you talk to these people?
One of my rl gal friends tried to introduce me to a smoking single mom once and I STILL give her crap about it.
It sounds like your friend has issues and is projecting them on you. I'm assuming she's really, really.... not cute. And she wants to believe that her looks don't matter. So if she hooks you up with a big bucket of yuck, she can feel better about herself.
OP, quit being a nice guy. Your life is your life and it's not your responsibility to make anyone else happy or handle people with kid gloves. The way you describe this woman, she is a friend you met on POF... so who cares?
Just my .02. | |
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Posted: 7/31/2009 2:51:42 PM |
Your friends sounds crazy. That is extremely subjective!!!
What if this friend was really trying to help him out? What if this friend thought she was doing something nice for him?
It's not the friend's fault that he doesn't appreciate her actions. She might think that they're the BEST matches for him and he's just being a tad egocentric...
There are two sides to every story... too bad this friend wasn't around to tell her side of it...  | |
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Posted: 7/31/2009 2:56:55 PM | ^^^ Any friend who sent me tons of matches to ugly azzed women on POF would not be my friend anymore.
That would mean:
1. They probably don't know me very well at all to get my preferences that wrong.
2. They don't respect me very much to think I cannot do any better.
3. They have a LOT of time on their hands and an unhealthy interest in me.
4. My friends don't fukcing CRY when I ask them to stop doing something. That is crazy behavior. Period. Especially about something involving a dating site.
5. This is selfish behavior because this "friend" never bothered to consider how her actions would affect her friend, and she did not ask for permission first.
6. Compounding the fact that this friend acted strangely and selfishly, she also required the OP to stay on the phone with her to "calm her down" after simply requesting that she stops sending him matches. THAT IS WEIRD!
So I am sticking to my original advice. Get better friends. This is why I try to keep mostly attractive friends these days either - I never have to worry about hurting anyone's feelings, and my attractive friends don't fall for me willy nilly and screw up the friendship.
There's a reason why most stalkers are ugly. | |
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Posted: 7/31/2009 2:58:20 PM |
well, she cried.
I don't mean that little whimper crying, I'm talking industrial strength bawling. I felt horrible. She just kept telling me that I was an ungrateful pr*ck, that she was only trying to help me find love, that friends sometimes know what's good for someone when they don't know themselves, on and on and on....
Exactly what did you say to her? That seems a pretty extreme response. | |
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Posted: 7/31/2009 3:01:57 PM | All I said was "Look knock it the F**k off, or I'm gonna block you!". When she's off her meds she gets really emotional, which probably didn't help matters....
Bluezzz | |
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Posted: 7/31/2009 3:06:22 PM | Bluezzz I was only trying to help. :cry: I can't believe you aired our dirty laundry, JERK! . I will now send you mens profiles. | |
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Posted: 7/31/2009 3:29:16 PM |
All I said was "Look knock it the F**k off, or I'm gonna block you!"
And she cried? I think you are better off with out her. ;) | |
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Posted: 7/31/2009 3:56:50 PM | Me thinks she has a crush on you and her strategy was to make you see what a horrible selection of women is out there so you would appreciate her and come back asking her out.
But if you cursed at her and she cried then she is not a keeper, you want a Beyatch that can take a punch, right????  | |
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