| Profile review please!!
Posted: 8/2/2009 7:14:11 AM | | Please can you guys take a look at my profile and let me know of any ideas to improve its appeal, getting a fair amount of messages but not anything worth taking any further. All advice is greatly appreciated :-) | |
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| Profile review please!!
Posted: 8/2/2009 7:46:08 AM | Your profile's not a bad one. It doesn't really jump out at me and grab my attention a whole lot either, though. It's got the basic info that a profile should, and just a slitght hint of humor in it - "naughty cats" made me chuckle.
The one thing I notice, though, is that you're targeting younger men. That could likely be your biggest problem. You only allow for three years above your own age, but all the way down to 20. I notice many women have pretty much the inverse of that range selected. (e.g. you'd be looking at 25-35 by that rationale)
You only state that no contacts have been worthwhile - are they "guys who just want to make a bootie call" (as I read in another profile request earlier) or just men who seem immature / dull?
If the very latter is the case, then you'll need to spice up your profile a lot more to attract the sophisticated, interesting men who're actually looking for a serious relationship. Show some of that humor you're talking about. | |
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Posted: 8/2/2009 8:05:39 AM | | To be honest [not worthwhile] is probably not the best way to put it. Its more that my whole inbox consists of messages from other ethnic minorities. and whilst I am definately not a racist I do not see myself dating someone from an asian background. Really was trying not to offend anyone by saying not worthwhile. I don't know whether there is anything in particular in my profile that attracts these men and also they seem to send messages of a sexual contend rather than anything else. | |
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Posted: 8/2/2009 8:31:15 AM | Heh - they're just sexual spammers. If 1 out of 200 responds favorably, then it's time to deal in volume!!
You are certainly not alone in receiving such messages. I'm curious though - do they actually come straight out and ask "wanna hook up" (in whatever words) right in the first message? What sort of subject lines do they typically use? (if they're actually trying to cleverly mask the content by using real-sounding subject lines)
My well-adjusted brain cannot fathom such behavior! | |
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Posted: 8/2/2009 9:07:45 AM | Mine either, I mean unless dating actually means sexual encounters I don't know!! And the answer to your question is that most of them use to subject heading of hi/heya/how you doin? that kind of thing and then go onto the whole sexual innuendo.
I mean if I was looking for people to sleep with and not a potential relationship then I wouldn't be wasting my time on a dating site!! | |
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Posted: 8/2/2009 9:11:47 AM | Amen!
Hope my advice might help you avoid at least a few of these that you might otherwise get. (and others' advice as well - anyone? anyone?) | |
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Posted: 8/2/2009 9:48:37 AM | I've had a look at your profile and it's great! Maybe you could put in more detail what sort of man your looking for though. And put what music you like, I get guys telling me I've got a great taste in music - it's a great conversation starter
As for "a few extra pounds" Tssh what rot! You are curvy and beautiful so ditch that and put average please girlfriend 
Ps Average is so rubbish though isn't it? I think they need to change the parimeters on that to include, curvy but definately not fat as I'd fit that category as well 
Peaches | |
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Posted: 8/2/2009 9:58:29 AM | Many guys seem to send messages with sexual content no matter what you have in your profile. If you have something that suggests sex that increases a lot.
You have one shot with lots of cleavage, not bad but it promotes those kinds of notes.
Your first date suggestion includes “maybe followed by ?? Who knows” that suggests sex!!
You have to try to think of where a guy’s mind is when you write and you can be sure that his mind is not far from sex.
All the best
Ron | |
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Posted: 8/2/2009 9:10:26 PM | | I agree... why do you say "few extra pounds"? it doesn't look like it, just put "slim" or "average" and from the pictures, people can see what you look like, i love the pictures on your profile , you have a beautiful smile, and think that the description you have is nice too. You have a party outfit in one of them, maybe that's one of the reasons why you have those sexual e-mails from some creeps... When you are a beautiful sexy woman and show a picture of your curves, it encourages creeps like that.... just block them... also, did you fix the setting on the e-mails you receive? you can do that too, just block the ones that are looking for "intimate encounters" or even "hang-out" if that's not what you're interested in.... anyways, stay hot and beautiful, and good luck on your search! | |
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Posted: 8/4/2009 1:18:02 AM | | Thanks peaches, I suppose maybe I'm trying to be truthful but my idea of a few extra pounds might be completely different to anybody elses!!! You are very kind about my profile and have def made me feel all is not lost!!! As for adequate descriptions I'd much prefer the word curvy to average!! | |
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Posted: 8/4/2009 1:20:40 AM | Can def see what your saying now Ron about the first date item, changed this immediately after reading your response!! Def was not thinking about guys minds and where they can wander without much hesitation :-)
As for the pics I guess I could change one or two but luckily or unluckily I have a large chest and its pretty hard to hide without wearing polo necks all of the time!!!! | |
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| Profile review please!!
Posted: 8/5/2009 1:05:23 AM | | I'd suggest putting more about your interests and what you're looking for in a guy. But not a bad profile. Good luck. | |
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Posted: 8/5/2009 3:26:17 AM | I'd say change your body type to average
also why don't you try messaging the men you're interested in? | |
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Posted: 8/5/2009 10:52:12 AM | Thanks for the advice guys it is really appreciated. I have made nearly all of the changes to my profile that have been suggested and hope it will improve my chances!!
Summersun, thanks for your message and compliments about my pics - have changed description to average rather than extra pounds!! Have also changed my email settings to try and block some of the sexual spam.
Fingers crossed x | |
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| Profile review please!!
Posted: 8/8/2009 2:27:09 PM | Hi,
For some reason I can't post a new thread. I have sent some messages out and received no bites. I'm starting to think there is something wrong with my profile. Could someone be kind enough to review it and offer some constructive criticism?
Thanks. | |
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Posted: 8/8/2009 3:25:28 PM | Your current profile is very good. You might want to take out the 4th and 8th pics, the other ones are better and there's too many people in those two. Usually I think dog pics are weird, but that one is really cute.
I don't totally understand your very last line... "cracking sense of humour to keep me on the ball and looking through the next holiday brochure LOL!!" You want someone witty to keep you on your toes, but then sometime about vacations (holidays) too? | |
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Posted: 8/8/2009 3:27:04 PM | | Oh ya, I would make that dog pic your very last pic. It's cute, but you should come first. | |
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Posted: 8/8/2009 5:02:34 PM | You don't have a dry sense of humor. It is decidedly British! I love it! As for other races hitting on you, well, you're blonde. I have traveled extensively throughout the world. Blondes are a high commodity. Something about blondes that pique the interest a little more, so to speak. Just have to weed those folks out when screening e-mails.
Your pics are wonderful! Nothing wrong there. You ARE NOT a few extra pounds! You are very attractive and, as stated above, beautifully curvy!
take care and good luck fishing!
Greg | |
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Posted: 8/9/2009 11:46:43 AM | Hi, just read the profile and for me i would not respond to it...why i hear you say. 2 reasons, number 1 is the age range you are interested in. If i was in the range i would be thinking that anyone who is interested in boys so young is probably just looking for fun and nothing serious, alternatively they feel uncomfortable in older people company and therefor by default may not be intellectually bright which a lot of guys love.
Number 2 is the lack of specific information that gives a clue to the real you, it is very generalised, believe me you may think it is original but there are hundreds of profiles that read very similar. Don't be afraid to be who you are as whoever you date will find out fairly quickly anyway.
I know it's direct but hope it helps | |
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Posted: 8/29/2009 12:56:46 PM | Well I've widened the age range for my profile and made most of the changes that have been recommended and it seems I am now getting less responses then before!!!! Make that almost none!!
Please help!!!  | |
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| Profile review again - need of help!!!
Posted: 9/13/2009 8:24:50 AM | | Can anyone give me any further pointers on my profile and what I may be saying/not saying or doing wrong!!! I am now receiving barely any repsonses and am having no joy sending messages either!!! I'm aware that I'm not stunning or anything but I do the best with what I have, please help :-) | |
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| Profile review again - need of help!!!
Posted: 9/13/2009 9:05:29 AM | Hi Cat,
Not sure I can really offer much constructive criticism or advice because your profile reads well and you seem a lovely person, though obviously this is from a girl's perspective, may be guys would see it a bit differently. I do wonder what exactly you need to have to get some interest off nice guys - I get a limited number of messages and I think I have quite a bit to offer but hey ho!
Although you say you're not getting as many messages since you've made the suggested changes, it may be a case of quality over quantity, see what happens.
Hope you have a bit more success. x | |
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| Profile review again - need of help!!!
Posted: 9/13/2009 9:08:42 AM | Hi Cat…
A few suggestions that might help…
1) Change the name…Cat has too much of a “pus*y” connotation if you get my drift. Also, it evokes the stereotypical old spinster with a zillion cats. That's a TURN off to many men
2) Nobody likes “applying for a job”. Nix the headline to something more friendly.
3) Replace deep cleavage shot with one that gives a hint not a handful.
4) Nix: the horror movies….nothin wrong with that but it stereotypes you as someone big into slasher flicks and who likes gore.
5) Nix adding more animals. Makes him think that you’re one of “those” types that lavishes love on animals ‘cause you’re rotten with people.
6) Nix “live for holidays”. Makes it sound like you hate your job…and I’m guessing you find it very rewarding.
7) Nix “try anything once”…he’s thinking he’ll get laid one time. Serious guys aren't into easy women.
8) Nix “sarcastic”. That is so open to interpretation, and many sarcastic folks come across as mean, not funny. Why give him cause to worry.
9) In other words…go thru your profile with a fine tooth comb. Oh yeah…and nix the SNAKES.
10) Add…what you bring to his life…are you good at training dogs, good company at concerts, good at dancing, good at ???
11) If you’re wanting to attract a “professional man”, are you taking classes to improve your career? All those kinds of things are appealing.
Best of luck! DenverSky5280
p.s. – your looks are lovely…if they weren’t, you’d be getting hit on, but not inundated. It’s the profile that’s shooting you down. And like a previous poster said….you need to initiate. You WILL get shot down ‘cause EVERYBODY does…but with a better profile, not so much!  | |
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| Profile review again - need of help!!!
Posted: 9/14/2009 12:26:50 PM | Hey guys, thanks very much for both your replies. Denver - I hear what your saying about the name but its my name and its what all my friends call me, I do have cats but I'm not a crazy cat lady!!! Def taken your advice on a few other things - changed headline, got rid of cleavage shot, the horror movies - I've comprimised I love horror and yes I do love gore but also comedy. The animals are def something I'm not willing to change although I have re-worded it slightly, I'm an animal lover and thats not going to change!!
Your right I do enjoy my job (most of the time!!) and my hols!!
The sarcastic has gone - dry sense of humour seems nicer.
Same for the snakes!!!
Thanks very much heres hoping this improves things!!
good luck to you both x | |
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