| Why Not Just Go To Those "FriendFinder" Sites Instead??
Posted: 8/2/2009 6:35:15 PM | I've been on and off these sites ... and one thing I've noticed is how quick some men are to turn the conversations into something sexual. ....... Gee if I were lookin to just get laid .. there are plenty, I mean PLENTY of sites that cater specifically to that. For those men whose sole intention is to just look for some arse and not something of a substantial relationship, why not go to those sites instead!? ... Or why not just frankly put "Intimate Encounter" on your "Looking For" option. It would sure hell save you and other ppl plenty of time. ---- Those who are looking for a substantial relationship will know to avoid you and you yourself will not have to waste time with others who aren't merely looking to get laid.
Look. I (and I'm sure along with plenty of other women) think that SEX is a substantial part of a healthy relationship. It is something that two ppl w/ a romantic interest in one another should be able to discuss and share at a certain point of an established relationship. And if it needs be said further: As we know, it certainly however, is not thee only thing that contributes to a great relationship. ...... If you are eager to "chat me up" just for the sex, pleeaaze .... save your breath.  | |
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| Why Not Just Go To Those FriendFinder Sites Instead??
Posted: 8/2/2009 6:44:19 PM |
Why Not Just Go To Those FriendFinder Sites Instead??
Who says they aren't there, and here too?
Or why not just frankly put "Intimate Encounter" on your "Looking For" option.
Because if the friend finder sites aren't working, as evidenced by their continual need to be on more than one site and lack of instant gratification, then they obviously have to try something else to lure people in.
Not to mention some people tell themselves they are looking for something, but behave completely differently.
Those who are looking for a substantial relationship will know to avoid you and you yourself will not have to waste time with others who aren't merely looking to get laid.
That's the point. They don't want to be avoided. And there aren't enough people solely looking to get laid to please everyone.
Plus, again, some people think they are looking for one thing...but really aren't.
If you are eager to "chat me up" just for the sex, pleeaaze .... save your breath.
I'll make sure to put it into the quarterly newsletter. Thanks for letting us know.
Sorry this site isn't perfect, and not handing out perfect relationships. You might want to make some suggestions to the owner on how to improve it. | |
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| Why Not Just Go To Those FriendFinder Sites Instead??
Posted: 8/2/2009 6:48:10 PM | Well, I would guess that:
A. You have to pay for those friend finder sites, POF is free
B. I assume that there are very few (real) women on those sites, so the picking is slim
C. If you put IE on your profile, you're automaticly blocked from 99.99% of the women on this site, not good odds for those guys | |
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| Why Not Just Go To Those FriendFinder Sites Instead??
Posted: 8/2/2009 6:58:50 PM | It sounds like you..need to have more than "THE FORUM " for interests in life. If you are going to type in your dislikes,then you should on your e-mail settings. But please give way to honest "Questions " that give problems . If you want to "vent " go on other sections...Broken Hearts???
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| Why Not Just Go To Those FriendFinder Sites Instead??
Posted: 8/2/2009 6:59:10 PM | | You know it's not just the men wanting to bring up the conversation of sex. I don't think that I am alone on this one but there are a few women that I have talked to that almost 5 minutes into talking on the phone started telling/asking me what my favorite position is, what I like and all that. I have had a few that had sent me "pictures" of themselves too. Sure I didn't decline but I never asked for them! I'm fairly new to the online dating, has dating evolved into this? I know that most men wouldn't mind this type of behavior, but I am looking for a wholesome woman. And ryshard is right on, POF is FREE. That is why you have a mixture of everyone on this site. Do a better screening process when getting to know someone, or block them if they instantly jump to that type of conversation! | |
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| Why Not Just Go To Those FriendFinder Sites Instead??
Posted: 8/2/2009 7:10:47 PM |
Gee if I were lookin to just get laid .. there are plenty, I mean PLENTY of sites that cater specifically to that.
Just because they pander to it doesn't mean they produce results. Men will gravitate to whatever works.
Or why not just frankly put "Intimate Encounter" on your "Looking For" option.
Men want sex. It's part of this site. Posting this thread isn't going to change that. Get over it, or fish in another pond that's not so bothersome. Happy  | |
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| Why Not Just Go To Those FriendFinder Sites Instead??
Posted: 8/2/2009 7:28:13 PM |
I have had a few that had sent me "pictures" of themselves too. Sure I didn't decline but I never asked for them! I'm fairly new to the online dating, has dating evolved into this? I know that most men wouldn't mind this type of behavior, but I am looking for a wholesome woman.
I've only had the misfortune of receiving naked pics once, from an ex-girlfriend of an old friend I haven't spoken to in years. I was immediately turned off. She is so desperate, it is sad. She also sent a few emails to me, detailing various sexual encounters and including pics of guys! Gross! I asked her why she was sending these to me and nicely convinced her to stop.  | |
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| Why Not Just Go To Those FriendFinder Sites Instead??
Posted: 8/2/2009 9:21:47 PM | Thanks for your replies. The sarcastic and sneerful ones too.  ......
Anyhow, I've come to my own conclusion that some men will try his odds in whichever way posible . ... like fishing .... he'll use whatever bait he has on hand ... (no need to select bait type or even ponder of what kind of fish he may get) -- as long as he gets a bite (aka: booty). ... ... And like any numbers game ... just one time it just might catch on to something. ......
And in that I guess I oughtta be thankful that these guys make themselves known even before anything happens that arse is all they are after so I'll know to steer fully clear of having anything further to do with them. .. and no sarcasm intended here.
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| Why Not Just Go To Those FriendFinder Sites Instead??
Posted: 8/2/2009 9:23:08 PM |
I've been on and off these sites ... and one thing I've noticed is how quick some men are to turn the conversations into something sexual. .......
The solution is simple. Don't reply. That will accomplish a lot more than complaining.
Or why not just frankly put "Intimate Encounter" on your "Looking For" option. It would sure hell save you and other ppl plenty of time.
For the same reason that women don't do that - there's a stigma and a penalty for doing so. Instead, the Looking For option is essentially meaningless. | |
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| Why Not Just Go To Those FriendFinder Sites Instead??
Posted: 8/2/2009 9:36:06 PM |
If you are eager to "chat me up" just for the sex, pleeaaze .... save your breath.
It looks like men are listening to your, ah, post. There's only one person on your favorites list.
I don't know but I'm beginning to notice a sort of pattern here. Most of the messages of this type, that complain about men being nothing but sex pigs, don't have a picture on their profile, or have a picture with lots of flesh exposed.
Now, guys, I know that I'm an older guy, so my question is this, "I can understand ya'll trying to score on women who "suggest" that they're looking for "action," but, for profiles that contain nothing but a poem or utter nonsense, "What's up with that???" | |
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| Why Not Just Go To Those FriendFinder Sites Instead??
Posted: 8/2/2009 9:55:48 PM |
The solution is simple. Don't reply. That will accomplish a lot more than complaining.
I'm talking about the ones that come around as switch-n-bait. ... . the conversation can start out very basic, very congenial .... then when the convo seems to be going pretty normal enough .... the guy just starts interluding some sexual remark in there. .. . Thankfully I haven't had lots of this but enough to ponder why a guy would think that doing that would help him in any way?? .......
It looks like men are listening to your, ah, post. There's only one person on your favorites list.
I don't know but I'm beginning to notice a sort of pattern here. Most of the messages of this type, that complain about men being nothing but sex pigs, don't have a picture on their profile, or have a picture with lots of flesh exposed.
Now, guys, I know that I'm an older guy, so my question is this, "I can understand ya'll trying to score on women who "suggest" that they're looking for "action," but, for profiles that contain nothing but a poem or utter nonsense, "What's up with that???"
I didn't think I needed to spell out the obvious but my profile here is not to look for dates any longer. ..... When I was seriously looking for that of course I went the whole nine yards to make it presentable. And never have I posted any "revealing" or "provocative" shots of myself. Just normal clear headshots.
Someone pleaze shoot me if they think somehow I think my current profile is to attract potential dates!  | |
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| Why Not Just Go To Those FriendFinder Sites Instead??
Posted: 8/2/2009 10:28:03 PM | | The secret is, all the men here are indeed looking for that all around emotionally rich and fulfilling romantic union that represents the ultimate form of love between a man and a woman. There is a problem we face as we search. The problem is that the internet is teeming with women who live to harp on trivial transgressions, making life with them a tedious detour on the way to bliss. So, being clever and proactive, we take turns planting overtly sexual profiles and from these facades send out emails to match, so that the women we seek to avoid will holler with indignation, letting us know who they are. | |
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SJS37
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Joined: 7/21/2009
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| Why Not Just Go To Those FriendFinder Sites Instead??
Posted: 8/2/2009 11:30:56 PM | One thing that I am very supprised at here is that no one has mentioned the dreaded friendzone factor. It is a very widely held belief that talking friendly to a woman for an extended period of time will place you squarely in the "Friend Zone". Once in that zone, there is zero chance that you will have a romantic relationship and you will end up being used as you fall in love and she uses and uses you.
This is a purely women created problem. Men love sex but I have heard so many times. I am a mother. I don't want my husband doing that to me anymore. I can't stand having sex with my BF, I just can't wait for it to be over. He is too nice. I think of you as my brother. I don't want to ruin our friendship.
The list goes on and on and almost everyone here knows exactly what I am talking about. I am not trying to be a hater to women but if they really thought about it, they would have to agree. | |
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| Why Not Just Go To Those FriendFinder Sites Instead??
Posted: 8/3/2009 12:43:15 AM | ^^^ faceur - Yes I have D-R-AM-A written all over me. Be warned.
^^^SjS37 - Please read what I have said in my initial post. I don't disagree that sex is an important part of a relationship. To me, it is a given part of a relationship. *Unless both ppl have come to a mutual agreement of an asexual relationship* I would expect it needs to or should be discussed as the relation develops. Keywords here being: As The Relation Develops. (*And I certainly am not (or WAS not, rather) here to seek out "just friends" ... This is a Date Site isn't it. )
...It's as important as any other factor that comprises relationships. ... Yet consider the fact that if "great sex" was thee top most thing that kept relationships together -- perhaps Angelina Jolie & Billy Bob would still be together. ...
I guess it just amuses me that some guys think they need to spell it out for us women from the get go that "Hell yeah, I love sex and wanna have sex with you right now" ... by pronouncing themselves out as horndogs. Perhaps this might have worked for them at some point with some women out there or else you'd think they'd have learned already.
Let me word it again in a different way: We already know that you are innately/biologically wired to want to have sex with what you find attractive, and it WILL eventually lead to that IF we find you appealing enough in more ways than one. Not asking for a song-n-dance here, but if you are unwilling to even show any effort beyond "wanting to have sex with us" .... the door's that-a-way jack .
.... I feel like I'm talking to some pre-pubescent teenage boys that I even need to spell out this simple relationship status quo on here.  | |
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| Why Not Just Go To Those FriendFinder Sites Instead??
Posted: 8/3/2009 1:01:12 AM | Yes the friend zone been there done that lasted all of 1 day I got friends most of them not women i am interested in. rofl Like the saying goes the best friend for a guy is his dog/horse/57chevy/gun but definitly not a woman unless your keep you gonads in a jar and only bring them out for special occasions or for polishing. Love it when I can see my face in them kind of thing. Joking
The men you speak of come here for one reason and one reason alone the same reason I am here but for a different purpose. Women are here, and most of those men don't care that they have to lie about what they really want.
For those men it has nothing to do with Truth/Justice / or The American Way its more on the line of not putting all there eggs in one basket. No one promised anyone it would be easy to find what their looking for.What we have here is a viable alternative to the Club and Bars scene not a replacement for actually getting up and going out and mingling, to find the person you may find interest in on your own. | |
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SJS37
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Joined: 7/21/2009
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| Why Not Just Go To Those FriendFinder Sites Instead??
Posted: 8/3/2009 1:20:35 AM | Wait a sec...... I never said that
here is a quote
talking friendly to a woman for an extended period of time will place you squarely in the "Friend Zone".
I didn't say if you talk to her 2 times without mentioning sex.
I was just throwing out a possible reason for someones behavior! Not describing mine or men in general.
Maybe you are reading too much into what men say just like you have with what I said.
Like others have said before. Women will want to email a guy for years until they can find a reason not to date him. I understand it because if you settle for me, you might be passing up someone twice as good tomorrow. But there hopefully will be a time when women get tired of holding out and being alone. I just hope I score one of those. | |
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