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Posted: 8/2/2009 8:26:15 PM | | okay, I've tried minimizing the amount of words in my profile, I've expanded to show the number of interests I have--willing to do a variety of things -- and have gone into detail about what my ideals are on a relationship...Is there a secret to a gals profile as to how much or how little I should have to get more guys to email me??? | |
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Posted: 8/2/2009 8:41:19 PM |
Is there a secret to a gals profile as to how much or how little I should have to get more guys to email me???
Nope.
Write enough to say whatever it is you need to say to attract the type you are looking for.
Examples:
If you want a guy who's going to chase you, do a lot of girls here and put "Whatever you want to know, just ask."
If you want a guy you have a lot in common with, describe yourself and your interests in detail.
Think of it this way: Because of tradition, you girls will always have the advantage as far as quantity of first contacts. If you want better quality, put more quality into it. Not more words necessarily, and not less words necessarily. Be patient and don't just assume that this will work. It might not. | |
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Posted: 8/2/2009 8:48:20 PM | | If a guy thinks your attractive then he will replay. If not then nothing you do to your profile will change that. | |
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Posted: 8/2/2009 8:49:07 PM | | Guys are more visual. Show more pics of you in interesting poses or places. Example on a motorcycle, at a party, fishing etc. whatever you like doing. Profiles don't have to be like reading a novel. Just keep it brief, light and humorous at times. Show your humour by the words you say and the same like minded guy will gravitate to that and you. Like me, I'm sarcastic so that's what I lean towards. | |
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Posted: 8/2/2009 8:50:10 PM | If you want more guys to mail you send them mails first. The guy you might be looking for may miss your profile or just need a nudge to get him looking closer at it.
Your ideals on a relationship are fine but I have looked at five others today that are almost identical. It either needs to stand out with more individuality or your going to have to make the first move more often to get the contact rate up. | |
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Posted: 8/2/2009 9:14:22 PM | | The secret is your pictures, not what you write. | |
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Posted: 8/2/2009 9:27:34 PM | If you can write well and write something that is entertaining to read, then go for broke. Otherwise, don't write any more than you would find too boring to read about someone else. Also, the goal is not to get more guys to email you. It's to get the right guys to email you.
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Posted: 8/2/2009 10:13:02 PM | | secret is my pics....I'm sensual and don't mind putting a little "more" of me out there but afraid that will give a guy the impression sex is ALL I'm about...would that in fact be the case? or will it help attract just as easily a guy who's looking for the whole package deal? | |
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Posted: 8/2/2009 10:16:32 PM | [If you want more guys to mail you send them mails first/]
Do guys like to be contacted first by women? | |
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Posted: 8/2/2009 10:17:23 PM | | thanks to all who gave an opinion...I appreciate it and will keep what you said in mind. | |
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Posted: 8/2/2009 10:19:41 PM | | It's not a smart bomb, so yes, there will be some collateral damage. A good picture (not to be confused with a scantily clad picture) will attract those men interested in a relationship but it will also attract the horn dogs. | |
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Posted: 8/2/2009 10:30:01 PM | Put whatever in your profile that will attract the kind of person you want. If all you want is someone to pick you based on your looks, then post a line or two. There are plenty pf people out there who won't, or can't read a profile. Personally, I won't message anyone with just a short paragraph in their profile, there is just nothing to go by.
If you want to attract someone with more depth, then let them know more about you. Use as many words as is necessary to let someone know what you are interested in. Let them know who you are. Yes, you will probably get less takers, or favorites on your list, but quantity doesn't mean you'll find someone of quality.
Please though, if you do make it longer, try to format it nicely. That means paragraphs. And on-line verses on paper, you'll want to put a blank space between paragraphs. I like long detailed profiles, but these long, giant, run on sentences just make my eyes bleed.
Try to make your profile enjoyable to read. Many of these profiles are so bland and cookie cutter, that you could interchange them with different people and no one would notice. There has to be something unique or interesting about you.
Now, if all you want is a lot of responses and lots of favorites on your list, show cleavage, and keep the profile short and full of innuendo. Just remember, you get what you pay for. | |
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Posted: 8/2/2009 10:58:44 PM | pics are great and all. For me, i would rather know interesting stuff about you. Movies you like, music tastes, got tattoos? You don't want to give everything away but give enough so there are conversation starters. (now that i have said that, not sure mine has good conversation starters.. UHOH!)
The cookie cutter profiles saying I LOVE TO HAVE FUN, just annoy me. Most girls I know fun means getting slobbering drunk and dancing around (or in one case punching random guys in the face)
Beauty and personality both have their limits. There needs to be a ratio that works. | |
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Posted: 8/3/2009 2:55:53 AM |
[If you want more guys to mail you send them mails first/]
Do guys like to be contacted first by women?
^^^^Of course we do, why not?
This is the new millenium...give it your best shot.
What's there to lose.
You might get no replies or maybe a read/delete...it happens to us..
Just life on pof. | |
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Posted: 8/3/2009 3:06:19 AM | profile length should be short
for tips go to
www.practicalhappiness.com/five-steps-to-dramatically-improve-your-personal-dating-profile | |
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Posted: 8/3/2009 3:14:29 PM | Seems like most guys glance over basic details like marital status, children, and other things that might be a red-flag. While I think it's a good idea to really be thorough about your interests, aspirations, needs, etc., too long of a profile might make your reader feel inclined to skim over details, and not bother critically reading into it.
In all honesty, what probably hurts your chances most is the fact that you have children. (unless they're all out of the house by now) I don't think many guys enjoy sharing such responsibilities when they would rather focus on the relationship itself.
You aren't specific enough about what you're looking for. "A nice guy to treat me right, be honest with me, etc." -- things that like are too general of a description. | |
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Posted: 8/3/2009 3:21:56 PM | I knew it was all about the pictures!!
Hummmm, is that a good thing or bad thing?? I suppose only time will tell -lol | |
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Posted: 8/3/2009 5:21:06 PM | | Granz...yeah at 24 I can see how a woman with kids might be a turn off for you....lucky for me I'm looking for men more my age who most times than not have kids of their own. But thanks for the input. | |
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Posted: 8/3/2009 8:41:09 PM | Here's what to write:
I want: sensitive but not a pu$$y, confident but not c*cky, masculine but primpy with his looks, proud and rich but humble and simple, nice but not a pushover, oral sexpert #1, loves him mom but not a momma's boy, adventurous but not a wanderer, has fun and parties but not a drunk, etc... you get the idea.
Me: not emotional, not dramatic, don't talk too much (I even take 5 minute "quiet times" when you ask), spent six years in Italy as a chef, can't get enough sex... yeah that's pretty much all you need here.
First date: I'll pay.
Put up the sexiest pictures of you that you know of. If you're not happy with those, put up fake ones or have professionals taken. The point is, with good pictures and that masterpiece up there, you will attract every Tom,**** and Harry out there. That should be all the ego stroking-confidence building you need to get through the day.
One day at a time... | |
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Posted: 8/3/2009 8:51:36 PM | OP put whatever you want. I am the the oxymoron of what makes a great profile. I take up all the space allowed by this site and say exactly what men don't want to hear. I only put head shots, I basically put a don't contact me list. Sure it pisses off some men, but I wouldn't be a match with them anyway. Men are still writing me daily. Forget everything you think they want to hear and do the opposite.
I wrote a stellar profile for a friend of mine on this site, he gets average 20 emails a day, when he was getting zero before I rewrote it. That's a lot for a guy. I rock.  | |
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Posted: 8/3/2009 9:28:04 PM | Ladies please ; one more time.........
Pick the guys out you like and YOU contact them.
Unless you are playing out of your league (quite common) there is an excellent chance the guys will get back to you. It doesn't work that way the other way around. | |
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