| MEN HELP ME PLEASE!! I'm 23 with 3 small children....
Posted: 8/3/2009 7:54:06 PM | | I'm a divorced 23 year old. I have 3 small children which are 2, 3 and 4 years old. I feel like no man would ever date me because I have 3 children. I am a package deal! If they wont accept my kids then they cant have me! Anyways, would men really date a 23 year old mother with kids as young as mine??? | |
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| MEN HELP ME PLEASE!! I'm 23 with 3 small children....
Posted: 8/3/2009 8:06:09 PM |
I support myself and my kids so I'm not looking for a man to do that for me! Also my kids have a daddy, even though he isn’t there for them like he should be, so no, I'm not looking for them a daddy!
Having an attitude like this will probably hinder your "we're a package deal" requirement. Just try to put yourself in the other person's shoes with these contradictory expectations. | |
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| MEN HELP ME PLEASE!! I'm 23 with 3 small children....
Posted: 8/3/2009 8:14:12 PM | Think about why your marriage ended. Why did you choose to have so many children at such a young age? Then think of men your age. How many of them would like to be tied down and responsible for that many children of those ages?
You'll probably have to be patient and wait a few years,
and even then you might want to consider men a little older than yourself. | |
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| MEN HELP ME PLEASE!! I'm 23 with 3 small children....
Posted: 8/3/2009 8:17:04 PM | Hmm, Let me see....................................... YES.
There are tons of guys who would, Take my word for it, I've been around the ballpark a few times. you will find one, be patient. There are plenty of guys (and I do mean good ones who are good looking and or with money and some without, who'd have a girl with 3, in fact I've seen some with 14 get them. | |
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| MEN HELP ME PLEASE!! I'm 23 with 3 small children....
Posted: 8/3/2009 8:19:11 PM | You can start off by either quit complaining..
or offer some cheese with your whining...
I have underwear older then you...
a man looks for many different things in a woman..
some like sex, some looks, I knew a guy that only
kind of women he wanted had to have big feet..
But I'm 60 years old, almost 30 years in the military..
known, met, served with, killed, befriended, and fought
beside a hell of a lot of men... and alot of had some pretty
strange wants, desires, qualities, and needs from their women
But I never met or knew a guy wanted a whining / complaining women ..
If I knew of any......... I'd offer em my ex wifes.....
Take the hint doll face.. highlight the goods..
and tone down your liabilities..
You'll do just fine...
---SoldierByte--- | |
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| MEN HELP ME PLEASE!! I'm 23 with 3 small children....
Posted: 8/3/2009 8:20:52 PM | Well, I got a divorce for a few reasons. Someone asked why did I have kids so young. That was my choice and I wouldnt change it for the world!
Also, they are wanting to deleted my post because of seeking attention.. What in the world??? I was just asking a question! Not trying to get attention.. Sorry if that bothers anyone... | |
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| MEN HELP ME PLEASE!! I'm 23 with 3 small children....
Posted: 8/3/2009 8:22:46 PM | | If you believe no one will date you because you are 23 and you have three small children no one will. If you believe that you are an excellent human being with three children, people will date you. | |
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| MEN HELP ME PLEASE!! I'm 23 with 3 small children....
Posted: 8/3/2009 8:24:11 PM |
Well, I got a divorce for a few reasons. Someone asked why did I have kids so young. That was my choice and I wouldnt change it for the world!
OK, but that decision has consequences in the dating world, among others.
Also, they are wanting to deleted my post because of seeking attention.. What in the world??? I was just asking a question! Not trying to get attention.. Sorry if that bothers anyone...
Don't worry about people voting off your thread. Ignore them. You're question is a legitimate one. | |
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| MEN HELP ME PLEASE!! I'm 23 with 3 small children....
Posted: 8/3/2009 9:04:29 PM | SO not true!! I was divorced at 23 and had a 4 month old a 2yr old and a 3 yr old. I had a boyfriend I dated for a yr and he was awesome!! still friends to this day. Just I wasn't ready that soon after my divorce I needed healing and wanted to do things I never got to. About a yr after that I meet another wonderful man that I dated for 3yrs and he was perfect with my kids he loved them like they were his!! ANYWAYZz point Im making is There are plenty of men that have no problems dating young single moms with young kids. I know you said MEN but thought I'd share my exp and some WOMENly encouragement  It can and will happen it its own due time. | |
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| MEN HELP ME PLEASE!! I'm 23 with 3 small children....
Posted: 8/4/2009 12:44:00 AM | Im 25 with 2 kids. Any man would be missing out if they didnt date me :P
You need to be confident. There are plenty of men out there that will be interested in you. You and your kids are a package, yes, but you are a woman, an individual as well. | |
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| MEN HELP ME PLEASE!! I'm 23 with 3 small children....
Posted: 8/4/2009 6:08:46 AM | Im 25 with 2 kids. Any man would be missing out if they didnt date me :P
You need to be confident. There are plenty of men out there that will be interested in you. You and your kids are a package, yes, but you are a woman, an individual as well.
Just going by your profile, it says "mum" under profession, I would assume you aren't supporting yourself and your two children. That might turn off men who don't want to take on the responsibility of having to support a ready made family which includes another man's children. | |
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| MEN HELP ME PLEASE!! I'm 23 with 3 small children....
Posted: 8/4/2009 6:23:25 AM | "I'm a divorced 23 year old. I have 3 small children which are 2, 3 and 4 years old. I feel like no man would ever date me because I have 3 children. I am a package deal! If they wont accept my kids then they cant have me! Anyways, would men really date a 23 year old mother with kids as young as mine??? "
A date is a date it is not a deal, it is truely not a package deal!!!!! A date is a man and a woman (or what ever) going out. What it sounds like is you want more then a date and there are few men that would want a packaged (not deal) but contract with you. What you are ofering is not a deal. Think about just dating and you might have more luck. I have dated women with kids (NP) but I am not accepting there kids for a date. My kids are my kids, the women I date that have kids or not do not need to accept my kids. It is less difficult dating women that do not mind if my kids come to the beach with us and the like, but at the end of the day they remain my kids only. Same goes for the women I have dated that have kids, if the kids are good well manored children no problems if they go to the beach or like also, but I am not feeding, running after or clean up there trash (not my job), nore would I expect a date to do that for my kids. | |
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| MEN HELP ME PLEASE!! I'm 23 with 3 small children....
Posted: 8/4/2009 6:25:31 AM | | yeah there is always someone out there who will want you for who you are and what ever you have got, im 25 with 2 kids, anything possible!! but dont expect it to happen overnight, plus if they get to know you and decide they dont want purely on the reason you have 3 kids they aint worth it in the first place hun!! | |
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| MEN HELP ME PLEASE!! I'm 23 with 3 small children....
Posted: 8/4/2009 6:41:53 AM | | One of my good guy friends friends has 6 kids and is divorced. Him and his ex wife neither one have problems getting dates. Just don't try to rush it or jump on the first smoking gun. Good luck! | |
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| MEN HELP ME PLEASE!! I'm 23 with 3 small children....
Posted: 8/4/2009 7:42:32 AM | Oh God, here we go again ……..
Some will, some won’t, But for a dose of reality verses the rose colored smoke being blown up you’re a$$ so far in this thread, take five minutes to try out the thread search feature and go read a few of the 1000 other threads that have been started asking this question.
Too hard, will take too long, well then let me sum it for you..
At your age, some will “MOST” won’t, after all they have other choices that do not have kids.
Want more reasons, really want the truth, Doubt you can handle the truth, but if you’re really interested try out that thread search feature and you shall find more truth than you want.
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| MEN HELP ME PLEASE!! I'm 23 with 3 small children....
Posted: 8/4/2009 3:35:51 PM | | its hard dating being 24 and with 1 kid whos 5 thats life now hunny get used to it and if a guys really worth ur time it wont even matter thats how i see it . im a great women with an amazing little girl if you dont like that your loss not mine! | |
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| MEN HELP ME PLEASE!! I'm 23 with 3 small children....
Posted: 8/4/2009 3:44:13 PM | I'm kind of in your situation I'm 19 with a 3 year old. There are very few men my age that are ready to deal with that. Its something you need too accept, I have definitely done that. You may need too look for someone older then you. Even then some wont be able to handle it. Its just something your going to need patients for, think of the patients you use with your kids (Or at least I hope you use with your kids) and apply it too this situation. Its not going too happen over night, three young kids is a lot to handle after all.
Best of luck to you though. | |
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| MEN HELP ME PLEASE!! I'm 23 with 3 small children....
Posted: 8/4/2009 4:28:04 PM | | I really think some of yall are ting me wrong.. Someone said I was rude.. I'm not rude. Also, I'm not tryin to rush into anything. I was just wondering if how many men would really date a 23 yo with 3 small kids. Its not like its a big deal. My kids are my life and if they dont like it then oh well. And by the way, I do like older men and thats because they know how to treat women. Oh I see myself gettin bashed for that.. Oh well I'm honest. Also I know alot of men wont do it just because they cant handle that. I have accepted that and its not a huge problem, again, I was just wondering! | |
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| MEN HELP ME PLEASE!! I'm 23 with 3 small children....
Posted: 8/4/2009 4:33:57 PM | Try reading the other threads on similar topics... such as....
That being said, try to put yourself in the position of a single male approximately your age...
Most men don't want an instant family..
Most men don't want to raise another guys kids...
You have 3 kids.... you list having more kids as UNDECIDE/OPEN.... But realistically, how many more kids could you have? If you meet a guy and he wants a couple of kids of his own, or if he already has kids.... how many could you afford as a couple....? And remember, it's not just the cost of food and clothing, it can be the number of bedrooms in a house or apartment...A van instead of a car... or maybe having to take 2 cars for a family trip.... | |
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