| The bizarre and fetish scene
Posted: 8/5/2009 6:55:01 AM | I’ve been working in the fashion industry for many years..and at the moment, we are creating new ideas, for fetish clothes…(whole new ball game for me,)…our unit was invited to go to a couple of clubs, for ideas….a lot of it made me very qwezzy …One thing I learned though…(no not how to wrap someone up in Clingfilm).. Total honesty and openness …..And the ability to break “ones” repression,(or to have the courage) to explore there own sexual habits.
Do you think that people are held back sexually …..Because they fear, what others may think.
The trust that is involved in some of these acts,…..well it`s their life in somebody else`s hands….
If you met someone, and found out that they were heavily into the world of bizarre sex and the fetish scene, would it put you off, would you ever see that person again, even if they were the kindest hearted, lovely person you have ever met.
Or….would you give it a try, and go along to one of the clubs….or does the whole thing fill you with dread and fear…
Perhapes,you may find out something about yourself, you never knew existed within you….. Would that scare you?
Can you see yourself as the next miss whiplash, and guys would you really like a domx queen, “sorting you out.”
Me I went home, and made my nighties kneelengh,and put a 40 watt light bulb,in the bedside lamp……..(.sorted)xx | |
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| The bizarre and fetish scene
Posted: 8/5/2009 7:12:12 AM | The important thing is to know your boundaries and to be prepared to try anything once. Thats how I have tried to live my life. It's also how i've managed to find some things that i love doing, from karaoke, to sexual things (thats for a private convo) down to new food tastes.
You are right though that society generally holds people back. IF something as seen as "not normal" generally people are more dubious to try it, even if it seems to light a fire of curiosity! | |
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| The bizarre and fetish scene
Posted: 8/5/2009 7:20:59 AM | Would it put me off if someone was into the fetish scene? Yes it would, it wouldn't stop me being friends with them, but it would put me off having a sexual relationship with them.
Knowing your boundaries also means knowing what you are and aren't comfortable with but I don't need to try something to know that certain things wouldn't be for me. | |
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| The bizarre and fetish scene
Posted: 8/5/2009 7:33:55 AM | bizarre sex would not put me off ... probably the opposite ...
the fetish scene would ... it's full of people trying desperately hard to be different when in fact most of them are very dull. i dare say there are exceptions to the rule but there doesn't seem to be many.
intimate acts should be just that, intimate, not shared with groups of sweaty people dressed in pvc and rubber. | |
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| The bizarre and fetish scene
Posted: 8/5/2009 7:34:08 AM | I think that being open about what you want in a relationship is very important and therefore if someone discussed things like that with me, it wouldn't be a problem or an embarassment. Having worked for a couple of years in the Vice Squad, nothing surprises me anymore! Having said that, I am perhaps that bit more aware of what I like or don't like and what really does nothing for me.
Personally, being throttled or any other sort of pain infliction isn't my bag......but it would depend very much on how strong a relationship was as to whether we could each make adjustments to suit us both and therefore have a fantastic sex life that would be the best we could want. | |
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| The bizarre and fetish scene
Posted: 8/5/2009 7:42:37 AM | | i would have no problem with trying new things, i try not to rule things out automatically...................that said, i dont enjoy pain, if my partner did, then "no problem"....whatever makes you happy | |
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| The bizarre and fetish scene
Posted: 8/5/2009 7:50:34 AM | This is not something I would ever be interested in. I think that to a lot of people who are into this scene it is a huge part of their lives and so any partner they had would have to really be into it too. I dont want to get dressed up like some dominatrix and go to a club or party where every other woman looks the same but is desperately trying to be different and alternative. It seems very contrived and not at all erotic. I only want normal ordinary sex with one man and no observers and definitely no pain or rashes from chafing pvc. That doesnt sound fun. Dont get me wrong, I can be naughty but fetish stuff is not for me.  I will take your word for that PD but I suspect I would just look like a shiny sausage with a red face. | |
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| The bizarre and fetish scene
Posted: 8/5/2009 8:00:07 AM | | If I found out a man had some kinky fetish, I'd be outta there like a shot. I mean, if a guy needs staple guns, power drills and ball stretchers to get off, then he's got some serious psychosexual issues. I'd expect my man to be turned on by me, not by nipple clamps and electrical anal plugs. FFS, what's that all about???? | |
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| The bizarre and fetish scene
Posted: 8/5/2009 8:07:13 AM | I think if you have a curiosity or an interest then pursue it and see what your boundaries are and embrace it but personally when faced with it in magazines or on tv it turns my stomach and have zero interest. A person with an interest would not bother me as we are all different but I couldn't date someone who gets their kicks that way as we would be very different and one of us would be missing out on sexual satisfaction.
I am open minded though and would visit a club if I had already made a connection with someone before finding out their preferences. | |
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| The bizarre and fetish scene
Posted: 8/5/2009 8:11:37 AM | People into bizarre fetishes are bizarre themselves, best avoided.
I'm strangely... drawn... to trees.... | |
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| The bizarre and fetish scene
Posted: 8/5/2009 8:15:27 AM | "nipple clamps and electrical anal plugs. FFS, what's that all about"
it's about an open mind .. finding excitement and eroticism in the unusual ... taking a break from the usual.
the same flavour loses it's taste after a while ... particularly in the long term ... when you know whats coming, when it's been done over and over again, even with varitions on a theme it's still the same theme ...
but the anticipation of the unknown ... the limitless possibilities that unfold and expand ones sexlife ... the opening of the mind .... now that is something worth having
who hasn't ended up with scratches, bite marks and general wear and tear from passionate sex and then wondered where the hell did that come from .. i didn't feel anything !!!! | |
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| The bizarre and fetish scene
Posted: 8/5/2009 8:22:15 AM | I may go into business trampling on mens bollox with a mardy look on my face..theres some serious money to be made there I reckon | |
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Posted: 8/5/2009 8:55:25 AM | | Indeed I once dated a guy who it transpired had swinging tendances altho not bazarre it certainly is not my thing to share the person that I am having a relationship with. And altho he told me it wasnt a problem that I did'nt share his interest I saw it as a major problem and had to end the relationship. As a previous poster has already said.... one of you (namely him in this case) would be missing out on their prefered sexuel pleasure. xx hunni | |
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| The bizarre and fetish scene
Posted: 8/5/2009 9:53:23 AM |
a whole new ball game for me
You might want to consider rephrasing that......... 
I may go into business trampling on mens bollox with a mardy look on my face..theres some serious money to be made there I reckon
A neighbour of mine a few years ago was an ex-prostitute (she used to ply her trade in Brighton, then married one of her clients and moved to the Midlands). One very drunken evening she told us about one of her clients who used to pay her very good money to walk all over his naked body while she was only wearing stockings, suspenders and stilletto heels. Just the thought of it made my eyes water!!  | |
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Posted: 8/5/2009 11:05:15 AM | Its a case of each to their own.
What no one has actually picked up on here though and those that are into the alternative side of sexual activities play alongside others that actually want to .. in other words everything is consensual .. its two people both agreeing on what is and what isn't acceptable. Anyone who is into alternative sex will NEVER force their own preferences upon anyone else .. this I can 100% gaurantee.
I have been to fetish/BDSM clubs before and believe me you get groped a hell of a lot less than in a regular dance club, where drunked fools spill drinks all down your nice new top.
The respect towards others in the fetish clubs is above and beyond anything I have ever encountered in my life.
So would it put me off ?? quite simply no.
I find it highly disturbing that people brand these fetishists with a lable of being "weird and freaky". To them those that are of the "vanilla" nature are far more weird and freaky than they ever could be.
Now .. can I please have some strawberries with my vanilla  | |
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| The bizarre and fetish scene
Posted: 8/5/2009 11:37:54 AM | as said.... you need to clarify with your partner/lover/fook piece what it is excatly your after and how far you want to go ...
I always point out before I ask someone to put their hands round my throat that I want to live to feel the joy !!!!!
Alot of trust is involved in fetish sex and should be enjoyed with the knowledge that your safe and both know your bounderies.
Now get your hands round my throat call me a dirty northern slut and slap me ..see its easy | |
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| The bizarre and fetish scene
Posted: 8/5/2009 11:51:02 AM | I have a good friend who is into the fetish scene and goes to a few clubs, i went along once out of curiousity and it was amazing!
When i saw the outfit i was to wear i about died! i really expected to be wearing my long coat all night but once there i felt fine, i was overdressed if anything.
Although the fetish scene isn't for me, well as in clubs etc, (what goes on in the bedroom between two people is different) i had a thouroughly enjoyable evening, the people there were very forward, i was asked to join a few couples and when i politely declined they accepted it, there was no expectations or pushyness, everyone was chilled relaxed and happy doing their own thing.
It wasn't what i imagined but not something i would do again either, i was just satisfying my curiousity and unless you want to be involved your just a peeping tom which is very much how i felt that night. | |
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Posted: 8/5/2009 1:13:50 PM | | you need to visit other countries in europe like germany or denmark, they dont hold back like we do in the UK | |
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Posted: 8/5/2009 7:14:45 PM | Like with alot of things its just massed produced individuality...
Being a tight ar$ed Yorkshireman i will stick to the roll of pound shop clingfilm..literally | |
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| The bizarre and fetish scene
Posted: 8/5/2009 7:53:52 PM |
Like with alot of things its just massed produced individuality...
in what why do you think its mass produced?
It is hardly in the mainstream so cant really be seen as mass produced, simply because there are no masses. | |
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| The bizarre and fetish scene
Posted: 8/5/2009 7:55:53 PM | i was introduced to fetish scene by few ex gfs and luckily many of them were submissive, i enjoy giving those orders. I go as the Arab sheikh with my whip lol.
Once they know i am dominant and experimental in the bedroom they love it funnily enough women have high fantasy than men.
There are certain limits and actions i will not go beyond and they respected me for it.
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| The bizarre and fetish scene
Posted: 8/5/2009 8:18:43 PM |
i was introduced to fetish scene by few ex gfs and luckily many of them were submissive, i enjoy giving those orders. I go as the Arab sheikh with my whip lol.
Once they know i am dominant and experimental in the bedroom they love it funnily enough women have high fantasy than men.
There are certain limits and actions i will not go beyond and they respected me for it.
Its interesting that you say that in the way you say it.
Because in reality it is the submissive who is in control of it all, after all it is the safety word/action, the word or action that is used by the submissive partener that decides that enough is enough and calls it to an end, or allows it to happen unchallenged.
If there is no safety word then there is no real feeling of domination felt by the submissive there for it is all in one mind, the mind of the person who thinks they are in control, they think they are dominating a situation when in fact they are not.
Trust is a large part, and one might even say the largest part of a dominating relationship, and infact I would say any relationship, after all if you cant trust the person your with not to go to far then there is nothing.
Respect is earnt by the reciever, they earn it by not going to far, or stopping when the submissivve decides its to much. | |
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Posted: 8/6/2009 4:51:31 AM | i can understand why people would avoid the fetish scene ... ther are too many people who get into long winded debates about control and many other terminally dull and pointless subjects ...
but i don't understand why anyone would not want some bizarre kink in their life ..... it's just an option .. an optional extra when it comes to sex if you prefer to look at it that way ... it's not essential but it's there if you want it ..... | |
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