| What do you generally think about a women posting on the "date night" feature?
Posted: 8/5/2009 6:14:17 PM | I read the AAGuy posts routinely, and I am in agreement that men and women should both ask each other on dates, etc.; however, have not seen this as being the case on pof or IRL.
What do the pof men and women generally think of women posting on the date night feature? Since its inception, I have seen NO women on there in my area. I posted myself on there tonight to see how it goes. Have any women posted on there yet, and what results have you had? What results have the men had?
Thanks for your feedback! | |
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| What do you generally think about a women posting on the date night feature?
Posted: 8/5/2009 6:23:47 PM | Lol, I've looked a few times, and the women in my search radius and age range were pretty slim pickings. I just looked now and there's 2 posted. One I would consider, the other I wouldn't....of course that doesn't mean the one I think I'd be interested is going to show interest back. Pretty slim odds I'd say.
I think it's still too new that most people don't know about it. Maybe...over time. Of course, there's still the problem of whether or not people will actually use it to *actually* meet anyone or not. Or if it's just another tool to get their profile noticed. | |
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| What do you generally think about a women posting on the date night feature?
Posted: 8/5/2009 6:27:07 PM | I have seen a few women on there. Read/delete for my mails to them.
I have also posted on there. A few profile views out of it but no contacts or dates.
Since there are exactly 15 women within 15 miles from me that are active weekly in my age range 24-37 I wasn't expecting much.
It is a good way to get attention drawn to your profile even if you don't get a date that night though. | |
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| What do you generally think about a women posting on the date night feature?
Posted: 8/5/2009 6:52:39 PM |
What do the pof men and women generally think of women posting on the date night feature?
I feel about it kind of like the forums. I hit the tab, ejaculate my opinion/profile onto it, then go on to something else without paying much attention otherwise. Maybe I will get an email, maybe I won't...okay, probably I won't.
What results have the men had?
The first couple of weeks I noticed it was generally full of people. But as time goes on I've seen less and less profiles on there when I add my name to the list. Sometimes on Saturday, sometimes on Thursday. I think there are 3 on there in my area.
Oh, and no one has emailed me for a date. But I haven't emailed anyone either. So we're even. I can't speak about the experiences of other men.
I wonder if most people were just waiting until Thursday, going there and sending an email..."So, you want a date tomorrow? Meet me at..." and that creeped out too many people. | |
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| What do you generally think about a women posting on the date night feature?
Posted: 8/5/2009 7:36:32 PM | It generally makes me think they are availble for dating on Friday night.
People use it to make use of the feature. It doesn't mean much more than that. If you aren't busy Friday night and want the possibility of going out somewhere... use it.
I haven't used it but have looked at it a few times since it was added to the site. There are always somewhere between 5-10 women within 35 miles of me listed on there. (Different women each time). | |
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| What do you generally think about a women posting on the date night feature?
Posted: 8/5/2009 7:59:51 PM | I generally think she would want a date, but I also think that she will slam 99% of the man who offer her a date, just like she does via email.
Actually, at this point I'm surprised I haven't seen more AAGirl posts about "Why can't I get a response from Date Night?"
Maybe it's still too new...???
OP, would you date a guy you're not interested in, just to go on a date? | |
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| What do you generally think about a women posting on the date night feature?
Posted: 8/5/2009 8:19:15 PM | First.,let me apologize for the typo/ grammatical error in my post. It should read, "What do you generally think about a woman posting ....."
Thank you for your feedback gentlemen. I am enjoying the feedback and the mix of the responses that you are sharing.
<div class="quote"> I generally think she would want a date, but I also think that she will slam 99% of the man who offer her a date, just like she does via email.
"She" being relative, I would hope.
<div class="quote"> OP, would you date a guy you're not interested in, just to go on a date? Perhaps I am missing the purpose of dating. I believe that we can get a "feel" for a person, but until you meet, how do you really know if you have more than a platonic interest?
In general, no, I wouldn't date someone I have NO interest in- why should I, Wack?
If you have read any of my posts, I always answer honestly--straight from the heart--and always with good intentions. I'm not one to toy around with anyone's feelings or affections-- so, in that regard- no, I would not.
JACKAL- thanks for the supportive words. I don't get concerned about what people think. I march to the beat of my own drum basically, but it's nice to have the guys in my corner (*wink*). | |
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| What do you generally think about a women posting on the date night feature?
Posted: 8/5/2009 10:16:50 PM | I've tried messaging the women on date night, and it doesn't do anything. It's just a listing of people who I guess are interested in going on a date that weekend, but it's just like regular POF. You message the girls, and they just give you the ole read/delete. I signed up for it every week since the beginning, because I am usually looking for a date on Friday or Saturday and I'm not too picky, and because I want as much exposure as I can get for my profile.
I've read on other threads that some women who signed up increased the amount of mail they were getting by 10 fold. Guys on the other hand, well trying to start of conversation with someone on datenight is about as much fun and takes as much luck as doing it with regular messages. It hasn't lead to any dates for me, heck, I can't even get any of the women I message with the date night button to reply to me, so I guess women who sign up for it either aren't really interested in going on a date, or they just aren't interested in me. It's probably a little of both.
It's great that women and men are making themselves available with the date night feature, but I haven't heard of anyone actually going on a date as a result of it. | |
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| What do you generally think about a women posting on the date night feature?
Posted: 8/5/2009 10:44:32 PM | | I think the date night thing could be good. It might give a chance for you to meet someone in your area for a casual date even if it's not someone that you would pick for any other reason in there profile. I'm not opposed to going out to dinner on a friday night with someone that I probably would not date long term. Just a fun thing. Talk to someone different. | |
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| What do you generally think about a women posting on the date night feature?
Posted: 8/5/2009 10:59:54 PM |
In general, no, I wouldn't date someone I have NO interest in- why should I, Wack?
When I used to go to dance clubs every week,
- there were women who sat in the back of the club. I ignored them.
- there were women who sat next to the dance floor and watched people dance. I watched them back.
- there were women who stood up at the edge of the dance floor and shook their behinds. I asked those women to dance. I danced with plenty of women, because I liked to dance. I didn't take them home, I didn't ask for numbers. I was there to dance.
On POF,
- there are women who post a profile. Many are never seen unless searched for.
- there are women who post comments in the Forums. They are heard, but not often seen.
- now there are women who put their names in the Date Night column. Well, isn't that like shaking your behind? You can date a guy without marrying him. You can go out to eat, to movies, to museums, etc., and do all that "friends first" stuff and find out if "all men are jerks" or only the ones you have an carnal interest in.
If you don't want to dance, please get off the dance floor and go watch like the others. | |
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| What do you generally think about a women posting on the date night feature?
Posted: 8/5/2009 11:24:44 PM |
If you don't want to dance, please get off the dance floor and go watch like the others. Right. I got the point earlier.
Somehow, you may have gotten the inference that I am on date nite for kicks. I posted on date night to demonstrate that I would like to date. It's that simple, WACK.
You may be making the gross assumption that I don't want to dance. I wanna dance or I wouldn't be here. I personally took it up a level (hopefully) to demonstrate that I am serious about dating.
Not all women are negative or issue negative traits. ; )
Some of us have good intentions toward men, dating, and life in general. I happen to me one of them.
I'm very direct and straight forward, and when i posted this thread, I truly looked at it from the perspective that it was asked.
I have dated people in the past, and would currently date people that I have "no" interest in, except to just go out and have a good time, as you asked earlier, btw. I just wouldn't date someone if I knew they had a romantic interest in me and I had none in them, and knew that it would never develop, just to clarify. To me, that's just stringing someone along.
Best wishes. | |
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| What do you generally think about a women posting on the date night feature?
Posted: 8/5/2009 11:41:39 PM | Makes perfect sense if they are looking for someone to go out with. And as for the whole dance floor analogy, both sides make sense. But a woman (or man I guess but I don't date men so I don't care) looking for more than "friendship" has no reason to "date" someone she has no interest in. That's kind of counterproductive if you're looking for someone to actually "date" in the true sense of the word.
But getting back to the OP's question, when I first noticed that feature I kind of saw it as a good way for ladies who are more assertive about meeting outside of cyberspace to separate themselves from the women who use this site for eons without actually meeting anyone in person, which is not a bad idea at all. Isn't the whole point to eventually meet someone anyways? So why not use a feature that says "I'm not just here to find someone to chat with until I get tired"? | |
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| What do you generally think about a women posting on the date night feature?
Posted: 8/6/2009 1:38:01 AM | hrmm.. a little off-topic, but not really...
seems to be a lot of guys harboring some resentment in here. A lot of gentleman have mentioned getting Read / Deleted like it was the ol' one-two that they can't do anything about.
First of all, let me say that I am one ugly futhermucker.
now that that's out of the way, let me tell yall somethin. I send out an e-mail every now and then, and 98% of them get replies, even if just to say that they aren't interested. the other 2% stay unread. So, if you're getting Read / Deleted a lot, you're doing something wrong. It's not because of a bad pic, or because the women are picky, it's because *you* have something wrong in your profile and / or e-mails.
I'm talking to posters like Teacheractive and Wack.
to the OP, I think Date night is a great idea, for people that don't work friday nights :P I however, would be in favor of changing the tool to something like "Looking for a date this week?"
What do I think about women posting on it? That they.. erm... want to go out on a date Friday? lol I don't have any negative reactions to Date Night females, if that's what you're asking. | |
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| What do you generally think about a women posting on the date night feature?
Posted: 8/6/2009 7:02:12 PM |
Somehow, you may have gotten the inference that I am on date nite for kicks. I posted on date night to demonstrate that I would like to date. It's that simple, WACK.
I have failed to get my point across. If you're dating for kicks, I think that's fine. You can date anyone for kicks, it doesn't have to be deadly "marry me or die" dating.
But if you're just slamming guys the same as you do when they write you any other day of the week, what's the point? Where's the intent of "dating" ???  | |
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| What do you generally think about a women posting on the date night feature?
Posted: 8/7/2009 3:49:21 PM | | I don't think you realize how negative your posts seem, regardless of what you intend to say. Your intent is lost in the negative vibe that comes screaming across...at least that is how I read each of the 2 post you wrote. In fact your thoughts seem muddled and just negative. | |
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