| Do negative, pessimistic people ever get tired of being like that?
Posted: 8/6/2009 7:44:37 PM | I have recently had a lot of close contact with with some very negative, pessimistic people.
Do they even realize how negative they are?
Do they ever get tired of being like that?
Some come across as just being "grumpy" or "cranky", but I am not realizing that this not what is going on.
They are just really negative and what makes it even worse is if they think they are always right about everything.
OMG ... let me just get out of the room ...  | |
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| Do negative, pessimistic people ever get tired of being like that?
Posted: 8/6/2009 7:51:15 PM | I have recently had a lot of close contact with with some very negative, pessimistic people.
Do they even realize how negative they are?
Do they ever get tired of being like that?
Some come across as just being "grumpy" or "cranky", but I am not realizing that this not what is going on.
They are just really negative and what makes it even worse is if they think they are always right about everything.
OMG ... let me just get out of the room ...
I just tell people that it's a gift. As I stated in another thread, other folks got the gift of healing hands and speaking in tongues--me? I got 'cranky'.
Yes, I do know when I'm being cranky--it's usually because some dipwad irks me off, so I have a rule: DO NOT IRK ME OFF
Simple.
And, just so we're clear; I AM usually right about everything. I have a rule for that, too: I AM RIGHT--ALL THE FRICKIN' TIME
Again--simple.
(you know what happens? IRL, we cannot believe the negativity of others in much the same way they can't believe it in us. It's one of those funny mirror tricks--when I look into the mirror, I see a person who might be a wee tad cranky, but by golly she's right!)
AND--yes, we do get tired, but the reason we're tired is from having to correct your wrong a s s all the time!!!
Peace out, friend | |
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| Do negative, pessimistic people ever get tired of being like that?
Posted: 8/6/2009 7:59:52 PM |
Do they even realize how negative they are?
Some do....some don't..... to each his/her own. If that is what makes them happy then so be it. We can all choose to hang with them or not. I prefer positive people but I do have a couple really close friends who fall on the pessimistic side of life. I still love them as they love me...the eternal optimist.
Do they ever get tired of being like that?
Yep....they sure do....they try to make changes but it is sometimes hard to make changes when a behavior is so ingrained into you. They are tryin though.
There is hope OP! | |
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| Do negative, pessimistic people ever get tired of being like that?
Posted: 8/6/2009 8:09:35 PM |
Do they even realize how negative they are?
Only if someone specifically points it out. Otherwise it's just being normal.
Do they ever get tired of being like that?
No. There are a lot of others. And finding those of like negative mind is like throwing gasoline on a negative fire. And there is plenty of cordwood.
They are just really negative and what makes it even worse is if they think they are always right about everything.
What if they are? | |
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| Do negative, pessimistic people ever get tired of being like that?
Posted: 8/6/2009 8:20:35 PM | | I do everything in my power to eliminate negative, pessimistic people from my life. I do have a couple of friends that are of that mind set and I greatly limit my contact with them. I've also told them that is the reason. If they cannot stop with the constant complaining and b*tching about everything in their lives, then don't contact me. I don't want to hear it! | |
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| Do negative, pessimistic people ever get tired of being like that?
Posted: 8/6/2009 8:20:59 PM |
AND--yes, we do get tired, but the reason we're tired is from having to correct your wrong a s s all the time!!! OMG ... that was hilarious.
I'm serious though ... I live with my sister, her husband, their son, his wife, and their little 16 month old baby boy. My sister is not necessarily such a negative person, but her husband can be quite negative and I see their son following in his footsteps.
The only difference I see is that you can reason with the son ... he's reasonably educated, (an attorney) but my brother-in-law ... that is just plain occasionally outrageous. My sister just tells me to let it roll off ... ignore it ... but I swear ... it always catches me off guard.
My daughter ... who knows them all quite well ... said I should just ignore his remarks.
The thing is ... he is a really generous person ... always there to help and be of assistance and is quite knowledgeable about all repairs. One time, many years ago, I had bought myself a porch swing as I was living in an apartment with a porch and it had hooks to hang a swing from. When I moved to my own home, I asked my brother-in-law how much I should expect to pay for a framework to hang my swing from. About a week later, he pulled up to my house with a framework he had made for me. He would not tell me how much to pay him for it, so I assessed how much wood and hardware it took to make it, plus time and energy and since he would not take a check, I gave my sister cash.
Why then, is someone like that ... so awfully negative or pessimistic about so much? | |
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| Do negative, pessimistic people ever get tired of being like that?
Posted: 8/6/2009 8:59:46 PM | Lol @ Mint Patina!
Negatrons don't get tired of being that way, or they would stop it.
But of the ones I know, they are usually right about a lot of things, so don't discard what they say just because of the manner in which they deliver it. | |
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| Do negative, pessimistic people ever get tired of being like that?
Posted: 8/6/2009 9:26:54 PM | Hey My mother-in-law lived with me once.... That made for a full house right there.
This guy has his wife's sister... his son, his son's wife and a baby in the house..... What is there to be positive about?
OK.. so I'm kinda joking.... but seriously... Where does he and his wife get any privacy? | |
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| Do negative, pessimistic people ever get tired of being like that?
Posted: 8/6/2009 11:55:44 PM |
Do negative, pessimistic people ever get tired of being like that?
I'm afraid that they probably do not.
You just have to feel sorry for people like that. The fact that they have to go through life being an a-hole must surely be exhausting on their wee brains. The poor creatures.
Brings a tear to my eye. | |
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| Do negative, pessimistic people ever get tired of being like that?
Posted: 8/7/2009 12:44:56 AM | Nahhhhhhhhh!
it gives them purpose in life.... something to do to create unhappiness and distress and spread sadness in the life of others.
they find some hidden joy in making others unsettled... ya...sick people they are.... they know they are doing it too. | |
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| Do negative, pessimistic people ever get tired of being like that?
Posted: 8/7/2009 12:55:39 AM | My sister just tells me to let it roll off ... ignore it ... but I swear ... it always catches me off guard.
I'm surprised that your usual "strafe 'em with reality" approach doesn't work, have you tried? Don't try to beat him into optimism though, it seldom works and it can give you a nose bleed.
Perhaps you could convince him to come over to the more rewarding side of us positive- pessimists. It's simple logic, as positive-pessimists we are almost never disappointed when things fall apart (as is the optimist) and when they don't, we are pleasantly surprised.
In your face optimists!
Try hiding $5 bills in the toilet paper, especially if you see him gathering the newspapers. He will leave the bathroom with the healthy glow of a man with a lessened burden in the back of his pants and more wealth in his front pocket.
Always good to see ya' darlin' and don't forget the immortal words of the greatest positive-pessimist of our age.
"You can't have everything. Where would you put it?"
~ Steven Wright
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| Do negative, pessimistic people ever get tired of being like that?
Posted: 8/7/2009 12:59:41 AM | Somebody has to try to keep the lemmings from jumping off the cliff. A lot of negativity comes from being dismissed by those who have no clue, and then watching them jump off the cliff anyway...over and over and over again. I've been told that I'm negative and pessimistic when I advise folks about things - yet a few months or years down the road - what I've said comes to pass and I'm called a smart-ass. So gradually, I've stopped saying anything altogether to most because it IS tiring.
I do know a couple of people though who will negate and put down ANYTHING that anyone says. No matter what it is, they ALWAYS have a negative comeback - and it usually makes very little logic or sense. I've found that those types do it for attention and to give themselves a sense of purpose and a reason for existence, otherwise no one would notice them.
If you compliment them, they turn it around somehow and you find yourself being accused of insulting them. If you offer them help, the first thing they want to know is what your angle is - since you MUST be doing it in order to get something back. These folks will never get tired of being truly negative and pessimistic...It's their sole reason for existence - and that is truly sad...Still, I find it really hard to waste much time at all on them once I determine that's what they're doing. There are more pleasant ways to waste one's time. | |
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| Do negative, pessimistic people ever get tired of being like that?
Posted: 8/7/2009 2:18:56 AM | Depending on how a person defines negativity it's difficult to decide sometimes whether a person is being negative for the pure pleasure of it or , rather than being considered negative , they are simply the only people who know what they're talking about.
Yes , as a "negative" person , I get tired of being considered as such by some. On the other hand , the people who consider me negative turn out to be wrong about %97 of the time anyway. When I'm the one in the wrong , I'll admit it but since nobody keeps score , it doesn't really matter. It's the "J'accuse !"-types that practically beg to be corrected anyway and I'm happy to rise to their challenges. | |
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| Do negative, pessimistic people ever get tired of being like that?
Posted: 8/7/2009 2:59:58 AM | | Mmmm. I wouldn't think it's how they choose to be. Rather than just concentrate on the negative effect to you, you have to look deeper as to the reasons why. I can imagine if they had a run of 'bad luck' in their lives, they might come to expect it. Or similar to what someone said, if something goes wrong, it reduces the disappointment factor, a backwards coping mechanism if you will. Either way, the negativity and pessimism grows til it's a way of life. Some may be born that way. As for getting tired of it, it becomes a sort of 'I don't give a shit' attitude so they align it with being cool? Hold on to your Depends but it seems older people have a reputation for crankiness. Why is it older people become grumpier? | |
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| Do negative, pessimistic people ever get tired of being like that?
Posted: 8/7/2009 3:26:24 AM | Sassy, I know exactly what you mean. I am, by nature, a positive person, but lately I seem to be encountering a lot of negative people and it does impact on me.
I do hate the fact that currently we seem to live in a world where we accentuate the negative so much, it must be very wearing being miserable all the time.
Last night when I was driving home there was a glorious sunset and I looked at it and thought "Wow, how beautiful" and it made me feel pretty good about life. I like to find something to smile about in every day to help me cope with the tougher times and it can be something as simple as a sunset as mentioned.
Wish more people could be like that. | |
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| Do negative, pessimistic people ever get tired of being like that?
Posted: 8/7/2009 3:41:25 AM |
I do hate the fact that currently we seem to live in a world where we accentuate the negative so much, it must be very wearing being miserable all the time.
Not in most parts of PoF world. In those parts, everything is beautiful. Wander around the profiles. Everyone seems perfect WOW - nothing negative about them at all. Come to the Forums and get an instant reality check 
<--- Kapow! Another one for the negativity camp (joking) | |
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| Do negative, pessimistic people ever get tired of being like that?
Posted: 8/7/2009 4:13:14 AM | Perpetual negativity is nothing more than a chosen mindset.
It's a rut that some people put themselves in sometimes without realizing it, but it sucks the life energy out of others like some kind of vortex.
It can be VERY tiresome being around this type.
I try to keep the conversation short and to the point so I don't have to hear about how bad things are for them...lol
Complainers and gossipers get precious little of my time. | |
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| Do negative, pessimistic people ever get tired of being like that?
Posted: 8/7/2009 8:09:14 AM | So I guess being a realist is what starry eyed dreamers call negative. I like to think of myself as an optimist who has had the rose colored glasses knocked off my face and smashed in front of me, I heard this somewhere I didn't make it up. I also have the gift of seeing failure before the fact and I am vilified for it. I am frequently right but not afraid to admit being wrong. My personal desire to make things right over rides my wanting to get along. I do not suffer fools gladly or misinformation.
A friend who has a wife that likes to think she is a genius doesn't like me around because as most self proclaimers she " really ain't that bright" He said to me "you don't always have to be right" I said "That's out of my control".
My own theory is that people who truely have up personalities aren't bothered by mine, they are just as happy leaving as coming. It's the people that are putting up a front of positivity that are affected by realistic/negative comments.
In the words of one of my songs " I don't adovcate fixing something if it ain't broke" but I will always correct, clarify or expand on any number of things I have knowlege of And one last thing, problems don't get solved by focusing on the positive. For the empty glass analogy I offer my joke back; Rabbi, is the glass half empty or half full? That depends, are you emptying it or filling it? | |
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| Do negative, pessimistic people ever get tired of being like that?
Posted: 8/7/2009 8:30:40 AM | | Wow Snap, that was very revealing......I think its my social responsibility to come off positive, being right has no payoff, who cares, besides no one remembers you predicted anything. With full knowledge that some people will say you are negative, even if you are stating reality, I only allow my true opinions around certain people who can handle the truth....for the others, I just put on my social happy face, if they knew what I really thought, their heads would pop.... | |
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| Do negative, pessimistic people ever get tired of being like that?
Posted: 8/7/2009 9:20:49 AM | snapington wrote:
In the words of one of my songs " I don't adovcate fixing something if it ain't broke" but I will always correct, clarify or expand on any number of things I have knowlege of
Are you positive about your thinking of this statement? I believe you are and that is a positive thing! So you advocate that you don't fix something that ain't broke so no need to feel that you need to correct my thinking that your statement is a positive one because it is.....well.......just my way of thinking. | |
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| Do negative, pessimistic people ever get tired of being like that?
Posted: 8/7/2009 9:41:23 AM | So I guess being a realist is what starry eyed dreamers call negative
erm that would be a no!
Trust me there is no one more realistic about life than me, I have to be because of my job. However, I do have a choice as to whether I view the everyday realities of life in a positive or negative way and whether I then visit my perspective on a situation on other people.
As a example, 13 years ago I lost my Dad very suddenly to cancer. I was devastated and it all happened over an eight week period which did not give us much time to prepare.
However,I chose to think that I was lucky because there are people in this world who get a knock on the door to be told their loved one is dead and have no time to prepare at all. I had 8 weeks and during that time I made sure he knew how much I loved him and he did the same for me, and I was greatful for that time.
Yes I am still devastated to have lost him and miss him dearly, but he is partly responsible for the person I am and I choose to focus on the positive of having had him and his love and the chance to tell him that, rather than the fact he died.
You see, you have a choice of whether you put your focus on the negative or the positive? I have had people come to me when they are losing a loved one and wanted to talk to me because of how I relate this experience in my life. | |
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